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Re: A Frustrated Woman by southernbelle(f): 12:01pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
@lifted.hands I'm not married but although I'm about to...I faced a situation worse than yours...I cried my soul out and prayed my heart out... You posted this on another thread just two days ago, you were encouraging someone else too. You should also listen to your own words @emboldened. I wish you well. ![]() 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Onegai(f): 12:01pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: So, if you don't call off the wedding, are you hoping he will do it for you? And if he doesn't, will you go through with it in December? I see, just read the post before mine. You want tips and encouragement to win him back. Alright girl, best of luck to you. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by crackhaus: 12:03pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:You MUST marry him. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by timy22(f): 12:05pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Sorry abt ur situation. I Won't wnt to blame u, bt this is my advice/ little solution Try to get some savings , nd start looking for another better job. Save to get a new apartment , but for the main time still stay to get. D money. Because stay wit him might cost u ur happiness and joy and u might not be able to concentrate on many important things. Get a new and better job and apartment, 1, To start a new life and be more focus. 2, To give the right man that will love u the chance to meet and marry u. Lastly, I want you to believe in urself , love urself and start ur life afresh Be Wise, and learn frm ur mistake . God will guide u. 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is to date a man or fall in love with a man that is already in a relationship whether far or near. Most men are deceitful, they will lie that they don't love her, she is far bla a bla at the end you will be the one to lose. My dear don't marry him. He will make ur life miserable and remember this is someone you will spend the rest of your life with. Don't go to your early grave cos of marriage. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:08pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Go back to your parents and confess the whole truth. They would guide and shield you from henceforth. The guy has seen your all hence lack the motivation to carry on. There's some wisdom in never allowing a man see your unclothedness till he has shown commitment. You both would lead a miserable life if forced to continue as man and woman. To imagine I once made some crazy choices and decisions. such days of ignorance! 6 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:11pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Onegai: I love yiu No homo ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:12pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Chubhie: Why does it feel like I know you or do I say I wanna know you *nodding head* 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by missjo(f): 12:14pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
southernbelle:Problem solved. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:14pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Dyt:The feelings mutual. The "affairs" of yesternight's all wiped off as predicted? 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:17pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Chubhie: Which of it is mutual? Yes your predictions were on point Don't you think we will make a good pair earning from predictions? ![]() ![]() |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Ishilove: 12:20pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Mimzyy:Very complicated story. I smh He's living with her, chopping free punny, free food, free accommodation on top, he's flat broke and still treating her like sheit on top. Women! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ElsonMorali: 12:21pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Unfortunately you've made an irreparable mistake of getting pregnant for a man who doesn't love you. I'll leave the insults to the other commenters who are coming to do justice to that aspect, because truth be told, you really messed up. I get the sense that you are in your 30s and desperate for marriage. Anyway, here's what I'll advice you to do. You have two choices: 1. You can go ahead and marry him and hope he will change. The problem with this is that he will never change. He will keep hating you because he has convinced himself that you took advantage of him and slept with him and now you're using the pregnancy to tie him down. The worse part of it is that he is going to cheat on you either with his other girlfriend or with someone else. For two reasons: he doesnt love you and two, if he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, he will cheat on you with someone else. 2. Your second option is actually the better one, but the most painful and stressful and heartbreaking and shameful. Call off the wedding. Right now. Dont join yourself with someone who despises and hates you. Give birth to your baby and settle down to a life of single motherhood. Painful? Yes! But you will have peace of mind that you dont have to wake up every morning having to think about how not to offend that man. You will struggle, you will bear the stigma of single motherhood, you will be abandoned, you will be lonely, but if you keep your head up and never give up, bring up your child to have impeccable character, you will smile in the end. Whatever you do, dont abort that kid and dont marry that man. Tell him that he can go and marry whoever he wants. He'll have visitation rights to his child. Thats all. I wish you the best. 15 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mimzyy(f): 12:24pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ishilove: My dear, i just weak for body... |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:25pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Dyt:Like I know you from past incarnation. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:28pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
