KissChrix:
Some ladies find their guy at the first try ,so it's not about numbers

safarigirl:
So 10 guys is okay?

First tries are not included, what is the acceptable limit? Surely there's a number a girl will tell you she's dated to get you going "babe, is it that serious?"

Women are supposed to be emotionally invested in these things unlike guys

Berbierklaus:
[b]You have to be more open minded OP,this is 21st century and 2016,there is no "shock" if a girl dates as many guys as possible until she meets the right one,because in this century,there is nothing a man is entitled to that a woman is not allowed to. The world has evolved from dictating what a girl should do or not do to her simply because a has a Vjay or a weaker sex.


Personally though,I believe anybody,(both boy and girl,gender segregation is a great sin to me) should think well and get to know their partners before dating, and If it's not working out,they can easily end it,Dating is just trial and error,until you are satisfied with the one that you can cope/tolerate/love for a very long time.Which is why in marriage there is no going back,the first question any sane person will ask when marriage blues start and a couple complains is "did you court your partner?"

There is nothing like what a girl is "supposed to" that is a very sexist statement. She is a human being with the brains to think for herself not a piece of property,if you think her ideas is a mistake,let her make her own mistakes then.
So Safarigirl, a girl should date as much as possible while considering her best bet

PS:Even If it involves sleeping with them all,she owns her body,The world has evolved from judging "girls" or boys with what they use their own body for[/b]

Dimples999:


I endorse this statement.

Beautifully put sis

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

Berbierklaus:
[b]You have to be more open minded OP,this is 21st century and 2016,there is no "shock" if a girl dates as many guys as possible until she meets the right one,because in this century,there is nothing a man is entitled to that a woman is not allowed to. The world has evolved from dictating what a girl should do or not do to her simply because a has a Vjay or a weaker sex.


Personally though,I believe anybody,(both boy and girl,gender segregation is a great sin to me) should think well and get to know their partners before dating, and If it's not working out,they can easily end it,Dating is just trial and error,until you are satisfied with the one that you can cope/tolerate/love for a very long time.Which is why in marriage there is no going back,the first question any sane person will ask when marriage blues start and a couple complains is "did you court your partner?"

There is nothing like what a girl is "supposed to" that is a very sexist statement. She is a human being with the brains to think for herself not a piece of property,if you think her ideas is a mistake,let her make her own mistakes then.
So Safarigirl, a girl should date as much as possible while considering her best bet

PS:Even If it involves sleeping with them all,she owns her body,The world has evolved from judging "girls" or boys with what they use their own body for[/b]

Berbierklaus:

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

Berbierklaus:

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

safarigirl:
So 10 guys is okay?

First tries are not included, what is the acceptable limit? Surely there's a number a girl will tell you she's dated to get you going "babe, is it that serious?"

Women are supposed to be emotionally invested in these things unlike guys

Berbierklaus:

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

Berbierklaus:
[b]You have to be more open minded OP,this is 21st century and 2016,there is no "shock" if a girl dates as many guys as possible until she meets the right one,because in this century,there is nothing a man is entitled to that a woman is not allowed to. The world has evolved from dictating what a girl should do or not do to her simply because a has a Vjay or a weaker sex.


Personally though,I believe anybody,(both boy and girl,gender segregation is a great sin to me) should think well and get to know their partners before dating, and If it's not working out,they can easily end it,Dating is just trial and error,until you are satisfied with the one that you can cope/tolerate/love for a very long time.Which is why in marriage there is no going back,the first question any sane person will ask when marriage blues start and a couple complains is "did you court your partner?"

There is nothing like what a girl is "supposed to" that is a very sexist statement. She is a human being with the brains to think for herself not a piece of property,if you think her ideas is a mistake,let her make her own mistakes.
So Safarigirl, a girl should date as much as possible while considering her best option.

PS:Even If it involves sleeping with them all,she owns her body,The world has evolved beyond judging "girls" or boys with what they use their own body for[/b]

Berbierklaus:

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

your comment is flawed in many ways Miss! This is Africa not the western world. You have cultures and morals don't copy those who are without morals and culture nor respect for whatsoever.

I don't know when you become a feminist oh

Berbierklaus:
[b]You have to be more open minded OP,this is 21st century and 2016,there is no "shock" if a girl dates as many guys as possible until she meets the right one,because in this century,there is nothing a man is entitled to that a woman is not allowed to. The world has evolved from dictating what a girl should do or not do to her simply because a has a Vjay or a weaker sex.


Personally though,I believe anybody,(both boy and girl,gender segregation is a great sin to me) should think well and get to know their partners before dating, and If it's not working out,they can easily end it,Dating is just trial and error,until you are satisfied with the one that you can cope/tolerate/love for a very long time.Which is why in marriage there is no going back,the first question any sane person will ask when marriage blues start and a couple complains is "did you court your partner?"

There is nothing like what a girl is "supposed to" that is a very sexist statement. She is a human being with the brains to think for herself not a piece of property,if you think her ideas is a mistake,let her make her own mistakes.
So Safarigirl, a girl should date as much as possible while considering her best option.

PS:Even If it involves sleeping with them all,she owns her body,The world has evolved beyond judging "girls" or boys with what they use their own body for[/b]

Berbierklaus:

I dislike the "what a girl is supposed to do" talk.

[size=35pt]A girl is a human being not a property[/size]

Therefore a girl is "supposed to do" what makes her happy,not what the society or anybody thinks she is "supposed to do"

Papiikush:


your comment is flawed in many ways Miss! This is Africa not the western world. You have cultures and morals don't copy those who are without morals and culture nor respect for whatsoever.

I don't know when you become a feminist oh

Berbierklaus:

This is not a matter if feminist or not.

