Loisemm... i understand where u r coming from hence my previous comment about fighting for her home in any means possible.
I for one wont throw it all away n let another woman born by a woman take my place....never. except i am not interested in the man in d first place.

spending Years in a mans house....is not a jokin stuff. Me thats not even 2 years as a wife... i know how i feel...
I was happy when she said no physical abuse. I was very happy. The issue on ground is small abeg... she can still take her place... running away makes the other woman happier.

I believe wat fadedglory has done now is seperation... and not divorce.... let her put things inplace be a bit stable and take back her place....
With prayers, thats mans eye will clear and he will come begging on his two kneels. .. we just pray it wont be too long.

If only her mum can be in d know.even now that its hurting.. let her mum know... she is even supposed to be with her mum or her MIL not staying away totally.
If she is who i am thinkinh.... her MIL got her back except its not all we r made to understand.

Fadedglory, whatever decision u take....most of us will stand by u. As a woman.

To me, what d other woman or women is doing na small thing.... except its me that wants out.
Mountain on fire has a programme 4 women. And many women testify to it.

Ps
I haven't gotten the text or e-mail.

I agree with you @ imoge2, she should attend mountain of fire deliverance prayer weekly program. I can bet with my life that within a month of fervent prayers and fasting that strange woman will receive a divine punishment. I don't want to go all spiritual but the truth is that after labouring for yrs a stupid woman from no where will come and reap all.
MBA!!!!!!! No way....... ...
@fadedglory can abstain from sex and focus on prayers. It is not acceptable to just leave when the man didn't chase you and because a child is involved already fadedglory should pray with alll her might and strength and I tell you for sure, fadedglory will come back and tell the victorious story.
All these girls around no dey smile at all, they have no conscience and can go any length diabolically, they are hustling to be 2nd wife not even to chop and go. Their eyes don over tear, that's why we have to keep praying for our dh and marriage.

I am a living testimony to what prayers can do, I for one was already seeking a divorce months back out of frustration, advices from monikers in this thread and ttc thread kept me, I sought serious prayers, I mended my ways, I changed too and right now my DH Don turn puppet for my hand. Please don't underestimate the power of a praying woman, some things are not fought physically and in this case it's simply spiritual.
My 2 cents is yes, let her go ahead and start this business but move back home and fight for her man and marriage with prayers. The woman go use her leg run that's if the fire of God doesn't kill her.

@ loisemm, I'm not one to judge situations till I've heard both sides of the story. The only thing we can do now is learn from her situation, assist wherever we can and pray for her. Don't get me wrong, I understand what you mean but only the person who wears the shoe knows where it's pinching her. She's an adult, I read somewhere where she said she has been treating infection and her bp is high. What she is doing at the moment is getting herself together. Let's pray that God settles the case Himself. Don't let's judge her that she's using her kid as a bargaining chip, that to me is not a fair statement because you are not her and you don't really know her husband.

If we have nothing to say, pls let's pray for her.

1. If there is any one using that beautiful boy as a bargaining chip it's the husband. "She has to bring back his child before she can access the funds in their joint account" or so I read.

2. How do you know he's not as bad as she says? She's the one who has been living with him. We don't care about his side of the story here. We aren't here to judge. She is the one who is our own. We know him not.
If she says he's bad, then he is BAD.

3. She's no fool to walk away from ten years of marriage for no real reason. Imagine another woman in your home. What are you gonna do? Run her bath water, cook, serve her and make your bed for her to sleep with your husband?

It's all boils down to how much you can take. You choose to leave or stay. No one should make that choice for you. Some women don't even consider cheating a deal breaker. 'all men cheat' ' men are polygamous by nature'
They make excuses to stay because of what society would think of them. Some stay because they can't survive alone financially. That's why it is advisable to have your own money.

4. She asked for help. So let's render her help if we can and stop dissecting her marriage. It must have been hard for her to come here in the first place.

