iomoge,

When I saw the post last night, me sef shock. Talmbout, you're insane, your head is not correct and all sorts cos the woman admitted to beating her 6 month old. I no wan wahala that was why I didn't reply last night. Plus I was tired and sleepy.

Like they say, if you have nothing good to say, don say anything. Me sef get choice words for the mama wey dey beat her pikin, but there are ways to tell her what she's doing is bad than the way she said it. Helovesme is not feeding the poster, neither is she her younger sis or maid. Have some respect dude! Criticize her but don't belittle her. Frustration can lead even the best mom to do bad things. Let her know what she did was bad without sounding like you're her lord and personal savior. Gosh.

And if we talk now, she'll say she lives in an advanced country kinikan kinikan. Me sef dey live for advanced country. Stop using Child Protective Services to scare people. Shebi you have to prove to CPS that someone is abusing her child, or you think you can just go there and tell them mama something is abusing her child and they will just go and arrest her? Oshisko. Abegi! Talmbout tracing IP and shit. Lmao. No be the same CPS?? they have enough wahala than to deploy FBI to search for one random woman on NL.

And I don't condone beating children in any way. MummyGwen please for God's sake, stop beating that child. It's not right and you should never let your anger and frustrations to make you do such things. I'm begging you. If she will take breastmilk. Give her that and keep coaxing her to eat little by little. With time she will adjust. Me sef that has been living her since, I no dey gree try new food, I'll rather stick with my Nigerian cuisine not to talk of a 6month old baby that's still exploring. Pele

There is no thought that babies are indeed bundle of joy, but sometimes we mothers/fathers face so many challenges raising our kids even if you are not a FTM because babies differ. My first son is a picky eater and I have been battling with it, he is 5 and i still feed him while the younger brother can eat and suck for Africa. We are to use this medium to learn, discuss, share our thoughts and experiences, advise and find solutions to issues concerning them. We all need to be mindful of the way we respond to one another and not stressing out on the weakness of another but rather correcting in a friendly manner.

No one is perfect.

@ zaynie, we ended up going to tvc yesterday, it was ok and very affordable. He really enjoyed himself and I was so glad, I will also try out the other ones you mentioned next week. Thanks soooooooo much.

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Haba ma'am helovesme...you went too far with your words.i have gone tru the posts.its very frustrating seeing your child not eating and always looking malnourish.please give that woman a BREAK.

lets correct with love and not with negative words.you practically pulled that woman down...to me that ain't cool.

at the Madame....please be easy on the baby,its only but a phase.the lord z your strength.

At the awon likers,you ppl should continue fuelling the e-fights.

I use to say my children don't eat but when I saw my sister inlaw feeding her 7months old baby I respected her and told her ,me I can't do This, they eat for two hours. NOT EATING HAS GRADE, I sell baby food I HAVE SEEN, you will cry for the mother.
In my case , I spank my children to eat, as I spank his buctucks he opens his mouth then I feed. We are in Nigeria, in this country we beat,it will not and can never kill the child. No greater love than the love of a Mother. No body loves my children more than me.
My first child is 3years old if you don't flog her at least one strike she will not eat.
WELL FOR MUMMYGWEN let your baby be hungry, when she wakes up don't breastfeed leave her till 9 or 10 am then feed it will be better, then use good MILK so that if she eats even if it's twice she will get enough nutrients. If you where in Ph I would have assisted you. Well done God is your strength.

iomoge2:
At my 6week pp appt.
Honestly when i got home, i told my mum i will bend her neck n feed her if she was my child.... fine its not advisable but u need to c d child.... like she was going to break....

May God help us mothers to do what is best 4 our children.... amen

While all these were going on I was appalled by the silence of others who were online at that time. I am a peeper on this thread this issue was my first time of commenting. I'm relieved now to see mamas speak up in defense of cyber bullying. I commend rofemigwa and some other mamas who spoke up at the beginning of this brouhaha. To those who sat on the fence"evil triumphs when good men do nothing about it"
@helovesme I had to go thru Ur posts on nairaland, pls don't take all of this personal. Ur actually a nice person. Just work on the attitude.

FINA4804:
I use to say my children don't eat but when I saw my sister inlaw feeding .
WELL FOR MUMMYGWEN let your baby be hungry, when she wakes up don't breastfeed leave her till 9 or 10 am then feed it will be better, then use good MILK so that if she eats even if it's twice she will get enough nutrients. If you where in Ph I would have assisted you. Well done God is your strength.