And right here and now,I am not copying western cultures,I am only saying what should be fair to me as a girl.

A girl should not be compelled to stay in a loveless,nonfunctional or even violent relationship,because there is a limit she can go with the number of men she has been with. that's hogwash.

A girl should not remain single and forfeit her happiness because the society has given her the grace to be with a certain number of guys,that's another hogwash there.


PS:I am perplexed and shocked that you could go so low,then again,we are humans,we don't stop surprising ourselves

As expected! Whenever a guy talks about not supporting their views as feminists they start with the whole "violent relationship" sentiments... That is just obsolete!

Grow up already!
open your eyes to reality!

Most of you all blabbing about women rights can't even stand up for yourselves in the real world. Real feminists don't talk the way most of you all do here especially on nairaland. No offense

I thought ladies are suppose to be "better than men" in cases well as expected except from stuffs like this right?

There is nothing low in my comments cuz I am never harsh on women. In your words "I have sisters too"

safarigirl:
most serial dating girls aren't happy... More like desperate, insecure, uncertain.

If you have to go through more than five guys to find this elusive thing you're looking for, maybe it's not in the market.

I didn't include guys in this topic because more often than not, guys don't go into relationships thinking of marriage, they just want to have fun. Girls in Africa and Asia especially (because the Americas are filled with robots who can enter even marriage and discard it in days), go into relationships with the possibility of marriage

It is all this talk of girls not 'conforming' that has destroyed Americans and their relationship values.

Everybody must conform to something, certain things are expected from males equally that are not held necessary for females eg the act of provision and protection. You don't see men calling for a revolt, most keep to such values and society frowns at any man who cannot provide for his family. Hence, the degrading name "fu*k boy", which is the male version of the degrading female term " ho"

In truth, most women want everything for nothing.

Berbierklaus:

This is not a matter if feminist or not.

And right here and now,I am not copying western cultures,I am only saying what should be fair to me as a girl.

A girl should not be compelled to stay in a loveless,nonfunctional or even violent relationship,because there is a limit she can go with the number of men she has been with. that's hogwash.

A girl should not remain single and forfeit her happiness because the society has given her the grace to be with a certain number of guys,that's another hogwash there.


PS:I am perplexed and shocked that you could go so low,then again,we are humans,we don't stop surprising ourselves

@Underlined...
Oh, You haven't heard?

He's A Nutjob, Utter crackhead still stocked with the 12th Century Mentality...

safarigirl:
Ten guys before marriage is not you being liberated, it's you seeking validation from men or having daddy issues so you need a man in your life.

My dear, you're not more feminist than I am, but the sad truth most feminists fail to realise it that both genders have different genetic make-up. Hence, the rule of "see them as equals" will never apply. What Paul can do with zero attachments, Paula can't do in same manner.

I started this because women are much more guided in their choice of partners, they are analytical, not spontaneous. They NATURALLY do not just jump into bed or relationships with anyone because they feel like it, that's what men do.

Women do not see relationships as some free-for-all candy store you can just walk into and pick the flavour of your choice, no, they think of feelings and emotions and if you think your heart can pass through 10 men before you land a husband, then your poor husband will end up being your therapist

At this stage you need to cut down on the generalization.
okay let's switch it both ways,men are supposed or even allowed to have any flavour of women they want,even up to 50 if it takes that to make them satisfied before landing a wife,then the poor wife will end up being his therapist Hello,does this make sense?... oh,I forgot,the genetic makeup of women does not give them liberty to free thinking,they are owned

Even Chimamanda would wonder about a woman going through men like a pack of cards. It's not normal

safarigirl:


Ten guys before marriage is not you being liberated, it's you seeking validation from men or having daddy issues so you need a man in your life.

My dear, you're not more feminist than I am, but the sad truth most feminists fail to realise it that both genders have different genetic make-up. Hence, the rule of "see them as equals" will never apply. What Paul can do with zero attachments, Paula can't do in same manner.

I started this because women are much more guided in their choice of partners, they are analytical, not spontaneous. They NATURALLY do not just jump into bed or relationships with anyone because they feel like it, that's what men do.

Women do not see relationships as some free-for-all candy store you can just walk into and pick the flavour of your choice, no, they think of feelings and emotions and if you think your heart can pass through 10 men before you land a husband, then your poor husband will end up being your therapist

At this stage you need to cut down on the generalization.
okay let's switch it both ways,men are supposed or even allowed to have any flavour of women they want,even up to 50 if it takes that to make them satisfied before landing a wife,then the poor wife will end up being his therapist Hello,does this make sense?... oh,I forgot,the genetic makeup of women does not give them liberty to free thinking,they are owned

Even Chimamanda would wonder about a woman going through men like a pack of cards. It's not normal

Berbierklaus:
You have to be more open minded OP,this is 21st century and 2016,there is no "shock" if a girl dates as many guys as possible until she meets the right one,because in this century,there is nothing a man is entitled to that a woman is not allowed to. The world has evolved from dictating what a girl should do or not do to her simply because a has a Vjay or a weaker sex.


Personally though,I believe anybody,(both boy and girl,gender segregation is a great sin to me) should think well and get to know their partners before dating, and If it's not working out,they can easily end it,Dating is just trial and error,until you are satisfied with the one that you can cope/tolerate/love for a very long time.Which is why in marriage there is no going back,the first question any sane person will ask when marriage blues start and a couple complains is "did you court your partner?"

There is nothing like what a girl is "supposed to" that is a very sexist statement. She is a human being with the brains to think for herself not a piece of property,if you think her ideas is a mistake,let her make her own mistakes.
So Safarigirl, a girl should date as much as possible while considering her best option.

PS:Even If it involves sleeping with them all,she owns her body,The world has evolved beyond judging "girls" or boys with what they use their own body for