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Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Dec 02, 2016
[b] I cheat on my girlfriend and also cheat on who i cheated on her with, people will judge you, say awful things but i dont think that its bad angry So this may sound like rambling, but here's my thoughts.

So, a lot of people see cheating as bad and the worst thing you could do to your partner. But is it really? Why do we cheat? It is to get something our partners don't give us. Whether that be emotional intimacy, more sex, or just variety. Everybody has their reason, but they all boil down to getting something we can't get. Which is a form of love; it is loving yourself.

So, why is this bad? Some people say that it hurts your spouse's feelings and violates trust. However, so what? I mean, let's say I'm over 20 and was raised in a conservative household. My parents trust me that I won't have sex before marriage. Is it wrong to live my own life? What if I was gay and pursued a homosexual partner? That hurts them too. Does that mean I was wrong?

There's also the fact that said spouse won't have their feelings hurt if they never find out. Which means friends that think they're doing the right thing by snitching actually did more wrong than the cheater.

Some say if you want variety then just leave. Every cheater has their reason for not leaving, and that is also explained by love. It's the only reason not to. They still love their spouse, but they know the spouse won't understand that there was something missing. Sometimes it is for kids, or for selfish reasons like money.

Which brings me to my next point. Is monogamy selfish? Some people demand the adulterer leave the spouse for them. This arises from a societal idea that monogamy is the only way. What does this cause? This causes stress for the adulterer as s/he must choose. Whichever choice they choose, they will break either the lover or the spouse's heart. And if the spouse ever finds out there was a choice to be made in the first place, even if the cheater chose the spouse in the end, then the cheater will find himself single and more heart ache all around. Misery for everyone, and all due to a pursuit of monogamy.

So maybe open marriages and open relationships would make everybody happier. Especially since, when one is dating, if the person you want is attractive, they are seldom single for long. So your only hope is to pursue her while she is in a relationship, but not too much. The. Territorial beat your chest crap happens. Or be her friend, circling like a vulture for the relationship to end.

Some people say that open relationships aren't immoral, but if your spouse doesn't want one that you should respect that. But again, that is letting someone else rule your life and tell you what to do. Everybody says to be your own person. Suddenly that stops applying when you're in a relationship.

[size=20pt] The only real reason not to cheat and stuff is STDs and exposing your partner to it without their permission. This can be mitigated by being cautious in who you're cheating with, and wearing protection, though the later is almost no help against herpes.[/size]
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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 1:53pm On Dec 02, 2016
Cheating is not bad at all dear smiley
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Tinalex(f): 2:07pm On Dec 02, 2016
Op....why do you call it cheating? Its cos it involves two people who have a defined relationship of which they both share their physical,emotional,mental and so on feelings. When you go ahead to share that same thing with someone else,that's cheating. In essence, stay single I meant in no relationship then the word "CHEATING" will not arise but if you c'nt, then stop dumping your insecurities and psychological childishness on innocent individuals all cos you want to cheat. STAY AWAY FROM RELATIONSHIPS

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:13pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Cheating is not bad at all dear smiley
gbam kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss dont know why girls take it to heart, the demands of humans can never be fully satisfied.

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Dec 02, 2016
Tinalex:
Op....why do you call it cheating? Its cos it involves two people who have a defined relationship of which they both share their physical,emotional,mental and so on feelings. When you go ahead to share that same thing with someone else,that's cheating. In essence, stay single I meant in no relationship then the word "CHEATING" will not arise but if you c'nt, then stop dumping your insecurities and psychological childishness on innocent individuals all cos you want to cheat. STAY AWAY FROM RELATIONSHIPS
cool cool cool your tots are enlightening but my dear like i said you can cheat and still love your partner its possible, sharing my body with someone to me shouldnt matter, sharing my emotions that one isnt good, dont you notice that after he is caught, the main question is always , do you love him or her?
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Cheating is not bad at all dear smiley
i swear this ones got lots of boyfriends
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by photoshoot(m): 2:27pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Cheating is not bad at all dear smiley


Sigh...

You cannot just help it cheesy

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:28pm On Dec 02, 2016
sweetjude:
gbam kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss dont know why girls take it to heart, the demands of humans can never be fully satisfied.
You said it smiley
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
You said it smiley
you are naughty kiss kiss kiss , you go like bad thing cool

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Dec 02, 2016
I have only one boyfriend but I have some guy friends grin
Rayhandrinni:
i swear this ones got lots of boyfriends
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Dec 02, 2016
I'm telling you grin
photoshoot:



Sigh...

