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What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 8:00am On Nov 20, 2016 |
How frequent is it when you notice that your anger and emotions are getting out of control that's driving you to commit all sorts of inappropriate, reckless, crazy behaviors? To the majority of us, it's undeniable that life is tough, challenging and stressful these days. However, it is still important to learn how to control your temper. One critical thing to remember is that you are always 100% in control of your emotions. While you should never find yourself in a situation that you can't control, you always have choices as to how to react to any kind of situations. By allowing yourself to even think that your temper is controlled by other people or circumstances, you are just making an excuse for yourself! To a certain extent, anger is actually a powerful emotional response. It reminds you what you don't like about your life, other people and what matters to you. It allows you to freely express your frustrated feelings, but it should never overpower your self-control. If you find that you are turning into a violent beast when anger hits you, you have an imminent dangerous problem to fix. If you really find it difficult to handle, you might as well consult some anger management experts for advice. Remember this powerful paradigm shift: It is not how you are feeling that is wrong. It is what you do with your feelings that become the issue. If you allow yourself to throw a tantrum and fling your arms around, ranting wildly like a lion king, this is obviously not a good sign. You are liable to hurt other people's feelings as well as possibly causing them physical harm. When you let your temper get the better out of you, you may face serious consequences like: 1. Detrimental to your unstable mental health 2. Severely damaging your physical health, some may even trigger heart attacks or latent diseases 3. Ruining your professional career because you're confronting your boss, colleagues or even clients in a mindless way 4.Destroying relationships with friends, family, lovers and co-workers 5. Failing to create the kind of impact you want in the world because no one wants to help you with your vision and mission Luckily, there are solutions to this problem. Your first step is to seek out help and learn to manage your temper in a more effective way. This can include group discussion on possible solutions with family and friends or it can consist of you learning how to manage your anger by yourself either in books or online. Learning to control your temper will take time, energy, effort and patience. One of the first things you should do is to try to determine what the root cause of your anger is. Did you grow up in an angry household where you witnessed a lot of fights and dramas? Have you experienced a traumatic event in the past about people? Sometimes the root cause of anger can be hidden deep inside. It is only with a lot of self-reflection, soul-searching and meditating that the answers will be revealed. Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed and start making a list of all the things that make you angry. Then put them in order of importance - which one lights your fuse first. Once you know what your root cause is, you will be able to devise a better strategy to deal with it and slowly change your behavior. As for me, the single root cause that lights my fuse the most is "people getting angry and reacting with anger for no justifiable cause." i have identified mine and i am already working tirelessly towards accommodating it. lets hear yours ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 8:00am On Nov 20, 2016 |
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by dingbang(m): 8:06am On Nov 20, 2016 |
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by dingbang(m): 8:09am On Nov 20, 2016 |
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by dingbang(m): 8:11am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Next time don't steal ftc in ur own thread! ![]() |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by jnrbayano(m): 8:20am On Nov 20, 2016 |
To most here seeing these words alone bring out turbulent rage in them: IPOB Afonja APC PDP Change Chibok Girls Fulani Herdsmen Boko Haram Jonathan Lai Mohammed Nairaland Moderators And the heavyweight champion BUHARI. I tell you most solemnly, their rage is hugely justified. Anger management skill is powerless here. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 8:25am On Nov 20, 2016 |
dingbang: ok sire i will not. for reasons like these i have always advocated for NL Psychiatric section so that such post can be moved their with ease ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by veekid(m): 8:33am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Informative 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by sirfee(m): 8:37am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Nice write up,I think introverts possesses the spirit of anger than extroverts.I'm an introvert and I'm also guilty of this but I'm working on it.Few years back I visited a counselor who adviced me to always keep quiet whenever I'm angry,he adviced me to always move away from the place if possible,He also adviced me to always meditate(a simple ten or fifteen minutes breathing meditation daily is ok)#anger management 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by dingbang(m): 8:50am On Nov 20, 2016 |
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by ccffwx: 9:32am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Disrespect irritates me but I'm working on my reaction. I also suggest praying about it and studying the word of GOD (Bible) as solutions. Lots of helpful truths in the Bible especially Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by greatdeal1408: 9:41am On Nov 20, 2016 |
i don't know why but i feel like getting this guy above me angry. i want to see how he is gonna control is anger.
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by StupidYorubaFool: 9:41am On Nov 20, 2016 |
God pls save me from anger lest I get homicidal.... |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by greatdeal1408: 9:41am On Nov 20, 2016 |
i don't know why but i feel like getting this guy above me angry. i want to see how he is gonna control is anger.
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Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by Nobody: 10:00am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Anytime I'm angry, I take a walk into room, grab my phone, grab a jar of vaseline, click on ww.pornhub.com ......my anger dissipates within some seconds later. ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by airminem(f): 10:17am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Before You Explode Quickly Grab A Paper Bag Or Nylon Bag, Blow In Air And Exhale With Your Mouth For Five Times. |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by Nobody: 11:03am On Nov 20, 2016 |
I ruined a friendship cause of my temper!! I've learnt the sorry way!! But that won't stop me from confronting my boss whenever he crosses the line, they fear my mouth for work sef ![]() But yeah it's true what they say "Never speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret" 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by femiabiolajamb(f): 11:40am On Nov 20, 2016 |
so on point. op next time do not steal your ftc. lalasticlala do the needful to this lovely piece. |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by Nobody: 11:41am On Nov 20, 2016 |
The Messenger of Allah (s) forbids man against such anger but considers one who controls himself when he is confronted with evil sufficient to make him angry, as a man strong in will, mind and wisdom. He is more powerful than a wrestler, as his mental control is more than physical strength, and defeats evil and aggression not only in others but also in himself. The man who can control himself when angry, and prevent himself from doing harm to others or oppressing them or punishing them, has a will of iron and is of exalted character. He couples pushing problems away and alleviating harm from himself with spreading the spirit of love, forgiveness and tolerance among people. Indeed, Allah loves those who control their anger and He forgives those who do not seek revenge or punishment. Thats all 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 12:46pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
jnrbayano: hhhhhhhh just say you are speaking for yourself ![]() |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 12:46pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
veekid: thanks |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by Nobody: 2:09pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Falling apart lately. *Angry creeping in slowly* 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by 3mmyz(m): 2:21pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Lovely post, but WTH is dingbang ![]() |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by dingbang(m): 2:22pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
3mmyz:bia, mechionu! 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by extwoo(m): 2:29pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
All that story won't help, Just break something, anything your eye will clear like Magic ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by Mileslamar1(m): 3:05pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
I agree |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by ofeshe(m): 3:26pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
importexpert: The best post i have seen on nairaland in the whole of 2016 ![]() |
Re: What To Do When Your Anger Is Out Of Control by importexpert(m): 3:50pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
extwoo: hhhhhh guy you made my day. alternatively just kill a neighbor ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
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