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Should I End The The Relationship? by Billiondoe: 8:33am On Oct 27, 2016 |
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure.... 10 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by TreasuredLeidy(f): 8:43am On Oct 27, 2016 |
u're in love with ur present guy buh you are desperate to get married. he doesn't cheat n he respects u, good to hear. Stick with him Gurl. when he's ready, sooner or later, he would propose. I guess d drama is cos his folks control him, when u both are married, I don't think they wil control him again. don't think of going back to ur ex cos it's obvious ur not in love with him but his Money. #Shalom Modified: chaii! see as dem bath me with likes.. plz who knows how to convert nairaland likes to money? wish I could do dat. ![]() 277 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 8:44am On Oct 27, 2016 |
You have answered your questions yourself. Why will you even want to marry a man that you always have issues with instead of one who truly lobes you and is ready to marry? I tire for you. And the first guy sef doesn't have a mind of his own, his family still controls him. I wonder of you created this thread to seek attention. 64 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 8:45am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Treasured lady why the dot? 9 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by sisisioge: 8:47am On Oct 27, 2016 |
![]() ![]() ![]() Babes just go fallow for sometime biko... Just enough to think about what you need as enabler to settle in marriage. Modified A non cheating bobo that respects you but controlled by his folks and also very dramatic but isn't ready for marriage. An Ex who is an ex for a reason but is ready for marriage with plenty cars and houses. What a struggle! Aren't you just lucky! Please take a recess o...go fallow while you think about what would make you happy on the long run. Good luck. 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Marlvin(m): 9:08am On Oct 27, 2016 |
You could end up losing on both sides. 49 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Marlvin(m): 9:10am On Oct 27, 2016 |
TreasuredLeidy: You rather marry yet to be made or already made ? don't preach to me about luv. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Marlvin(m): 9:13am On Oct 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: He's not cheating on her.. read carefully. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 9:19am On Oct 27, 2016 |
fellis: I wonder too Go for the other guy.. At least he does not have drama like your guy. And the other guy has a mind of his own. I detest drama than anything else.. With time, u will get to love the other guy.. All we need is peace , love and security from our husbands to be.. Every other thing is secondary.. I have some fri3nds who marr3id ugly men as husbands.. The men are very financially OK and they tell. Me everytime their husbands cares for them like crazy while they use him to. Make shakara because they are fine.. Lol.. Well am not in that school. Of thought ![]() Mine is average money, great looks and peace.. Ce fini. Op go for the one ready for. Marriage.. Shikena... No long story 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by sisisioge: 9:22am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Marlvin: No vex sis...left my glasses in the baluwe ni. Apologies, once again. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Dyt(f): 9:22am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Mama's boy are the worse set of men to deal eith ![]() ![]() ![]() 41 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by TreasuredLeidy(f): 9:22am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Marlvin:I Neva mentioned u. plz just drop ur advice n go ur way 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 9:41am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Marlvin: But, if we have them both placed on a measuring scale, the chances of her marriage to the rich guy – who likes her but whom she does not like very much – making it unscathed through the vicissitudes of marital life, pales in comparison to the chances of the success of her marriage to the one wherein a symmetrical love-liking exists, even though the relationship as she said, is fraught with quarrels and disagreements — which I think is a normality and nothing out-of-synchro. I mean, who wants to be in a relationship where everything is always peaceful and as boring as a nondescript Swiss village? A little disagreement every now and then pumps in litres of excitement into a relationship. [...] She is only 25 and the guy is only 27. I do not see why there is the rush to get a rock on her finger, except it's a personal touchstone she set for herself, but I highly doubt it. I think she is being shoehorned by family or she feels left behind because her friends have long embarked on the marital voyage. She says the guy she likes-loves is hooked to the strings of his family's aprons, but if we have this cast upon the screen of investigation, we would discover that she is also being pressurized into marriage by her family, and is only pandering to their wishes in her hankerings for a man – any man at all – to lead her down the aisle. In other words, she is also being controlled by her family members in a way, and already entering, or rather, about to enter into the marriage institution for the "wrongest" reasons. I believe the story is laced with mistruths or is a total hoax. How many Naija babes would come online to ask you whether or not to marry a rich guy with different houses and cars, or whether she should stick with a not-too-financially-bouyant guy who has shown no inkling of his interest in getting married to her in the foreseeable future? Now that's a curious thought bubble we should mull over. 127 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Marlvin(m): 9:54am On Oct 27, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: I wouldn't agree less. The whole set up seems like a nollywood movie though 10 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Billiondoe: 9:57am On Oct 27, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:Yes they exist, the guy she is with is a great guy, he is every woman's dream and they share thesame goals, he is very smart too and would make a great father... it would only take a little time but he is a billion box in the making and 100%legit hard working man a takes care of all her needs he dosnt just have extr to throw around 1 Like |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 9:59am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Marlvin: Directed and produced by Kunle Afolayan. Marketed and distributed by Alaba International Ventures. Oya, grab your copy...NOW!!!!!!! ![]() 24 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Billiondoe: 10:03am On Oct 27, 2016 |
