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She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide: 12:05pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit. She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life She is living with me presently The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns I told her am enduring the relationship And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested Something happened last month between us I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep She will check my messages with my friends especially girls There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording My phone she still have access to my chats and data I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it... So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had. Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married... Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her. How should I contact this lady and convince her Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time 17 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Amabeast: 12:16pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
I wonder how you have endured from 2011 till now, All the signs are there that she won't make a good wife. You must not marry her because she has a child for you, and you won't be the first to do that. My advice, just dump her ass already and move on, she is not worth keeping at all 347 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Baawaa(m): 12:23pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
If your post is real,you know yourself than anybody around you,so do the right thing at the right time,one way or the other you have lady that is nursings your child,haba!Moreover, you have been together for good 5 years,why now all these allegations?Mind you, 100 thousand Naira cannot solve your problems.calm down,do the needful 85 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Nobody: 12:27pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
If you've been together for 5years and you've noticed all her bad qualities...why would you want to go on and marry her? Forget about the 100k. That's not the most pressing issue right now. 78 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by delishpot: 12:34pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
The money part makes no sense to me. How many men would also freely allow a man to chat up their wives because the man wants to give her money? Most would monitor the so called conversation between their women and the philanthrophist man some would even tell her not to dare take such a gift because they would believe the man has some interests in their wife. My only problem is that she is not wise. And a woman who lacks wisdom would destroy anyone close to her by her foolish reaction to situations and circumstances Same way a foolish man would destroy his home too. You raise her suspicion by chatting offten with ladies you claim are better than her yet you went ahead to cut her off from her male friends. Don't you know women are also jealous of their men chatting with random women too? It seems the other woman has eyes on you too. Your woman prolly read between the lines in your messages.All in all, you guys do not love each other you are managing her, she is desperately trying to keep your focus on only her. Make Una break up make we rest o. 332 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by barapistis(m): 12:36pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
op sounds like a 19 yr old 143 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Nobody: 12:37pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
5years. my advice is that you exchange her for 1 satchet water. its obvious your marriage won't work out fine. PLS,DO THE NEEDFUL 26 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Nobody: 12:38pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Cus you've stayed with her for Five years and had a kid with her does not mean you should risk spending your entire life with her. She made you lose 100k, who knows, she could make you lose 100million the next time and you'll remain at the spot that you are. Some women brings blessings while some brings hardship and surffering. Use your tongue to count your teeth bro, run. 50 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by loadedvibes: 12:45pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
You have only told us her demerits there must be some merits or if not you for done leave her since ... abi she jazz you ? 46 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide: 12:47pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
How would I convince the other lady It seems she felt in love with me too But u never disclosed my past to her Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady? Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide: 12:49pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
post=52098225:Her merits? Well she is a teacher and she knows how to teach and she can properly take care of her child That is the only merit I can say about her 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Nobody: 12:51pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
If You think she ain't good enough for you, dump her. it's not rocket science. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by loadedvibes: 12:51pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
The sex must be good. If not this is not good enough saweide: 10 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Nobody: 1:03pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Suffering and smiling relationship.. You av to call it quite, you ve been tolerating this babe for over 5yrs now, there is no sign that she will change and you still have intentions of marrying her too. Segun if you don't want to be happily married, you can go ahead with the wedding next year, bt if you want to be happily married pls let go. 3 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by LorDBolton(m): 1:15pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Do you live beside a canal/lagoon? Do you have money to buy paracetamol? Can you handle being a single dad? 3 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by eezeribe(m): 1:40pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
saweide: Break up with your wife to be... She can aswell leave with the love child 2 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide: 1:51pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Thanks to you all for ur candid and matured advice Am still expecting to get more before I conclude |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by missnazzy(f): 2:04pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
