thorpido:
Do you think this man abroad is the one God made for you?

Really I don't know. I don't know how God makes a man who for you, for whom you will have to weep your eyes out every night. That part I don't get

keepingmum:
Note this whilst making your decisions

You will NEVER be his legal wife (either in 9ja or in the abroad)
You will live your marital life as a married woman but single because hubby visits x1 a yr or x1 in 2yrs.
You will hv step kids who will probably be older than yours.
His legal wife will visit with him to 9ja and you will be relegated to maid position by him and ur in laws because them no want spoil their son chances of gaining papers.
There is no guarantee he will divorce that lady except she chooses to file......he will work to pay alimony and child support = less income to look after u and and children u birth.
Your income will be used to run the home in 9ja.
You can't visit and live with him.
He will only visit to get married 2 u. Then subsequent visits will be to get u knocked up
You will never live under the same roof as husband and wife for more than 1 month. So pray tell, what type of marriage, relationship do u envisage 4 yaself?
Oga will be banging his whitey daily yr in yr out whilst you can't even kiss a man without bn termed a cheat and adultere

You honestly said it all.

The exact scenario that will happen.
And she dares not cheat... Except she wants her neighbors to see her as a married LovePeddler.

Abroad guys? No go area.. Except u are based in their location... Anywhere short of that spells years and years of loneliness.. I can't even try it.. Not even if am drunk or under a spell.. Spell sef no dey catch me
So are you ready op, for such life ahead...
If yes? My dear u have the total blessings of all nairalnders here both home and abroad.

Amelian:






You honestly said it all.

The exact scenario that will happen.
And she dares not cheat... Except she wants her neighbors to see her as a married LovePeddler.

Abroad guys? No go area.. Except u are based in their location... Anywhere short of that spells years and years of loneliness.. I can't even try it.. Not even if am drunk.
So are you ready op, for such life ahead...
If yes? My dear u have the total blessings of all nairalnders here both home and abroad.

The thought of the loneliness scarez the holy crap out of me.

Missolivea:


The thought of the loneliness scarez the holy crap out of me.

My dear the loneliness, no be here oooo
It's so real

If u are not strong... U will curse the day he wooed u... Am telling u... Run from such guy.. Your own man will come without extra baggages from another woman.

maxioptiultra:


You can just imagine the kind of man a woman is giving serious thought to.

Lol. Desperation to get married at all cost can do that to anybody, male or female. Our society doesn't help matters either.

Missolivea:

Really I don't know. I don't know how God makes a man who for you, for whom you will have to weep your eyes out every night. That part I don't get

I don't understand the bolded.Does this abroad guy make you cry?

thorpido:
I don't understand the bolded.Does this abroad guy make you cry?

No na. I mean that should I go ahead with it, it will likely be lonely years ahead

Missolivea:

No na. I mean that should I go ahead with it, it will likely be lonely years ahead

Girl,are you lonely now?

You don' t sound too smart ,stay away from marriage with your sheep following goat mentality . How can a normal person even be considering this? Go ahead and marry him because am sure that is what you are here for.

thorpido:
Girl,are you lonely now?

Single not lonely

Missolivea:

Single not lonely

Okay.You shouldn't even be considering this but I guess there are people who need someone to hold them by the hand.
Let me hold you by the hand and lead you away from him.If you're still a student face your studies and if you work,develop your career and personality.The right man you say you want will come.Find a man of integrity and good character.It will give you peace.
If I may ask,how old are you?

byvan03:
You don' t sound too smart ,stay away from marriage with your sheep following goat mentality . How can a normal person even be considering this? Go ahead and marry him because am sure that is what you are here for.

Babe you harsh o!

I honestly don't know what question she's asking

I think I have watched this movie in Nolly wood way back as at 2004..... The actor was Saint Obi, or Ernest Asuzu....Not so sure... and the oyibo girl was The fair lady that does Delta Soap Advertisement around early 2000..I do not know her name....His parent sent him to school, he ran out of cash, start doing illegal business, get caught, oyibo girl help him etc...

Anyways the movie ended well because the guy left the oyibo girl and married the local hen....Dear biko settle down and look for someone in Nigeria..Apart from the good road, constant electricity, good health care and clean environment..there is NOTHING more in this Abroad that is not in Nigeria...

Wow, just wow!!!!!

Babe, I advise that you run and don't look back. Please don't fall into the December marriage trap i.e all these abroad guys that will be looking for naija wife to marry and keep in naija after they have someone over there.

The truth of the matter is he will likely marry(if he hasn't already) her for papers. Thank God he is honest and has told you about her, most guys wont.