[quote author=DarkRebel101 post=50545927] Directed and produced by Kunle Afolayan. Marketed and distributed by Alaba International ventures. Oya, grab your copy...NOW!!!!!!! ![]() This is somebody's real life ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 10:10am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Billiondoe: Money is necessary in everything in life, maybe even more in marriage. But when we constantly draw the bead on it, especially in matters bordering on relationships, we should do well to remember that though it [Money] is necessary to make the centre hold, it has no ontological reality and is as transient as the anger of God. So long as he has enough to cater for food, shelter, clothing, and other things incidental to a comfortable and healthy living, then she should be contented because he has attained the pass mark and is fit to be called a man. If she wants anything beyond that then that is what we Yorubas would call Oloju kokoro. ... There is nothing stopping her from getting married to him with the purpose of lending him a helping hand in accruing wealth in order to cater for the extras. Even a small two-bedroom flat was not built in a day, talk less of Rome. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Marlvin(m): 10:21am On Oct 27, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: Lol.... HAVE A HEART! The young girl is facing a dilemma. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Viking007(m): 10:25am On Oct 27, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:True talk. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Acidosis(m): 10:41am On Oct 27, 2016 |
You will lose both. Don't be f00led. The same manner at which you made your ex an option, is the same manner at which he wants you back for frivolous reasons. He has a list of at least 10 marriageable women. Be rest assured you occupy the 10th position on his list. Real men do not call back their exes for marriage. Whenever your ex calls or invites you, visit and be prepared for se.x. 40 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Richy4(m): 3:43pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
[b]Is an Ex not supposed to be in the dustbin of History? why are you still keeping a tab on him? He loves and worship the ground you trample on,has money and house and all that, why did you kick his butts.... Seriously you need a time out for 2-3months to think about what you wanted so that you will not make a big mistake..I see marriage as a long term commitment and not something you can jump in and jump out .....within those months, u will decide if <<<Your present boy friend was the one, If you can put up with him and his family and his mood swing..... <<< if your Ex was the one, if you can stay in a loveless relationship or grow to love him back..But I know ex should belong to history <<<Finally if you can wait a little while for a prince charming to come and swept you off your feet....Keeping in mind that marriage is not the answer to every thing in the world Oh by the way, dating and marriage are different things all together..I am glad you are getting a little picture of how marriage looks like. couples do argue in Marriage.... alot......It is different from soap-opera drama... ..The guy was not hiding anything from you by giving u the true pic while u guys were dating..... You guys will annoy each other, have a shouting match and at the end of the day u settle.....It's not always lovey dovey ...[/b]. 20 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Billiondoe: abeg calm down, madam long-throat. first, free that 27 year old bobo cos nothing he does for you is enough as long as the thought of your ex bank account gives you orgasms. besides, what have you done with your life so far since you graduated? Do you have a career? Do you have goals and plans? marriage is not an achievement. 65 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by crackhaus: 4:32pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Billiondoe:Marry your ex, I promise you will be into him again in less than 6months. 1 Like |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 4:39pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Amelian: When i hear average money, I laugh...Average is relative, your own average might be a guy making 500k as Monthly income. ![]() Na why e no good to do follow follow in dis life ! 2 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
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Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
truthsayer007: You see yourself? ![]() And that's not the average am talking about..i can even start from low sef! For example i can marry a guy who earns 50k a month, cause I have faith such guy will grow and be successful in his career or biz, as long as he's focused, hardworking, dedicated and foresighted ... He's good to go... .am not looking at now.. Am looking at Tomorrow And The only constant thing we have in life is Change.. Such guy can end up being the next richest man in Africa in some years down the lane. So you are wrong Mr Truthsayer007..sorry but u have no clue at all 4 Likes |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 6:15pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Amelian: Ok, thank you Ma ! you didn't need to add MR, Just my name would have been perfect ![]() But i really wonder how a man that earns 50k in this economy would be able to maintain his looks ! Anyway, i got your point sha. Nice one 1 Like |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 6:18pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
truthsayer007: OK noted. |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 6:19pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
truthsayer007: I said, I can date and marry such kind of guy... Am. Not saying my BF earns 50k..cos he earns much more.. It's an example I gave up there. |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Amelian: Lmao, I said "A Man"...I wasn't referring to your BF. So because i know 50k wages is small money, by the time you remove daily transport. How much is remaining. Even as a man, you have to Dress well and Feed well to look good. So where will the money to look good come from? You can't look good on cheap ass clothes ![]() |
Re: Should I End The The Relationship? by twosquare(m): 6:49pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
Billiondoe:All that glitters isn't gold. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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