Hello mommas.
How's everyone doing?
It's been a while.
Just popped in to say hi.

Mamas that mentioned and asked after me, thank you so much.

Big congrats to those who have delivered, and safe delivery to the rest.

mamaTB:
I agree with you @ imoge2, she should attend mountain of fire deliverance prayer weekly program. I can bet with my life that within a month of fervent prayers and fasting that strange woman will receive a divine punishment. I don't want to go all spiritual but the truth is that after labouring for yrs a stupid woman from no where will come and reap all.
MBA!!!!!!! No way....... ...
@fadedglory can abstain from sex and focus on prayers. It is not acceptable to just leave when the man didn't chase you and because a child is involved already fadedglory should pray with alll her might and strength and I tell you for sure, fadedglory will come back and tell the victorious story.
All these girls around no dey smile at all, they have no conscience and can go any length diabolically, they are hustling to be 2nd wife not even to chop and go. Their eyes don over tear, that's why we have to keep praying for our dh and marriage.

I am a living testimony to what prayers can do, I for one was already seeking a divorce months back out of frustration, advices from monikers in this thread and ttc thread kept me, I sought serious prayers, I mended my ways, I changed too and right now my DH Don turn puppet for my hand. Please don't underestimate the power of a praying woman, some things are not fought physically and in this case it's simply spiritual.
My 2 cents is yes, let her go ahead and start this business but move back home and fight for her man and marriage with prayers. The woman go use her leg run that's if the fire of God doesn't kill her.

God bless you ma for this write up.

There is a saying "person way drive car with mouth no go ever get accident" its easy to advise to stay in an abusive marriage but very difficult to face one.
Abuse is not just physical.infact d worst of it is d emotional abuse.
Most times its very very easy to say the word "fight for your marriage' when we are not the ones in it.

I pray non of us encounter such situation in life.

@fededglory..... pls stay far and fight ur battle if datz what will guarantee ur safty.
Let me tell u my story

My mum was introduced to one woman that was an evangelist for prayers just because my dad lost his job and she was just trying to be a good wife.along d line d woman ask her to invite my dad at d final day of d prayers and dat was it.after few month the woman n my dad were having an affair without my mum knowing i was in jss 1 then n i was d one that caught them n told my mum.
To cut d long story short it was very obvious that my dat was nt himself n didnt wnt to see my mum.
This is a woman that is married ooooooo infact they were planning to elope.
My mum knew it was nt ordinary n left us for 3 month to fortify herself with prayers to deliver her husband from what ever bondage he was in.
The very day she appeared home after 3 month immediately my dad set eyes on her there ws a diff reaction n dat was d end of that strange woman's story.

Today they are still together n this yr they marked theier 38yrs wedding anniversary.

Am telling u this because most times u need to know the type of battle u are fighting n how best to win it.

Some battles are best won wen they are together n others wen they are apart

Oh Jesus!!

@fadedglory it is well with you, I couldn't sleep last night due to so many thoughts running through my mind. I guessed ur old moniker immediately I saw your post. Pls whatever happens don't leave your marriage. You and hubby has been together for many years, why is it now that God has given u a seat in the marriage u now wants to leave. Pls talk to his people, his pastor or anyone he listens to. Is the other woman pregnant for him? Even if she is,you are the rightfully wedded wife.Pls don't leave behind all you have toiled and build together all this years for another strange woman to reap where she didn't sow. It is wise to go on temporary separation so to be able to sort out urself and heal emotionally but don't leave permanently pls.

I went through a worse and shamefull experience from Dh last year, in fact I don't think anyone here will be able to bear what I pass through last year, but after a careful thought and advice from a matured elderly woman , I was able to pull through. Right now am back in my home .
Pls don't leave permanently, just temporary separate from him that's what an old wise woman told me.
Also let your mother into this, you can't fight these battle all alone, I am already seeing this as a battle and you must overcome. This is the time to go more spiritual if you are not.get more closer to God.

