Many people are so carried away by hustling and bustling of marriage... They are so in love with the idea of happily ever after..that they forget that if proper care is not taken, their marriage might not end up being the bed of rose they've been dreaming of.

You see them upload pre wedding pictures taken in Atlanta, Dubai or beautiful places in Nigeria.

Don't get me wrong o.. I'm not saying you shouldn't get married or take unique pre-wedding pics.. But there are some things you should consider before going to the marriage alter.

Make them marriage experts epp me add more points. Thanks.


1) Do not allow your religious belief or what your pastor preach or say often about marriage dictate the kind of person you should tie the knot with

Remember, this marriage journey would last till death do you part, unless you would opt for divorce at the long run.

Many people let what their pastor or religious belief affect their life so much that they end up marrying the wrong person.. Sometimes, you just have to let love lead.. Or pray and ask GOD yourself.. Pastors are human beings too.. Nd sometimes, they let the flesh rule them thereby, misleading many people.

If you end up marrying the wrong lady or man.. Your pastor won't face the marriage ordeal for you.. You would bear the cross alone.
So be careful.. Before you take the wrong step


2) Do a blood test

Do not get blinded by love.. Before wedding, make sure you and your spouse go for blood test to confirm your genotype, and health status. Do widal tests.
Do not treat this with negligence, because it could cost you a lot.

Some people have sickle cell trait, some are oblivion to this fact.. While some chose to overlook it because of love or faith in religion.
Like I said earlier, ignorance is not an excuse. Do what is right for your unborn children

I would say the risk of giving birth to a sickle cell child is not worth taking.
It might cost you lots of money, your time, and your job, because you'd live in constant fear whenever the child have crisis, which may lead to death eventually if proper care is not taken.

3) Take your time to know your partner better

Do not rush into marriage, because it's trending.
Do not sacrifice your freedom and happiness on the marriage alter...
Take your time to know your partner better.. Remember you're going to have to live with him or her for the rest of your life.

Find out if he/she is quick to anger.. Can you help him/her overcome this problem?

*Does he take corrections or treat your suggestions or opinion like nothing?

*Are you ready to be submissive to a highly dominant partner?

*Is she the lousy type.. Or the one without proper home training.. Who would disrespect your parent at the slightest provocation?

*Is she a Mr Biggs or Mama put or Tantalizer kinda lady or a good cook? I know you won't want to take over the kitchen every day of the week why she polish her nails..

I love a guy who can cook too.. But a lady must know how to cook.. Your husband can't do the cooking everytime.

*Is she in love with who you are or what you have?

*Is he/she in love with your curves and edges, six packs, or beards alone.. What if your body changes at the long run?

My sister/brother better think twice before you answer "yes, I do"
The choice is yours?

4) Do not get carried away by material things or sweet talks

What happens when a marriage is built on a foundation of deceit?
Who bears the burden at the long run?
How would you feel if you found out that your husband or wife had lied about his/her educational background, financial status and every other thing?

Take your time to find out about every little secrets bikonu... Before marriage.. So as to avoid stories that touch.

5)Plan your future together

Before your wedding, plan your future together. During and after wedding ceremony, spend wisely. Don't imitate others..
If you want a wedding in Dubai, honey moon in Paris, but your bank is directing you to Lagos or your village.. Better do the wedding like that... Before DEBT DO YOU PART

You can always have an elaborate wedding anniversary later in future.


Good afternoon

okkkkk.



but am already married

Good afternoon lalasticlala


Modified...

To those saying I'm not entitled to give marriage advice... You need to search Google for Tola Dehinde.. A sickle cell victim.
See what she wrote about her parent and her self..

Her mom made a mistake despite the fact that she was a nurse.
If they(her parent) had known some of these fact especially no 2... Before marriage, they wouldn't have married at all or given birth to a sickle cell anaemia baby.

If married couples refuse to tell us what we should know before marriage.. We should do research, think deep and let others benefit from our ideas.

slimthugchimee2:
okkkkk.



but am already married

Congratulations

lanicky:
Good afternoon lalasticlala

Lol u no even wan wait at all.

EmperorLee:


Lol u no even wan wait at all.

My battery Don low... I go comot from here at any time

lanicky:


My battery Don low... I go comot from here at any time

Lol. Lalasticlala will soon be here sha.

Since you're well abreast about what it takes, let's journey together ...two hearts can become one.

Lanicky / Amodu

Gflat:
Tell this to those aunties that are above forty and still single
I have come to realize that a great number of those who come on nairaland to bring down lists of what and what not to do in a relationship are not even old enough to be in one. They are mostly kids who just want to make Frontpage

you are always blatant, where do you even come from?

Happy new year lanicky. Nice write up.

That blood test thingy Is very much important...

My parent made a mistake about it but surprisingly no one of us was affected,God was merciful mainly becos they were ignorant as of then...

Never try such mistake...specially now that 99% of the world knows about it...God might not be merciful...

ritababe:



you are always blatant, were do you even come from?

You're as dumb as the underage op giving marriage advice.

Look at the underage lanicky typing like a jss2 drop out.You can make sense in 50 words than typing all these words like an illiterate.

refiner:
That blood test thingy Is very much important...

My parent made a mistake about it but surprisingly no one of us was affected,God was merciful mainly becos they were ignorant as of then...

Never try such mistake...specially now that 99% of the world knows about it...God might not be merciful...

me I nor know ooO tell us abeg

Well said dear, well said. I like number 2. It has crashed many relationships.

The blood group shouldn't be about sickle cell alone. HIV and other STD are real.

Nice one dear.

DAVIYJONESS:
Look at the underage lanicky typing like a jss2 drop out.You can make sense in 50 words than typing all these words like an illiterate.

Dude why don't you get a life.

obiorathesubtle:
If she hasn't got a fat ass..


don't think about it..

Baba I hail o

amodu:
Since you're well abreast about what it takes, let's journey together ...two hearts can become one.

Lanicky / Amodu

Bro,I laff.

Bv

Crap crap..
Here's my list of what to do before saying yes I do

1. See if He is rich
2. Know His family enemies cos some family gat many enimies like ants
3. If you are wor wor don't marry a beast cos you wnt be happy with your chilldren
4. Check His cassava
5. know if u guys have stuff in common
6. Check his heart status cos some dude love soccer and MMM more than their GF
7. Check his religion status
..

All I need is a baby mama. I don't want the scam called marriage.

You're on point, but man gotta flex

Ok

ok

lanicky:
Many people are so carried away by hustling and bustling of marriage... They are so in love with the idea of happily ever after..that they forget that if proper care is not taken, their marriage might not end up being the bed of rose they've been dreaming of.

Are u married?

Nice write up! Most ladies dont care these days as long as there is $$.. Nothing spoil!!

DAVIYJONESS:
Look at the underage lanicky typing like a jss2 drop out.You can make sense in 50 words than typing all these words like an illiterate.

Good afternoon sir