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Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 10:10pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
truthsayer007:Read it again that only applies if the person is under 21 years Old. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by rattlesnake(m): 10:14pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Just say u are pregnancy |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by folasayolyn(f): 10:14pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
truthsayer007: you do realise that what you quoted consent is needed for those below age 21 |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Austin234(m): 10:15pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
I beg to disagre with u. Church white wedding is not cost demanding, but we impose it on ourselves. After the white wedding which doesnt cost much, u may take on a low key reception or no reception at all friedcorn: |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Youngzedd(m): 10:15pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Branzy: Because when kasala go burst it can be 50 50 Women got no chill. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Nobody: 10:17pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
folasayolyn: Ok cool, Just re-read the whole thing again, Its confusing tho. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 10:27pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Raskasal:I think she wants to use lesser resources and still have a feel of the typical wedding, hence, her reason for including the reception. Considering the number of persons she said would be in attendance, a 5-hour reception would spell boredom as they would run out programmes, coupled with the fact that she would be asked to pay much for spending 5 hours at the venue. The programmes for a 3-hour reception would be the same for a 5-hour reception, just that there would be no need to wait over one hour just because the newly weds are changing into an owambe attire. They could get an MC, make a toast, cut their cake, dance, share souvenirs and collect gifts, then feed the guests and everyone is off to their respective homes. If the couple have it in my to travel, then they could the following morning after retiring to an hotel or someone tranquil. The most important thing is to enjoy her day. 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 10:28pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Austin234:The church wedding is not only demanding but useless and time consuming. Church wedding surely takes something out of your purse. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Nobody: 10:45pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
Sanchez01:I don't think it's the church wedding itself that takes 'something' out of the purse, time consuming _ yes, that should be 'cos of marital classes. People reserve the right to go home after being joined together in church, I have seen people do it. The reception is where the main money goes down, which wasn't imposed on the couple by the church. Most pastors don't even come there. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Toks2008(m): 11:55pm On Dec 11, 2016 |
UrennaNkoli: You are a reasonable lady...if many ladies are like you I believe we will have less overage single ladies. Kudos...at least you can do a bigger ceremony latter if you so desire. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ariesbull: 12:31am On Dec 12, 2016 |
TheMyth: Ogayou quoted Forbes We do not do that pre nup here...get it Why complicate this issue ......we are in Nigeria not Alabama |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Ochyglowsglows(f): 12:40am On Dec 12, 2016 |
Am just gonna highlight two things OP said: 1. My niece had her marriage registered in June this year, at a registry located at New Road, before Ajah bustop. In total, bride and groom, 7 people from grooms family, 5 people from bride's family, that's a total of 14 people. They signed d marriage cert, grooms sister and brides uncle signed as witnesses, in 15 mins we were done. Came downstairs, took photographs and right there in d compound, shared d food we brought with us. We did all this in d space of 45 mins and we left. 2. 150k is even far far too much to spend for 20 people. Lemme do a quick breakdown, Meatpie/chickenpie at 300 each for 20 people = 6000 Can malt at 150 each, cos of recession o = 3000 Bottle water at 50 naira each =1000 2 dozens of souvenir at 1200/dozen (optional) =2400 Fancy bag to pack the snacks = 1600 for 2 dozens or even less Photographs =10-15k,(thats if u want a small photo book) Miscellaneous =5000 U d b required to pay between 10 and 25k before d registry Total =59000 ~ 60k.(cud b less) If u r cutting cost, u don't need a reception, after u guys v been joined at d registry, just give each person who came with u one pack, and c'est fini. ALTERNATIVELY If u wanna serve rice, just replace d meat pie with rice and budget 1k per pack which d give 20k for 20 people, u d just have a total of 80k, which still leaves u with 70k as change. If my to be husband wants us to make noise, I go help am make noise well, and we go spend better money. If he wants us to have it low key. I go help am manage d cash well. And everyone Wud still b happy. Who church wedding with all d entourage epp sef . 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by echodrum(m): 1:36am On Dec 12, 2016 |
Sanchez01:How does court marriage Favour women the most? |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sike(m): 6:29am On Dec 12, 2016 |
Marriage for the recession |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by obidevine(m): 6:45am On Dec 12, 2016 |
