Op, don't mind what anyone else says. Your peace of mine is what is important. Feminism is about equality. However, each family should define what their equality means. According to Adieche, equality is when there's no resentment left, and not necessarily 50-50. I agree with her. I am sure that even if your wife still does more chores than you in the home, she wouldn't resent you because she doesn't feel under pressure. God bless you and continually give you a happy family.

uzolexis:


Not every man is insecure like you, get over yourself. You think marriages in Africa are the best, many women are suffering in their homes cos they are married to egomaniacs like you that see it as weakness to help in household chores.

You know nothing about me! If you are not married I pray God bless you with a man that will wash your undies self. Dumb men will read this post and start washing their wives undies and splitting bills equally with them, that one na their own. When e sour dem go come gist us.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

You know nothing about me! If you are not married I pray God bless you with a man that will wash your undies self. Dumb men will read this post and start washing their wives undies and splitting bills equally with them, that one na their own. When e sour dem go come gist us.

I can wash my hubby's undies, I see no reason why he can't wash mine. Also we will both contribute financially to our home,not a big deal.

teeghurl:
By hand nko?

lol the people researched and developed the machine for us, it won't be fair to use my hand, I need to appreciate their effort

@anthonydunamis; I have a little challenge with your bible quotation on your house chore sharing support, How does that bible reference correllate , kindly enlighten?

uzolexis:


I can wash my hubby's undies, I see no reason why he can't wash mine. Also we will both contribute financially to our home,not a big deal.

Nobody said you shouldn't contribute financially to your home, read my post. I don't care if he washes your pants!

naijafeminist:
Op, don't mind what anyone else says. Your peace of mine is what is important. Feminism is about equality. However, each family should define what their equality means. According to Adieche, equality is when there's no resentment left, and not necessarily 50-50. I agree with her. I am sure that even if your wife still does more chores than you in the home, she wouldn't resent you because she doesn't feel under pressure. God bless you and continually give you a happy family.

I love this. That definition of equality makes a lot of sense!

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

Nobody said you shouldn't contribute financially to your home, read my post. I don't care if he washes your pants!

ok

I wonder why people take Buhari's comment "My wife belongs to my kitchen. Living room and the other room" like they don't know the meaning of the statement. In his context, belonging to the kitchen doesn't mean you she'll be working 24/7 in the kitchen.He even explained further that the responsibility his wife is to take care of him. Pls. isn't that true? If you think that's not true as a wife don't take care of your husband, some girls are out their waiting to take extra care of your husband.

ItsQuinn:
I don't need to mode clay because I've witnessed some nigerian men that are nice and a gentleman

it's only those that have tasted the bitterness of bile will only appreciate the sweetness of honey


secondly, people don't naturally appreciate what they have until they lose it

a travel to other African countries made me to understand that Nigeria men are the best in taking care of women in sub Sahara Africa, at a mention that you are a Nigerian is all that's required to get yourself any beautiful lady of your choice

but come down to Nigeria you'll begin to see our women with their dramas

seriously, Nigerians are one of the most traveled in the world and as a result larger percentage of these men have married foreign ladies who are naturally humble, as a result creating unavailability of husband's back home

Beautiful piece, well written. Men like these are rare to find.

just want to say this doesn't make him a gentle man n definitely doesn't make him d best husband any1 cud av

dumext:
If men love their wives they can do anything for them. Like me married for almost ten yrs now. My lovely wife never washed her cloths n children's own. Even shop for food stuffs fir her all the time. But am still in charge it doesn't stop me from. Providing for my family. Think about it ur wife look more refreshed n last for u. Luv!

So what's her role in the house?

it's obvious your wife has disability challenges so is either you perform the house chores or you hire a helper, unfortunately your case didn't fall into this category

Esetim:


Oga the emphasis is on 'working' together.

On this emphasis (working together ) is where people get it wrong cuz we have house wives who doesn't contribute a dime in the house but in a situation where the wife also work and take up some financial responsibility...ah ah . the house chores should be a team work

nautybride:
@anthonydunamis; I have a little challenge with your bible quotation on your house chore sharing support, How does that bible reference correllate , kindly enlighten?

The one about a man washing plates is a popular Christian joke, that's why I put a smile beside it. However, we can look at the character of Christ, who is the head of the Church even as the husband is the head of the wife. All He does is to make life easier for us. He loves us even when we don't love Him and He gives us gifts even when we don't deserve it. He washed His disciples feet without ego or complaints, although that is what servants should do for their masters. He is our Head, not because He can control us, but because He is willing to give up everything just for us to have a better life. He took some serious strokes of whips just for our healing (1 Peter 2:24), He lived a poor life so that we can become rich (2 Cor 8:9), he died so that we can live (1 Peter 2:24).

So what's my point? The Bible says that we have the mind of Christ (1 Cor 2:16) and that we should take Him as our example(Heb 12:2). And since the Bible calls Him the Bridegroom and the Church is His Bride, husbands can learn how to treat their wives from observing how Christ treats the Church. I hope I have made a good attempt at answering your question.

DonaTee:


Start now to import d carribean clay dat u ll use n mold dat ur woman.
U r not married yet. Frm d way u speak u dont knw want u want.....that's common with men.

If u r getting married to a woman because she is talented in shirt n agbada washing lol lol u r in for a bid surprise.
10yrs down d line she ll b washing ur shokoto but u ll b looking for more.
marriage is not a physical thing

Hahahahaha. Sister, you have finished me. So, if i'm your brother, you will talk this way, huh?

carmag:

on his own bro



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