TreasuredLeidy:
u're in love with ur present guy buh you are desperate to get married.
he doesn't cheat n he respects u, good to hear. Stick with him Gurl. when he's ready, sooner or later, he would propose.

don't think of going back to ur ex cos it's obvious ur not in love with him but his Money.

#Shalom

sisisioge:


Babes just go fallow for sometime biko... Just enough to think about what you need as enabler to settle in marriage.

A cheating bobo that 'respects' you but controlled by his folks and also very dramatic but isn't ready for marriage.

An Ex who is an ex for a reason but is ready for marriage with plenty cars and houses.


What a struggle! Aren't you just lucky! Please take a recess o...go fallow while you think about what would make you happy on the long run. Good luck.

fellis:
You have answered your questions yourself.
Why will you even want to marry a man that you always have issues with instead of one who truly lobes you and is ready to marry?
I tire for you. And the first guy sef doesn't have a mind of his own, his family still controls him.
I wonder of you created this thread to seek attention.

Marlvin:




He's not cheating on her.. read carefully.

Marlvin:




You rather marry yet to be made or already made ? don't preach to me about luv.

Marlvin:
You could end up losing on both sides.

DarkRebel101:


But, if we have them both placed on a measuring scale, the chances of her marriage to the rich guy – who likes her but whom she does not like very much – making it through the vicissitudes of marital life pale in comparison to the chances of the success of her marriage to the one wherein a symmetrical love/liking exists, even though the relationship as she said, is fraught with quarrels and disagreements — which I think is a commonplace and nothing out of synchro. I mean, who wants to be in a relationship where everything is always calm and as boring as a nondescript Swiss village?

[...]

She is only 25 and the guy is only 27. I do not see why there is the rush to get a rock on her finger, except it's a personal touchstone she set for herself, but I highly doubt it. I think she is being shoehorned by family or she feels left behind because her friends have long embarked on the marital voyage.

She says the guy she likes is hooked to the strings of his family's aprons, but if we cast this to the screen of investigation, we would discover that she is also being pressurized into marriage by her family, and is only pandering to their wishes by wanting to have a man – any man at all – lead her down the aisle. In other words, she is also being controlled by her family members in a way.

I believe the story is laced with mistruths or is a total hoax.
How many Naija babes would come online to ask you whether or not to marry a rich guy with different houses and cars, or whether she should stick with a not-too-bouyant guy who has shown no inkling of his interest in getting married to her in the foreseeable future? Now that's a thought bubble we should mull over.

DarkRebel101:


But, if we have them both placed on a measuring scale, the chances of her marriage to the rich guy – who likes her but whom she does not like very much – making it through the vicissitudes of marital life pale in comparison to the chances of the success of her marriage to the one wherein a symmetrical love/liking exists, even though the relationship as she said, is fraught with quarrels and disagreements — which I think is a commonplace and nothing out of synchro. I mean, who wants to be in a relationship where everything is always calm and as boring as a nondescript Swiss village?

[...]

She is only 25 and the guy is only 27. I do not see why there is the rush to get a rock on her finger, except it's a personal touchstone she set for herself, but I highly doubt it. I think she is being shoehorned by family or she feels left behind because her friends have long embarked on the marital voyage.

She says the guy she likes is hooked to the strings of his family's aprons, but if we cast this to the screen of investigation, we would discover that she is also being pressurized into marriage by her family, and is only pandering to their wishes by wanting to have a man – any man at all – lead her down the aisle. In other words, she is also being controlled by her family members in a way.

I believe the story is laced with mistruths or is a total hoax.
How many Naija babes would come online to ask you whether or not to marry a rich guy with different houses and cars, or whether she should stick with a not-too-bouyant guy who has shown no inkling of his interest in getting married to her in the foreseeable future? Now that's a thought bubble we should mull over.

