Onegai:
I really, really think everyone does NOT want to discuss this topic anymore, Helovesme, Farydah, faithisallihave and any other mamas planning on commenting. Please feel free to take this as a very serious suggestion that this topic should be dropped on this thread, however I'm sure the PM function can help continue this discussion offthread. Thanks ladies.

Noted Captain.
I will delete my post as a mark of respect for your esteemed office.

MummyGwen:
Postpartum depression indeed... It's like u all don't read before making comments, I said this babe don't eat anything, I do my pap myself... As for staying away from work and watching her I have not been to work since on tuesday all for her, and as for taking a nanny, u think nanny that will stay with her in the house is better than where she will be in crèche, mind u I have changed her crèche twice in a period of three months, all for eating reasons, asking if she eat in the crèche, am not there but I always ask when I pick her if she eat and ofcourse they will say she finished the food but when I carry her she always look light... Mothers u all should give me solutions other than blabbing about been a good mom cos I know non of u re better mom than I am and besides I know beating a baby is not good and before u condemned me I already did in my previous post. So u read well before commenting and not commenting coz other moms re doing that... The time u will use to type all that stuffs I already know, tell me things I don't know like ways my baby might take atleast any food cos that's y I posted here... I can count how many days I have been to work since I resumed work... My manager have to call me yesterday to know what the problem is... U know what no need as I see that most mothers here re self glorifying peeps who do more than what I have done... U only know what someone is going thru when dey open their mouth. So u all closing ur mouth and commenting should just be careful. At shilloh a woman have to tell me that this ur baby is two people that will hold her to feed, to tell u how bad it is and all this self glorifying moms comment what they feel like commenting. and mind u been a ftm does not make me to beat her ooooo,, lol, am the first in my family and I took care of all my siblings so I have seen different picky eaters ok.

My baby behave exactly the same way but the surprising thing about it is that he is adding weight .he refuse eating anything even the breast milk is just for 2mins.I never took it as problem maybe because he is gaining weight.pls just be consistent in putting food in her mouth one of this days she will start accepting it.iwe gi adila oku ebe baby no ooo.

ambient:
Helovesme you really don't have the right to call anyone a bad mother because she spank her baby.I don't care which saner environment you are living but I think you shouldn't.do to your kid what you think is best for them but don't try and smother someone else with your opinion.

I tap my baby bottom today when he threw up all his medicine and yes he is six months old.

I was actually going to give you a very well deserved response then I remembered my "promise" to onegai.

helovesme:


I was actually going to give you a very well deserved response then I remembered my "promise" to onegai.

MMM has crashed, evelpryone is on edge, today is not the day to chop slap because of one Russian guy somewhere. Even me don vex. The people I was going to sing "Merry Xmas Begi Begi" are not picking my calls.

mitchyy:


Is it not a gross violation of privacy for nairalanders to save our baby photos we mamas innocently share here and use as meme on Nairaland?

Someone just did that to Hansel's photo and i'm totally bummed

Yes, it is. It's a good thing you noticed. I think he's been reported and banned though.

Onegai:


MMM has crashed, evelpryone is on edge, today is not the day to chop slap because of one Russian guy somewhere. Even me don vex. The people I was going to sing "Merry Xmas Begi Begi" are not picking my calls.

Ahh Mummy E MMM e yaff not crash ooo. They should pay me back my money before they start crashing abi freezing. Even the 30% I don't want again ooo. Me that aff prepare how I'll do Nwunye Oga with the money this Xmas. E aff nọ funny me at all at all

Prettyhurts:


Ahh Mummy E MMM e yaff not crash ooo. They should pay me back my money before they start crashing abi freezing. Even the 30% I don't want again ooo. Me that aff prepare how I'll do Nwunye Oga with the money this Xmas. E aff nọ funny me at all at all

As soon as they unfreeze the accounts, get your money out asap! All will be well but don't gamble unless you have the stomach for it next time

Infact, everyone should gather, let me share a story about how even the smartest of people can fall prey to bad ideas.

