NoMoreTrolling:
I'd advice the wifey to be more open minded and try to keep fit.

At least do your part and then if that doesn't help, then you can take additional action.

Why, for instance, would I watch a bj scene if my wife already gives good head

Ask him what his fantasies are and try to be open minded enough to accommodate them, even if it's just once in 3 months, or on his birthday.

Does he wanna tie u up
Spank ur bummm
"Hit it" from behind
Cuuum in ur mouth
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On the flip side though, some guys actually do prefer masturbation(from porn) to sex, as they have mastered the prefered ways they like to be touched.

In that case, tell him to show you where and how he likes to be touched.

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On the z flip axis, you'd find guys that will still watch porn and masturbate no matter what you do.

In this case, I'd recommend you both attend therapy, if his will power is non existent to let go entirely of his former life.

The good news is that, nothing is impossible and with the loving support of a caring wife, giving up porn should be somewhere between low and moderately difficult.

Zedoo:
Practical steps to win your husband back...

One day when he is not around,
Watch what he watches, not to indulge, but learn their "language"...

Initiate a sex chat with him, maybe while he is in the office or something.....
And tell him that you can't wait to "feel his **** that ure so Hot right now and etc, your description should fit that of what he watches and imagines....

Its disgusting for you to talk lyk them pornstars BUT this is practical here is not to start running around to one "man of God"....

Back to topic....

He will be caught of guard the first time you try it....but do it again and again....the sex chat will work on his mind and your channel will begin to show again in his "mind t.v".

Then you can move it a notch up to a sex call.....

This will take a week.....
Ure still working on his mind....

Then...the final stage....

Read carefully....

Every dude that is addicted to porn has a particular lady, style or type he likes....
If its a lady there is a particular way she talks and behaves.....and you will have to go this mile....

Get to the market, buy something close to her outfit, hair style n all....

Surprise him, by putting it on, and starting to touch him while he is watching the crap.....if he responds....you guys should have a go at it, while the porn is playing; this will keep his mind active and interested....

After three days of doing this,
On the fourth day, while ure hard at it, turn d laptop away or close it and when he tries to react, grab him harder and speak the pornsters language...."oh yea f*ck me with your big black **** oh yea daddy pound that pu**y" etc....just get nasty outa your comfort zone....


I expect to see your testimony soon PLUS, pray there is no other person he conducts practicals with....

Verdict: You NEED a new wave in your bedroom....your current bedroom self contrasts highly with what turns his dark side on in the closet.....find whatever it is...and be it....

metallisc:



abeg o! please.. ejoooor... when are we meeting in the other room....emm... for conference purposes!! please respond asap so that i won't start doing like the OPs husband o!

jclassiq:
seems to me like you are a very selfish woman. Who wouldnt prefer masturbation?

fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

ifyalways:

No wonder the poor man prefers mastuurbation as opposed to dealing with your contentious self.

Abeg carry your seexual frustrations commot for my front. I no send you o.

Shioor.

kokosari2:

Lol, but we all have some crazy fantasies at one time or the other. Self control and discipline is the key thing. I've discussed it with him on several occasion and he doesn't have any cogent reason for going into the act, probably when I start mine, he will see how disgusting it looks and this will make him stop.

kokosari2:

Lol, but we all have some crazy fantasies at one time or the other. Self control and discipline is the key thing. I've discussed it with him on several occasion and he doesn't have any cogent reason for going into the act, probably when I start mine, he will see how disgusting it looks and this will make him stop.

kokosari2:


Sister adviser, thanks for the advice but wait till you are married by then God will give you the power to follow through with your advice.

fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

toyeem:
Seriously, our world is really sick. How we quickly blame a woman for everything that goes wrong in a house never seize to amaze me. So a man masturbating and watching porn is his wife's fault I repeat, dear op, whatever your husband is doing is not your fault and until he sees reason to stop, he will never stop, the best he would do is hide it perfectly from you. Sit your husband down, talk to him and make him see reason why he should stop. And for the single ladies blaming the poor woman, go and marry first before you come back and comment. Marriage is reality in black and white not some telemundo show. Peace.

Zedoo:


You have succeeded in writing the longest possible STORY I have ever read on nairaland...kudos...

fumisko:
Am not denying he has high libido. But if I know my man has it. I must prepare mysef for extra work in my head. Let me ask u is bathing two times a day work anymore for u? No. Because it has become part of me. If giving my husband a BJ or Hand job twice a day wld stop d nonsense he does that I don't like seeing...why not...I wld do it. 20min of 24 hours is too much for 2 sessions sef
So Wats d big deal...wld add it to my routine for d days we don't get to have sex.period. It would be like gaving my bath.That's all am saying

kokosari2:


Sister adviser, thanks for the advice but wait till you are married by then God will give you the power to follow through with your advice.

kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.

kokosari2:

No one is forcing anything. It's clear you don't have the ideas I requested so why comment? I should stop watching when I wake up on him doing it or I walk in on him while in the act. Mtchew

kokosari2:
Na wa o, see as advice dey flow both realistic and unrealistic ones. The ones that want us stop work and turn sex to full time job, your head dey ther; the ones that want us to turn dick to chewing stick, you are well sighted. I appreciate all for their contributions, your homes and marriages will not hit the rock and the wisdom to manage our homes may God give us.

kokosari2:


Sister adviser

DMLords:


I pray for my self that my wife would reason like you.

maybe add a little boob action in there.

as a matter of fact, I am following you to continue getting these wonderful pieces of wisdom you are dropping

Funjosh:

fumisko:
Tor wetin u go con do if person marry Dt type Man U just hv to adjust or shut d Bleep up when u see him helping himself. There r homes Dt crash cus d man has a high sexual libido his wife can't satisfy...at least I respect OP's husband he is helping himself instead of using that as excuse for divorce.
And men stop being cows Abeg u wan kill us haba
Fear God please. Our body does not use to do us d way it is always doing u, u need to understand
Wat is you people's problem exactly

fm7070:


How do we measure libido?
I think adjustment, right thinking and solution oriented attitude will balance the equation
Quality sex is better than 10hr sex.
If you see that your husband can last long on bed, give him position that will make him go crazy and he ejaculates
But most women are comfortable with the missionary style and man has built resistance to that.
the woman can go online and study about how to satisfy her man.
It worth it.

kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.