@MummyGwen pls can u try this let's see how it goes.maybe if lo gets hungry enough she might be more willing.
Pls don't be put off by all that happened here. This is a great place I've learnt so much let not this incident deter u from the great friendship that exists here. Hope to see (read) more of you.
All the best

Thanks @sugar

@Iomoge thumbs up for speaking out. Is good to call a spade a spade. I am a peeper had to come out of my hiding mode because I notice this is not the first time she has been doing this. This is a wonderful thread, I see the love that radiates here and I want the love to continue. Nobody should make others feel inadequate by their comments we are all here to learn. Remember no matter what you can never love any child more than the mother who carried her for 9 months.

MummGwen, don't let anyone make you feel bad, you are a wonderful mother, you love and mean well for your baby that's why you come here to seek for help. Try adult food she might like it.God bless

You people will never change.
Put women in a group and all you have is scratching, biting and fighting.


Move on already!!!!!!!!!!
MummyGwen has been chastised!
Helovesme has been chastised!
E don do o!

derommyvent:
@ zaynie, we ended up going to tvc yesterday, it was ok and very affordable. He really enjoyed himself and I was so glad, I will also try out the other ones you mentioned next week. Thanks soooooooo much.

Good to know.
Its just me and my fears with crowd.
I always feel like I'm going to lose my kids in the crowd......thanks to my wild imagination

Even when we go to the beach, i have to choose a spot with small family units rather than huge crowds or party peeps. And when people come too close, see me frown.....

mummygwen
helovesme
philoedx
iomoge2
mamaoo
crystalzoe
coldfeet
kidco
ahnie
elmoduddah
derommyvent
lutherap

Dominique and other Health section mods, please if any of those monikers address each other today, can you help us please ban all of them? They are causing disturbance and derailing the thread. This in Newborn thread, we are only supposed to be discussing matters pertaining to newborns, toddlers and babies and young children. Thank you.

zaynie:
You people will never change.
Put women in a group and all you have is scratching, biting and fighting.


Move on already!!!!!!!!!!
MummyGwen has been chastised!
Helovesme has been chastised!
E don do o!

Zaynie, Alphahandmaiden and other mums, please get in here. We are going to speak frankly today.

Onegai:


Zaynie, Alphahandmaiden and other mums, please get in here. We are going to speak frankly today.

Lets fix a time so everyone will know when to assemble..Incase some people miss this cos of one thing or the other.

Onegai:
mummygwen
helove.sme
philo.edx
iomoge2
ma.maoo
crystalz.oe
coldfe.et
ahn.ie
elmodud.dah
derom.myvent
luthe.rap

Dominique and other Health section mods, please if any of those monikers address each other today, can you help us please ban all of them? They are causing disturbance and derailing the thread. This in Newborn thread, we are only supposed to be discussing matters pertaining to newborns, toddlers and babies and young children. Thank you.

Shie we can address u instead?

soonest:

Nne, you get mind o! I pray they continue biz in January as they promised. Abeg once you get help, no do again o.

Am I mad to do again ni. Biko they should continue.

iomoge2:
Nwunye Oga got me lol.

LOL. How's Zoey?

Hello MummyGwen. This is my first time on this thread and when I read your post about tour daughter it spoke to me. I have two kids. My 1st refused to latch so I ended up not breastfeeding him. However, he took formula and started eating solids at 4 months. My 2nd however, is a DIVA. I did exclusive breastfeeding with her but when it was time to introduce solids, she refused them and started losing weight. I was frustrated too but I remember that I remembered that for my 1st, I started out with Hipps organic baby food and he loved the rice pudding and the creamy porridge. I tried that with my 2nd and voila, she started taking that. Of course she still doesn't eat as much as her brother did when he was her age but its better than nothing. Now at 10 plus months she eats foods like plantain, sweet potatoes, yam and eggs etc. Pls dont get discouraged, just keep trying. Also remember that she is just 6 months plus which is ghe starting out on solids age. By the time she is 9 months she should be better at taking solids. Just take it easy. You can try to supplement whatever she eats with breastfeeding. My little diva didn't take formula until she clocked 9 months. Maybe its cos they are breastfed, who knows? All babies are different. You van try Cow and Gate rice pudding or creamy porridge if you cant find Hipps but remember that you need to keep trying even if she refuses it at first. Wish you all the best!

