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How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 6:11pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Have you ever wonder why many guys often complain that their girlfriends cheat on them, girls are manipulating them or treat them like trash (you can see some of them complaining in Romance section) but the truth is that what these guys are doing are what turn off women, these type of guys are labelled 'nice guy' . But have you also wonder why some guys are very good with women such that women fight for them? It's because they naturally understand how women think and are mostly labelled 'players' . So who is this nice guy and how is it a syndrome? If you have ever come across pick up artist books or have read threads written by Charles Nneji, Harddon , Push Play, xxxtedyxxx, ILegend and others,you will notice that they keep warning about been a nice guy and revealing that nice guys sucks. If you are a nice guy that you will never get the girls you want. I am here to tell you that not only are they right but also that being a nice guy is a Syndrome and needs to be treated. Let's define nice guy Syndrome. Definition A Nice Guy Syndrome(NGS) is a dating disorder wherein a guy with zero self confidence has a constant need for approval and the personality of a wet mop, who blames his inability to get a girlfriend or hook up on the delusion that he is simply too nice and women only want nice guys .It is actually self-victimization. It is also a social condition in which the sufferer is a straight male with lots of female friends, but who cannot get a date or get laid to save his life. This is because every woman he meets, he befriends, and then when he tries to advance out of the 'friend zone' into 'boyfriend territory', he gets a speech to the effect of "I can't sleep with you, you're such a good friend, I don't want to risk our friendship" or " let's just be friends". Symptoms - insecurity - codependency - being too nice - never disagreeing - a need to please others - blaming the friendzone - fear of rejection - not knowing how to approach a girl - unstable self-esteem - thinking girls should lust for you acting overly nice... - try to convince girls to like you etc. Causes The exact cause of NGS is unknown, though professionals agree a common factor is acting like a gay with no backbone in a competitive dating scene. Diagnosis If you think girls constantly friend-zone you and only hook up with bad guys when you're obviously superior because of how super nice and affectionate you are... then you may suffer from NGS. Risks - Dying alone - Friendzones - Getting used and dumped - Magazones - Low self esteem Treatment These five therapy will relieve you of this mental syndrome. They are : 1. Realizing that you are the problem and girls are simply not attracted to insecure nice guys . 2. Your doctor can often prescribe you a swift kick in the ass for your balls to drop, which should help develop confidence. Lol. Work towards being an alpha male and project value to yourself. 3. Improving your lifestyle(invest in yourself) and not struggling to impress others, have an attractive personality so that they will flog to impress you. 4. Be sociable( increase your communication skills 5. Be good when talking to girls (this is what pick up artist call, the game). You have to a. Use humor( teasing, cocky and funny, sarcasm,wordplay etc) b. Be unpredictable, play hard to get. c. Create suspense and tension d. Use push pull method etc After this therapy you will be an attractive man and will be good with girls. Thanks for reading. By : Kalatium 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
No comment! #crap |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Whytelyon(m): 6:26pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
If this post is intended for just goal of fuckìng a girl, I suggest you think again. You don't get to be nice and they dislike you, when you nice and they dump you, let them go. You'll see them coming back not because they want to taste dìck varieties ,but because even the play boy they dating they not comfortable and he might throw them away someday. Even this Nairaland girls with all this voltron they forming want a good guy, ask yourselves why girls pray in MFM,chosen and in all churches to get married? Gone are days when girls dump good guys, they give you space when you have nothing, only to come back when they see you a man, not just a man, a "MAN", don't deceive yourself. Nice guys finish last. 9 Likes |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Nobody: 6:51pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
i wonder if those ladies attending shiloh and begging pastors for husbands upandan also need badboys ![]() |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by firstking01(m): 7:53pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
I didn't bother myself to read all those things you put upthere, all i know is.... TeamNiceGuy. 1 Like |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by LordZero(m): 8:35pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Watch out!!, them white knights are going to derail your thread. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 9:14pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
LordZero:Yea, you are right |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 9:16pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
firstking01:Good u said TeamGoodGuy not TeamNiceGuy 1 Like |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by firstking01(m): 9:20pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 9:20pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Whytelyon:You're not the first to challenge me on this, if you are not interested don't derail the thread |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Whytelyon(m): 9:24pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Kalatium: Truth is bitter. Your headache fam. The folks who did give a hoot... went that way. Team nice guy till the end. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by hayzed1090: 9:37pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Hope u have sisters and u will have daughters too... sure u get the point |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:28pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Whytelyon:Den dis thread is not for people like you who don't want to change. You prefer buying girls gifts , worshipping them and doing whatever they want until they day she dumb you or cheat on you with other guys they you start complaining that women are difficult, they are wicked etc. When the fault is really from you. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:33pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
