knightsson:

Will you forever continue deliberately provoking your men just to know he that has an unforgiven spirit?

Babe, majority of men in these present Nigeria will get pissed.

Amelian:



Wow!

Benita27:
You don't get it.
Do so in courtship, you would know things you never knew about his moods, it's all about knowing your spouse better.

knightsson:

I got you so well but I think you don't really need to test your partner just to know what he/she is capable of doing or not doing. If he/she genuinely love the other, they would show their attitudes without been tested.

For me, every girl I have dated knows that I have a short temper, I don't tolerate nonsense and I don't spend unnecessarily on a girl I am dating. I show this without been tested by them.

If as my gf you try testing me, I won't even mind to willingly fall, e.g testing me with your friend or sister, I will so dig her just to show the gf what she did by testing me is wrong.

Benita27:
@ the embolden, it should have a limit and not include setting him up with another lady.
When it comes to character, testing your spouse isn't bad, it gives an edge in knowing him better, one gets to know what he would do when angry: this is the bottom line.

Benita27:
I have a family friend that whenever she's mad, she destroys anything in her room, she's the only one who doesn't have a television in her room so far as their house is concerned but she still ends up destroying other valuables...if a man marries her not knowing what she would do when offended, he's definitely going to keep buying valuables or even changing car screens.

I don't advice testing one's spouse with other ladies, this is out of the equation here cos we're talking of "anger management".

SalomonKane:
Agreed. But that test shouldn't be something that may cause one's spouse to become angry, pissed or even disgusted.

Amelian:
A guy and a lady are in love and dating each other. Their relationship is peaceful with lots of laughter, and joy... except on few occasions they disagree and make up immediately. Now one of the uncles of the lady is advising the lady to irritate her boyfriend, so well and try bring out the worst in him ?
So she can know how far he behaves in anger
But she is like why cause friction, tension and irritation in her relationship that's so smooth and easy going ?

For me? I feel it doesn't make sense to deliberately annoy someone one loves? Just because she needs to see the bad side of her bf?


Or what do u guys think? Is it a wise move to take?

Benita27:
You don't get it.
Do so in courtship, you would know things you never knew about his moods, it's all about knowing your spouse better.

Benita27:
You get to know the real person when they're pissed, angry or disgusted.
To avoid surprises later in marriage, know your spouse to the core.

Benita27:
I have a family friend that whenever she's mad, she destroys anything in her room, she's the only one who doesn't have a television in her room so far as their house is concerned but she still ends up destroying other valuables...if a man marries her not knowing what she would do when offended, he's definitely going to keep buying valuables or even changing car screens.

I don't advice testing one's spouse with other ladies, this is out of the equation here cos we're talking of "anger management".

DozieInc:

Why not let matters arise naturally, your partner may mistaken your "game" for the real you (a trouble maker),your later explanations may leave him in doubt.

Personal I don't like such games, later discovery may be the beginning of the real problem.

knightsson:

We get gist o.

this is 2017, its good we start planning early.

Mykbillz:

You don't have to know you partner to the core to have a lasting marriage but though you ought to have a good knowlege of him or her and believe me you can't know him to the core,, marriage is two person who are willing to learn about each other everyday and willing to make compromises for each other, thats why you shouldn't love someone because of the inlove feeling, when the happiness of someone else become your main aim, thats what defines love that lead to happy marriage, especially when both parties feel that way

Masonic:

Err... fill me in bruh, im in the dark.

knightsson:

Later sir, maybe tomorrow.

Amelian:




I once dated a guy like that too. And it was hell

Only him breaks his own things including tv and replaces them back the next day.. When his eyed clear..
It was horrifying.. And he was like a time bomb waiting to explode.. Arrgh!

Benita27:
Now, you see the point.
Marring him would be a choice you would have to make.
I can remember vividly that when my ex is mad whether it was deliberate or not, he would shut me out for days or weeks untill he feels like talking to me, at this time looking into his eyes is scaring and i hated that.

Amelian:





But in this case I didn't deliberately make him angry o
Everything I did back then was so annoying to him.. As in almost everything.. He gets irritated easily. He's a bully..
This one no need for u to place him on a test.. He just ticks off!

Amelian:
A guy and a lady are in love and dating each other. Their relationship is peaceful with lots of laughter, and joy... except on few occasions they disagree and make up immediately. Now one of the uncles of the lady is advising the lady to irritate her boyfriend, so well and try bring out the worst in him ?
So she can know how far he behaves in anger
But she is like why cause friction, tension and irritation in her relationship that's so smooth and easy going ?

For me? I feel it doesn't make sense to deliberately annoy someone one loves? Just because she needs to see the bad side of her bf?


Or what do u guys think? Is it a wise move to take?

Benita27:
Truely you can't know someone totally cos change is constant, but we should know the little we can.
This thread is not the first place i'm seeing this, and is not intended to insight trouble but to know the person's anger management level.

Benita27:
Both parties should deliberately provoke their spouse to know how they handle certain situations.

Is a good idea to me.

Mykbillz:


knowing your partner management level is trully essential, atleast you get to know how to deal with them.