Onegai:


MMM has crashed, everyone is on edge, today is not the day to chop slap because of one Russian guy somewhere. Even me don vex.

Hehehehehe. True sha.

But people were seriously warned about the scheme na. It's not rocket science to figure out where the 30percent and referral bonus were coming from.

See eh, I lost 300k to SEFTEG in 2008 (someone pitched the idea to me) and I swore never ever again to partake in any shoddy "investment" scheme. Back then, sefteg and nospectro had "physical" offices and nospectro even diversified to oil and gas. This was the only reason why I was sold and subscribed to the scheme as I thought it was some sort of genuine investment scheme. Yet they went bust with people's funds. Since then, if the investment scheme is not regulated by the government/managed by reputable people, I jump and pass.

helovesme:


Madam.

Please speak for yourself. I have a 15 months old son and I have NEVER 'spank', 'tap' or 'knock' ed him.

Some of us actually live in countries where we are accountable for our actions and there are family courts that won't hesitate to take a child from the parents. A baby here doesn't belong to the parents technically. Bring harm to that child and the government steps in, takes the child away and the parents have no contact till the child is 18years.

U "knock" a child on the head and he faints and you rush him to A&E. A brain scan or CT scan is done and brain bleed is detected. Which mouth do you want to use to explain what you've done?

Can't believe that you actually think it's okay to abuse/assault a baby physically and cheering her on that "it's okay" and "other mums" do it.

madam u too do ooo. Ahn ahn. I wont trade words with you sha. #overandout

Please my baby has this whitish stuff in his mouth that looks like formula residue. Ive used cotton wool and water inbcleanung but its still there.

Please what can I do and does this have any implication

I had a fight with Himself about some money matters and it got pretty hurt. I just couldn't understand why he wouldn't just LISTEN to me! Bet you've all been in the same situation so my aunt shared a story with me about her hubby:

Please bear in mind, my uncle was VERY educated (Oxford, high-ranking job which made him travel everywhere around the world, addressing govts etc). So he was exposed. By the time I was born, he was retired and his kids grown. That was during the boom of Silicon Valley and Technology and he was very interested. Some guys found out about it and made a pitch to him about investing in Silicon Valley. They said they said, that the Silicon chips in computers were made from sand called Silica and they had it plentiful in stock from the East. That they had investors from Silicon Valley desperate to buy this sand. And my dad was invited to a business meeting at a fancy hotel. My mum complained and said it all sounded suspicious but my dad was like "I am smart and exposed, this cannot be a silly trick I fall for, you only studied English at a school of Tech!" Mama vexed so much, he carried her. Then got to the venue and insisted she stay in the car and "leave the big decision to the menfolk". (Insert eyeroll).
My uncle came back after the meeting with a black tin, my cousin was with him and he gave the can to him to carefully keep in darkness because the investors told him that to expose the content would spoil it. Trust my aunt, after 30 mins of eyeing both of them, she pried it own.

Sharp sand. That was all that was in it. Plain, common sharp sand. But it is Silica though

Now, my aunt knew that if she dared laugh, he would stop the car and throw her off 3rd Mainland bridge. So she kept trying to hold it in and peed herself a little from the merriment! My cousin said his mum was in tears that day and his dad just kept staring straight ahead

Onegai:


As soon as they unfreeze the accounts, get your money out asap! All will be well but don't gamble unless you have the stomach for it next time

Infact, everyone should gather, let me share a story about how even the smartest of people can fall prey to bad ideas.

My sister my sister ooo, this is my first time ooo. I never wanted to do it oo, twas my DH that persuaded me and I just opened it. My first attempt and they want to freeze. Mbanuu!!! lai lai, they should gimme my money

helovesme:


Hehehehehe. True sha.

But people were seriously warned about the scheme na. It's not rocket science to figure out where the 30percent and referral bonus were coming from.

