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Re: A Frustrated Woman by 4dor: 10:29pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
ifyalways: You and I know that brother will still dip his hands in the cookie jar. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Proffdada: 10:31pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:you can seek legal advice and action on that. Everyone has rights now |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Gewezzy1(f): 10:31pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Your story sounds familiar oh but what's my own *sipswine * if it's you that I know my dear dt guy ain't coming bk to ***** you better think about it well. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 10:32pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
carammel: Can't you guys ever give advice without putting others down? She should pardon you cos you'll sound harsh? Pardon my foot! You think you are talking to a computer at the other end? Just shut it already and if you can't be polite then don't give advice putting someone who's already down further down. Crap! 6 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by KHbaby(f): 10:32pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
My lady, my candid advice to you is to call off the wedding, because the man you want to get married to has no love for you. It is better for you to endure the shame of having a baby out of wedlock now, than to endure unhappiness in your matrimonial home, which may eventually leads to divorce. My opinion though. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Zedoo(m): 10:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ohh lord why?? Why am I online What is this This is onoematosukpadumpikonum! Serious matters.... All man Dun turn life coach, muyiwa afolabis.... I see y'all... ** Op madam this case hard o.... Just move on like you said....NOTHING wey you wan do....if he ever starts behaving different, RUN further....na cookie... 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Oladipos(m): 10:34pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
My advice for you is that "Time heals every wound". When you look back at today in the next two years, you will have reasons to smile. Number one reason is your baby. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Zedoo(m): 10:34pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
KHbaby: E hard to do sha... buT...nothing good comes easy... |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Spain007(m): 10:36pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Pls don't stop cooking so long he provides fr d family,if not tht would add more stress on u both. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 10:36pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
MizMyColi:Best advice here of all the gibberish that came from the female folk. They just couldn't help but put the young lady down. It leaves me wondering what they would do if they found themselves in the same situation. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by poweredcom(m): 10:37pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
sister na now ur suffer begins 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Abdulkareem407(m): 10:39pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
U just make anoda mistake for posting ur story on Nairaland, good advice will Neva cum out from Nairaland instead they will just laugh at you and comment nonsense to hurt u more... my advice for u is dat u should leave someone husband and wait for ur own. gbam? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by PARAHH(f): 10:40pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
It seems you're bent on ruining yourself.. You're 23 not 32 so why the f'ck are you desperate to get married to a dude that's not even caring even at your sensitive stage... HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU get a life, build yourself, get an education if you don't have one there's nothing shameful about pregnancy out of wedlock it's just what the society sees it to be... Make yourself useful to you... Heartache in marriage is what you don't want to go through if you want you can ask my aunt, being neglected, battered, in and out o of stress coma not until she made up her mind to opt out of the marriage... Girl you're just 23 you have a whole life ahead of you... Have a Lil pity on yourself 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by trexlewis(m): 10:40pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Truth is the mistake has already been made, as you can see he never wanted you for life, you have two options, raise your baby alone and decline to marry him. Or marry him and accept the fact he will forever blame you for trapping him with a baby. Right now his probably feeling hurt for his girlfriend you may not know how hurt she is but he feels her pain and hates you for it. The good news is it will pass and he will move on and love you again but it won't be easy for now and you have to endure alot from him. Don't bother telling him your no longer interested in the wedding because he will come begging. Be strong okay, who am I to judge you. You will smile again. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by gorgeousfm: 10:42pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Acheron: I was about to type exactly this but didn't want to do that with this moniker. OP, you need not worry at all. What is meant to be, will surely be. Time will pass and he with get his ass together. I know what I'm saying. I'm sure of what I am saying. Go ahead with the "by force" marriage. Things would go just fine I can bet you. A lot of people on this forum are without marriage experience, hence, shouldn't be giving giving advice. The Lord is your strength sis. cc: verygudbadguy |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by saintmark88(m): 10:42pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
You just have to embrace reality, u r n a very big mess. Its not going to be easy living with a man who doesn't love u nd has no regard for u. It is not also gonna b easy raising tht kid alone. So u have got to mke a decision. Its a situation of been caught BTW a rock nd a hard place..I pray u do get a soft landing doh Dnt mke d mistake of thinking he would change to mke ur decision....thts my advice |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by savictory2(m): 10:43pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Don't you know when a man hates you, he will hates everything about you? I pray he come to his senses as you claimed when the baby is born. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Diplomaticbeing(m): 10:43pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
When two opportunists; a predaceous and a leechlike persons meet, the result is what's obtainable here. Well, as much as you have your flaws, just like every other human beings yet, I see some good attributes in you too. Meanwhile, what I can deduce is the problem with your housemate of a guy is that he's yet to experience self-realization. I won't say that he hates you. If only he knows the attributes not attitudes he cherishes in a potential wife, then your immediate problem will be halve solved - try your best to find out from him either directly or indirectly about 10 attributes he cherishes in a potential wife. When you do, be truthful to yourself, if you tick about 90 percent of the boxes, then be rest assured that you will not regret marrying him in the long run. . . . Don't allow the difficulties of today to ruin your future. On the other hand, don't undermine the efficacy of temporary separation in matters like this. 4 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Happybirds001: 10:43pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Don't know what to say but I want you to trust in God and everything will turn out fine .. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by login123: 10:44pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
