wer111:

I said its learn my lesson and I wanna change.... So even if he doesn't forgive me I'll not do same mistake ...and I've Bern's good person to him... I've trieda lot

Masikay:
My dear don't take it personal.. Everyone is fed up. We are fed up with Ncc trying to choke us. We are fed up with nl mods with their unnecessary bans and their fight against mmm. We are fed up with Kenyans and their wahala. We are fed up with Aunty Toke and her nonsense. We are fed up with our oga at the top hoarding money. Yu enter atm they will tell Yu no money inside bank.
Biko collect ur money and let him be on his way. What is his own sef?

wer111:

It's the money that has spoiled the relationship, his dad was sick In a Critical condition, that's why i helped him with the money....the dad end up dying....at times I regret bcoz of what's is happening

wer111:

I said its learn my lesson and I wanna change.... So even if he doesn't forgive me I'll not do same mistake ...and I've Bern's good person to him... I've trieda lot

truthsayer007:


Ehn you have learnt your lesson. Even as a guy, i can't borrow my GF money. I will only give her what i can. ones you are dating someone...To get your money back is wahala !

kaboninc:


I can borrow her. And it depends

truthsayer007:


Na you sabi o, my babe never gives me my money back. So i can't borrow her money. Just like the OP's story. Just leave it and let it go.

folasayolyn:
Biko collect your money, you sure it's not because of your money he's threatening you

kaboninc:


If na you nko?

folasayolyn:




Collect my money the dude can waka pass. of all the problems wey I get no fit add anoda man own join

kaboninc:


I am even fed up with you!

wer111:
Thank you

wer111:


The money is not all small amount ooo, but he says that we can "still be together " until he gives me back...

kaboninc:


Maybe he's running away from repaying you oh you're pushing him away, bringing up the loan in discussions with him. Or you're 'riding' him probably because of the loan for which it may appear that you have an upper hand against him.

I sha know that there's more to this ya story.

Anyway try discuss the terms of settlement of the loan. Money makes and mars a relationship

allobright17:
it depends on what you're complaining about,and what you're changing to,if he is doing bad things and you complain about it then he can go but if you're complaining over things you're not supposed to then try and stop it,if he love you I don't think he will just quit the relationship all because you're complaining.

On your money,if you can't bear it then ask for it if he give you good if he don't then let go off it.moving to the next level may better the previous anyway,all you need is time luck.
That money is much... So I can't let it go....we are together until he gives me back.... After then....only god knows

I wish you all the best in whatever you end up doing.

kaboninc:


Maybe he's running away from repaying you oh you're pushing him away, bringing up the loan in discussions with him. Or you're 'riding' him probably because of the loan for which it may appear that you have an upper hand against him.

I sha know that there's more to this ya story.

Anyway try discuss the terms of settlement of the loan. Money makes and mars a relationship

chigoizie7:
I can see that majority of the girls in this forum and this section is very very biased.

Let us call a spade a spade.


Truth, no one is perfect.

2ndly, u are always nagging him.


3rdly, most of us borrow money from different places(human,banks etc), however, we borrow from the place that suits us well.(thats why he borrowed from u).

He has been with u for yrs now.

He also agreed to pay( he said he will be with u till he pays up and den break up, he still wants to be with u because he has that sense of responsibility, he doesn't want to see it that he collected money from u and den decides to break up)
Let me tell u something, u took ur nagging self and attitude to a whole new level, why? because u lent him some money, which u have not been patient for whatever he used the money for to start yielding(u claimed to be his babe, as such u are meant to know him and what he used it for and also be patient)

For a guy to borrow money from u, invested into something means he doesn't have anywhere else to go. Trust me.





Op, thank God u accepted that u messed up and willing to change, it means that u have been very wrong and also bad to him.


Now, to all those people trying to justify op, or trying to urge her to move ahead, u are all correct, but I also think u all should tell her the truth that she fuccked up. Stop making her feel that what she did was in every aspect good or correct.


Most times when we make comments, we think it goes just to the OP? Or one person? NO, trust me, many people are in same shoes, and whatever u say here can influence their decisions in life.



How could u tell someone to just move one as no one else cares, even when the person knows that she messed up. Yes, she will move on, but telling her that in such a way that she is justified for whatever she did is very wrong

optimusmind:

Bullshit. Insist on it, tell people and dump his sorry ass. He is mad

omotogoodo:
So what do you want us to do oo
go and beg him to stop scamming you or urge him to continue drinking your free water?
Ruthu Abokoku

wer111:

I complain becoz im fustraited.... My guy had not made it yet.... So I'm always the one taking care of myself...he can't help me....and it's OK.... O have faith in him... He smart.... But it's just not easy after 3 years, but I did not want to us to break up....

wer111:

He said we are together until he pays me back

allobright17:
it depends on what you're complaining about,and what you're changing to,if he is doing bad things and you complain about it then he can go but if you're complaining over things you're not supposed to then try and stop it,if he love you I don't think he will just quit the relationship all because you're complaining.

On your money,if you can't bear it then ask for it if he give you good if he don't then let go off it.moving to the next level may better the previous anyway,all you need is time luck.

I wish you all the best in whatever you end up doing.

wer111:


I know I fuc.. ked up... And probably he will enjoy up breaking up when he gives me back.... It's just not easy... Bcoz I have always had is back... And he truly loved me... But now he is just no longer interested in me... So, I don't know.... I'm confused this morning ooooo

kaboninc:


Everybody nags.. You nag, he nags, I nag, Buhari nags and every living thing nags. We just have a degree of nagging!

Are you very much interested in the debt (probably your reason for staying in the relationship) or the relationship itself where you are committed to ensure it lasts?

Or maybe your guy is actually down and wants some time alone to think through life.. Or he wants to excuse you because he's found someone 'better' and has some cool cash he's made?

Just assuming ohhh

wer111:

I complain about the money...and silly things....mostly the money, but he knows I love him, this is the first time he is so serious....like he is not treating me like a girlfriend....but I'm not complaining I'm not nagging... He updates me about the money sha...

ednut1:
all these ladies giving guys money to be are nothing but fools. it always ends up same way