bigcp:


I guess u don't know why she lend him the money....
She said his dad was very ill...n was in d hospital..that was why he borrowed money frm her....And ge later ended of loosing him 2 d cold hands of death...yet she was busy b!tchin' arnlound abt d money she lended him...
Let's stop being biased at atimes n Call a spade a spade...if na d other way round nw...u girls go de say na d guy responsibility 2 tk care of her gf...so why can't she tk care if her man if she's got it....na wow 4 una ooo

Hold on, please don't disrespect me saying i was busy bitching OK? This situation as inconvenient me a lot so the only thing I could do is complain...i know is not the solution but I was fustraited, the dad died more than two years ago, so I didn't 'start bitching ' when the dad died... All that started this year.... Still supported him...sacrifice yourself for someone you love it's not easy.... But still I know if he has he will do the same. So he didn't expect not to have the money by now... Me too I didn't expect it, and that change a lot of plans in my life...

wer111:


Exactly, but the things unsay when I'm angry.... I don't mean them... By the end of the day I'll still help him, he knows... I bleeped up, I was impatient, if 3 years is been impatient, I know I hurt him with my words some times.. .and knowing is tired don't want me again, it exactly what you are saying

Mayb he is tired of the Sex

HIGHESTPOPORI:
Mayb he is tired of the Sex

I don't think so...

This sort of issue is one that requires your good sense of judgement. None of us know what sacrifice you made to lend him that money. A loan is a loan. It can be very frustrating when people who take loans don't pay back for any reason, and that's not because of the money itself but usually because people who offer loans have made plans for the cash before deciding to give it. We do not know if that money was meant for your school fees, or something very important to your future, so we can't say your reason for getting very frustrated was misplaced, and most people in this situation resort to nagging or even lose friendships. We should not forget the fact that some people are chronic debtors who have no idea how hard money is made and just have a natural tendency to not like to pay back what they owe especially if they have an entitlement mentality (Not saying this is the case in this situation but we cant rule it out either). Fighting or throwing vocal slurs on people is not civil and doesnt get you further, it only seems like you get further because you stir up something in them that make them want to get you off their back not cause they feel they sincerly owe you but cos they want to prove you are nuts and that they not as low as you claim. None of which would have happened if you just kept your money where it should have been-(with you) or had a back up plan to fill it up while its gone.

Now while I don't commend nagging as a way to resolve things cos it never works, I suggest the best way to get over the habit is to think deeply before doing things yourself in the future. Do not think too much of people or expect them to be perfect, especially if you are volatile. That way you don't get upset too often or enough to set you off on a verbal bang. As for the money, I suggest you start making plans to save and cover for the debt yourself, that money may never come back, but at least you have learnt to only sacrifice in the future what you can afford to lose (I'm not in anyway implying that you shouldn't make sacrifices), but when you make up your mind to give, have a backup plan for whatever you wanted that money for, just incase unforeseen circumstances lead to disappearance of the money that might be even beyond the debtor to abate.

As for getting back with your bf, it depends on what kind of guy he is. A loan is what it is - a loan. A man with honour would work hard to pay you the money and still stay, because if you made such a sacrifice 2 years ago to save his dad, you is a keeper. He wont be quick to forget that, unless of course he has an entitlement mentality, really sucks at redeeming debts, or is still with you cos he cant afford a better girl yet(doesnt mean you are worse, its based on what he thinks). Some people could be very nice but equally terrible when it comes to money. You should observe more about him as relates to debt, for example does he pay his rent when due? (that's if he lives in rented accomodation) or does he whine about the landlord when its time for him to pay. In this case, there is a difference between a man who has money to pay rent but thinks the Landlord ought to let him stay for free and a man who truly thinks the Landlord deserves to get paid but he only wishes he has more time to pay.

I hope you two work it out somehow as you claim to really love him, but you either have to accept his personality and learn how to deal with it proactively, than wait till the aftermath and nag about things he does you dont like. If you cant keep up with his personality and he cant keep up with yours,its only gonna cause more issues for you both in the future.