See eh, I lost 300k to SEFTEG in 2008 (someone pitched the idea to me) and I swore never ever again to partake in any shoddy "investment" scheme. Back then, sefteg and nospectro had "physical" offices and nospectro even diversified to oil and gas. This was the only reason why I was sold and subscribed to the scheme as I thought it was some sort of genuine investment scheme. Yet they went bust with people's funds. Since then, if the investment scheme is not regulated by the government/managed by reputable people, I jump and pass.

Puhlease, my mama lost N3m to NOSPECTO. She needed to dye her hair after because she grew so many greys after. That's where I knew Clairol and Bigen dyes from.

I won't laugh at anyone in MMM, I kind of understand why it happened and I pray they can get out their money, not the interest.

helovesme:


I was actually going to give you a very well deserved response then I remembered my "promise" to onegai.

My dear that's your business....

Onegai sorry didn't see ur post because of all the bashing would modify.

Onegai, your uncle's own is still fair.

An uncle of mine (well educated and exposed) retired as a top shot from one of the top brewery companies in nigeria with an eye watering retirement package.

He began looking for viable businesses to invest in and that was how he bumped into these group of very "educated", smartly dressed young men who told him he would invest in shipping. That is, own a big ship and go into freight forwarding, import, export, etc. His grown up sons met these young men and alarm bells started ringing and they warned their dad but he didn't listen.

My uncle was taken to Marina where he physically inspected a ship. Few days later, he wired money into an account for the purchase of the ship. That was the last he heard from those men.

He went back to the spot at Marina where he viewed the ship and the ship was nowhere to be found.

Retirement package after 35 years meritous service and hardwork gone just like that.

Prettyhurts:


My sister my sister ooo, this is my first time ooo. I never wanted to do it oo, twas my DH that persuaded me and I just opened it. My first attempt and they want to freeze. Mbanuu!!! lai lai, they should gimme my money

Is it plenty money?

dexterush:
Mamas help me thank God oh,while I was busy complaining of the cost of caring for my kids,I didnt know God was arranging Sumone to samma them with Gift.
He is a God of plenty surprises

Enjoy mama...i tap into this blessing n surprises oo

Jina24:

Its okay please. Let the matter rest

an a

Maybe she knows d woman in real life and they get beef.kikikikiki

Moderators go soon show.maybe then she will drop it.
Na wa! Carry person matter like gala for traffic
Peoples!!!

rofemiguwa:
an a

Maybe she knows d woman in real life and they get beef.kikikikiki

Moderators go soon show.maybe then she will drop it.
Na wa! Carry person matter like gala for traffic
Peoples!!!

We have moved on o. Abeg adjust post. Nothing byt smiles here from everyone.

I pray for Dexterush's blessing for myself, we could do with schoolfees money, a home in our name, another car, some forex, a trip to the Maldives would be awfully nice, a bigger washing machine, Citizenship to Sweden, a nice library....

rofemiguwa:
an a

Maybe she knows d woman in real life and they get beef.kikikikiki

Moderators go soon show.maybe then she will drop it.
Na wa! Carry person matter like gala for traffic
Peoples!!!

No. I do not know her and I have absolutely no desire to do so. The fact is if I knew her in real life, I would have reported her.

I have no apologies for standing up vocally loud and clear against child abuse on an innocent 6 months old baby and I'm very happy that I did so.

Mods? Am I supposed to be quacking in my boots abi my louboutins? What will they do beside hiding my posts or banning me? You funny sha. You think I eat and breathe nairaland? This moniker is over 7 years old and I have less than 1,080 posts, so go figure.

So madam, waka pass and throw your shade elsewhere.

Onegai. No vex oh.

Onegai:


Puhlease, my mama lost N3m to NOSPECTO. She needed to dye her hair after because she grew so many greys after. That's where I knew Clairol and Bigen dyes from.

I won't laugh at anyone in MMM, I kind of understand why it happened and I pray they can get out their money, not the interest.

Chaiiiii. That was a decent amount of money back then.

Nospectro sent so many people to early graves. People would walk into banks to cancel their fixed deposits/investments just because they wanted to put their funds in nospectro.