There was a time in my own battle, I started questioning the existence of God,I was silently dying in self pity. I was like God where are you in all these? But in all I overcam. You too will overcome.

But wait oooooooo

Why is it that when marriages are having issues it is d women we always tell to do deliverance n fasting n praying to keep the shaking home.

What exactly do the men do to keep a home from falling apart?

Even bible say can two work together.......except they agree.

In my opinion sha the dude shld be willing to make it work ooooo.

Chei women don suffer for this part of d world.



In other news............
Wc is d nxt month to reg n who will b d cappo cos e b lik say i go reg

Just to clarify something cos I am done on this matter. When I said does she want to use her child as a bargaining chip, I wanted to give her other perspectives to this. Didnt mean it negatively.
Like some women feel that a man and his ppl will pursue them (ideally they ought to come) especially because their child(ren) are involved. Not that they don't care again about their marriage. I was trying to hint that if perhaps she is thinking like this, it may never happen. That may truly be the beginning of the end. I won't leave my child behind but I wont also depend on them to seek me out because of their child. Might backfire.

A woman I know packed her load out and returned to her parents. Her parents told her let's wait for your husband. He must surely come. The husband had been coming to beg them in the past. This woman left with their two sons. The husband got tired and never went to beg her or her parents again. Today, he has remarried. And those his boys go to spend holidays with him. The lady has made serious money. She is single. She may be fulfilled or she may not. I don't know. Like I keep saying , 'God help us all'. No be my own life better pass.

cc: Fadedglory /Vibrantglory (copied you so you can see my reason. I don't judge you. Not at all, sis. I love you and our small bobo. You've always known that, ma)

House pls how do I get @fadedglory account details?

Fadedglory, I'm so sad reading your post.
I do not have anything to assist you with, but ma'am, I promise that you will always be in my prayers.
God will wipe your tears and change your story.

It is well ma...

we miss u o, u sure say na only vigilante hold u like this

enkaydewdrop:
Hello mommas.
How's everyone doing?
It's been a while.
Just popped in to say hi.

Mamas that mentioned and asked after me, thank you so much.

Big congrats to those who have delivered, and safe delivery to the rest.

Hello Mommas

This is just a quick info.....antenatal and postnatal care isn't complete without Physiotherapy because it helps curbs avoidable risks associated with pregnancy and it helps get your body back to your pre-pregnancy state after delivery.

A specialist physiotherapist in women's health can help a great deal

Check my signature.....thank you.

fertilewomb:
House pls how do I get @fadedglory account details?

Removed

Thanks to all the lovely mamas. I just wanted to let you all know that the excess saliva has stopped and I hope t doesn't come back.

I am not sure why it stopped because I did all your suggestions except the bitter kola.

I slept with peppermint in my mouth, used peppermint gum all day for about 5 days.


I also recommend that @fadedglory reveals who she is/was before the whole separation happened. This will motivate newer mamas to believe the story, learn from her and be interested in helping. Right now, the assistance seems like it is geared towards an exclusive group of people.

Thanks all and have a nice day.

enque:
we miss u o, u sure say na only vigilante hold u like this

Kikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki....
My sister, the story too long, but let me just summarise it with these words...
IT IS WELL...

How have you been?

Got it @missmalachi

@Olukunle5, so until fadedglory reveals her old moniker and start telling u her story before you will be touched to help. I see!

What other prove do you need to believe her story since you couldn't believe Zaynie and missmalachi's confirmation about her.

Fadedglory many people here are only interested to hear your story rather than offer solutions. So be wise those that are sending you pm.

.

My take is this:
If you feel led to help someone, whether online or real life (whatever that means), do help. If you are having doubts, pray for the person and leave it at that. I follow my spirit when I give without even bothering to know if the person's reasons are genuine. Maybe it's just me sha...

