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Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 7:02pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
Umm, lol. Nice try. But I don't believe in searching for love. ElsonMorali: |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
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Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by dangotesmummy: 8:32pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
Berbierklaus:smh. Another one on the loose |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 8:42pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
Yieldings: Then you would know Hamlet was trying to tell Horatio than even though he – Horatio – believed the scope of his knowledge to be of unparalleled width, it was still a germ when juxtaposed with all the knowledge in the world. I think Shakespeare through Hamlet sought to bewray the conceitedness of those with high pretensions to knowledge.
Nice! I love women who appreciate literature. Have you read Julius Caeser? I began re-reading it on Thursday.
LOL. I effaced that part of my post because I thought it sounded arrogant, not knowing you've already seen it. Urggg, I was bored out of my skull that very week and decided to put my mind to good use. Does that seem a good enough reason?
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Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by ElsonMorali: 8:53pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
Yieldings: Hehehehe...really? Does that mean that love searches for you then? |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by RoadsAndGreen(m): 9:05pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
OP your husband is very stupid. and a goat sorry to say meanwhile, i go with the ishilove's advice.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by byvan03: 10:11pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
dangotesmummy: Wars aren't for cowards. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 10:13pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
RadicallyBlunt: I have to disagree with you here. No! It is not normal. Not in the 1st yr not in the second year, not in the 10th year nor is it in the 50th year. It is not normal in any version of any civilized relationship whether, just friends, family member, spouse or just dating. You should NEVER do that to your partner, never in public, and NEVER in the presence of your domestic staff nor your children. If you disagree, slag it out in private. If you disagree with the instructions given to the help, you NEVER undermine your spouse's authority in their presence that they loose the respect of your domestic staff. You also never berate your spouse in the presence of your in-laws nor friends or any other family member. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by AlphaHandMaiden(f): 10:36pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
thewife306: You can only take so much before you yourself will snap back one day! So i suggest after one shouting episode, when you get into a private place, you tell him straight up in a calm and controlled voice, that he should not speak to you in that manner, not in public, not in front of your staff nor in front of the inlaws. It does not show you any regard as his wife. Your hubby seems to have some anger management issues and if he doesnt see the the wrong in his behavour then there is a big problem. Stress or no stress, there is a line you draw and there is a limit of external bullshi.t one can bring home with you. If anyone have aggression issues, it is not wise to dump it on your spouse. Go for proffesional counselling as you both need the help. As he may not be aware of it but this is emotional abuse. ( please dont go with all those churchy version of counselling that everything has to be the woman's fault and they will start quoting submit to your husbands. ) if anyone says that to you..... quote the second bit that says husbands should love their wives and re-inforce it with thw passage that gives the atttributes of love..... see boldened below. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. God bless and direct you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by thewife306: 10:39pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
AlphaHandMaiden:Thanks a whole lot. Av actually beenwaiting to read from u, tearoses n onegai. |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by thewife306: 10:41pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
RoadsAndGreen: No i wont take dat frm u. Pls take ur dirty mouth somewhere else. Sorry for yourself |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 10:57pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
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Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by comtem2011: 10:59pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
RoadsAndGreen:Haba oga! how can you qualify someone's husband like this, its uncalled for. Seeking advice here does not mean we should disrespect the husband. This is very rude of you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by helovesme(f): 11:12pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
dangotesmummy: Gbammmmmm. This is exactly what I will do if I was in her shoes. Avoid him like a plague publicly completely until he changes his ways. Cc thewife306 Have a one on one chat with him about it and tell him he needs to change his ways. If he doesn't, then simply adopt the method above. You need to get rid of that househelp though. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by thewife306: 11:31pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
tearoses: At d bolded. We both did. We got her From our family friend. Initially I wanted to be the one paying but he insisted dat it's his responsibility to pay. The househelp issue is another issue that I wouldn't want to discuss on this thread. The lady in question isn't with us anymore. I intend doing the payment for the next one and telling him not to interfere. |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by thewife306: 11:35pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
helovesme: Double post |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by thewife306: 11:36pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
helovesme: Was going to do dat by year end but She left on her own... For greener pasture |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 11:38pm On Nov 13, 2016 |
Yieldings: Yes, I am highly self-conscious but that wasn't why I effaced the post. Many of the skirmishes that I've had with people – both offline and online – were a result of them feeling intimidated about the things I could do and which they couldn't -- such in recent times have necessitated me to hide my lamp under a bushel. Honestly, that was why I edited my post.
One of these days? LOL. Let's make it Friday. Do you Skype? I must warn you though, that you would be sorely besotted with me once you catch a whiff of my awesomeness. ... Are you a bibliophile, Yieldings? You must have a large collection of books, don't you?
Yup, I've read Beowulf. ... My poetic taste is eclectic, not only do I read sonnets, I also read Haikus, free verses, etc. Have you read any work from Oscar Wilde and William Blake? I enjoyed Wilde's ‘Ode To Liberty’, and I find Blake's ‘Tyger, Tyger’ to be particularly instructive -- it tells of the destructive nature of a creation as beautiful as the tiger and questions the morality of the creator in creating such a savage beast. “Tyger, tyger, burning bright; In the forest of the night; What immortal hand or eye, Could frame thy fearful symmetry?”
Arggg, I can't say for sure. I don't have an all-time favourite, but I very much fancy Dan Brown and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle.
As I said, my taste is rather eclectic. I read whatever comes my way and which I think could be useful. Everything except chick-lit and those unrealistic romance plays, novels, and novellas. ... Pray, have you read Dante Alighieri's Divine Comedy? I sent a PDF of the Inferno to a female Nairalander about two months ago, but I highly doubt she found it easy to read, or that she could read it at all.