This behaviour exhibited here, is why men can confidently say women are too emotional and cannot handle big decisions and power and that all women hate each other. This right here. So continue, a lot of us have daughters that some guy is going to play against each other and stroll away laughing. Rise above this!

dexterush:
Came here to weep,but it seems am in the wrong thread

Na d same weep we dy do. MMM do you too

Prettyhurts:


Na d same weep we dy do. MMM do you too

dexterush and prettyhurts, had you dashed me that money, won't you have been happier

I point out fact
and accept it
Acceptance of something does not mean u want it
it simply means it exist
In our reasoning.... once you accept something as it is you will e able to act
For example I accept you mockery of me in relations to the mention of my books promo
But that does not mean. I want it to be so... it means it is there because you put it there
Because it is your nature to see things in black and white
to assume thing as it apparently pop upsfrom your own secluded tastes
We are all different mum
We are all a manifestation in the form of things around us... I speak in a male perspective. .. because a man need to help a woman channel their fraustration elsewhere. .. not the Kids
Work need. To be OK enough to channel a mother fraustration elsewhere
Not the kids
Etc LOL
Sorry. For my bla bla
U are really rude
Haba
Love u-\

So the reasons you've listed makes PHYSICALLY ASSAULTING an innocent BABY justifiable?

Oga, it's best you focus on your book selling business and not make such posts as you come across as someone in support of child abuse. [/quote]

kidco:
I point out fact
and accept it
Acceptance of something does not mean u want it
it simply means it exist
In our reasoning.... once you accept something as it is you will e able to act
For example I accept you mockery of me in relations to the mention of my books promo
But that does not mean. I want it to be so... it means it is there because you put it there
Because it is your nature to see things in black and white
to assume thing as it apparently pop upsfrom your own secluded tastes
We are all different mum
We are all a manifestation in the form of things around us... I speak in a male perspective. .. because a man need to help a woman channel their fraustration elsewhere. .. not the Kids
Work need. To be OK enough to channel a mother fraustration elsewhere
Not the kids
Etc LOL
Sorry. For my bla bla
U are really rude
Haba
Love u-\

So the reasons you've listed makes PHYSICALLY ASSAULTING an innocent BABY justifiable?

Oga, it's best you focus on your book selling business and not make such posts as you come across as someone in support of child abuse.

cc dominique.

Bros, you no read? No more replies on anything to this topic here. Carry your greviance to her PM.

Ok...
Sorry

Onegai:


cc dominique.

Bros, you no read? No more replies on anything to this topic here. Carry your greviance to her PM.

I have great respect for every senior here, for every mother actually.

However, I have this to say and I apologise in advance to anyone who might take offence.

Onegai, in my opinion, you are exhibiting the same trait which most mothers on here have vehemently spoken against.

That is - speaking in a judgemental and condescending manner, sounding too controlling and exhibiting a rather subtle God-Complex.

The above is in reference to your comment about pregnancy thread and the conduct of women there...among others.

It is true that I didn't participate actively thru out my 9-month duration, but I followed the thread religiously. The energy and excitement there is worth commending.

Even now that I have dropped, I still go there to read from other moms.

Your accusing and pointing fingers at them (even if true, which I sincerely doubt) is uncalled for.

Show wisdom by keeping the pregnancy thread and the women who post there out of the brouhaha that has happened here.

Thank you.

Coldfeet:
In this quote I have addressed all of the above bring bring on the ban




ONEGAI YOU ARE MAD! Who made you grand master of newborn thread? I should ask you how it's done here first before commenting? When did you have your first child sef? Isokuso oshi!

Busy now will continue this later. Arrant nonsense.

Leave d class captain o.


Na when fight start i know say we get class captain
No body tell me during my welcoming. ...

But its funny that all of a sudden this tread becomes new born cos we say no to cyber bully.... but when onegais goons were discussing failed investment.... it was not new born tread.

Oshioski.

Make i go think of my newM.M.M downlines as na thier own pain me pass.