I have seen it happen several times and it follows the same pattern. Marry and keep her in naija- come home every December or once in 2 years-send money and clothes or items- Take care of the children alone if she gets pregnant- he comes impregnates her again and the cycle continues.Is that a marriage.

The funny part of it is most times plans are not made for the wife to join hubby because of the wifey over there.


Do you want to see your husband once in a year possibly December only? Can you live with the thought that your hubby is married to someone else.You see the loneliness I see you mentioning in your posts is what will most likely happen if you even consider his proposal.

Let me tell you the story of my ex-flat mate.
About 2 years ago she saw a guy she used to date that was abroad during December celebration in the village that had said he wanted to marry her, somehow they met again after like 5 years it was just a meeting of chance.

The guy told her just the way he is telling you that someone is helping him, he has a lady etc etc and that she even has a child for him. I don't know how it happend but between Dec 21st that we parted from our flat and mid January my friend was engaged to this guy and to make matters worse she slept with him during those 3 weeks. To now crown it all she became pregnant she discovered after he left so they were hurrying to see if the family could pay the bride price, somehow it just didn't happen then.

After he left his papers were already expiring he had to marry the British lady in March, So he married her and was still making arrangement for bride price here.My friend was all alone during pregnancy, childbirth, he's sending money for the baby too but will money buy companionship oh and No visit too. He didn't visit naija.

When she had the baby and I visited her she exclaimed and said she won't advise anyone to go through what she did, she did everything alone.

These are the kind of proposals you shouldn't even think about twice, there are too many horror stories of abroad wife and naija wife even on nairaland.

There was a particular thread this issue was seriously trashed out. Let me see if I can dig it.


PLEASE RUN

yetseyi:
Babe, I advise that you run and don't look back. Please don't fall into the December marriage trap i.e all these abroad guys that will be looking for naija wife to marry and keep in naija after they have someone over there.

The truth of the matter is he will likely marry(if he hasn't already) her for papers. Thank God he is honest and has told you about her, most guys wont.

I have seen it happen several times and it follows the same pattern. Marry and keep her in naija- come home every December or once in 2 years-send money and clothes or items- Take care of the children alone if she gets pregnant- he comes impregnates her again and the cycle continues.Is that a marriage.

The funny part of it is most times plans are not made for the wife to join hubby because of the wifey over there.


Do you want to see your husband once in a year possibly December only? Can you live with the thought that your hubby is married to someone else.You see the loneliness I see you mentioning in your posts is what will most likely happen if you even consider his proposal.

Let me tell you the story of my ex-flat mate.
About 2 years ago she saw a guy she used to date that was abroad during December celebration in the village that had said he wanted to marry her, somehow they met again after like 5 years it was just a meeting of chance.

The guy told her just the way he is telling you that someone is helping him, he has a lady etc etc and that she even has a child for him. I don't know how it happend but between Dec 21st that we parted from our flat and mid January my friend was engaged to this guy and to make matters worse she slept with him during those 3 weeks. To now crown it all she became pregnant she discovered after he left so they were hurrying to see if the family could pay the bride price, somehow it just didn't happen then.

After he left his papers were already expiring he had to marry the British lady in March, So he married her and was still making arrangement for bride price here.My friend was all alone during pregnancy, childbirth, he's sending money for the baby too but will money buy companionship oh and No visit too. He didn't visit naija.

When she had the baby and I visited her she exclaimed and said she won't advise anyone to go through what she did, she did everything alone.

These are the kind of proposals you shouldn't even think about twice, there are too many horror stories of abroad wife and naija wife even on nairaland.

There was a particular thread this issue was seriously trashed out. Let me see if I can dig it.


PLEASE RUN

Thanks dear.

thorpido:
Okay.You shouldn't even be considering this but I guess there are people who need someone to hold them by the hand.
Let me hold you by the land and lead you away from him.If you're still a student face your studies and if you work,develop your career and personality.The right man you say you want will come.Find a man of integrity and good character.It will give you peace.
If I may ask,how old are you?

PM'ed you

You know he's already married right? That live-in girlfriend story is a lie.
Be smart. Personally I wouldn't advice anyone to marry someone they don't know well. Especially if you're countries apart.

bukatyne:


Babe you harsh o!

I honestly don't know what question she's asking

To be honest i counted 1-100 before typing so i dont say exactly what i feel like telling her. People like her dent women's image further.

byvan03:



To be honest i counted 1-100 before typing so i dont say exactly what i feel like telling her. People like her dent women's image further.

Lol!

What has she decided to do?

bukatyne:


Lol!

What has she decided to do?

Call her for phone .