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Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by mediocre(m): 8:36pm On Jan 06, 2017 |
Update as requested. Usually i would call her everyday to ask how she was and how her day went and all, but today i resisted the urge to, it was surprisingly easy. She didn't try to reach me either . Guess this is Day 1 1 Like |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 9:05pm On Jan 06, 2017 |
mediocre: Well-done #ThumbsUp And you are still alive..... Hurray! ![]() |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by kinglekan: 9:43pm On Jan 06, 2017 |
TheCOB: Still waiting ![]() |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 10:15pm On Jan 06, 2017 |
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Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by AlfaAce(m): 12:31am On Jan 07, 2017 |
Communication died,and I and my girl broke up on the 2nd .....mehn,love to me is a highly flawed concept I will never be part of,ever! |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by RMClub: 12:46am On Jan 07, 2017 |
TheCOB: Hi, I sent you a pm, please respond to it. wish to discuss something with you off here. Thanks! |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 4:33am On Jan 07, 2017 |
"Look I have told you before, Jide and I are just friends. Stop all these your plenty thoughts joor". That was me again on another denial scenario with the girls. They just wouldn't get off my case. And just when I had thought to hear the last of it, Nkechi sprang up "Abi you de fear say because of that Ajebo pikin wey de gum body for am?" As all attention returned back to the topic, I cringed inwardly. Nkechi was usually the brash one, always saying things exactly as she thought them to be regardless of their obvious wrongness. That day though, she was right. I was really scared of competing with Nike - The Ajebo pikin. However, I wasn't about to let myself appear as the loser and so I rose in my defense - "Babes na lie na, who she be? Y'all know that if I wanted Jide I would get him and very easy too". Well, that was a lie and everyone present in that room knew it. I was no match for Jide but trust Nkechi with her evil ways "See this one de make mouth o! Oya na prove am, if that bobo ever look you pass sisterzoning, na me Nkechi go personally make sure say CHEM 350 lecturer no ever disturb you for this school again!". We all turned to look at Nkechi each for different reasons. You see,rumor had it that our friend Nkechi was a runz girl and slept with lecturers for grades. Infact I had once heard that she did something with a cultist and the guy had threatened all the lecturers to do her bidding or die. I had never believed them, because I mean, She was my roomie and a good friend at that. But today, right before our faces, she had unwittingly acknowledged the fact that she had some connection with our lecturers capable of getting Dr. Lawal off my neck. Well, I could only care less about her methods, getting the old flirty man of me was enough incentive to make me even grovel at her feet. And here, I didn't even need to grovel, I only had to get Jide show them himself as being all over me. How hard could it be? I giggled with excitement at the thought of telling Jide the plan I had hatched in my mind. Naturally mischievous and known for being the lady's man, Jide was gong to love my idea! I looked up at Nkechi with a defiant expression on my face, fire in my eyes and mischief in my smile saying "Game on Sister!" She laughed at the ridiculousness of my pose shaking my hands simultaneously as she re-echoed my words "Game on Sister!" And so it was, "Game on!" 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 4:39am On Jan 07, 2017 |
kinglekan and mediocre....I'm sorry, I was so tired last night I just slept off. RMClub I've replied your mail, Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by kinglekan: 3:59pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
TheCOB: This is beginning to look like a literary piece though. ![]() |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by RMClub: 4:04pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
TheCOB: Thanks! I have done same. 1 Like |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 5:37pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
kinglekan: Well, it wouldn't do justice tell the story in one monotonous stretch. It took 4 years of ups and downs before we started a relationship and there's a lesson to learn each step of the way. 1 Like |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by kinglekan: 8:07pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
TheCOB: I perfectly understand. The narrative is already looking quite interesting, it wouldn't be a bad idea to put up the story on a separate thread in literature section. There you would get enough comments and then you can always make reference to a particular post you put up there on this thread. Just a thought though.. But I'm following this story either way. ![]() |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 8:49pm On Jan 07, 2017 |
kinglekan: Indeed! You have made a valid point.. Thanks Boss. I would heed your advice asap. How was today? |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by kinglekan: 1:37pm On Jan 08, 2017 |
TheCOB: Sorry just seeing this mention... Yesterday went well. Thanks for asking ![]() Happy Sunday |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 7:27am On Jan 09, 2017 |
Mediocre you are owing 2 days update already.... Please kindly update us so we can be sure absence of your babe hasn't killed you. We need you alive please. ***** kaleydd2000 howdy ![]() ******* CplusJason no update from you to.... ***** Top of a great morning everyone! Twaci and teejaypee thanks for following "In pursuit of goodness" 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by mediocre(m): 10:50pm On Jan 09, 2017 |
TheCOB:Lol, I'm still alive. Saturday 7th, I didn't call, no word from her either. I was really determined to complete the seven day exercise. Sunday 8th, I caved ![]() ![]() Monday 9th, I was with her throughout the day ![]() |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by TheCOB(f): 12:08am On Jan 10, 2017 |
mediocre: hello Welldone for being sincere. if you keep that up we would achieve our goal. First, you need to understand that the goal here is not to break your relationship. The bitter truth is that you are not handling the relationship in a healthy way. In a healthy relationship, you should love your partner but not to the point of near-obsession where you could consider dying if she leaves. This project is aimed at teaching your mind that you can survive come-what-may. That way, you don't have to grovel all the time and beg for her affection. You would need sheer willpower, please muster it. We are starting the count again from todaY. Let's see how far you can go ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Talk Here If You Are Married or In A Romantic Relationship by Nobody: 2:10pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
Thnaks so very much COB. I will do my best to keep to guide. May God bless u richly. You are doing well. These efforts go a long way! Especially prayer. God wants our marriages to last for a lifetime and so He would support your cause. The truth is that Only You can CHOOSE to stop cheating. The good side of your story is that you love your wife, care about her happiness and most importantly that YOU WANT TO STOP. So start with believing that as difficult as it may be, it is achievable. What seems to be the benefit of your cheating is the sexual gratification you get from the other lady. Knowing this means that, if you truly want to stop you are going to have to fill in that vacuum. So after teaching your mind that you want to be with only your wife, sit wify down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with her. In this conversation, don't demand, don't command, don't just ask. Rather plead with your wife, in an emotional discussion tell her how you feel about her attitude towards sex. Make sure it doesn't degenerate into an argument... In fact have the conversation when she's happy and preferably have her cuddled up to you, stroking her hair while at it. The idea is to get her relaxed. Explain to her that you are willing to accept some compromises - Which means she may not have to go all the way with your desires but that you'd appreciate that she makes effort to make it happen . let her know you are willing to make the journey fun. Take it upon yourself to make Sex enjoyable for her. Don't push, just teach her to love you just as good as you want it. To do this though, you are going to need to delete all pornographic images and videos and stop yourself from watching more. More so, the other girl should be deleted. Don't allow your body deceive you into "one last time..." Take her out of your life for good. Phone number, social media, everywhere, delete and block her. Else she would keep disturbing every progress you make. Assignment for you: Every day, come here and share with us one little thing your wife did right or one small thing she did that you appreciated or liked. We don't want to hear the big things, just those tiny details. Which means you have to take care to watch out for the tiny details - Which could be the way she smiled, the way her hair looked, how neatly she arranged the house, how she carefully organised you clothes, those little little things. We want to hear at least one everyday. Additionally, plan your schedule to make for date-night once a week. The date doesn't have to be expensive, it could just be a walk on Saturday or Sunday evening. The idea is to recreate the magic in your marriage. Your marriage should keep you so busy, you have no time for other women [/quote] |
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