kkash:
So, someone cant be nice to a friend without y'all reading meaning to it....he z just been nice jare, shove ur entangled feeling down ur butt hole

fumisko:
I guess some men are confused about what they want. I have a friend like that. Treats you so nice then and all that. I got emotionally entangled too. But yet it seemed he was never attached with all those care. Apparently some men like this exist. I think if u ask him m, he won't b married...I feel it's emotionally confused men. Commitment phobic men who over care for a lady...make her emotionally attached n yet d don't get attached. How does that even work...how are some guys able to do it without being emotionally attached too?
I had to stop talking to him o...it hurt n he asked y. I told him I was getting emotionally entangled with him and don't need that
If he loves u then...he shld pursue...if not...let him be
Now am free and counting my wedding soon

fumisko:
So why would a guy waste so much effort in being nice?

Bluezy13:


You don't have what it takes to do that

VERDA:


Sis...really trying to understand what you wrote,can't a man just be nice and caring without it leading to a relationship?,when guys take your being nice to them to mean you want them to sleep with you,you complain,now a man is being nice for the sake of it without any ulterior motives and ur still complaining and terming it immaturity....Nawa o,well you made the right decision cutting off ties with him seeing as u were in pain with him but please dont go calling someone immature just cos he is being good to you without wanting anything in return.

mykel25:
I took my time to read all post to know what ladies often think.... I do this alot buh most time it started out of finding solace.... I ve termed Nigerian girls 'marriable n unmarriable' since I prefer my relationship at this stage to be a serious one.... I decided to start on a friendship zone where all ll be void of pretence.... and in this I ll get to know d unmarriable ones buh will still keep treating u nice because: I use u to comfort myself like m dealing with d real person I wanna marry till I find the betterhalf

fumisko:
Lol
Makes sense
Wld try not too
Some guys over do it Dts y
Call u morning Nyt etc
Wana hear ur problem and all
We women are emotional beings
So what do u expect of us at the end

fumisko:
So why would a guy waste so much effort in being nice?

Onuokwu:
UPDATE 21/12/16
We finally agreed on a plan and i will be off to Enugu, first flight on Friday, 23/12/16. Already in Lagos today against tomorrow. Looks like i will be staying in a hotel for first couple of nights in Enugu and then off to Anambra where he is from, for a more days. I love travelling and so I am game. Also an opportunity to attend my girls traditional wedding in Imo State on 27/12/16. Didn't plan to go before but learnt Orlu in Imo state is just a couple of hours away. I plan to get some really important questions out of the way almost immediately i arrive Enugu.....one way or the other i am determined to enjoy my first trip to Eastern Nigeria regardless of how those issues turn out. So near yet so far away!

fumisko:
I have a friend like that then I used to crush on. So nice. We do evrything together,hang out, talk for hours on phone etc...but d guy would never talk anything relationship related. If I don't hear from him for sometime I won't feel ok. My mind would race n all. N I couldn't tell him because I wasn't sure if he is just a friend or not

My only saving grace was he had told me he has never been a relationship but has had friends etc
N he isn't young trust me

And there I was thinking all his care was love
I guess that's just who he was
Was heartbroken
Had to discipline my mind Cus d worst is I couldn't stop talking to him since he was still my friend

So I ask u @poster before me
Y do u do it
R u or some guys of that nature scared of commitment?
Do u want to get all benefits of commitment ( of having a relationship) n yet not have it
I swear until I met that guy I never knew guys like that existed
I was heart broken even got depressed to know someone I loved wasn't in love with me then but was overly caring

fumisko:
I guess some men are confused about what they want. I have a friend like that. Treats you so nice then and all that. I got emotionally entangled too. But yet it seemed he was never attached with all those care. Apparently some men like this exist. I think if u ask him m, he won't b married...I feel it's emotionally confused men. Commitment phobic men who over care for a lady...make her emotionally attached n yet d don't get attached. How does that even work...how are some guys able to do it without being emotionally attached too?
I had to stop talking to him o...it hurt n he asked y. I told him I was getting emotionally entangled with him and don't need that
If he loves u then...he shld pursue...if not...let him be
Now am free and counting my wedding soon

Onuokwu:
UPDATE 21/12/16
We finally agreed on a plan and i will be off to Enugu, first flight on Friday, 23/12/16. Already in Lagos today against tomorrow. Looks like i will be staying in a hotel for first couple of nights in Enugu and then off to Anambra where he is from, for a more days. I love travelling and so I am game. Also an opportunity to attend my girls traditional wedding in Imo State on 27/12/16. Didn't plan to go before but learnt Orlu in Imo state is just a couple of hours away. I plan to get some really important questions out of the way almost immediately i arrive Enugu.....one way or the other i am determined to enjoy my first trip to Eastern Nigeria regardless of how those issues turn out. So near yet so far away!

dingbang:
Ladies should stop these nonsense.. See men arent gifted with mind reading okay, so if u like him, u tell him. Simple.. Jeez..