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Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 6:27pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Nairalanders I'm in need of your advice here. Please let advice be mature because every advice is important to me. I met this guy in church December last year and we got talking. He actually came home to visit because he is based abroad. So he went back to his base and kept in touch. He calls me often and we chat often. Along the line he made his intention known which is to date me. And I considered everything, he's being abroad and all. So I said ok let me pray about it. Then he told me that he has an oyinbo live-in girlfriend who has been very good to him, in fact she has helped him out of trouble with the authorities severally because of illegal business. So he's that indebted to her. So I asked him what he wants with me then. He said that he's telling me because something might come up along the line to make him marry the oyinbo girlfriend considering that she can help him out with the authorities. But that he seriously wants to marry a Nigerian girl. So nairalanders this is my dilemma. Should I or should I not? It seems that some Nigerian girls actually do this knowingly. Please mature advice is needed. Thank you all. Lalasticlala mynd44 ishilove seun pls help move this to FP. Pls I created this new acct for this purpose. Y'all might want to see this https://www.nairaland.com/3424731/why-nigerian-men-come-back/2 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Talasuma(m): 6:32pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Babe, that's a question you yourself can answer, nd not a public matter. Cus it from your message, u already decided what to do. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Ziyadah(f): 6:33pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Why/what does he need to be adviced abt dat? At least he knws wat he wants..wants to marry a Nigerian den go marry one |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Nobody: 6:45pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
;Dyes o, its that time of the year again, abroad based bobos are coming home for Christmas and weddings ![]() The guy is being honest with you,, its left in your court if u want that kinda marriage, you'd be his home based wife, the oyibo would be his abroad based wife D: 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by teemy(m): 6:46pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
missolivea would he tell the lady before marrying her of his intended marriage with you? if not that makes him a trickster and devoid of truth. if his answer satisfies you then the next would be if you would be ok to a third wife once he wants more. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by ireneidiva(f): 7:10pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea:are you that desperate? you want to marry a man that does illegal business and lives with a woman already? Go ahead. Mods pls dont put this rubbish on frontpage. 8 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Sleekbaby(f): 7:25pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Dear it's a decision you alone can take, it depends on what you want, many girls do it for reasons best known to them, either for money or to brag that my husband is outside but I tell you that the joy of marriage is not there. when you get close to such a person dt the husband is outside you will find out that they are passing through alot emotionally. My colleague was telling me yesterday how their neighbor's husband that has been outside for 3yrs came back and stayed only 3 week and left and the wife was crying and complaining and worst is that she was given condition not add the husband on any social network bcoz if the oyibo wife finds out that he is married in Nigeria it will be war. I'm not trying to discourage but if u truly love him you can go ahead. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by keepingmum: 7:38pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Note this whilst making your decisions You will NEVER be his legal wife (either in 9ja or in the abroad) You will live your marital life as a married woman but single because hubby visits x1 a yr or x1 in 2yrs. You will hv step kids who will probably be older than yours. His legal wife will visit with him to 9ja and you will be relegated to maid position by him and ur in laws because them no want spoil their son chances of gaining papers. There is no guarantee he will divorce that lady except she chooses to file......he will work to pay alimony and child support = less income to look after u and and children u birth. Your income will be used to run the home in 9ja. You can't visit and live with him. He will only visit to get married 2 u. Then subsequent visits will be to get u knocked up You will never live under the same roof as husband and wife for more than 1 month. So pray tell, what type of marriage, relationship do u envisage 4 yaself? Oga will be banging his whitey daily yr in yr out whilst you can't even kiss a man without bn termed a cheat and adultere 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by ElsonMorali: 7:38pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Please run for your life. He isn't the only man in this world that you can marry. His life is complicated and based on a foundation of lies, insincerity and deceit. What happens If after marrying you he ends up in jail? Is he going to be a good role model for your kids? Don't be desperate to get married. Getting married for the wrong reason is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Let him be and give yourself some peace of mind. 11 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by crackhaus: 7:41pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea:What are you looking for in FP? Go have a talk with your mother, young woman. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Nobody: 7:45pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
It depends on what you want of a husband, a marriage, and of course, how desperate you are. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Nobody: 7:46pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
ElsonMorali: You can just imagine the kind of man a woman is giving serious thought to. 6 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:02pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
keepingmum:I have thought along these lines too. I was wondering what makes some other ladies do it and if their reasons are valid. Thanks so much for your advice |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:04pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talasuma:No I've not decided or I wouldn't be seeking advice. |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:06pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Ziyadah: Your are getting it mixed up. The question is should I agree to it or not? |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:07pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:Babe would you do it if you were the one? |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:10pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
teemy:My dear if he has the probability of being a trickster, then any response he gives to such a question will be carefully tailored. I'm wondering why he even wants a Nigerian wife at all. Why is the oyinbo not enough? 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:12pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
ireneidiva:Thanks for your advice. Its much appreciated |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 8:16pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
ElsonMorali:I don't want to marry for the wrong reasons at all 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Itukus(m): 8:28pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Are you sure the oyinbo lady is not already a wife? Use your head 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Itukus(m): 8:31pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Ishilove please let this get more responses |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by crackhaus: 9:28pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
maxioptiultra:Keyword 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Winneygirl(f): 9:39pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
The guy is obviously a criminal, engaging in illegal activities over there. He will probably end up in jail, or dead in the streets. . This Babe knows, but as she heard "abroad" thingzzz, she can't sit still. . Is this story even real? 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 9:48pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Winneygirl:Babe its real. People find themselves in this position everyday, some unknowingly. |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by thorpido(m): 9:52pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea:For you to even give his proposal a thought shows you probably don't know what you want. He's into illegal business,lives with a woman already,doesn't have legal papers to stay and that's the kind of man you want? 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Winneygirl(f): 9:58pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea: Did you unknowingly find yourself in this position? . This is bad fiction. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 9:58pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
thorpido: My dear. I know some people do it. Was wondering whether they had some valid reasons... Its good to ask questions sometimes before one will think one is being too difficult |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 10:00pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
thorpido: My dear. I know some people do it. Was wondering whether they had some valid reasons. Its good to ask questions sometimes before one will think one is being too difficult |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by thorpido(m): 10:07pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea:The major reasons they do it is because they get money from abroad(nothing like hard currency ![]() Is that your situation too? |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Missolivea: 10:14pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
thorpido:Like I said I don't want to marry for the wrong reasons, not for janding opportunity or hard currency and I know that there's a man out there that God made me for 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by Talk2Bella(f): 11:16pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
So glad others are seeing my point |
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Girl. Advice by thorpido(m): 11:19pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea:Do you think this man abroad is the one God made for you? |
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