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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Nobody: 7:39am On Dec 03, 2016
All these people,i mean,females that died, don't they have uncles or parents? Other than the woman who died in labour,your point fails to cover properly for the others.

Ppl like you,your thought process is weird, other than sex,you can't offer a guy with tools that will take him up,and mind you,sex is cheap these days. Pple like you feel the essence of a relationship is money from the guy and sex from you,the only way pple like you contributes to a relationship is by opening your legs,nothing more. Maybe, your bf is d type that begs for sex, cos he aint f.ucking you right, that's why you feel you're doing him loads of gud taking pains to f.uck him. Had it been he makes out time to help you lie on the bed helplessly, with juices pouring outta that pussyy,you'd see that you're indeed privileged to be f.ucking him,and this your skewed thinking about money and love would be gone forever,cos,even if he's broke you'd find another way to contribute to your relationship,cos,the sex sef indeed would be a privilege you gladly enjoy; Money is not the essence of a relationship,maybe,i typed maybe o marriage,but not a relationship.
Amelian:
You are absolutely right. No money, no love.
A man lost his wife during labour cause he had no money for blood transfusion. Before he rally round to borrow money, she died.
A guy lost his girlfriend, who had malaria and typhoid and also malnourished, and she died of typhoid, when there was no money for proper treatment.
A guy lost his girlfriend due to high bp, before he could rally round for. Money to take her to the hospital, she died on the way.
So many scenarios like that, when money is not involved.
So op, just move on and focus on your studies and making money by the side.
I repeat no human being loves poverty. Do yourself a favour and make it.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Ontop123(m): 7:42am On Dec 03, 2016
MA maaaan try as much as you can to forget and finish with first OK
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by titopius(m): 7:48am On Dec 03, 2016
Distant urself from her is obvious she is looking at the present in terms of monetary things. move on i believe you will see another person that will love you for whom u are.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by uniqueogo(f): 7:51am On Dec 03, 2016
guy maybe
just maybe this babe is just testing you to see if u can really stand in trials
just maybe o
with that her words "you two might find urself dating again"
just maybe.............
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Nobody: 7:51am On Dec 03, 2016
Sorry man
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Roseey0(f): 7:57am On Dec 03, 2016
Forget emotions and be logical for once.

She is your gf not your wife.

Go marry her if you don't want to lose her.
A girl's life and that of a guy can never be the same. She has resolved to tell herself the truth.
And don't even think it's because you started all over again...Na lie. Life after school isn't the way you all envisage it, she is thinking ahead. Let her be.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by olab007(m): 8:02am On Dec 03, 2016
sincerely, that lady is so mature to have call you and let you know her mind i believe she loves you but your relationship start to have problem the day you have problem that took you back like 3 years. come to think of it instead of calling you and pouring her mind she may just look for a misundertanding and take advantage of that keeping wht is the real issue within her.God will make way for you, face your life, be focused, its your down time be hopeful it will soon pass away is just a metter of time. face your studies and after that make money i assured you, you will marry the best of a lady as you so wish, bear at the back of your mind every body want good life which making good money can only bring about, everybody like to associate with success.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Nobody: 8:02am On Dec 03, 2016
I pity your parents wasting their money paying your fees...

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Yakzo(m): 8:18am On Dec 03, 2016
Bro, it's unfortunate to lose the one you love to another man. All sorts of imaginations would cross your mind but what is not meant to be, would surely not happen. Here are some tips:

1. Turn to your creator. Your creator tries you with affliction to give something better ie what you need and not what you want.

2. Forgive. This is hard to do.

3. Engage in exercise.

4. Remember many pass through this path but came out strong.

Finally, from personal experience, unwavering believe in the grand design of our Creator and the passage of time will heal you. You will find me one day to thank me!
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by davidif: 8:23am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by davidif: 8:25am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...


Wow!!! see masterpiece.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Coolboi05(m): 8:39am On Dec 03, 2016
Amelian:
You are absolutely right. No money, no love.
A man lost his wife during labour cause he had no money for blood transfusion. Before he rally round to borrow money, she died.
A guy lost his girlfriend, who had malaria and typhoid and also malnourished, and she died of typhoid, when there was no money for proper treatment.
A guy lost his girlfriend due to high bp, before he could rally round for. Money to take her to the hospital, she died on the way.
So many scenarios like that, when money is not involved.
So op, just move on and focus on your studies and making money by the side.
I repeat no human being loves poverty. Do yourself a favour and make it.
Did you just talk about GIRLFRIEND??
She must be an orphan to really depend on "boifriend"

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by buffalowings: 8:40am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...