byvan03: The witnesses must be your blood relation, one witness for the wife and one witness for the husband |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by nocosomia: 7:40am On Dec 12, 2016 |
Sanchez01:That's not necessarily true, a female friend who is in an abusive marriage wanted divorce but she was told at the registry that unless there's evidence of life-threatening injuries, court won't Grant her request. Now she ever regretting going for court marriage in the first place |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by josite: 8:22am On Dec 12, 2016 |
stupid ,poor men alone should go for court marriages.if u are wealthy,go for traditional wedding.trust me,im a lawyer. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 8:43am On Dec 12, 2016 |
nocosomia:You know, I wasn't looking at it from the aspect of abuse. Most Nigerian men are polygamous in nature. The statutory marriage is feared by most of these men who believe they could get another woman in the nearest future, particularly when they know they are getting married to a woman who understands the law. About your friend, well, I'm not a lawyer but I understand that abuse vary in marriage. Physical, verbal, emotional and psychological among a host of others. The court might have turned her down because she approached it looking all too 'good' and sharp. All she needs to do is to collect some evidences, alongside witnesses and she's good. Asking for a life-threatening injury is too much from the court. Perhaps she could try a customary court. The husband might be summoned to give his own side of the story. I'd want to believe she was turned down because her story doesn't add up. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 8:47am On Dec 12, 2016 |
josite:This is a bit sad. I wonder the kind of lawyer you are, really. The statutory wedding comes second to tradition. Money or not, it is in the place of a man to fulfill the obligations of tradition as required by a woman's family. Failure to do this would mean he 'stole' the woman and could be in trouble when the time comes. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 8:56am On Dec 12, 2016 |
PaperLace:Church wedding does take a whole lot and the funniest thing is that it is totally unnecessary. Most churches and couples are forced to redecorate the church to their theme colours while the church would make certain requirements cum requests that are also stressful. Buying gifts just o appreciate the pastor, pack the choir's food, as well as ministers, print church programmes, church photography, etc are just some of the little ways the church drains one's purse. Reception is where you entertain your guests and appreciate them. The church wedding is inconsequential just as the certificates issued, but most people don't see this as the trend and competition for church weddings increase with each passing day. Ideally, your traditional wedding first, then a registry to formalize the whole thing before the law, entertain your guests and go for your honeymoon if the money is there. You could choose to go for your Thanksgiving or church blessing afterwards. I keep telling people that there was no teaching of church wedding in the Scriptures but we act it out like our lives depend on it. And yes, most pastors don't attend receptions because they have been heavily settled immediately after the joining in church. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by omololu2020(m): 9:05am On Dec 12, 2016 |
miqos02:court wedding favours the women,it give them advantage expecialy if you want to divorce |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by TheMyth: 9:14am On Dec 12, 2016 |
ariesbull:if you are going to butt into an argument at least read the said argument |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by miqos02(m): 9:15am On Dec 12, 2016 |
do u go into a wedding with the intention to divorce in the future? thats why we need to think it through before we do it, dont also forget that u cant get a divorce through the church easily also omololu2020: |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by asmaua: 9:26am On Dec 12, 2016 |
please you do not need your parents just 2 adult witnesses I did my court wedding 3years ago ND before my parents got there I was done, I had 2 friends there a guy and a girl and they signed for me. that was all it didn't even take 15mins |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by asmaua: 9:28am On Dec 12, 2016 |
and it was in Ikoyi registry. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by omololu2020(m): 9:28am On Dec 12, 2016 |
miqos02:but you have nothing to lose in a church wedding like the court one |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by miqos02(m): 9:41am On Dec 12, 2016 |
omololu2020:but will the church agree to divorce any marriage easily |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Fidelismaria: 10:15am On Dec 12, 2016 |
God bless u jare @ op Court marriage is d way No nid for food sef D guests should be dere cos they re happy for u not for food |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by byvan03: 11:19am On Dec 12, 2016 |
obidevine: Another lie ,the witnesses can be any adult . 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 11:21am On Dec 12, 2016 |
omololu2020:yes you do. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by VajanahDischaj(f): 12:30pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
UrennaNkoli:so u wan marry? in this your APC regime. Hope your amaechi will be the father of the day, u wan use the small profit from MMM marry finally. it is well. |
Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by speedyconnect3: 1:09pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
gfullmoon:how many types of marriage do we have? |
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