op, do u think that lady is mother Christmas? she only wanted to invest in you because she felt you guys have a future together. you want to take her money while you are with another woman. that's unfair. I'm glad she found out and ran for her dear life. Having a baby together does not mean you must marry her. if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. simple! 43 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by victovrry(m): 2:14pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Well... I know you have some other reasons for staying together for good five years aside she has a child for you, you have been thinking of all these alone and when she did something you like, you change your mind, some women are like that....I want to advise you sir, please go for marriage cancelling, this is what always happen when you have not properly done the necessary things in marriage I mean normal process. Mind you most of her family relatives may not have known she's with a man, but if the marriage has been done, I believe she may not want the home to break. The future of that child is in your hands...call her and talk to her sense, let her trust you, open up to her of any conversation... Women are the same, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You build a woman to your taste in marriage. Do you buy things for her ? Do you take her out ? Have you ever introduced her to a female friend ? Give her free hand to read your messages. In conclusion, with her, there is no room for extramarital affairs. 58 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by jchioma: 2:36pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
saweide: What more advice do u need? wizzyrich: Amabeast: delishpot: 1 Like |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by mikool007(m): 2:40pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
the best thing for you to do is to stay away frm her nd by stay i mean she should park away frm ur haus before ur stuck with her 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Kiddogarcia(m): 2:46pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
I swear this op is an arsenal fan.for you to have coped for five years you deserve an award.bt forget the money issue all u need now is to decide what you gonna do with the woman 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by NemzySeries(m): 4:14pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Point of correction: Cohabiting mate & not Wife.......allowing a woman U're not legally married to stay in ur hauz wuz d beginning of ur problem even if she had twins 4 u, lemme ask u, do u fink u can cope wit all dis 4 d rest of ur life? itz best u wake up or else u'll slip into d problem 4 life.....oga send her out, take responsibility for ur daughter & den start a new life & make sure u take hold of ursef 7 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by ivanoj(m): 4:17pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Simply as ABC. Is not too late now with one issue. Pls, do nt compromise ur happiness for anything. We all make mistakes and always better when we realised on time. No right or wrong decision but timely decisions makes one a better achiever. Word enough for d wise. 2 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by famo19: 4:32pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
This is pure nonsense I swear which kind girl be your wife no brain nothing at all just fool of jealousy pls run for your life with your child or tell her to give u space and change all the keys to your apartment pls brother cos u will die soon if u don run it has happen to me too just telling u my own run pls 3 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by chynie: 4:35pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
guy i pity u but your english just made my day. 3 Likes |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by benueguy(m): 4:48pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Sibeal:Choi... 100k for this recession? Back to topic... Oga op, there's no future for the two of you. Run for your life 1 Like |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by schumastic(m): 4:49pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
THIS OP IS CONFUSE, AM I THE ONLY PERSON HAVING THE FEELINGS.. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO YOUR BABY MAMA BUT YOU CALL HER YOUR WIFE, YOU ARE NOT HAVING ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE LADY THAT WANT TO OFFER HELP TO YOU BUT YOU KEPT YOUR PAST AWAY FROM HER, YOUR BABY MAMA OR WIFE LIKE YOU CALL HER TOLD YOUR HELPER YOU BOTH ARE MARRIED AND YOU ARE ANGRY, NOW YOU FOUND OUT YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE NEW LADY AND WANTS TO CALL IT QUIT. OP YOU ARE CONFUSE, GO AND VISIT A THERAPIST 97 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by queenitee(f): 4:55pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Its obvious you should end the relationship |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by vchykp(m): 4:59pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
This is exactly what happend to me, SIR.. before you can be successful or have peace, she must leave your life, you must not marry her becos she has a child for you, am living a better life now because i took the hard decision to walk away.. A word they say, is enough for the wise..! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Criticize001(m): 5:09pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Bro, the only advise I can give out now is that you should run far away from her! She's a very bad wife material. She don't want you to succeed but she'll want to enjoy. Once you can't take care of her again, she'll leave you, then you'll have to think appropriately 1 Like |
Re: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by Csami(m): 5:46pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
Why is she still with you? What does she compensate you with after her unruly behaviour? My guess is that she drives you crazy on bed with wild sex. She does those crazy monkey ninja spin moves with her ass while riding you to wonderland. She also deep throat you and tosses your salad. Why else would a thoughtful man keep a nagging woman that is lazy, disrespectful and counterproductive except she has a pretty face and mad sex skills. IMHO, dump that biatch! 15 Likes 1 Share |
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