Cavenchy:
This sort of issue is one that requires your good sense of judgement. None of us know what sacrifice you made to lend him that money. A loan is a loan. It can be very frustrating when people who take loans don't pay back for any reason, and that's not because of the money itself but usually because people who offer loans have made plans for the cash before deciding to give it. We do not know if that money was meant for your school fees, or something very important to your future, so we can't say your reason for getting very frustrated was misplaced, and most people in this situation resort to nagging or even lose friendships. We should not forget the fact that some people are chronic debtors who have no idea how hard money is made and just have a natural tendency to not like to pay back what they owe especially if they have an entitlement mentality (Not saying this is the case in this situation but we cant rule it out either). Fighting or throwing vocal slurs on people is not civil and doesnt get you further, it only seems like you get further because you stir up something in them that make them want to get you off their back not cause they feel they sincerly owe you but cos they want to prove you are nuts and that they not as low as you claim. None of which would have happened if you just kept your money where it should have been-(with you) or had a back up plan to fill it up while its gone.

Now while I don't commend nagging as a way to resolve things cos it never works, I suggest the best way to get over the habit is to think deeply before doing things yourself in the future. Do not think too much of people or expect them to be perfect, especially if you are volatile. That way you don't get upset too often or enough to set you off on a verbal bang. As for the money, I suggest you start making plans to save and cover for the debt yourself, that money may never come back, but at least you have learnt to only sacrifice in the future what you can afford to lose (I'm not in anyway implying that you shouldn't make sacrifices), but when you make up your mind to give, have a backup plan for whatever you wanted that money for, just incase unforeseen circumstances lead to disappearance of the money that might be even beyond the debtor to abate.

As for getting back with your bf, it depends on what kind of guy he is. A loan is what it is - a loan. A man with honour would work hard to pay you the money and still stay, because if you made such a sacrifice 2 years ago to save his dad, you is a keeper. He wont be quick to forget that, unless of course he has an mentality, really sucks at redeeming debts, or is still with you cos he cant afford a better girl yet(doesnt mean you are worse, its based on what he thinks). Some people could be very nice but equally terrible when it comes to money. You should observe more about him as relates to debt, for example does he pay his rent when due? (that's if he lives in rented accomodation) or does he whine about the landlord when its time for him to pay. In this case, there is a difference between a man who has money to pay rent but thinks the Landlord ought to let him stay for free and a man who truly thinks the Landlord deserves to get paid but he only wishes he has more time to pay.

I hope you two work it out somehow as you claim to really love him, but you either have to accept his personality and learn how to deal with it proactively, than wait till the aftermath and nag about things he does you dont like. If you cant keep up with his personality and he cant keep up with yours,its only gonna cause more issues for you both in the future.

Thanks for understanding....he is a nice guy, he is patience and hard working.... His family is about to sell a land, once the land is sold and they share the money he will be able to give me back....they just started the process...he quit his old lifestyle when he asked me to be with him (player) . .. Like I just trust him! Am I crazy? He is mature and gives me this feeling of stability a woman likes... I can do anything I want and he will be waiting for me at home... He always trust me, of course I can't talk to other guys like that.... The money has really damage the relationship, that money he supposed to have give me back 2 years ago.... So wasn't easy, I could not travel to see my parents...and some other things...like business...i have not seen my parents for almost 4years. And my dad was also sick 2 years ago, but he survived, he still sick but he is at home. He always advise me, but at this point he is so serious that I'm wondering...this means that what I did doesn't mean anything to him... OK is fine, that means he is not for me,we spoke this morning he agreed on considering the relationship,am not begging anymore I have change, and I'm a nice girl too... So enough is enough, assuming I didn't give him anything it will be like her dad didn't survive becoz I didn't help him, or maybe there relationship will be OK...i don't know, I'm better though I'm not as sad as before becoz I know I did a mistake, but I also know I tried . Those sacrifices has been for 3 years... I have always have his back... And I'm pretty too so I don't know what is problem... Hahahaha thank you again for your understanding. He has been with girls in a better position than me... I have seen it, we were friends before lovers... he just tired of me, and my nagging and the money issue, according to him. but he also agreed to go to the movies this weekend so by god's grace the land will be sold, and maybe we can be friends at least

wer111:


