I will make this short and brief. Am dating this very beutiful lady but we decided to keep it to our selves until we are sure of what we really have is genuine and also because we are family friends, and we know our family members might not approve of it. So few weeks back, i needed money for something urgent about 10k, and she offered to lend me part of it, about 4k actually, i didnt wnt to collect it actually because i avoid collecting money from people especially ladies, but i did because i saw how much she intended to assist me. I told a friend about her gesture and how happy i was to have a lady willing to assist me in any little way she can when the matter arises. Now lets Fast forward to today, she deleted alll her messages from my phone, when i pressured her on why she did that, she eventually opened up and told me that a female friend of hers told her that another female friend (mind you i dont any of the two ladies) told her that i have been going around telling people that she is forcing herself on me and i am only using her as a maga for when i need money, that she even gave me 4k last time and that i will soon travel and abadon her. Meehhnnnn, you cant imagine my shock, i know she believed it because of 2 facts mentioned, the one of the actual amount she gave me and the fact that i am actually preparing to travel. I have denied it and apologised about the situation, but i feel that is not enough, because i dont how far this rumour has spread already. I love this girl, and i will never say anything like that about her. The painful part is that is it 4k that will make me tag her as a maga? I mean i make enough money in my job, and i have spent more than that on us. Right now, i am confused on how to address this issue. What should i do please?

Tell her she means a lot to u

I can't advice you on what to do bro. just handle the matter with maturity and don't involve other people in your private issues.

Send her a text pouring out your goddamn soul to her... Then face your goddamn business until she calls or texts back... You and that girl have a problem of telling your friends everything that happens in your fvcking private relationship... I hate that shiit mehn!

Here is how the shiit happened: She told her friend that she helped you, and the friend probably didn't like it and thought you are the kiss and tell asshole nigga (which you fvcking are). Then the friend cooked that shiit up... She is at fault for letting out the fact that she lent you some fvcking shiit... But you also betrayed her by telling your friend about the shiit she lent you. You may also really have some assholes as friends.

This is why I don't keep male friends.

After she gave you the 4k, you said you told a friend, ask that your friend how she got to know.

u sef get open mouth. in jenifa's voice. Must u tell every dicck n harry ur babe gave 4k abi u b kiss n tell guy?

♣ • → that's what u get when u roll with snitch ass niggas ™ °°

Return the money and tell her to reevaluate the relationship with her mind's eye.

Ask her if you have given her any reason to believe such stories and if you act like she's forcing herself on you.

Don't go around begging, you'll loose your self worth and sometimes it makes one look guilty.

For her to quickly doubt your love for her means that she never really trusted the foundation of the relationship.

Let her know you're willing to continue with the relationship but first, she should determine if it's all about you and her or she and "them".

It's her that can deal with this problem, as there's nothing you'd say to convince her that you have got no ulterior motives.

Firsly,at all cost return her 4k.

ikp120:
Send her a text pouring out your goddamn soul to her... Then face your goddamn business until she calls or texts back... You and that girl have a problem of telling your friends everything that happens in your fvcking private relationship... I hate that shiit mehn!

Here is how the shiit happened: She told her friend that she helped you, and the friend probably didn't like it and thought you are the kiss and tell asshole nigga (which you fvcking are). Then the friend cooked that shiit up... She is at fault for letting out the fact that she lent you some fvcking shiit... But you also betrayed her by telling your friend about the shiit she lent you. You may also really have some assholes as friends.

This is why I don't keep male friends.

on the contrary, am at loggerhead with a lot of my pals for being too secretive, the only reason i mentioned it is becos we were talking GFs that are very supportive and the ones that all they knw is to collect. He gave him some instances of how his babe has been helpful to him, and i gave him one instance. U knw now, guys talk

This same thing happened to me. Texting and calling will not solve it. Try meet up with her and pour out your heart. If she's the understanding type. You two are good

Yes, i take full responsibility of running my mouth,i wud never hv mentioned if the matter didnt arise, to me, i tot i was showing off how supportive my woman is even when she doesnt hv so much

Aywire:


on the contrary, am at loggerhead with a lot of my pals for being too secretive, the only reason i mentioned it is becos we were talking GFs that are very supportive and the ones that all they knw is to collect. He gave him some instances of how his babe has been helpful to him, and i gave him one instance. U knw now, guys talk

Then those guys took it up from there and from Peter to John to Andrew, then to Mary... Bro it is your fault... That is called "kiss and tell"

Hehehe...