Dafuq, this is like a time loop
This is the best write up I've seen on here shocked shocked cool


Let's take a moment to appreciate op for crediting the owner of the write up
I'm seeing some useless fellows on my fb page basking in the euphoria of likes on something that doesn't belong to them. grin angry angry

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by buffalowings: 8:41am On Dec 03, 2016
Most guys on here could relate to ujuhot's quote

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by ziggy1702(m): 8:43am On Dec 03, 2016
wow.... grin one of the funniest comment I have seen here, truely the anointing has broken the yoke. anyway guy just try and live your life pple come and leave ur life for different purpose it shouldn't be the end of d world. life goes on there are better girls out there if only u don't derail
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Tunababa8v(m): 8:50am On Dec 03, 2016
Op, I must commend you..
You got into trouble helping a friend out when he was sick, thumb up to you for being a man... It is what guys will do for one another.. A man will always be a man no matter what. They are ready to risk their happiness to help a friend, and that is what a real friend does.

Back to the matter of your bae leaving you,
My humble advice, cut all ties with her and move on..

F**k maturity, f**k what people say, stop being her friend..

The question you should ask yourself is 'what if she was the one that got sick and you decide to sit for her during her exams and you got into this kind of problem, would she still have stayed?
The answer my friend is written in the sky.. She would leave you the way she left you now... Women of this generation got no joy....

Gone are the days of our mothers, they are the faithful ones..

Once again forget about her and move on with your life, you got my respect and I believe the respect of most real men reading this..

And dont take her back when you start making it because I know she will come back one day just to have a quickie with you.. It is the women's way, they can't help it

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by openmine(m): 8:52am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:


To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by glossy6(f): 8:54am On Dec 03, 2016
john1964:

It was a malpractice ish, tried helping a sick friend out with a course but it didn't go out pretty well, had no choice but to go tk jamb and select a different course, though the school hasn't given their final judgment yet but I couldn't just continue and waste time/money paying school fees and tomorrow the judgement would be really bad . If they was really enough money I wanted to continue both courses so just incase the judgement is light at least I will have 2 degrees

Just how much money do you need to complete the 400L course? Anybody can make such mistake in life.

Meanwhile pick your broken bits together and move on, life is just the choices we make. I thought I would die when I didn't marry my school bf but today am celebrating 16 years Wedding Anniversary. Be brave and face life squarely.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by unuane1(m): 9:00am On Dec 03, 2016
For Christ sake man marriage or relationship shouldn't be your priorities now considering the fact that you're starting all over in school to me that should be your only priorities now is focus, concentration and thoughts of how to make it big even in school and in this present recession period. And if you so can do these things mentioned my brother not only girls but angles will run after you.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by abvictory: 9:10am On Dec 03, 2016
take it easy o, my advice, i lost a relationship recently even when we have started planning for wedding by this Dec but later shifted to Easter, but am just myself, never bothers myself much about it even though the mother specifically is not happy with the lady. I just looked at it like a normal thing, i still talk to her as if nothing happens. that's just life. you will surely still meet another but Love has always been based on circumstances known or unknown. Just live your life on, you shall stand to your feet again.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Rosebud90: 9:18am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...
Well spoken. ..u deserve a thousand hugs

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by killsmith(f): 9:25am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...


Exactly what's going on with me....mine's changing before my very eyes....this is truly the most difficult time of my life....

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by TolaniLuv: 9:40am On Dec 03, 2016
I'm going thru a similar situation!! But, ops if you want to get over this! Which really helped me a lot is listen to motivational talks on YouTube . and get closer to God. This 2 things helped me alot and I am getting better everyday ...

My GF of 6 years relationship met a guy on a trip and decide to give the a chance. I was shocked. She said she want something new cheesy

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Worksunlimited: 9:40am On Dec 03, 2016
Women are just funny beings...
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Worksunlimited: 9:42am On Dec 03, 2016
TolaniLuv:
I'm going thru a similar situation!! But, ops if you want to get over this! Which really helped me a lot is listen to motivational talks on YouTube . and get closer to God. This 2 things helped me alot and I am getting better everyday ...

My GF of 6 years relationship met a guy on a trip and decide to give the a chance. I was shocked. She said she want something new cheesy

The best way to get over this, is to get a new hot punna.. And take out ones pains on that punna.. Shag it till she screams out all the celestial names she knows... cheesy

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by wawale(m): 9:42am On Dec 03, 2016
If you don't mind i wud like to throw the question back to you. If the lady were to be ur sister wud up advise her to wait on such man?To help, even her staying for a day after the mishap that happened to you she deserve applause ( sorry, applausessssssssss).Know this,is not every1 u date u marry, pls let her go, she is not getting younger,if you lose her as a wife don't lose her as friend.
Who knows by the time u r 2ru with ur education ur parents might complain that she is too old & to save her from that let her go.
Pls let her go if that is what she wants.
May God bless u with ur better half. who know may be the better 1 is on the way & who knows she might come back.
Only God Knows. Love is seeking the happiness & goodness of ur partner.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by Tedassie(m): 9:48am On Dec 03, 2016
joycesims:
Go and hustle man! you'd definitely find love againundecided
him mates dey do MMM,Ultimate cycler dey hammer big time....him come NL dey jonz.