When I contacted the person @ fadedglory to get her bank details, I wasn't interested in knowing her old moniker and I didn't bother to ask but she willingly told me herself. Personally I wish I didn't know that because I don't think I need that kind of information or reason to give to a fellow human being like me from the little God has blessed me with. We are different though, so I understand some people might want to confirm the authenticity of her story. But like I said, that's just my opinion.

Pls let's do whatever we are comfortable with. The good Lord sees our hearts and not giving doesn't make us bad people. This "change" era is not even helping matters.
We can support whoever needs help with our prayers. It's a form of giving too.
God bless us all.

fertilewomb:
Got it @missmalachi

@Olukunle5, so until fadedglory reveals her old moniker and start telling u her story before you will be touched to help. I see!

What other prove do you need to believe her story since you couldn't believe Zaynie and missmalachi's confirmation about her.

Fadedglory many people here are only interested to hear your story rather than offer solutions. So be wise those that are sending you pm.

Easy madam, am sure she is saying this because of other people. Understanding matters a lot and we should not create issue out of someone's case. She might not even familiar with Zaynie or any other old monikers.

Meanwhile, even if she knows the old moniker what will she do with it since this is a faceless forum.

missmalachi, pls remove her account details, anyone that need it should get it via PM, Her privacy must be respected.

Thank you.

Hmmmmn! Sighs heavily, marriage ooo

BellaElla:


Captain vigilante is real mehn! Haven't slept up to 3 straight hours since I gave birth. My head feels larger than my body
Baby is fine but colicky. He doesn't sleep well at night. Hows baby Fedora?

Awwww! The price of motherhood, don't worry. Less sleep will become part of ur lifestyle now...lol. For the colic, burp! Burp!! Burp!!! Wen feeding him, don't do marathon feeding. Feed a little, pause and burp. Continue like dat until he's full. If he starts the fussiness at night, put him on ur chest. Also ensure you change diaper every 2-3hrs, they pee a lot and wetness has a way of disrupting their sleep.

Baby Fedora is doing good and says hi

tyconcepts:
Sorry For My Long Silence Mamas.....


I Welcomed My Pretty Prince @ 1am Today....Weighing 3.7kg Via A C-Section.....Full BS coming.

Still In Recovery.

tyconcepts:
******** MY BIRTH STORY ********


My EDD as shown by almost all my scans slated
27-09-2015. I was counting down seriously. Mum
believes a woman should look good to the favour
room so I took my time to make my nails (short),
make my hair (simple) and even waxed down
below (you understand), all in readiness for
27-09-2015.

27-09-2015 came, no sign of labour all day....My
anxiety rose but DH calmed me down (We gat
+2wks to wait). I went for my antenatal the
Thursday after my EDD and my Dr pissed me off
with his "Ha! U never drop am??"
exclamation.....Well we talked that was when he told
me my baby was too big (scan showed 4.4kg) to
pass thru my pelvis blah blah and he suggested I
go for an elective CS, priced at #220,000 (where
me & that kan money for come??) and he
advised I get it done immediately for my baby's
safety....I left him angrily.

I didn't see that coming at all, I felt bad because
all my birth plan seems to have gone south.

Went to the central hospital the next day for a
second opinion, after many questions & answers
+ checks the Dr reaffirm what my other Dr had
said and immediately booked me to be checked
in for the section. I just left them and went home
to cry my unprepared eyes out. This happened
09-10-2015 and I was 41+ already.

I docked the Dr's advise, believing God for the Vaginal delivery (Thinking religiously and endangering my LO). A lot happened, my legs that never swelled during pregnancy started swelling constantly even when raised on a pilliow at night accompanied by sleepless nights laced with strong thoughts of what ifs....My fear heightened but I made up my mind to go thru with the CS (Took me 11days to make up my mind) and fervently praying its not to late coz I was already at 42+.

I packed my bags with DH on the 20-10-2015 and set out to the hospital....Went thru all these processes and tests with lots of scolding from the Drs and nurses but I was past caring, all I want to my child safe. I was booked for the section immediately (It was a miracle given the fact that its a government hospital).

