Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,193,212 members, 7,950,197 topics. Date: Monday, 16 September 2024 at 10:09 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship (1584 Views)
15 Things Almost All Women Do Behind Closed Doors / 13 Attitudes To Get Rid Of For A Healthy And Happy Love Relationship / 15 Things Men Do That Annoy Women (A Lot!) (2) (3) (4)
15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 11:23pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
[b]1. Stop putting in effort. This is what usually happens when you get too comfortable with someone – you simply stop trying. You stop complimenting them and treating them like they’re someone special. You stop putting time and thought into birthdays, anniversaries, and romantic dates. You stop trying to impress them or make them feel good or show that you love them. Relationships take work, so even if just one person stops trying it will inevitably crash and burn. 2. Take shots at each other. Have you ever watched House Hunters, or Love It or List It, or any other HGTV show that combines real estate and married couples? Because a lot of the time those couples are brutal to each other, but if you don’t really pay attention you’ll miss it. They take the worst digs at one another but since they’re laughing, observers take it as a harmless joke. They might tease how one settled for the other, or how they should’ve married rich, or one’s incapability to finish anything. They’re always belittling each other or insulting each other in a form of a joke. Taking shots at each other is a horrible thing to do in any form of a relationship. But you should never humiliate your significant other, whether it’s only the two of you or in front of people, just to put them down. 3. Lose your sense of self. In so many relationships, people lose who they are. They pick up their significant other’s tastes, hobbies, interests, style, everything. It’s great to be able to share what you love with someone you love, but it’s another thing to forget who you are as an individual. If you feel completely at a loss without the other, you’re in trouble. No matter how in love you may be with a person, you should still always have yourself and cherish your independence. 4. Cheat. Um, no explanation. This should be pretty obvious. 5. Forget about your friends. We’ve all been there. You meet someone new and you enter the puppy love stage where you always want to see them, talk to them, or be talking about them. You forget about all of your other priorities and responsibilities because you’re so caught up with this one person. But you should never, ever forget about your friends. Your friends were there first. They stood by your side longer than this person, and there’s a good chance they’ll still be by your side long after they are gone. Always make time for the other important people in your life. Don’t be that person who breaks up with their boyfriend and then is suddenly always around. There should be a balance. 6. Compare them. Even if you’ve been in relationships before, been in love before, bleeped tons of people before, you should never compare the person right in front of you with anyone else. Don’t compare your girlfriend to some hot girl at the bar, or your boyfriend to the jacked guy at the gym. No one likes to feel like they’re in competition with someone they don’t even know. You’ll do nothing but make them feel bad about themselves and then they will resent you for it. 7. Forget about them. We all get sidetracked, we all have friends and family we make time for, we all have jobs that demand our attention. We may be out at the bar with our significant other but spend majority of the time talking to other people. We might be out somewhere and forget to answer their text. But nothing hurts more in a relationship than being forgotten about, and worse, ignored. Don’t be completely unaware of their presence. It’ll only make them that much more touchy when it comes to you talking to other people. If you care about them, you shouldn’t be forgetting that they’re there. 8. Dismiss any problems. Even worse is not taking problems seriously with your bf/gf. If they voice a concern, listen. Hear the issue from their point of view and try to come up together with a resolution. Don’t wave it away and wait for it to blow over, because it’ll never actually go away. In fact, those little problems that could’ve been addressed and nipped in the bud will just grow into a tangled, complicated mess. 9. Put everything/everyone else first. When you love someone, that person is usually (and should be) a priority in your life. Just as you become an important priority in theirs. You expect the significance of one another to be reciprocated. But it can be hard watching this important person put other things in front of you. When they hear of something exciting, they call their best friend first. When they find a cool place to go out, they tell their brother. When a crazy story happens to them, they text it in their group chat. They choose their friend’s house party over your sister’s birthday party. You don’t want to just feel important, you want to know you’re important. 10. Snoop. We all do it. We peak at their phone when it’s left open, we go through a mysterious drawer when they leave the room. But snooping can only lead to problems. Either you’ll get caught, or you’ll find something you don’t want to find. But one thing will always happen: you will come across something that you don’t understand so you misinterpret it, your imagination runs wild, and it turns into a fight that never should’ve happened. 11. Try to change who they are. Either accept them or leave. That’s it. You should never try to turn someone into what they’re not just to fit the mold of your ideal mate. That doesn’t exist. So you just have to accept them or keep walking. 