I actually thought a lot of people knew about the nospectro,sefteg,etc scam of 2008/2009 and this info was passed on between family,friends,acquaintances, etc so I was actually very shocked to hear about so many people falling for this MMM barely 7 years later.

I hope people are refunded their money in January though.

mummygwen you remind me of my ordeal after we ended Ebf,but you know after a mth of trying several counter foods as my husband insisted I was down,mine was even worse cos he only sucks at nite.
I went to see his paed who after checking him to rule out infections looked at me and told me''your son is an ajekpako & you are so lucky you won't be spending much,go home and give him whatever you cooked from your plate".that nite my son ate bitterleaf soup &wheat,he was placed at the centre of the dinning table and he didn't stop until the food finished,without any singing,struggle or plea.
I still tried to buy a cereal sometime ago if you see how he squeezed his face,mtcheeew.
give her what you are eating and load her up on natural fruit juices it'd boost her appetite.goodluck

Helovesme , abeg just rise above.
No start o!!!!!

Modified: This came in too late, typed it since 2pm, obviously it didnt deliver ....she has started already

Mummygwen, you need to see a Dr.
Your typing shows that you are under a lot of pressure and feel the need to lash out.
The mothers chastising you do so out of care and concern or they would have just waka passed.
Cool down.

Onegai:

Is it plenty money?

In this Buhari regime is a big money, 200k

zaynie:
Helovesme , abeg just rise above.
No start o!!!!!

Twale mama

I haf heard ooooooooo

Happy birthday in arrears to baby soonest. May she continue to be a source of joy to the family.

Prettyhurts:


In this Buhari regime is a big money, 200k

Nne, you get mind o!
I pray they continue biz in January as they promised.
Abeg once you get help, no do again o.

bussy2rhymes:
Happy Sunday mamas,Pls what can i use for this, when it's started, I complained to the doctor when I took to hospital, nothing was prescribed. I have used baby tribotan and now bathing with sebamed soap but there isn't no improvement. pls help me look at it. He's 6wks old. Thanks

cc; soonest, helovesme, zaynie, Alphahandmaiden
And other sabi mamas

Try to use native chalk. Put in a small container, add a drop of antiseptic (dettol or ur preferred brand) and water apply all over affected areas before u know it's cleared. Sorry little baby...

Abiagirl777:
mummygwen you remind me of my ordeal after we ended Ebf,but you know after a mth of trying several counter foods as my husband insisted I was down,mine was even worse cos he only sucks at nite.
I went to see his paed who after checking him to rule out infections looked at me and told me''your son is an ajekpako & you are so lucky you won't be spending much,go home and give him whatever you cooked from your plate".that nite my son ate bitterleaf soup &wheat,he was placed at the centre of the dinning table and he didn't stop until the food finished,without any singing,struggle or plea.
I still tried to buy a cereal sometime ago if you see how he squeezed his face,mtcheeew.
give her what you are eating and load her up on natural fruit juices it'd boost her appetite.goodluck

My dear sister, u are very correct not all babies like dose cereals and whatever. For my little treasure we must eat from d same plate and everyone must eat d same food if not na trouble oooh..

Hehehehe... I came back from work did all I could and I saw all these comments, @helovesme, u re the worst mother on planet earth for u to condemn without knowing what someone is passing thru... I hope ur baby don't end up like u... Madam ITK, that's if she is not a vagabond at talking and judging people... By the way if I think what I was doing was good all the ITK them will I mention it or have anyone come here to say my baby eat too much and I don't spank her or he and I need a solution... Madam I live in a foreign country u can live in Kenya and call it foreign for all I care... Instead of judging u all made no sense at all... Like I said before instead of wasting time typing rubbish u can spend it in telling me ways u all can help... Tot this place will actually help as I have read about so many topics but all I see and read re senseless people, self glorified who passes judgemental attitude to their kids and the ones that do way more than what I did but hide behind close doors... No be una fault nA person when admit say e steal na be thief... And at he loves me if u think u re a better mother than me I dare u to pm ur address and we will meet and talk and see... Thank God for ur kids and how he make them do well and not make u go thru certain stuffs and not been uncultured illiterate over zealous stupid woman and mother... Since u re in my case and u decided to make my case ur first case as a jury I refuse to let this rest, stupid idiot

helovesme:


