We have been together for 5 years now, both family is aware and We have been making Plans to make us one by next year

On the 26th of October while travelling to Abuja on a business trip , i was arrested by a client who we had an unfinished business with ( infact its his job i was going to Abuja to finish up), I quickly called my guy to brief him and the station, He came almost immediately and tried all he could to get me on bail but to no way,After about 2days in SARS detention i was taking to court, but unfortunately or as luck will be on my side the court did not seat due to the burial they had which all the magistrate went for, so i had to spend the weekend in police custody all through the weekend, My friend had inform my fiancee since the day i was arrested and she wanted to come but my friend had advise her not to bother as he will sort things out.All through my stay in detention my friend was practically everywhere just to make me feel Ok, he comes to station almost twice or thrice daily.

I was taken to court on Monday and Was granted bail but could not meet with the bail condition that day so I was remanded in the prison custody till my bail condition is met, I spent 2 night in prison, by this time,my hair has been scrap off by inmates, I had fallen very sick and i was practically looking like a broom.

The girl i intend to marry was nowhere in all of this , people who i barely know were running everywhere for me yet she could be ok with the reason my friend gave to her not to come for 7 days I was in detention, even as I shared this info online I am yet to see her.

I honestly feel hurt, I know she is working but this same job she will be resigning from within the next 2weeks due to Nysc.

I dont know if i am over-reacting or i just expected too much from this, but i have been honestly Praying to God to keep my mind intact about her

Please i need your advice / opinion.



N/B: Prior to this I once had a dream where it was like i was arrested and when i came out she was crying , begging me that she is sorry, I shared the dream with her and told her to be careful, its not even upto a month after that dream this incidence happened.

Pishure of you first

She is not very loyal

Joseph d dreamer! u re over reacting! ur friend has promised her to get u out! just chill

loool

Dimples999:
She is not very loyal

can you leave ur place of work to visit somebody in the cell?
@op what was ur offence and dont you think she might be ashamed of you stepping on people toes

Redoil:
can you leave ur place of work to visit somebody in the cell?
@op what was ur offence and dont you think she might be ashamed of you stepping on people toes

For my man of 5yrs... Yes I would. How could I rest knowing my hubby was in Jail common

Black girls aren't faithful, so she respects her #10000 nysc job more than you?after been shaved and almost or raped in prison? Bro save up, leave the country and marry a White oyinbo.... I'm sure she is dark in complexion, if yes... Bro forget her

Akanbibabatunde:
Black girls aren't faithful, so she respects her #10000 nysc job more than you?after been shaved and almost or raped in prison? Bro save up, leave the country and marry a White oyinbo.... I'm sure she is dark in complexion, if yes... Bro forget her

Will you just shut up

Dimples999:


Will you just shut up

will you too shut up??

Akanbibabatunde:
Black girls aren't faithful, so she respects her #10000 nysc job more than you?after been shaved and almost or raped in prison? Bro save up, leave the country and marry a White oyinbo.... I'm sure she is dark in complexion, if yes... Bro forget her

wat kinda silly advice is dis

pretydiva:
wat kinda silly advice is dis

its an insightful one... You black girls can't see into... You know, you all belong somewhere else..

Hmmm...

This is serious! Let's be sincere,she should have found a mean to see her man! How can your mind be at rest knowing fully well that your friend/brother/sister/wife/husband is in detention? Naah!

You'd better go and pray about your marriage decision before you enter one chance!

Akanbibabatunde:
will you too shut up??

If you shut up then I'll be quite

1: a woman who never in any means try to reach u through out the days U spent in the cell, I'm sorry she lacks care and you will regret ever marrying such woman even in sickness there will be little concern. 2: no matter how small the case might look to her, she has chances of calling to check on U but I'm sure she didn't. Let her go and find your true love else where. In relationship both party should Be ready to care, love and understand each other even when you know he/she is fine keep checking. The definition of love is lost in this generation and a lot of selfishness is involve in relationships today, I believe we should both care for each other

utenwuson:
Joseph d dreamer! u re over reacting! ur friend has promised her to get u out! just chill

Yes my friend promise to get me out , within the first 48hrs & am still in detention is more than enough for her to know things is getting out of hand

I stayed 7days

Redoil:
can you leave ur place of work to visit somebody in the cell?
@op what was ur offence and dont you think she might be ashamed of you stepping on people toes

I was not expecting her to come Do a Jack Baur on me , She knows all my business dealings & this incidence was a clear case of misunderstanding between me and my complainer even the police said so to my complainer that we should seat and talk and decide what we want.


Lastly my bail condition was not met quickly cuz nobody person has access to my account to get funds, she has all my mobile banking details , things would have been easier for my friend who was running around her to get me out if she was there providing info he is not privy to about me

Your story is incomplete. Firstly are you still in detention? Secondly, how does you being remanded affect your relationship?. Your story get K-leg o. Please clarify us well for proper understanding.

Dimples999:

Will you just shut up

why should he? Uhn?

Redoil:
can you leave ur place of work to visit somebody in the cell?
@op what was ur offence and dont you think she might be ashamed of you stepping on people toes

abeg go nd sleep. Who should be ashamed of supporting a loved one who's in detention? Even if the person is guilty as charged.

People like yu will deny any member of the family that's a sickler.. Cos of shame.

Who dey look yu sev? Carry your senselessness away

man oh man, I'm speechless. Your gurl sure isn't a caring type.

You have a problem. Your friend told your girlfriend not to come he will sort matters, maybe if that was for two days but for this long? No you have the right to be worried. I would still come even if the friend said he will sort matters.

end it now!! there is no justification 4 some certain actions!

Hmmnn, some women sha...even if your friend told her to chill, as your "fiance" she's supposed to atleast show up even if it's once...i just hope that your friend is no straffing your "fiance"....i might be wrong tho.

Dunno what to say..

first of all, your friend is wrong for asking your fiancee not to visit you. also your girl is wrong for sticking to your friend's advice.
after the whole drama unfolds, ask her what her reasons were for not coming.at the end, the decision is yours to make cus no one in this forum knows her better than you do..good-luck with it

The lady in question didn't try at all.

How could she care so less of her fiance in such a situation?.

Op, decide for yourself what you really want before you enter one chance.

NevetsIbot:
abeg go nd sleep. Who should be ashamed of supporting a loved one who's in detention? Even if the person is guilty as charged.

People like yu will deny any member of the family that's a sickler.. Cos of shame.

Who dey look yu sev? Carry your senselessness away

e be like say i offend you b4 or pour sand for soup

This hoes ain't loyal.... #singing