Onegai:
Good morning Parents.
I have to emphasise that word, Parents because we all seem to have forgotten that is what we are.
Now, a new moniker asked a question and an old moniker answered it, albeit harshly. But strangely, lots of new monikers are coming in here to start a fight.
I have a feeling you guys are from Pregnancy thread, because this is how they roll over there (piling in, dragging a matter, insults, taking things personally, accusations of "cliques" and "friendships" that exist only in their minds). I'm familiar with the general techniques used to fight over there. That is why even though I am expecting, I avoid that thread. Please go back there, we don't do such here. We have no time for drama. When you are drama-free, you are more than welcome to this thread. If you are upset by these words, biko feel free to mention my moniker a million times in insults: I DO NOT GIVE A SHITE AND WILL NOT ANSWER YOU.
iomoge2 and MamaOO and coldfeet, I am disappointed. You are part of us, this is not how we do things. If you were upset, a simple "Onegai, say something about how we reply people here" and I would have done so. I am not friends with anyone here, I don't have favourites, I don't even go around loving and pampering people in real life, so there is no question of favouritism. I asked that we drop this case because I could see it getting out of control. Not because I was playing "friends" or "favourites". I don't carry anyone's baby on my head because I have babies already to carry on my head.
Mummygwen, you have been given answers. If they do not please you, please take your enquiries elsewhere until you find the answer you like. No-one owes you more than that, unless you know you are buying them credit and paying for their time.
Helovesme, you could try for a little less intensity in replying people. It's not the first time. I'm grateful that you initially tried to move ahead and not keep replying but you need to keep doing that. If you feel strongly about someone else's choices, send them a pm and express it there. But on here, cool down.
Everyone, we are used to how Helovesme replies certain issues, are we not? If you do not like it, Nairaland has 1, 707, 902 members. That means you can give her plenty of space and ignore her. Rise above the petty need to start making personal character attacks. If it is paining you so badly you must comment, please this is NEWBORN THREAD. PM her and vent about how she talks till you are satisfied. But keep the fighting away from this thread.
Now, if you all wish to keep acting like typical "women", scratching and biting at random strangers, please feel free. But take it elsewhere. If you do not like what I have just said, please allow me to leave this thread for you all to keep fighting and scratching like cats. No-one is paying me for this.
And to newcomers, we do not go about exchanging hot words here. If you don't like something, mention me and say "pls can we address this?" Nothing more, no extra words. I am reasonably unbiased (please ask even those that send pms if they know my real name or if I go around pallying with them after) to speak on the matter. Do not come here and make comments like "I want to speak but I will be bullied" when you have never tried to make a comment and are trying to passive-aggressively stoke fire.
You are old enough to spread leg, take garri spray and born, you are not old enough to know how to comport yourself on an online forum. Well done!
Please let this be the last of such a disgraceful show.

Class captain, you have spoken well! That is why I was and will still remain a peeper on the pregnancy thread.

When it is time for activities that will keep this thread alive and informative you hardly see this much crowd.

Where can one get edible crayons to buy on the mainland please?

@onegai
Ur doing great but its easy to see where Ur loyalty lies
And that stuff u wrote abt pregnancy thread?
Not nice at all. Every mama here was once pregnant.

MizMyColi:
I have great respect for every senior here, for every mother actually.

However, I have this to say and I apologise in advance to anyone who might take offence.

Onegai, in my opinion, you are exhibiting the same trait which most mothers on here have vehemently spoken against.

That is - speaking in a judgemental and condescending manner, sounding too controlling and exhibiting a rather subtle God-Complex.

The above is in reference to your comment about pregnancy thread and the conduct of women there...among others.

It is true that I didn't participate actively thru out my 9-month duration, but I followed the thread religiously. The energy and excitement there is worth commending.

Even now that I have dropped, I still go there to read from other moms.

Your accusing and pointing fingers at them (even if true, which I sincerely doubt) is uncalled for.

Show wisdom by keeping the pregnancy thread and the women who post there out of the brouhaha that has happened here.

Thank you.

I was part of them, I voluntarily left there because of this sort of behaviour. I know some of their monikers and I saw some here so that is why I made that comment. Months have passed and this has not happened here. But a lot of monikers fighting helovesme now once fought her on Pregnancy thread (I remember that). They are nursing old greviances here. If everyone can maintain their lane, life would be great. If I sound Godlike, that is awesome. However, some months back, most of the mamas here insisted I was Class Captain (even though I nominated other people) and should maintain the peace here. So if you would like to enjoy the subtle God-complex of running an unpaid group, freely, out of your personal time, please submit your name. I'm sure the attention would do you good.

I am not in support of anyone, but we should keep our greviances and channel to the right sources. Again, nothings stops anyone from PMing her to scream at how she addresses people. Just don't make somewhere hostile and uncomfortable because you don't like one person. There are parents here who will avoid this place now because they are apprehensive of what is going on right now. The initial parties involved were chastised, that should have ended it, but instead it got so bad, comments got blocked.

Pretimum:


Class captain, you have spoken well! That is why I was and will still remain a peeper on the pregnancy thread.

When it is time for activities that will keep this thread alive and informative you hardly see this much crowd.

Where can one get edible crayons to buy on the mainland please?

You are doing exactly what you have been advised not to do.
Apportioning blames.