First of all, you need to STOP beating your baby. It is a very dangerous path to thread on in motherhood. She will still do many more things that will stress you out and annoy you as she grows older and evolves into a toddler/teenager. She will smash your phone on the floor (like my son did to my husband's phone), smash your laptop on the floor(like what my son did to my work laptop, scribble on your lovely white wall with crayons (my hallway needs a new coat of paint), etc. What are you going to do then? Strangle her to death?

Motherhood requires LOTS and LOTS of patience and anger management. If you think you are stressed, hand her over to someone else (e.g. Your husband) and go somewhere and cool off till you are in the right mood to deal with her.

Children thrive in an atmosphere of love. She can feel all the tension from you and all the negative vibes from you when it comes to meal time. So that's why you need to relax and completely change your strategy.

That said, most babies at 6 months do not eat 10 or 20 spoons of food. Most cases, 5 tea spoons at most and they are full. Don't forget that at that age, their stomach is still small and at that age, they still rely on milk (breast milk or formula or both). This is why weaning/transitioning a baby to solids is a gradual process. The fact that she's even taking a spoon or two means she's doing well for her age.

Before you feed her, you need to relax and be happy. Play with her. Sing. Compose all sort of songs for her. Laugh with her. Entertain her.

You also need to get her prepared for meal times. If you do not have a high chair, please go and buy one. You should also buy colourful plates and spoons for her. Sit her in the high chair and give her the empty plate and spoon to play with. She needs to know that's once she's sat in the high chair , then it's "yummy time" which means it's time for delicious food.

You can decide to do baby-led weaning (where you leave the food on the plate on the high chair table) and leave her to eat whatever she likes and make as much mess as possible or you feed her yourself.

Some meals are instant hit with babies. For example, ripe bananas. Get a really ripe banana, mash it really well and mix with water and formula till you have a paste and give her. While feeding her, move down to her level either by kneeling or sitting down and establish eye contact. Sing while feeding her, act like you are putting the food in your own and make interesting sounds like "yummy" "tasty". For every spoon she takes, make sure you sound very excited by screaming "yayyy", clapping and giving her a warm hug/kiss.

You must radiate positive vibes while feeding her. If after two or three spoons she's not interested, hug her, tell her she's a good girl for even eating at all and giver her toys to play with. Use the same technique at every meal time and see if she won't gradually increase the number of spoon she takes.

Never ever force her to eat or force food into her mouth while it's wide open just because she's crying. It can go disastrously wrong. It can lead to choking and even death.

You should also taste her food before you give her. Some baby foods (even the imported brands) are disgusting. If the food tastes like yuck, then there's every possibility that your daughter won't like it.

The same applies to formula. Different brands. Different tastes. Just the same way Peak milk tastes better than Cowbell milk. Look for brand she likes and stick to it. Some babies are just cut out to be high maintaineace. She might actually prefer a premium formula brand which will cost you more.

You need to be more experimental in the food you give her. Try all sorts till you find out what she likes. For example, puréed SWEET POTATOES is well loved by babies. It must be puréed to a fine paste with no bit and pieces. Add a dash of sunflower oil or a little butter and give it to her. Prepared Wheat is also another favourite with babies. It must be really really soft before you give it to her. Same with amala. Blend ewedu leaves with boiled deboned macreal fish, boil the mixture, allow it to cool down and give it to her with wheat/amala.

You said she drinks water a lot during meal time. Do you give her water often during the day and not wait till meal time? If not, then you should do so. If you leave her thirsty till meal time, then all she will be focused on is just drinking water to quench her taste.

You've also said she goes to a crèche. What's her feeding like there?

She's only six months old. Some babies do not start eating solids "seriously" till they are around 8-9 months old.

Mummygwen. Are you blind? Did you not read the epistle I typed just in a bid to help you ?