Marlvin:

I wouldn't agree less. The whole set up seems like a nollywood movie though

Billiondoe:

Yes they exist, the guy she is with is a great guy, he is every woman's dream and they share thesame goals, he is very smart too and would make a great father... it would only take a little time but he is a billion box in the making and 100%legit hard working man a takes care of all her needs he dosnt just have extr to throw around

DarkRebel101:

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DarkRebel101:


But, if we have them both placed on a measuring scale, the chances of her marriage to the rich guy – who likes her but whom she does not like very much – making it unscathed through the vicissitudes of marital life, pale in comparison to the chances of the success of her marriage to the one wherein a symmetrical love-liking exists, even though the relationship as she said, is fraught with quarrels and disagreements — which I think is a normality and nothing out-of-synchro.
I mean, who wants to be in a relationship where everything is always peaceful and as boring as a nondescript Swiss village? A little disagreement every now and then pumps in litres of excitement into a relationship.

[...]

She is only 25 and the guy is only 27. I do not see why there is the rush to get a rock on her finger, except it's a personal touchstone she set for herself, but I highly doubt it. I think she is being shoehorned by family or she feels left behind because her friends have long embarked on the marital voyage.

She says the guy she likes-loves is hooked to the strings of his family's aprons, but if we have this cast upon the screen of investigation, we would discover that she is also being pressurized into marriage by her family, and is only pandering to their wishes in her hankerings for a man – any man at all – to lead her down the aisle. In other words, she is also being controlled by her family members in a way, and already entering, or rather, about to enter into the marriage institution for the "wrongest" reasons.

I believe the story is laced with mistruths or is a total hoax.
How many Naija babes would come online to ask you whether or not to marry a rich guy with different houses and cars, or whether she should stick with a not-too-bouyant guy who has shown no inkling of his interest in getting married to her in the foreseeable future? Now that's a curious thought bubble we should mull over.

True talk.

Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....

Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....

Amelian:





I wonder too
Go for the other guy.. At least he does not have drama like your guy. And the other guy has a mind of his own.
I detest drama than anything else..
With time, u will get to love the other guy..

All we need is peace , love and security from our husbands to be..
Every other thing is secondary..

I have some fri3nds who marr3id ugly men as husbands.. The men are very financially OK and they tell. Me everytime their husbands cares for them like crazy while they use him to. Make shakara because they are fine.. Lol..
Well am not in that school. Of thought
Mine is average money, great looks and peace.. Ce fini.

Op go for the one ready for. Marriage.. Shikena... No long story

Joavid:


marriage is not an achievement.

truthsayer007:


When i hear average money, I laugh...Average is relative, your own average might be a guy making 500k as Monthly income.

Na why e no good to do follow follow in dis life !

Amelian:





You see yourself?

And that's not the average am talking about..i can even start from low sef! For example i can marry a guy who earns 50k a month, cause I have faith such guy will grow and be successful in his career or biz, as long as he's focused, hardworking, dedicated and foresighted ... He's good to go... .am not looking at now.. Am looking at Tomorrow
And
The only constant thing we have in life is Change..
Such guy can end up being the next richest man in Africa in some years down the lane.

So you are wrong Mr Truthsayer007..sorry but u have no clue at all

truthsayer007:


Ok, thank you Ma ! you didn't need to add MR, Just my name would have been perfect

truthsayer007:


Ok, thank you Ma ! you didn't need to add MR, Just my name would have been perfect

But i really wonder how a man that earns 50k in this economy would be able to maintain his looks !

Anyway, i got your point sha. Nice one

Amelian:





I said, I can date and marry such kind of guy... Am. Not saying my BF earns 50k..cos he earns much more.. It's an example I gave up there.

Billiondoe:
What are the characteristics of a good marriage, am 25 and single and staying in a relationship is like world war 2... seems like love is not all it takes... am in a relationship with a 27yr old man and we r In love and we are both university graduates but I dont think we can make it to the alter cos it's a different drama everyday, never caught him cheating and he respects me but his family controls a better part of him and he isn't ready for marriage anytime soon and I have this ex who is very willing all I have to do is tell him am ready and am no longer in a relationship, he is rich and has different cars and houses but am not so into him but he loves me for sure....