ElsonMorali:I'm just imaging what would be the man's reactions if he suddenly realises that his case has been tabled and been judged secretly by total strangers who perhaps fail to understand him. 4 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:28pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Chubhie: Now I believe that story of birthing twice I think I remember you well enough |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mimzyy(f): 12:29pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ishilove: She actually moved in with him, she ditched her own apartment and used the money meant for her own rent to pay for his. Things we do for love. yeah, but in this case, the guy in the picture doesn't give 2fcuk 'bout her hence her predicament. Different strokes for different folks o jare. I tire. 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by 5minsmadness: 12:30pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: He is going to choose to marry you so as not to bring shame to you or your parents. He has said so already. This man is not marrying you for love but because he feels trapped and obligated. And you still want to go ahead cos "u dont want him to use it against u to your parents"? Cos you dont want them to say it was you that broke off the engagement? Is it when you are pregnant for the second, nay, third child and he comes home drunk every night with a used condom dangling forgotten on his manhood and he attacks you and the kids out of sheer frustration that your eyes will clear?? Ladies of empowerment in this section. I leave this matter to you. *walks out of thread. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by masam(m): 12:32pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
I still don't understand why people re asking u to leave the guy asap. I say no to that.I simply see colleagues who re dating and and the lady happen to get pregnant. The guy did d honourable thing by accepting to marry her and move further to meet both parents. Do u think its easy to walk up to both parents as a guy to say u want to marry a lady? You will be drilled and for the guy to still stand his ground means he is not marrying out of pity rather a calculated decision. Maaamaa, it could be his financial state and unpreparedness that is working him up and not love as u guys posit. Asking u to do abortion is a suggestion even married couples make when finance is not stable. Pls don't leave the guy at ur state now because it won't be easy for you, unless u want to come to Nairaland tomorrow and be asking for contributions for baby food and things. You guys should go ahead and do ur formal introduction and leave it at that, pending when u deliver ur baby. Love could be cultivated by ur good manners and support for each other. The guy is not a bad guy from my assumptions and u sound naive to me, pls involve ur sibling and trusted friends before heeding to any online suggestions. 19 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by SalomonKane: 12:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ishilove:Dem be Ishiazu. Hope I spelt it right. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Dyt:You are a free spirit milady. Namaste. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ElsonMorali: 12:34pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Madam, the shame will not kill you. Oh, they are going to talk about you behind you and point fingers at you everywhere you go. Not just your work place. So start developing a thick skin right now. But here's the truth, after a while, people will get tired of your matter and look for some other juicy things, latest scandal to gossip about. If you have good friends, let them help you at this point and accept their support with gratitude. If you don't have, Well, find strength within yourself and get closer to God. This is not the end the of your life if you make an effort everyday to be happy. We all make bad choices once in a while. Nobody is immune. Be sorry for your mistakes but dont dwell on the shame too much. Move on and be strong. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by crackhaus: 12:35pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ishilove:Where did you get this one from? This girl MUST marry that guy, enough of single girls raising children alone. 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by PresVA: 12:36pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Onegai:So right. . never thought about the bolded.. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:36pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Chubhie: Namaste 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 12:40pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
masam: Onegai This is one of those things she wanna read Encouragement is all she needs Who are we to know better ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ElsonMorali: 12:42pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Chubhie: Whatever his reactions are, there is no honor in cheating on your significant other. Whoever he is and whatever his situation in life is, it is dishonorable to put a woman in a family way and then start blaming her for getting pregnant. A man shoulders his responsibility regardless. Reminds me of an advice my dad gave me and my brother. He said "the meat you know you won't eat, you should not sniff at it" My concern is for the woman who is carrying a human being within her. Her physical and mental health is way more important than the feelings of the man whose only responsibility so far is as a sperm donor. 10 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ElsonMorali: 12:50pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
masam: You're leaving out the part where she says the guy hates and despises her. Even without the pregnancy she shouldn't be advised to continue. Guy is only marrying her because of the pregnancy. When she gives birth what do you think is going to happen? Broken engagement is better than a broken marriage 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Maaamaaa: 12:52pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
ElsonMorali: I was not desperate for marriage... I'm 23yrs and he is 32yrs |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Chubhie: 12:55pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
ElsonMorali:The issue of honor and responsibility should never be mentioned one mile radius of those two adults cos they both acted in dishonorable and irresponsible manner. I'm not attempting to hold brief for the guy but an infatuated woman can move mountains to lure her man into lockdown. I bet this wasn't how the youngman proposed to live his life until the babe crossed paths,moved in and sins of the flesh took root. The guy could only be in it just for the fun and not an entire lifelong deal. The lady wanted marriage probably from the get go. My dad advised that if one wants to eat frog,one should go for ones with fat so that when you are called frog eater, you boldly shoulder responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Dyt(f): 1:05pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: It's okei |
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