Thanks for understanding....he is a nice guy, he is patience and hard working.... His family is about to sell a land, once the land is sold and they share the money he will be able to give me back....they just started the process...he quit his old lifestyle when he asked me to be with him (player) . .. Like I just trust him! Am I crazy? He is mature and gives me this feeling of stability a woman likes... I can do anything I want and he will be waiting for me at home... He always trust me, of course I can't talk to other guys like that.... The money has really damage the relationship, that money he supposed to have give me back 2 years ago.... So wasn't easy, I could not travel to see my parents...and some other things...like business...i have not seen my parents for almost 4years. And my dad was also sick 2 years ago, but he survived, he still sick but he is at home. He always advise me, but at this point he is so serious that I'm wondering...this means that what I did doesn't mean anything to him... OK is fine, that means he is not for me,we spoke this morning he agreed on considering the relationship,am not begging anymore I have change, and I'm a nice girl too... So enough is enough, assuming I didn't give him anything it will be like her dad didn't survive becoz I didn't help him, or maybe there relationship will be OK...i don't know, I'm better though I'm not as sad as before becoz I know I did a mistake, but I also know I tried . Those sacrifices has been for 3 years... I have always have his back... And I'm pretty too so I don't know what is problem... Hahahaha thank you again for your understanding. He has been with girls in a better position than me... I have seen it, we were friends before lovers... he just tired of me, and my nagging and the money issue, according to him. but he also agreed to go to the movies this weekend so by god's grace the land will be sold, and maybe we can be friends at least

I guess you've made up your mind.

Best wishes.

Cavenchy:


I guess you've made up your mind.

Best wishes.

Thanks...yes I think I'm ready for anything....

wer111:

Hahaha thank you so much, I'm a lucky girl though I have a lovely family I have ambition and future plans... Just that when you found someone good to be with...that doesn't cheat and gentle...seems hard to let go... I'll try my best in the process of he doesn't change his mind.. Then it's over, it's not the end of the world

Come make we date...

I don't cheat and I'm gentle

Princedapace:


Come make we date...

I don't cheat and I'm gentle

wer111:

I'm serious

No cheating...very gentle

Princedapace:


I'm serious

No cheating...very gentle

Instead of giving me advise of what can I do....

allobright17:

Welcome I'll keep in touch.

Hi Somethings has happened, I have seen him and spend time with him... We talk in a good way and we gist, but he doesn't come close to me... He agreed on hanging out this weekend too

wer111:


Instead of giving me advise of what can I do....

Baby...find love in me...

wer111:


Hold on, please don't disrespect me saying i was busy bitching OK? This situation as inconvenient me a lot so the only thing I could do is complain...i know is not the solution but I was fustraited, the dad died more than two years ago, so I didn't 'start bitching ' when the dad died... All that started this year.... Still supported him...sacrifice yourself for someone you love it's not easy.... But still I know if he has he will do the same. So he didn't expect not to have the money by now... Me too I didn't expect it, and that change a lot of plans in my life...

ok I'm sorry...maybe I got it twisted...
just tk it easy...i believe u r a gud girl...which is very hrd 2 come by these days...
keep being u...i promise you'll be amazed...
peace out luv...

Amelian:




U may feel, u guys have been through alot together but he may not feel the same way. U may believe u guys can't break up but he feels he can breakup with u at any given time. U feel. He's loyal, calm and committed.. By dear:newsflash all broke guys appear loyal and committed.. Wait and watch when he's financially comfortable, then u will see the real guy u are dating.
Let him. Give u your money first, then he can breakup afterwards.. Smhh.

He's using u as doormat, u don't know. You are even begging him untop your money.. Lol.

Chai..God

what is ur definition of been broke, becos she borrowd him money now makes him broke, even if am the one, i will dumb the sorry ass of someone like you, 3yrs for her to change her ways ,she didnt, and when the guy decided to move on, u classified him broke and calm.

Chidonc:


what is ur definition of been broke, becos she borrowd him money now makes him broke, even if am the one, i will dumb the sorry ass of someone like you, 3yrs for her to change her ways ,she didnt, and when the guy decided to move on, u classified him broke and calm.

I wont even wait for u to dump me sef. Guys like you will never have the pleasure of dating me or be my companion. Immediately u start asking me. For. Money Am dumping u straight up!
If u want to. Borrow. From her, it's your right abi? Money u won't pay back! But if she wants to. Borrow from u, u call her ashewo.. How convenient.

Ashewo my foot!

Amelian:




I wont even wait for u to dump me sef. Guys like you will never have the pleasure of dating me or be my companion. Immediately u start asking me. For. Money Am dumping u straight up!
If u want to. Borrow. From her, it's your right abi? Money u won't pay back! But if she wants to. Borrow from u, u call her ashewo.. How convenient.

