This is an objective article, not a subjective one.

There are those who really need children? They want children and they are able to take care of them. May the desires of their hearts be granted.

A newlywed couple would normally desire children. A couple with only one or two kids may desire one more. This is a logical reason.

There are those who need children for logical reasons. There are those who need children for strange reasons. This piece is about those who need children for strange reasons.

Who are those having children for irrational reasons? Let me give you a few examples out of numerous.

A case study: Someone has had 7 or 8 boys, but they keep on having children by the same woman or second woman because they need a girl. Does he want to take that girl to his grave? This is also applicable to someone who has 7 or 8 girls, and is desperate for a male child? Who tells him that female children aren’t even better than male children?

Example 1:
One man has 5 kids through the first wife, who’s now estranged and separated from him. He married a second wife and has two kids from her. One kid is dead, one is alive. The second wife is now dead, and the man, who’s currently old, has started cohabiting with another woman (who happens to have kids through previous relationships). They now plan to have another child because they think their affair means nothing if it produces no children. And this is a man that can barely feed himself, not to mention paying his young children school fees. His older children are living on their own, but they’re not buoyant enough to assist their dad.

Example 2:
One landlady has 3 kids, and the last born is 13 year old. But because a newlywed couple packed into one of their rented apartments, and the new wife got pregnant, the landlady became jealous and got pregnant for her husband again (at an advanced age). She puts her life at risk because of inordinate jealousy.

Example 3:
One woman has 2 kids through a previous disastrous marriage. Her former husband has rejected those two kids, though they’re his. The woman later married a polygamist who already has numerous children from two women. She became the 3rd wife (and she’s a Pentecostal Christian). The new husband built a house for each of his wife, and the 3rd wife has another 2 kids for him: a boy and a girl. The 3rd wife is doing all in her power to prevent their husband from marrying the 4th wife. The husband has built another house and the 4th wife is already there, expecting a baby. Because of this the 3rd wife became jealous and got pregnant for their husband again, knowing full well that this man believes more in building houses than in paying his children’s school fees. Is this new baby needed?

Example 4:
2 female neighbors who’re extremely jealous of each other are competing with giving births. They both get 5 kids, and when one gives birth to a new baby, the other one would give birth within the next 9 months. The competition is ongoing. These women don’t have rich husbands, and they keep on blaming the federal governments for their financial woes.

Example 5:
Another woman who’s already had 6 children they’re struggling to feed, recently got pregnant again because she sensed that her husband is sleeping around. She wants to use the pregnancy and a new baby to “tie” her husband down and attract his attention. This is what some women are doing. Does this strategy work?

These are couple and cohabiters who can’t feed themselves, and they keep on giving birth to children after children after children.

They think God that created man has created what the mouth would eat. Is a fulfilling life only about eating? At the time of writing this article, close to 800 million people are seriously hungry worldwide, and about 30,000 people died of hunger on November 5, 2016 alone. Why didn’t food fly to their mouths miraculously? Superstitions have really put us in bondage.

Superstitions are one of the factors contributing to problems in Nigeria. We read about great people in the past; but we read about them because of what they achieved, not because of the children they had. 2 hundred years to this time, it won’t matter again whether you had children or not.

In some European countries, the governments take care of housing, health insurance, education and more. Yet their citizens don’t give birth anyhow. In Nigeria, you take care of all responsibilities yourself, doing so with your blood and sweat. Yet, you bear children indiscriminately.

At the end, people would blame the government for the results of their own actions. Nigerians do stupid things and blame others for it.

Some older people have children who can’t take care of them because those children aren’t financially OK.

Why do people have children they don’t need? The children they can’t take care of, with the hope of a brighter future. Years ago, people had this hope and what was the result? Population explosions with increasing poverty and social atrocities. Clearly, illusions aren’t a good thing.


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I believe illiteracy is major factor causing this, another is religion and the third tradition.

We were told in secondary school economics that one reason for overpopulation is poverty as a poor man has nothing busy to do than to sleep with his wife and sleep with his wife and sleep with his wife and sleep with his wife and sleep with his wife in the morning and noon and evening and night and midnight and during pregnancy and a day after giving birth when the vagina never heal.

Because they always want prove a point

The wife wants to prove she's fertile to avoid societal mockery
the husband wants to prove he's a man
The mother inlaw on both sides wants to see their grandkids
Money planning and common sense is not an important factor
in polygamous homes THE number of children a woman can produce is a basis of competition for example the first wife has 3 children the second wife wants to prove that shes more fertile so she must have 5 to show she's better than the other wives.

I remember the story of a man with 4 wives my mom told me of in her former place of work.each of the wives wanted to show she's the most fertile. If the first one has 2.the second one will vow to have 4,the third one will vow to have 9 etc until the man went financially bankrupt as he couldn't cater for the kids so he ran away from home

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What do you mean they don't need?

Needing something, and having the means to afford it are very separate, different entities...

Because they are uneducated and ignorant

The one way funny me pass na the 2 jealous neighbours

Solely because Konji na baztard ..

Because POVERTY, DISEASE and IGNORANCE all go together.


That's why most poor people think someone is chasing them with JuJu

The reasons are numerous,but i'd like to mention a few...

1)Tradition:-My papa/mama born 6,so i go born 8.

2)Religion:-I dont want to commit abortion,GOD said we should multiply and fill d earth etc.

3)Stupidity/Greed:- Only you wan born Governor,Senator,President,Vice President,Doctor,Lawyer,Engineer and Pastor etc

4)The Naija factor:- Seriously people, Nigeria is one helluva fertile ground-Sotey grass dey grow on top roof.



And as some one stated above,Sex is such a cheap luxury!!!

@ op. The 2^nd and 4^th examples are just wack!

