Hello Nairalanders, pls I need ur advise on this.
There is this girl Favor (not real name) i really like, though she knows. I walked up to her last year & expressed my feelings for her... I was a lil surprised that she knew little things about me (we're from same town & school in same institution) during our convo. She told me i should go back & re-examined wat I had for her maybe it's love, infatuation or lust so dat i'm not mistaken one with another.
This particular girl before she could give me her nomba 'she do shakara small' she collected my whatsapp reg nomba, bt never give me her whatsapp nomba, rather she gave me her other nomba. & whenever I called (thats if she picked) to greet & tell her to 'HI' me on whatsapp then,she tells me I shouldn't worry, she will do that soon & dat she is seeing all my dps/status. She eventually do that anyways.
I didn't pick the first time this girl called me cos I was surprised (she hasn't return calls or txts before). I called her back & told her its me she called & to my surprise, she said she knows. Since dat day even if I flash/text her she returns the calls/msg immediately. She do invite me to their fellowship/vigils somtims.
On Tuesday, I left library to go meet her (we've agreed on dat tho), told her again dat question she asked me dat time, I've re-examined myself dat wat I hv for her isn't wat she think. We chatted, laughed, she asked som ques tho. & I let her knew the kinda qualities dat got her attracted to me. But since den she hasn't pick my calls again. Pls wat should I do? i'm planning to go see & ask her at their fellowship tomorrow.
'Na she i kno say i still like genuinely'

N.B. She's a churchy type, she's natural in the sense dat she don't wear make-up or using earrings, heavy attachments.. Etc bt she is still beautiful & brainy.

....as a Nairalander, any form of comments is allowed.

She is team S. U....... Just continue following her and doing what she ask u to do... I like her type.... But guy be always sincere to her because a little mistake will end your work
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Lalasticlala

gbestwilliams:
She is team S. U....... Just continue following her and doing what she ask u to do... I like her type.... But guy be always sincere to her because a little mistake will end your work
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Lalasticlala

Ok, thanks.

she is just playing you like playstation ...

if she still dey do shakara 4 u forget her and ask another girl out besides there are so many fish in d sea


but if u still want her to be ur gf try and make her a little bit jealous

Mimido2:
if she still dey do shakara 4 u forget her and ask another girl out besides there are so many fish in d sea


but if u still want her to be ur gf try and make her a little bit jealous

Not all girls feel jealous esp the hard hearted ones.... U can only keep pressuring them

She likes u but may not be ready to telorate your sexual advances now, may be cus of her faith. If you assure her of waiting till after marriage, l think she might be more confortable around you.

Mimido2:
if she still dey do shakara 4 u forget her and ask another girl out besides there are so many fish in d sea


but if u still want her to be ur gf try and make her a little bit jealous

I'll try hard to make u bit jealous


#YOLO

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Mimido2:
if she still dey do shakara 4 u forget her and ask another girl out besides there are so many fish in d sea


but if u still want her to be ur gf try and make her a little bit jealous

true talk

Up your game. Don't allow her to cow you... unless you're a pretender. Believe you me, it's not possible for a sane and genuine persons to romantically love one another without first having close familiarization with each other. What do you know about her attributes and vise versa. Don't forget that attitudes can be faked, so for now, you have infatuation for her (possibly because of her physical beauty and composure - of course I know that the eye must first eat and get satisfied - but it's just one of the component processes that breeds love not the end product itself) not love. But the good thing is that the infatuation can metamorphose to love, if both of you finds most of each other's attributes pleasing, after close familiarization. She has to let you into her life first.

More so, you're been superficial where you said that she's natural with references to her wardrobe collections and make-up dispositions. Don't you realized that some people appears humble not because they're innately self-effacing but rather because they have no choice - poverty is a bastard remember.

Mimido2:
if she still dey do shakara 4 u forget her and ask another girl out besides there are so many fish in d sea


but if u still want her to be ur gf try and make her a little bit jealous

Ok, thanks! I appreciate

Sunnymatey:
She likes u but may not be ready to telorate your sexual advances now, may be cus of her faith. If you assure her of waiting till after marriage, l think she might be more confortable around you.

This girl in particular hasn't said a YES OR NO.. Bt i know she likes me...

Diplomaticbeing:
Up your game. Don't allow her to cow you... unless you're a pretender. Believe you me, it's not possible for a sane and genuine persons to romantically love one another without first having close familiarization with each other. What do you know about her attributes and vise versa. Don't forget that attitudes can be faked, so for now, you have infatuation for her (possibly because of her physical beauty and composure - of course I know that the eye must first eat and get satisfied - but it's just one of the component processes that breeds love not the end product itself) not love. But the good thing is that the infatuation can metamorphose to love, if both of you finds most of each other's attributes pleasing, after close familiarization. She has to let you into her life first.

More so, you're been superficial where you said that she's natural with references to her wardrobe collections and make-up dispositions. Don't you realized that some people appears humble not because they're innately self-effacing but rather because they have no choice - poverty is a bastard remember.

