sapien:
Lol.

Women aren't meant to suffer, but men are destined to work their asses off at work? Gen. 3:16, 17 - everyone has his/her role to play.

Most 21st century men want independent and working class women, who would assist financially in the home front, except for extremely rich men who can afford all their wives expenses a la - taking her shopping every weekend, buying her a car, going on vacation together, taking care of her siblings etc. Do the listing guarantee a happy marriage?

Moreover, married pregnant women are usually given maternity leave, so why should a woman who is due for delivery still be clamouring for work? Now you understand my point.

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

Olufemiolaolu:
Dont u av a certificate? Try & find sometin doing it add 2 ur value ok. Be a personality of value.

asunnu:


I have certificate Sir... will heed to your advice.. Please also appreciate if you can be of help with a job.

austinesteve:
Op I see ur hubby as a man who loves risk taking...talk to him about U going back to work for safety purposes, should anything happen to one of his investment I.e lotto, MMM etc. If U start working it will help as a backup for d family .

dabrightt:
Point of corection lotto ,mmm are nt business they are gambles

iPopAlomo:



Dangote...

babs50g:
@alexistaiwo . U are quite right . Once somebody is covetous to get out of lotto is not easy and the kind of lotto we play here is evil and diabolical which the owner will keep one making money thru out his entire life . Lotto becomes addiction immediately u win. The some cash. Lotto has benefited some and it has well ruin lives completely beyond repair . It depends how u play it . Playing all games thru d week is killing . 6 games , 5 games ; 4 games. Tell me why it won't affect someone if d person did nt chop. It will lift u up and it can as well bring u down. The best way to stop it is to have a favourite game he is to play at least once in a week or look for yearly key game that doesn't fail compare to playing all games thru d week , months and year , which we automatically reduce one' exposure and with time he can get out of it. Lotto money sweet die but has so may negative and positive . To thread with Caution is key

emeraldknytt:
Maybe I'll think of what to say but this moment, I believe a good husband shouldn't make his wife a full house asset unless certain criteria set in such as child(ren) upbringing. Opinions differ, mine is just a speck of dust at a sea shore.

saajus:
Try to understand your husband. You've not really listed anything illegal here.. Are these things causing him not to give you attention. Are you scared he might be doing something worst you don't know. Are you thinking he will graduate to something worst/illegal if care is not taken. Do you think he can anything for money.

is he from a poor background? Poverty is not good. If you've ever experienced it, you will be propelled to do anything legal and moral to be successful and save your future generations from the menace.

Keep communicating with him. Keep doing passion check on him to know if he's still taking his moral stand in the midst of his great passion to make money. Example of passion check. playfully test him with one illegal biz. Real intentions are display sometimes during play..If he sharpedly says 'mba, Olorun maje', he's still under control...If he falls for it like giving it a second thought, then you need to start taming his passion.