12. Desensitize yourself to them. After a long time being with someone, this can easily happen. You aren’t as moved when they cry. You don’t feel bad calling them horrible names. You take shots below the belt during minor arguments. You don’t care if they find out something that will upset them. Your sensitivity for them and their feelings dissipates. And that will never work well in a relationship. 13. Bring up the past. This is a major NO-NO in an argument. In a relationship, you should only be focusing on the present. No matter how brutal a fight might get, you should never bring up an event from the past. You have to leave it behind. If your boyfriend cheated on you, if your girlfriend did something bleeped up that hurt you at one point, you have absolutely no right to bring it up again and use it as ammunition. You have to leave the past where it belongs. If you forgive them for something and you both decide to move on, that means no bringing it back up, no matter how well it might work in your favor at the moment. 14. Holding a grudge/keeping score. Another thing similar to bringing up the past is holding grudges against each other. Someone in a couple might feel justified to do something immoral just because their boyfriend did something similar before. Or they’ll refuse to do something super special for their birthday just because the other didn’t do it for them this year. There is no such thing as keeping score in a relationship. You cannot base your actions and decisions on past occurrences. 15. Not support them. You should always have your partner’s back, no matter what. You should never shoot down their dreams or goals, no matter how far-fetched they may be. You should always be there for them, even if they make a stupid decision, to help pick them up and dust them off after. You shouldn’t mock them for being wrong. You shouldn’t make them feel worse about failing. You should always be their rock, their unwavering support system,[/b] |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 11:27pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Epistle |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 11:31pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Nawa o |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Synzu(m): 11:32pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Lord knows I didn't read this |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by bitchcrafts: 11:35pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Not tonight ma'am! I actually trickishly avoided babes frustrating whines and fervent lectures to come alive here this cool evening... WHR is MrsPhyno? |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by adaksbullet: 12:05am On Oct 24, 2016 |
[size=32pt]sai baba[/size] |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by jubrealguy(m): 12:10am On Oct 24, 2016 |
modify this na, use ur enter key..... |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 12:43am On Oct 24, 2016 |
I really have no idea abt it... Maybe Jix u can summarize it for me.. But only if u have time to read |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Cutehector(m): 12:47am On Oct 24, 2016 |
Mrsefan.... what is your problem? |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 8:12am On Oct 24, 2016 |
its done |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 1:11pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
bitchcrafts:lol but you have to tell me who you are first |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by juliusocean(m): 1:20pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Na wa o e too long |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by bitchcrafts: 1:20pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
MrsPhyno:Yikes!My |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 1:25pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
bitchcrafts:I knew it was you. Wow yay! How are you munchkin. Enjoying the economy? |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by bitchcrafts: 2:00pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
MrsPhyno:lol. See this funny geh. There is no economy anywhere. He don die and dey don bury am. Na wetin u fit do for urself to remain alive remain. |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 2:16pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
bitchcrafts:Just wanted to get you to say it lol. Don't worry, God will see u thru to another Election Day my pikin. How's school (or am I not allowed to ask on NL) |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by bitchcrafts: 2:25pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
MrsPhyno:You dont stop teasing upandan lol. I can see youre now fully interested in the "politrickin" of fatherland judging by your posts. Good luck oh. |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 2:42pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
bitchcrafts:lol it's a vacuum it sucks u in. Romanceland is like the ghost of Christmas past na, being here makes me emotional |
Re: 15 Things You Should Never Do In A Healthy Relationship by bitchcrafts: 2:50pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
MrsPhyno:I can relate, in that it was the magnet that drew me in too lol. But the obscenities, casualities and display of lunacy their doesnt compensate the fractal enlightenment that it could present ,so im out. Yes, but romance still brings to my soul solace, and most times ,thats all I need. Are u done with school? |
(1) (Reply)
Between My Mum Or Girlfriend ,who Deserves My 100k / Some Ladies Have No Shame Sha / Wife Slices Husband joystick, Cooks Noodles With It And Serves Him
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 36 |