Seriously??

dangotesmummy:
Because they always want prove a point
The wife wants to prove she's fertile to avoid societal mockery
the husband wants to prove he's a man
The mother inlaw on both sides wants to see their grandkids
Money planning and common sense is not an important factor
in polygamous homes THE number of children a woman can produce is a basis of competition for example the first wife has 3 children the second wife wants to prove that shes more fertile so she must have 5 to show she's better than the other wives.
I remember the story of a man with 4 wives my mom told me of in her former place of work.each of the wives wanted to show she's the most fertile. If the first one has 2.the second one will vow to have 4,the third one will vow to have 9 etc until the man went financially bankrupt as he couldn't cater for the kids so he ran away from home
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Lol!

Finish your story jor. What happened next? Did the missing in action runaway father return? How did the women cope in his absence??

EfemenaXY:
@ op. The 2^nd and 4^th examples are just wack!

Seriously??



Lol!

Finish your story jor. What happened next? Did the missing in action runaway father return? How did the women cope in his absence??

LMao. How does HE want to cope with 11 children? The man ran away from Home,his wives came to his work place to look for him and he was forced by his boss to man up to his responsibilities otherwise he'll be sacked. The man just had to take care of his children because he didn't have a choice however he's always broke and depressed

dangotesmummy:
LMao. How does HE want to cope with 11 children? The man ran away from Home,his wives came to his work place to look for him and he was forced by his boss to man up to his responsibilities otherwise he'll be sacked. The man just had to take care of his children because he didn't have a choice however he's always broke and depressed

Lol! Fuji House of Horrors

I really enjoy these beautiful, witty, logical and and rational replies. You guys on Nairaland are great and intelligent indeed.

EfemenaXY:


Lol! Fuji House of Horrors

no be small thing o my sister. You will see poor men who can barely feed themselves yet they'll still marry more than one wife.they won't stop at that. They will be popping out children every year like dogs and now start blaming witches for their poor state and inability to feed their kids

dangotesmummy:
no be small thing o my sister. You will see poor men who can barely feed themselves yet they'll still marry more than one wife.they won't stop at that. They will be popping out children every year like dogs and now start blaming witches for their poor state and inability to feed their kids

Lol!

What happened to Sambarry? This user name is a mouthful.

EfemenaXY:


Lol!

What happened to Sambarry? This user name is a mouthful.

sambarry has been arrested for hooliganism and rascally behaviour on nl

She's in nl prison and will be released February next year. So for now dangotesmummy IS still roaming around

dangotesmummy:
sambarry has been arrested for hooliganism and rascally behaviour on nl

She's in nl prison and will be released February next year. So for now dangotesmummy IS still roaming around

Hmmm

Oya bring back Kulyie then. This your tongue biting new name no do am at-all-at-all.

Because they are ignorant, and illiteracy is another major bane.

Who's the author of this post. I owe you one.

EfemenaXY:


Hmmm

Oya bring back Kulyie then. This your tongue biting new name no do am at-all-at-all.

lol.it's easy na.oya pronounce it

Dan- go-te's

Mummy

See that's all

It is called baby race competition

dangotesmummy:
lol.it's easy na.oya pronounce it

Dan- go-te's

Mummy

See that's all

To answer your question, people have kids for different needs/reason. their reason might not just be as good as yours, they might not be as selfish as yours , they might not be as rational as yours.

but have you ever asked yourself why exactly you want to have/had kids, be it one or two, and let's see if it's not to fulfil your selfish needs or to carry on with societal tradition (that we have been programmed to follow from birth)?

A well 'educated' person knows how to channel his selfishness and make maximum benefit of it based on his available resources. On the other hand, a sentimental dumb and poor person can't.

dangotesmummy:
sambarry has been arrested for hooliganism and rascally behaviour on nl

She's in nl prison and will be released February next year. So for now dangotesmummy IS still roaming around

Oops I guessed right on the other thread. Lol.
eku ojo meta o. how are you and all yours? believe you all are doing great.

EfemenaXY:

Madam. Been a while, how you doing? family and business. eku ojo meta o.
@ cococandy how you doing too and all yours? trust everyone is doing great.

taryour:


Madam. Been a while, how you doing? family and business. eku ojo meta o.

@ cococandy how you doing too and all yours? trust everyone is doing great.

We are awesome. thank you

Are children food?

taryour:



Oops I guessed right on the other thread. Lol.
eku ojo meta o. how are you and all yours? believe you all are doing great.

we're good thank God.

So how's Xmas preparation going down?

Wey my hampers?

Inside the hampers I want corn beef, Milo, saint Louis sugar,peak milk, chivita juice, cream salad,tomato paste, cornflakes then put money Inside. Any amount that comes from your heart

That's not all o.I want you to prepare sumptuous meal for me and wura the type that will make us bite our tongue. Get ready for us because we're coming December 25

This is the type of Xmas lunch we want. Infact make sure we're perceiving the aroma from the gate
then lace it with this type of meat /meat sauce
or this

taryour:


Madam. Been a while, how you doing? family and business. eku ojo meta o.

@ cococandy how you doing too and all yours? trust everyone is doing great.

Doing fine dear. You?

dangotesmummy:
we're good thank God.

So how's Xmas preparation going down?

Wey my hampers?

Inside the hampers I want corn beef, Milo, saint Louis sugar,peak milk, chivita juice, cream salad,tomato paste, cornflakes then put money Inside. Any amount that comes from your heart

That's not all o.I want you to prepare sumptuous meal for me and wura the type that will make us bite our tongue. Get ready for us because we're coming December 25

This is the type of Xmas lunch we want. Infact make sure we're perceiving the aroma from the gate
then lace it with this type of meat /meat sauce
or this