Thanks sir!
Me Pretending? Not atall. I am not. I dislike saying I love a girl at first site cos i know love grows in friendship. she told me early last year what I think I had for her might be lust or infatuation & not love.but my type of being if I have a feeling for a girl, I dnt just approach her immediately & let her know wat i felt. I give myself time, if the feelings reduce i'll know its infatuation or lust and if not, i''ll know I really like her.
That I said she's natural is not a case of poverty as u think. She's just like that (churchy type). I know few things about her already & she too knows little about me I think cos last tuesday dat we met, she stylishly asked some questions & she told me some of my characters she observed. And i don't like her cos of dat (natural) but she just possessed the kind of qualities I admired in a lady.

2dice01:
she is just playing you like playstation ...

Lol... FIFA 16

MuyiRano:

On Tuesday, I left library to go meet her (we've agreed on dat tho), told her again dat question she asked me dat time, I've re-examined myself dat wat I hv for her isn't wat she think. We chatted, laughed, she asked som ques tho. & I let her knew the kinda qualities dat got her attracted to me. But since den she hasn't pick my calls again.

Bros, are you sure you did not say too much? Well, whatever you told her, it's obvious you killed her tingles for you.

CorGier:


Bros, are you sure you did not say too much? Well, whatever you told her, it's obvious you killed her tingles for you.

No, I didn't. Wat she asked was abt my surname, biblical name (imagine.. I was thinking in my mind wtf! Dis is a girl dat we're friend on fb, we do chat & she knows already cos d 3 names is my username.
And wat we really discussed most is all dose reigning online schemes of a thing. I was brief wt d main discussion. So y she has refused to pick calls again is wat I just dnt understand. I guess she's acting I think

Bro she might be playing you like pes 17 actually, ladies are complicated being, try not to imagine she is the only thing in the world, don't stalk or pressurize her. Don't look to please her always, let her be the one to call you first after a while,if she doesn't... Forget lady pride..that means she doesn't care...trust me man there are other girls you'll love better,she is just one. And if/when she eventually gives in...Do not Do anything to shift her faith,respect her decisions, shun premarital sex.
#experience

gbestwilliams:
She is team S. U....... Just continue following her and doing what she ask u to do... I like her type.... But guy be always sincere to her because a little mistake will end your work
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Lalasticlala

Don't be caught up with the fallacy of making hasty conclusions.

Irelokeh:
Bro she might be playing you like pes 17 actually, ladies are complicated being, try not to imagine she is the only thing in the world, don't stalk or pressurize her. Don't look to please her always, let her be the one to call you first after a while,if she doesn't... Forget lady pride..that means she doesn't care...trust me man there are other girls you'll love better,she is just one. And if/when she eventually gives in...Do not Do anything to shift her faith,respect her decisions, shun premarital sex.
#experience

Beautiful.

I like the statement "respect her decision, shun premarital sex"....... I concur.

Irelokeh:
Bro she might be playing you like pes 17 actually, ladies are complicated being, try not to imagine she is the only thing in the world, don't stalk or pressurize her. Don't look to please her always, let her be the one to call you first after a while,if she doesn't... Forget lady pride..that means she doesn't care...trust me man there are other girls you'll love better,she is just one. And if/when she eventually gives in...Do not Do anything to shift her faith,respect her decisions, shun premarital sex.
#experience

kudos bro, I've tried not to do all wat u said. I dnt pressurized her either. thanks for d points tho

MuyiRano:

No, I didn't. Wat she asked was abt my surname, biblical name (imagine.. I was thinking in my mind wtf! Dis is a girl dat we're friend on fb, we do chat & she knows already cos d 3 names is my username.
And wat we really discussed most is all dose reigning online schemes of a thing. I was brief wt d main discussion. So y she has refused to pick calls again is wat I just dnt understand. I guess she's acting I think

Ok.
Well Irelokeh made some good points.
Like he said; free her for a while, maybe she needs some space to clear her head. After all she also advised you to do the same so you could be sure of your feelings for her. In the meanwhile, try and distract yourself from her matter, don't initiate chats with her, no more calls or texts; If she's the reasonable type, she should see it fit to reestablish contact, i.e. if at all she still digs you.

If she eventually gives in/agrees to date you; Here is my advice, PRETEND to respect her beliefs (by letting her feel like she's in the relationship on her own terms), give her time, get her to invest emotionally before you try making getting her adapt to you. Let no one decieve you, your happiness should be the most important thing to you. So for the churchy/brainy types like this one, u would want to get her comfortable enough to trust you, then with time if you play your cards right, she will eventually let their guard down. They all do.

donogaga:



Don't be caught up with the fallacy of making hasty conclusions.

where is the conclusion

Lol, bro, that gal actually sounds like my female cousin, ive seen her do dat to lots of guys, i might be wrong though but if she is anything like my cousin, you in for an interesting long ride...lol..

CorGier:


Ok.
Well Irelokeh made some good points.
Like he said; free her for a while, maybe she needs some space to clear her head. After all she also advised you to do the same so you could be sure of your feelings for her. In the meanwhile, try and distract yourself from her matter, don't initiate chats with her, no more calls or texts; If she's the reasonable type, she should see it fit to reestablish contact, i.e. if at all she still digs you.

If she eventually gives in/agrees to date you; Here is my advice, PRETEND to respect her beliefs (by letting her feel like she's in the relationship on her own terms), give her time, get her to invest emotionally before you try making getting her adapt to you. Let no one decieve you, your happiness should be the most important thing to you. So for the churchy/brainy types like this one, u would want to get her comfortable enough to trust you, then with time if you play your cards right, she will eventually let their guard down. They all do.

Thanks boss! noted.