firstking01:If you can't read it then get off this thread |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Whytelyon(m): 10:33pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Kalatium: Newsflash, I don't have a gf sorry. I just have my pc and I code and chase money. ![]() Let me ask you, bro,how you gonna feel when someone reads this and mistakenly tries it out on your sisters.. e go good ni? ![]() Just something you'd think of... sleep well bro. ![]() Girlfriend no be Jollof rice, e nugo. Be a good boy ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:34pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
hayzed1090:What is your point? |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:41pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
bbmpin:Just admit it that nice guy sucks |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Whytelyon(m): 10:41pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
lefulefu: Shay if your sister carry boy way day braid hair, smoke skunk, wear dirty jean, em get dark side life, etc come your papa house tell you say she wan marry the guy, you go allow make she marry ba? The answer na em go answer your question. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Olasco93: 10:52pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Who has nice guy really helped in Nigeria, except when the ladies have explored the explorables and finally decide to make heaven by force-marrying one nice guy with low IQ. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by firstking01(m): 11:05pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Kalatium:Mr man, in as much as i'm a legit member of nairaland, i have the conjugal right to comment on any thread i deem fit to comment, so, back off my mentions ![]() |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by bitchcrafts: 11:34pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Mmmuah! I lav this post mehn... the writer of this beautigully crafted piece deserves a slurpy bj from a well tended bingo ![]() |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 11:43pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
firstking01:What if importance of the thread to you if all you know is to comment without reading it |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 11:46pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Olasco93:Some one sensible is now in the building |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by AfroKnight: 11:52pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
OP, you're trying too hard. One day you will make sense...but not today. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by firstking01(m): 11:53pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Kalatium:I'm done with you goodnight...you lack simple understanding...if you think i was going contrary to your thread, as the op you are, isit not for you to try and convince me why you think it ain't cool to be a nice guy?...smh. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 3:09pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
AfroKnight:Why did you say so? |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 3:12pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
firstking01:Alright but I ain't trying to convince you |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by xxxtedyxxx(m): 5:28pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
True talk op.... Gbayi bro. Any guy in 2017 who still doesn't understand this concept highlighted by Op is unknowingly lowering his chances of scoring hot babes. Being overtly nice and failure to show boyfriend potential is the number one reason why many guys get friendzoned. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by 2dice01: 6:04pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Whytelyon:lemme share you what happened 3days ago seems you dont understand the op A guy customer always ask for a colleague at my working place but whenever he comes she is either on shift or not around So on monday he came luckily she was around..i was like 'guy you see the bae wey you dey ask now oya find me something'jokingly My guy just scope me i was just smilling ..he tried talking to the girl she started giving attitude after about 3mins she rem she want to call somebody then turned to guy to give her money to buy recharge card ...the mumu nice guy gave her i was just laughing..she didnt even say thank you...she just collect the money like its her fathers right...phone number my nice guy no see collect. What the op is saying is Asslicking wont make a girl love you 1 Like |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Whytelyon(m): 6:16pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
2dice01: ![]() Na their way ma brother. But see, what would you do, be honest? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() That one your guy see na small compared to what I've seen or what my friends have seen. But still we let them be. The greatest thing I do is I let their conscience fight them. They'd get married, thoughts of what they did to you,will never leave them. Sometimes many of them end up with broken homes when they don't do things correctly again. Just relax, I don't want to go into stories, if I do, you'd shed tears. They are all the same my brother but if you serve God, you let them be. No greater judgement than "I dumped this boy for this my boyfriend,look at him today.. if I had known..." ![]() 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:36pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Whytelyon:That's what I'm saying, you can even see that your nice guy attitude prevented you from having a girlfriend, probably because you are afraid or many other reasons stated above. You have a nice guy Syndrome and you really need this therapy. |
Re: How Being A Nice Guy Affects Your Dating Life by Kalatium(m): 10:38pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
2dice01:Thanks mehn... Being nice to a girl sucks, I have experience it and it's very terrible |
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