@dp
is that you nd ur office?
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by BuddhaPalm(m): 9:58am On Dec 03, 2016
A lot of masculine development comes from dealing with emotional pain.

This is an opportunity for you to grow.

This girl is letting you down nicely. Truss me, many of her kin will not be so generous...

Na instant brutality you for don receive.

Now, don't take her behavior to mean she's "special".

There are many ways to "kill a rat" and this is her preferred means.

A slow painful death, as from venom, against the brutal finality of the guillotine.

The end result is still that she yaff go.

Relationships are based on "status" (in all it's forms) - with the man being at the higher end.

And once something happens to your status, a giant comma will come in.

You lost your mojo in 2 ways:

- Feeling wretched.
- Dropping in class.

The first is far weightier btw.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by joycesims(f): 9:59am On Dec 03, 2016
Tedassie:

him mates dey do MMM,Ultimate cycler dey hammer big time....him come NL dey jonz.



@dp
is that you nd ur office?

na my back o!
Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by NevetsIbot(m): 10:01am On Dec 03, 2016
Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.


I've never been so absorbed in reading an article like I was while reading this. An A+ for the writer

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by TolaniLuv: 10:08am On Dec 03, 2016
Worksunlimited:


The best way to get over this, is to get a new hot punna.. And take out ones pains on that punna.. Shag it till she screams out all the celestial names she knows... cheesy

In my case! It didn't work. Ops pls don't try to think Shagin other gurl will work . It won't work at all! I did that..

Stay closed to God.. listen to a lot of motivation speech on YouTube. This will make you focus on your own life Goals and to stay on Track in life.

Love yourself first! Be Successful.

Life has taught me that ! Foolish men go after women . Wise men go after Success. Women go after successful men.

Ops. My own case bad pass your own and I got over it and it's recent too.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Marrying Someone Else by almarthins(m): 10:10am On Dec 03, 2016
john1964:
Hi guys I know nairaland ain't the perfect Place to come asking for advice but I have no one to confide to, am this kinda person that find it hard sharing personal issues with someone I know, When I read people write about their personal love life issues I find it very funny sha..lol..

Not knowing I'll one day face mine and be forced to share it. Been dating this girl for 3 years now am in the university, 400L while she's in her 300L presently, she's always cared and loved me undoubtedly since day 1, always had back in school both financially and others too and we've always had this plan for a future together, coz I strongly believe and know our love was real. The bond we had was just so strong, suddenly I had an issue with school which brought me back though.

Sadly Had to start all over from 100L it hurts me so much, though all the time have been going through this dilemma, she's always tried encouraging me and pushed me not to give up on my dream.

I was almost thinking so negative when I had this school ish, thought about killing myself thinking the world was over. But this lady stood by me and never gave up on me and convinced me that killing my self wouldn't help matters (I was really a mess then, like a HUGE mess) didn't go out much, had to stay in school a whole year preparing all over again for jamb nd all that, tho still attending lectures.

Now, when I had this issue that was were my dreams started shattering, our future wasn't looking all bright anymore because now am starting all over again, when I'll be in my 100L she'll be in her 300L and on and on like that..

It really broke my heart, at some point she believes in me and tries to convince me things would be better and I'll definitely scale through, But most times there's just this little doubts that comes in, You Ladies are prone to marry early (and she's very cute) which is actually a huge A+, men have always been coming asking for her hand in marriage and she has always declined them.. But she ain't getting any younger, and has to get married someday, sadly she told me yesterday she really do love me so much and has always had my back always and supported me always and which is so true that she has just decided to give me some lil break so I can try sorting my self out and balancing my life and she has decided to agree to one of her suitors(the guy is quite close to her family/ he's financially stable too tho the guy has a lil kid sha I guess his a single dad) coz she's always told me about ppl asking for her hand in marriage, though they ain't getting married now, but at least she wants to face him, instead of pushing away all her suitors and in the future wen she graduates and am Still in school, it might not be easy for me to be financially stable easily, tho she begged me that Pls hope I wouldn't paint her as a bad person coz she really tried for me.

I've just been really down since she told me this and it's really affecting me so much tho what she says is sadly the truth, Have just really built my life around her and she's just the only one I confined to in school when I have issues (coz am really this typa person who don't flows and share things easily with anyone, I kinda hv trust issues) don't really know how I'll cope when Am back to school, we leave close to each other in school, and she still really wants to be friends with me and wants to always support me too. Don't really know what to do right now I really do love her so much because she's an amazing person who has just been by my side through really hard times in school, it wont be easy starting Just as friends right now, I really do have a mild heart.

Wish I could rewind the hands of the clock and correct the mistake I made that made me start all over again.. It's just really sad cry

Pls if I made a mistake with my typing, don't attack me.. Just really down now



Move on...don't hate her at least she was honest enough to have told you the truth. Cherish her impactful contribution. So don't feel like you have lost something

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