By 12midnight I was wheeled into the theatre, fixed on drips and given spinal anesthesia coz I wanted to watch the whole process.....12:30am my baby boy was delivered weighing 3.7kg and showed to me (I just smiled and praised God .... The moment was magical), 1am I was out of the theatre all cleaned up.

LO was checked for anything attached to post termed babies....He was certified okay.

Dr advised not to try the silly risk I took again....I solemnly swore "Never Again".

Am dealing with pains but the joy of my baby boy take all the pains away.

Oh I forgot to mention the whole operation was Free Of Charge courtesy of the previous government of Delta State.



******** THE END ********

Eyimofe Brian Tuoyo is ONE today My boogie boogie... How time flies. Never knew love like what I feel for my son. He can make me laugh and cry at the same time He is a gift I unwrap everyday. Right from the day the doctors place him in my hands, I knew I'd die first before I let harm come near him. So energetic and bursting with life. Here I'm thanking God wholeheartedly for this privileged to be a mom to this wonderful boy whom has given me no cause to panick for the past ONE year.

Eyimofe Brian Tuoyo....May the heavens over you be continually open....When you call for one, thousands will answer.... Kings & nations shall have positive reasons to seek for you....You shall lead and others will follow....You shall be among the giants of the land.... Nothing shall die in your hands....You shall be the prayer answers to millions....Wherever your feet steps on is yours to possess....Your life shall be a testimony for generations....You shall serve God with all that he has blessed you with....You shall be the light in dark places....You shall live a life worthy of emulation and good examples.... You shall excel spiritually, physically, intellectually, emotionally, socially and in every area of your life....And like I always pray.... You shall be the first Itsekiri President of this great country, Nigeria.


I love you beyond explanations SUN

#FirstFruit
#BoogieBoogie
#KingOfPout
#BunnyHoney
#SugarSugar
#Mummy'sBoy
#Daddy'sCopy
#ScorpioBoy
#21-10-2015
#TheBirthdayBoy
#HappyChild

comtem2011:
Easy madam, am sure she is saying this because of other people. Understanding matters a lot and we should not create issue out of someone's case. She might not even familiar with Zay.nie or any other old monikers.

Meanwhile, even if she knows the old moniker what will she do with it since this is a faceless forum.

miss.malachi, pls remove her account details, anyone that need it should get it via PM, Her privacy must be respected.

Thank you.

She posted it herself some few pages back.


Happy birthday to ur son @tyconcepts......may he continually bring smile to ur face

missmalachi:

She posted it herself some few pages back.

I think she's modified it. You can do the same Ma. Thanks

Favouredmom:


I think she's modified it. You can do the same Ma. Thanks

Oh.....i didnt read back.

Baby Rihannat says good morning to all mummy s n dad's on this forum. Thanks so much for your prayers and good wishes.

missmalachi:

She posted it herself some few pages back.


Happy birthday to ur son @tyconcepts......may he continually bring smile to ur face

Yes but she has modified the post by removing it yesterday. we don't know who is who here!

Teegali:
Baby Rihannat says good morning to all mummy s n dad's on this forum. Thanks so much for your prayers and good wishes.

Wow.......so beautiful a baby

May God keep her for u.
She's cute n adorable.


Oya who is d captain of the nxt team ooooo

Happy birthday president mofe, God will continue to favor you. @tyconcepts
Congrats to all September & October mommas that have delivered. May they be a source of happiness and laughter to you and your household.
Fadedglory, I really don't have anything to offer right now but you're always in my prayers. Kisses to bobo mi. God will surely perfect everything.

Good morning mama's, hope we're good?

Pele dear...The Lord is your strength.
I'm fine o...waddling and anxiously waiting for december. Body don de tire small small.

enkaydewdrop:



Kikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki....
My sister, the story too long, but let me just summarise it with these words...
IT IS WELL...

How have you been?