I hardly comment on issues like dis, but my candid advice for u is that don't do the marriage. Have ur baby and take good care of urself . I declare to u today u ll see a man that ll still love u. Please, forget wat people ll say, everybody got a past. Goodbye |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Aajumi(f): 10:45pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:don't leave ur job pls....Pple wud always talk, am sure some Pple knw d story dat he doesn't love u but he is forcefully getting into it. If u go on d marriage wud break, am telling u dere is a man out dere dat wud marry u wit ur child just look at mercy aigbe her husband adores her and she is happy look at d girl she brot wit her to d marriage she has more IG followers. am sure Pple talked wen she just had d child but look at dem nw so hpy. So forget shame everyone has a past....am sure u wud ave so much joy wen d child is growing. Leave ur job only wen u find a beta one. May God give u a man dat wud love and cherish u and ur child.just be.patient. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by freecocoa(f): 10:45pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
One of the best things to happen to a girl, is, to have some self respect, so long as he has a woman, just leave it alone, haba! I made it a rule, never to get involved with a man in a relationship, I can't even feel for you knowing there's another girl to start with, that's just really desperate and low as far as I'm concerned. He told you, yet you ignored it, why would you even expect a man to leave his woman for you? I'm sorry but I don't like women like you, you are not a nice person, you didn't even care about the feeling of his girlfriend, smh. Anyways, what's done is done, if you have any form of love for yourself, you'd call it quits and move on with your life, you made your bed, now you have to lie on it. I don't know your stance on abortion but if you do decide to have the child(like I think you should), it may turn out to be one of the best decisions you ever made. 4 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by badrobot77: 10:51pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
If so pray hard cause now u need God.. Maaamaaa: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by JeremyA2G(m): 10:51pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:I advice you forget about the marriage and give birth to ur child and train the child up....there is no point in marrying and being unhappy,Don't blame yourself or anybody,mistakes happen.Time to move forward.BLESS YOU SIS |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by DEBJOCH1(m): 10:52pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS FAR NETTER THAN A NRPKEN MARRIAGE, PLEASE DO NOT EMBACK ON A JOURNEY YOU CAN NOT END, ITS NOT A TABOO TO BE A SINGLE MOTHER. THE MAN CAN NEVER LOVE YOU, UNLESS YOU WANT TI END UP AS PUCHING BAG AT HIS HOME. THE CHOICE IS UOUTS TO MAKR WHEATHER TO MOVE ON WITH LIFE, OR TURN YOUR DELF TO AN OBJECT AT HIS HOME. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by queenitee(f): 10:54pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
The guy obviously do not love you,don't let him marry you out of pity.Its not easy,but don't go ahead with that wedding,you are going to regret it,keep your child and move ahead,you deserve to be yourself and to live a happy life |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Aajumi(f): 10:56pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:You can Nt stay wit him....my Advice is call him and talk to him tell him u can't go on wit d marriage stuff dat u deserve a man dat loves and cherish u. Also u don't hold him for anytin dat he is free to make d woman he loves happy u wud also find a man to make u hpy....so to dat effect u give him a month to sort himself cos it won't be easy for u to live in d same house wit him...pls be.mature Abt it....cook his food whenever u r cooking Urs ( like cook extre Nt like u r mainly cooking his food or Wat he wants)...make him knw u r doing it out of d kindness of ur hrt. am sure he wud respect u after dis and u can move on...but don't deceive urself u can't be in d same house wit him and Nt still love him |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by mgbedianya(m): 10:56pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Op how old are you? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by DEBJOCH1(m): 10:57pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS FAR BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE, PLEASE DO NOT EMBACK ON A JOURNEY YOU CAN NOT END, ITS NOT A TABOO TO BE A SINGLE MOTHER. THE MAN CAN NEVER LOVE YOU, UNLESS YOU WANT TO END UP AS PUNCHING BAG AT HIS HOME. THE CHOICE IS YOUR'S TO MAKE, WHEATHER TO MOVE ON WITH LIFE, OR TURN YOUR SELF TO AN OBJECT AT HIS HOME. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by bernabc: 10:59pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Aunty, be strong and be of high spirit. There is still time for you to get your God chosen man. The mistake has been made and now is the time for correction. It is meant to serve as a lesson for you. Do not marry him unless he is able to show you undiluted love and care, note that he may be the one that will still marry you and keep being good to him such as cooking for him and I mean just be good to him. God will see you through in Jesus name. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by ogaibe1(m): 11:02pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
My advice to you is don't go through with the wedding but at the same time make sure that he is taking care of his child. Make sure he has a good access and relationship with his child, no one knows tomorrow the way you treat this man might bring that togetherness that you a yearning for. He is still confused at this time and cannot make a rational decision. Just saying that after all these this man might still become yours in the long run depending on how you treat him having access to his child and not bearing any grudges. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by iRepNaija1: 11:02pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Ishilove: I'm confused because here I thought sexual intercourse involved two people. Even if the OP "pushed" herself onto the guy, he still chose to sleep with her. No one had a gun to his head. He made that decision all on his own, and to imply that he somehow couldn't help himself makes the guy look like a person who needs to be babied and can't make a decision on his own. The fact of the matter is they are both to blame. Not him. Not the OP. Both of them. It's easy for a man to deny paternity, it never shows on them. Whatever he and the OP decide to do, they should come to an agreement together. 3 Likes |
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