Abeg muna help this dude na before the dude begin cry!
Which kind lashing be this for up

Bluezy13:
Hehehe...







Abeg muna help this dude na before the dude begin cry!

Which kind lashing be this for up

loool abi now, biko who get hanky before i cry. I know its my fault tho. No doubt....

Aywire:


loool abi now, biko who get hanky before i cry. I know its my fault tho. No doubt....

That's what u get when u have dysentery of the mouth.

it's time to be a man bro. take the bull by the horn. kill off the issue once and for all. love will prevail

But wait oh, apart from the fact that i shouldnt have mentioned how she helped my life which i hv learnt, wat rili is my crime here? I asked fr wat to do to mk it up to her nd arrange the situation not crucifiction...

Ahmadgani:
it's time to be a man bro. take the bull by the horn. kill off the once and for all. love will prevail

i dont understand this. Explain pls

pennytrate:
♣ • → that's what u get when u roll with snitch ass niggas ™ °°

i don learn oh, snitch nd haters all over the place. The person way start the rumour fit kill me sef

Aywire:


i dont understand this. Explain pls

you've explained things to her but you are not satisfied. the best thing is to take the relationship to the next level, I believe you love her so Much.


women are very delicate, they can break easily. all you need to do is to make her understand that you are still the man she fell in love with.

The girl doesn't Fully trust u and both of u are d kiss and tell type,both of u has bad friends dat can kill relationships.take her out and talk to maturely,accept ur faults,apologise a little and tell her u lv but be really serious abt it.

Haniel18:
The girl doesn't Fully trust u and both of u are d kiss and tell type,both of u has bad friends dat can kill relationships.take her out and talk to maturely,accept ur faults,apologise a little and tell her u lv but be really serious abt it.

Noted...

Ahmadgani:
you've explained things to her but you are not satisfied. the best thing is to take the relationship to the next level, I believe you love her so Much.


women are very delicate, they can break easily. all you need to do is to make her understand that you are still the man she fell in love with.

yes, sadly

I thought i should give you guys the update, well we finally discovered who did, for obvious reasons i wont go into details, but the leak was neither from me or from her, but it was from someone who read her chat and used the information there to start a rumour out of jealousy... Well played, but after nights of endless prayers, God exposed the culprit, someone we never would have suspected, am sure even the devil will be surprised and be like "hmmmm, evil that men do"

so am vindicated from the crime, but theres another issue, it caused her so much pain that she ended our relationship. I dnt knw why, but according to her - she needs some time to put herself together - i have been sick since then, since last week, i was even on drip lol

anyway, God knows best, i have decided to give her the space and not contact her for now (or ever again), and if she realises that i love her sincerely and am still single by then, my arms are wide open. I miss her badly...

Thank you all for the advises.

Aywire:
I will make this short and brief. Am dating this very beutiful lady but we decided to keep it to our selves until we are sure of what we really have is genuine and also because we are family friends, and we know our family members might not approve of it. So few weeks back, i needed money for something urgent about 10k, and she offered to lend me part of it, about 4k actually, i didnt wnt to collect it actually because i avoid collecting money from people especially ladies, but i did because i saw how much she intended to assist me. I told a friend about her gesture and how happy i was to have a lady willing to assist me in any little way she can when the matter arises. Now lets Fast forward to today, she deleted alll her messages from my phone, when i pressured her on why she did that, she eventually opened up and told me that a female friend of hers told her that another female friend (mind you i dont any of the two ladies) told her that i have been going around telling people that she is forcing herself on me and i am only using her as a maga for when i need money, that she even gave me 4k last time and that i will soon travel and abadon her. Meehhnnnn, you cant imagine my shock, i know she believed it because of 2 facts mentioned, the one of the actual amount she gave me and the fact that i am actually preparing to travel. I have denied it and apologised about the situation, but i feel that is not enough, because i dont how far this rumour has spread already. I love this girl, and i will never say anything like that about her. The painful part is that is it 4k that will make me tag her as a maga? I mean i make enough money in my job, and i have spent more than that on us. Right now, i am confused on how to address this issue. What should i do please?

LOVE IS MANY THINGS. ITS VARIED. BUT ONE THING ITS NOT IS UNSURE- MAYA ANGELOU
If she was ever sure of ur love, she wouldn't doubt u or even listen to whatever rumor going round about what u purportedly said.