You cannot just help it cheesy
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:32pm On Dec 02, 2016
Who no like bad tin as well as good tin cheesy
The combo go make sense grin
sweetjude:
you are naughty kiss kiss kiss , you go like bad thing cool
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Laveda(f): 2:34pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Cheating is not bad at all dear smiley

Really babe? Then why do we feel bad when caught?

I take it you didn't mean that.

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:35pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Who no like bad tin as well as good tin cheesy
The combo go make sense grin
make sense like lemonade wink you are in the spirit



pouring more red wine into your cup cool


so tell me, doesn't your guy get jealous about your male friends?

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
I have only one boyfriend but I have some guy friends grin
that shag you izznit?

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 02, 2016
Laveda:


Really babe? Then why do we feel bad when caught?

I take it you didn't mean that.
no derailing
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by vchykp(m): 2:37pm On Dec 02, 2016
cheating is bad.. but very very bad when it comes to women..
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Dec 02, 2016
Rayhandrinni:
that shag you izznit?
I my my bf not my guy friends smiley
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Dec 02, 2016
vchykp:
cheating is bad.. but very very bad when it comes to women..
why?
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Dec 02, 2016
Laveda:


Really babe? Then why do we feel bad when caught?

I take it you didn't mean that.
oh hey , everyone hush now...cheat queen's spoken

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Laveda(f): 2:41pm On Dec 02, 2016
sweetjude:
no derailing

undecided
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Dec 02, 2016
[quote author=sweetjude post=51571507][/quote]What's the difference? I get that carrot is quite different from cucumber but Idont get y u cheat. Cheating is bad and should b frowned at.
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Dec 02, 2016
sweetjude:
make sense like lemonade wink you are in the spirit



pouring more red wine into your cup cool


so tell me, doesn't your guy get jealous about your male friends?
he does that's why I try my possible best to avoid talking about my guy friends to him and deleting all the chats that I've encountered with my guy friends on my phone in case he checks my phone grin
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:43pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
I my my bf not my guy friends smiley
lies everywhere
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Dec 02, 2016
Rayhandrinni:
lies everywhere
that's your problem smiley
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by photoshoot(m): 2:46pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
I'm telling you grin


Na prayer your matter need. angry

I would put you in prayer.
Say Amen

cheesy

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2016
Rayhandrinni:
i swear this ones got lots of boyfriends

Lots of fùck friends u mean..she ah baddie smiley

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2016
Nma27:
What's the difference? I get that carrot is quite different from cucumber but Idont get y u cheat. Cheating is bad and should b frowned at.
chaiii , i dont know what you mean by carrot or cucumber , i am not a vegetarian cheesy cheesy



Every cheater has their reason for cheating, and that can also explained with love, They still love their spouse, but they know the spouse won't understand that there was something missing, sometimes i just want to be with a fat girl sad even when i know that i prefer slim girls, is it wrong to put my happiness first?
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by vchykp(m): 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2016
sweetjude:
why?

which of the why's.. y cheating is bad..?
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:49pm On Dec 02, 2016
Laveda:


Really babe? Then why do we feel bad when caught?

I take it you didn't mean that.
Yes I do mean that babe kiss

If I cheat and get caught, I wouldnt feel bad one bit, not even the slightest.....but I would be very submissive, I would take all the insults and trash displayed upon me by my partner, I will totally understand that he's really hurt and respect his feelings and his next decision. wink smiley
Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Dec 02, 2016
ItsQuinn:
he does that's why I try my possible best to avoid talking about my guy friends to him and deleting all the chats that I've encountered with my guy friends on my phone in case he checks my phone grin
i am enjoying this talk kiss kiss kiss kiss you know whats up wink how are you doing?



with that sharp beautiful mind, your well being is essential b4 wonderful people like you become extinct sad

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Re: Discussion: Is Cheating Really So Bad? by Nobody: 2:51pm On Dec 02, 2016
Amen! grin

Please put me in your prayers oh! cheesy kiss
photoshoot:



Na prayer your matter need. angry

I would put you in prayer.
Say Amen

cheesy

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