Ashewo my foot!

thank God you know that guys like me will never have the pleasure of datings girls like you, when we ball, we ball big. If your boyfrnd puts you in the ashawo category, how is it our fault.

Chidonc:


thank God you know that guys like me will never have the pleasure of datings girls like you, when we ball, we ball big. If your boyfrnd puts you in the ashawo category, how is it our fault.

Well sorry to burst your bubble
My boo boo, honey for life, my sugar cupcake, does not have your low life thinking.
He sees me as his queen
We are both financially stable. We don't need to leech on each other.. We both have mutual respect for each other and spend on each other.
UnLike you , leeching on your gf.. Yuck! And seeing her as an ashewo when she asks for. Money
Go get a life bro and stop leeching.

wer111:
Hi everyone, my bf is breaking up with me, he is fed up of my complains and nagging, we have been together for 3 years and I love him so much, our love is strong I didn't see this coming, I borrowed him money, that's he has not been able to return yet, that's the topic of discussion, but I don't care anymore thus has make me change for good, I don't want to loose him, he is nice, patient and caring man, but now he has made up his mind and he says our relationship can't work, what can I do for him to give a chance?

You are very funny.... You borrowed him money he has not been able to pay back, that is the subject of discussion... And he said he is fed up... Instead of asking how to get your money back, you are asking how to get him back...

I don't see him paying that money.... He said you can be together till he pays you.... Is that a compensation? Don't t think that dude wanna pay u...

Separate your money from relationship.... Get your money.... I'd he is fed up.. Move on

Chidonc:


what is ur definition of been broke, becos she borrowd him money now makes him broke, even if am the one, i will dumb the sorry ass of someone like you, 3yrs for her to change her ways ,she didnt, and when the guy decided to move on, u classified him broke and calm.

3 years to change what? I started complaining about the money this year, something he needed to give me back 2byears ago.... If you have a girlfriend that you know you have inconvenient her for two years, and you end up dumping her, that means you are mean, and heartless, and when a guy ask for money to his girl.... Yes he is broke, sorry to say, it's not a problem I don't love you less, but the truth is the truth

danny34:





You are very funny.... You borrowed him money he has not been able to pay back, that is the subject of discussion... And he said he is fed up... Instead of asking how to get your money back, you are asking how to get him back...

I don't see him paying that money.... He said you can be together till he pays you.... Is that a compensation? Don't t think that dude wanna pay u...

Separate your money from relationship.... Get your money.... I'd he is fed up.. Move on

His family is selling a land, they are processing the papers and all, so she he gets his own share he will pay me back... I have been with him for 3 years and I know why he has not been able to pay... That's why i believe him

wer111:

3 years to change what? I started complaining about the money this year, something he needed to give me back 2byears ago.... If you have a girlfriend that you know you have inconvenient her for two years, and you end up dumping her, that means you are mean, and heartless, and when a guy ask for money to his girl.... Yes he is broke, sorry to say, it's not a problem I don't love you less, but the truth is the truth

you know that he is broke u still continued, all i see is just that you are capitalizin on is brokeness while he is capitalizin on ur finance.

bigcp:


ok I'm sorry...maybe I got it twisted...
just tk it easy...i believe u r a gud girl...which is very hrd 2 come by these days...
keep being u...i promise you'll be amazed...
peace out luv...

Thanks

Chidonc:

you know that he is broke u still continued, all i see is just that you are capitalizin on is brokeness while he is capitalizin on ur finance.

When did I capitalized on his brokenness? What are you saying I'm saying that the money I borrowed him makes us argue, I'm not saying that we argue bcoz he his not buying me a car.... I still continued what?? I think you didn't read the story well.... Me that I'm trying to save the Relationship, and you are saying I'm capitalizing with his brokenness, what does that even mean?

wer111:


When did I capitalized on his brokenness? What are you saying I'm saying that the money I borrowed him makes us argue, I'm not saying that we argue bcoz he his not buying me a car.... I still continued what?? I think you didn't read the story well.... Me that I'm trying to save the Relationship, and you are saying I'm capitalizing with his brokenness, what does that even mean?

sorry ma , i didnt read that part, but i read the part of nagging.

Chidonc:

sorry ma , i didnt read that part, but i read the part of nagging.

Well it's only a dumb person will give his opinion without getting himself informed.

wer111:

Well it's only a dumb person will give his opinion without getting himself informed.

like you.