I just finished re-reading Plato's Apology yesterday, I've read Cicero's De Oratore and Xenophon's Memorabilia; I've read St. Thomas Aquinas' cosmological arguments; I've read the works of Rene Descartes, John Locke, Karl Max, Bertrand Russell; I've read some works of Aristotle – who by the way was also a giant misogynist? -- were you aware of that? He – Aristotle – claimed women were deformed versions of men, and that while light-skinned women were capable of squïrting, dark-skïnned women were not. You can confirm this if you think I'm making stuff up. ... I also watch crash courses on works of prominent philosophers on YouTube. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by RoadsAndGreen(m): 9:08am On Nov 14, 2016 |
comtem2011:OK OK am sorry but how can a sane human disrespect his wife in public? also in front of their maid. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by RoadsAndGreen(m): 9:12am On Nov 14, 2016 |
thewife306:OK I apologize for that. now you were quick to attack me but your husband disgrace you publicly no retaliation. very funny. I am sad for you because your self esteem would have been dropping like sky divers by now. sorry babes. I wish you the best. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 5:35pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Yes. Usually when a female tries to look for love she would find the wrong one or the man will not would just want to take advantage of her. So imo, it's better to let it come to you. I've learned to put my blinders on because most men out there are no good. I'm waiting patiently for my missing rib. I'm sure when the universe says it's time for us to meet, we will meet. Other than that, I am not searching. If anything, he searches for me. ElsonMorali: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 5:39pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
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Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by ElsonMorali: 6:13pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Yieldings: Wow. That's an interesting POV. Nice one. But I think its you who is the missing rib bone of somebody. You're not the one who's missing the rib, its the man. That's why he's the one searching for his missing rib bone. We are in agreement then. I guess you'll furnish me with the answer to your puzzle in due time then, right? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 6:29pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
[size=1pt]Yes, you're right. But I'm skeptical sha, that I'm someone's missing rib. I think when you've been single for eternity you start to lose hope lol, and I'm not the type to just settle for anyone, so yeah. Yes, I will let know you. I'm sure I will find out by the time I'm 80.[/size] ElsonMorali: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by ElsonMorali: 6:35pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Yieldings: Can't be that bad. 80? No way. There's someone for everyone. That's for sure. You complete someone perfectly. And when you meet that person, you'll know. Let's just hope you won't start forming too hard to get when that person comes your way. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by Nobody: 7:48pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Yieldings: What is ‘MBTI’? Help me out here. I took a pseudo-personality test one time; but I thought it was applesauce, I consider myself protean and unpredictable; no series of tests can have me bucketed in category A or category B. Even if I took enneagrams with a cubic metre of salt, I wouldn't share it on a public forum where walls have ears. But I'm curious, B.F. Skinner, from my teeny-weeny snowflakes of quirks that have studded your winter grounds, what personality would you say that I fit into?
Nerdie-birdie. I've always pondered what people mean by reading for fun. I read to learn, and to entertain myself, and when the time calls for it, to breeze through exams. So yeah, I read both for academic purposes and as a personal obligation; it all depends on the timing -- you sure won't find me buried in a Nora Roberts novel if I had a History test tomorrow.
Showoff!, or as the Germans would say, “What a Besserwisser”. Arggg, I for some seconds thought you were writing a rounded dissertation on the Antiquities. Kudos!! I'm falling in love already. Please tell Cupid I've had enough of his dumb-äss arrows.
You actually think I'd use the whole week in memorising sonnets just to impress – no, not impress –, just to prove a nonfictional point to a chick I met on Nairaland? Hehe. That's cute. What do you think I am, 12? My schedule is too crowded for me to pull that stunt, even if I wanted to. I am no ten-dollar charlatan; if I say I can do something it's because I can.
I never said all of his sonnets; I said 20 of them. ... Mike Tyson said that everybody has an opinion until they get punched in the mouth. Read my version: “Every skeptic waggles a tongue until the knuckles of a daunting revelation knocks the socks off their feet”. You seem to know your onions in matters related to the Antiquities; I must say that I'm am nonplussed that an apparent aficionado as yourself is unaware of a mnemonic technique which dates back two thousand years to ancient Greece; and which Greek rhetors, politicians, lawyers and all those whose business intertwined with public speaking, have used to memorize tons of speeches. A mnemonic device known as memory palace. Really? You've never come across this while you were reading the works of Aristotle and co.? How else do you think I could have pulled such a memory feat? By way of rote memorisation? Hehe. That would have been like honeymooning in Gehenna. |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by dangotesmummy: 7:51pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
helovesme:lol.the house help isn't the issue here or the problem .the house help is a minor matter. Even the yorubas say charity begins from home.the way you treat your wife is the way outsiders will treat her.if you see a man that is always ridiculing his wife in public e.g yelling in public or slapping in public, one day the brother inlaw who didn't have the nerves for such will do it because the husband has created a fertile ground for disrespect in the house. And so if she begins to earn her respect by avoiding him gradually he'll begin to come back to his senses and the house help will act accordingly |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by dangotesmummy: 7:53pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
byvan03:I agree 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by gidiceleb4: 9:55pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
shout back na |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by yinkslinks(m): 9:57pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Madam shout back at him so both of you will be mad in public. But seriously there is a spirit that's in your hubby cus when he sees u, he gets angry. sorry you hear bah? thewife306: |
Re: My Husband Always Shouts At Me In Public by goshen26: 9:58pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
JeffreyJamez: Good advice bro...and I hope u av a cabstar or hummer vehicle to help her pack her things too when her marriage is over? |
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