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Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by ekems2017(f): 10:43pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Bros I have taken time to read your story. Firstly divorce is not the solution. Have you thought of your children that they will be at the receiving side here? Get her the type of clothes you like. Don't force her back to school. Give her the benefit of doubt and give her a small money to start the biz if she handle it well you then expand it. There is family planning for men. If she doesn't want to do it. You do it your self to save you the stress. Think about the first time you met her. That thing that attracted you. Work on it again. Pls don't take any harsh decision think of your children. Meet someone she listens to in her family to help talk to her. It is well 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by alizma: 10:43pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
wonukwuru:leave beauty alone you people will not hear. I am sure your wife hasn't changed but you have. you can't tell me your wife pretended to be brilliant or smart while you were dating her, abi she borrowed the English she was speaking while you were dating her? secondly you are a little selfish, you are more concerned about what you want her to be and not what she wants to be. if you must change her, you must giver listening ears first. she wants to start a business in a little way and grow but you just want it boom at once. why not agree to her term and give her 500k to start with? 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 10:44pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
wonukwuru: maybe you should start by getting a vasectomy also, from what you've written you wife is not a trouble maker (and you are lucky) she's just not gifted upstairs but clearly you are (and in some way you're not). you may have to come down to her level (i'm talking intellectually)when trying to talk about those topics that she avoids, because i think it could be the way you approach the subject matter that makes her turn down your offer to help 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Godfullsam(m): 10:44pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by tayoxx(m): 10:44pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Chei God help me oo... all this things wey I dey see and Hear.. de make me fear to marry oo 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by AntiWailer: 10:44pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Hmm U are comparing her with Angela in the office. Sit her down and let her know ur pains. Leave her alone on the school thing. Somebody escape school with 3rd class you are proposing school to her again.. Look for a low capital, low stress exciting venture and encourage her to go into it Fashion design, beads making. Something she can do and watch TV and as well take care of the children. We as men easily assume the woman sat at home doing nothing. Give her a weekend holiday and handle the house and your children on just Saturday and Sunday, you will understand what she goes through. Not every woman will be a career woman, as the husband you just have to learn to use their strength wisely. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Webhost(m): 10:45pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
I will give you some bits of advice later. I have no time to type now. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by InvertedHammer: 10:45pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
/ For better or worse, till death do us part... OP: you don enter. \ |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by thesuave10(m): 10:45pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
All these marriage counsellors 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by AngelicBeing: 10:46pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by baybeeboi: 10:47pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
My bro @ wonukwuru Its too late bro, divorce will be the worst decision you ever take, dont place your children in a difficult famiky situation, i speak from experience. As for your wife, i'd advice u sit her down, calm down and speak to her with a low masculine purr. From the way u speak, she already irritates you and i say that id the reason these problems linger on. Pls, your wife is special, she didnt become what she is now in ur home, it has been with her even before you married her. Its not her fault that you were too involved that u coudnt make out time to study her. Treat her well, make her understand why u want all u want for her. From 1st class experience, devorce will only create more problems for you and your children. Maybe you should buy her those clothes you want her to wear and see if she refuses to wear them. Good luck Bro, may God restore love in your marriage again. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by smartistics(m): 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
ahahnow:Use your head for once, must you insult to comment. Common be matured at least. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Honestly, this is an eye opener. And people will say that EDUCATION is not a factor to be considered when choosing a life-partner. Marry an illiterate and see how well your marriage will go. Sorry OP. 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by esan1(m): 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
So u want divorce your wife that have three kids for you, and when you were dating her you did not see all these erors, tell people the truth that you have found another intelligent and atractive girl. Not that she is even cheating on you, God always punish men like you nagging man. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
I'm sorry for your pain. I don't know what else to say. For the unmarried ones, let's not rush into marriage or marry for the wrong reasons. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by ebby9z(m): 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Amelian:The gentleman sought your opinion but you prefer to call him names. If you can't advise him, then keep mute. Even if you see his faults, there are other humane, civil and polite ways to point those out to him. You don't just call people foolish without prior provocation. Nawa o 21 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by SmartyPants(m): 10:49pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
I sincerely do not understand threads like these. i simply do not understand this. What exactly does the Op want here, advice on his wife or advise on how to go about a divorce? How can you court a woman without realizing that her grammar and etiquette are not up to par? Even the 3rd class degree did not provide a clue? Didn't you have any conversations together? And if it is divorce you want and you need advice on how to go about it, is it nairaland that you need? Surely you can afford to pay the consultation fee to speak with a lawyer? 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by muller101(m): 10:49pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
I smell lies. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by olson(m): 10:50pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
carammel: give ten bottle of origin to dis lady. to the OP, didn't u know all dis b4 marriage. There is absolutely nothing u can do now after 3 kids, believe u me if u divorce her those kid will hate u for it. The best u can do is to sit her down and talk to her. Love is not blind guys, don't rush into marriage and don't ever think u can change yr partner after marriage. Choose with wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by MayhorE(m): 10:52pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Ehyah. . . sorry ehn |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by MARKone(m): 10:52pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Lol Marriage. Op for starters, u might just stop telling her what to do, so that she'll stop"taking in" deliberately, before you turn to Baba Abraham. From the tone of your post, u r obviously fed up with the marriage, but you need to consider the kids, take her for counselling, since it appears u have the money, find a good center fir the two of you, her problem appears be psychological, and u sound a little bit domineering, if u divorce her now, you'll definitely marry again, and the woman you'll marry, will also want her kids, responsibility goan increase bro. Find a good counsellor, but be careful when telling her before she takes in again 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by beecity: 10:53pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
wonukwuru:Have you forgotten that marriage is for better for worse? Till death do you path? My brother put her in prayers o cuz you getting a divorce simply means you'll be the one at loss. Try loving her with the love of christ and you will see that all her flaws will be overlooked. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Aniedi30(m): 10:54pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Divorce K? No try am oooo who u want divorce fairly used wife for in this present economy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Aywire(m): 10:54pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
From what i read from you, all you do is complain and point our her flaws. Have you too of applauding her gifts rather than down talking her all the time? Have you thought of understanding why sje acts the way she does? Perhaps you should not try and tell her what to do, rather suggest. What i do is that i tell you the outcome of if you do something and if you dont and then i let you chose your path. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
maxti: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by kerryjossy(f): 10:54pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
The truth of the matter is that the poster has actually seen some other woman that he loves and wants to be with. Thats the only explanation i can give for a man that has lived with a woman for 10yrs and suddenly wants a divorce for the qualities he has seen in that same woman all through those years!. Men and lies are like 5&6 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by MrPresident1: 10:54pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
Akuko 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 10:55pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by MrMcJay(m): 10:55pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
OP, there are 3 sides to a story. Your side, Her side, The truth. Only a foolish man would offer marital advice after listening to only one party. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Zenlife: 10:55pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
For singles... Take time to know her. It's not an overnight thing. Don't rush into it. Respect. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by VictorRomanov: 10:55pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
what about your children, how will the divorce affect them? It's actually not the best. Just learn to overlook things. The more u look at the bad she does, the more it irritates you. So just overlook them. By the way, brethren, this is what u get when u marry a woman whose sole purpose in life is to be married and start making babies. |
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