Szerelem2290:


People don't seem to be listening when I say he kept pursuing me despite me telling him to leave me alone.
I fell for what he said again and he is the one contacting me! Yes I allow it which is where I'm at fault but like it said earlier I ended contact. He continued messaging me and calling me - yes blocking his number would be a great idea if I didn't have to see him at work too!

Ah! You didn't say you both work in the same place Until now. You are also already in love. Lobatan !

Only physical confrontation can help. You have to tell him verbally to leave u the fvck alone. But of course you are in love with him so u won't confront him.

You have an option go continue and enjoy it while it lasts, but also get ready for heart break and lots of crying.

Szerelem2290:


For the first nine months I didn't know I was the other woman because he basically said it was over with his wife, he said he was flying back to Nigeria to divorce her.

Now I'm aware that I'm the other woman, I just feel guilt

If you really do feel guilty, then you should stop. You said something about your dad cheating on your mum. . . . this alone should be enough reason not to be the other woman. I'm getting the vibe that you're not really ready to end this. . . I hope I'm wrong

truthsayer007:


Ah! You didn't say you both work in the same place Until now. You are also already in love. Lobatan !

Only physical confrontation can help. You have to tell him verbally to leave u the fvck alone. But of course you are in love with him so u won't confront him.

You have an option go continue and enjoy it while it lasts, but also get ready for heart break and lots of crying.

I keep asking people to read the previous post I made about this and it does explain a lot there!
As much as it hurts I have told him these things and walked away but he follows this is why I was resorting to going to his family and the thought of me being the wife in this situation... I would want to know

cayesworld:

If you really do feel guilty, then you should stop. You said something about your dad cheating on your mum. . . . this alone should be enough reason not to be the other woman. I'm getting the vibe that you're not really ready to end this. . . I hope I'm wrong

The guilt came after today when I last saw him which is why I'm up late tonight thinking about it all. I want to leave but when I tried to leave before he just pursued me until I took him back

Szerelem2290:


The guilt came after today when I last saw him which is why I'm up late tonight thinking about it all. I want to leave but when I tried to leave before he just pursued me until I took him back

I'm sure at some point in your life some guy "chased" you and you said NO. Or do you say YES to every guy that comes after you?

Why cant you say no to him? You're in love right?

I've got news for you. . . .if you do love him, then you've fallen for a lying, cheating, inconsiderate and selfish guy.

I hope for your sake you can let him go. . . .but if you cant, I can play the devil's advocate also. Maybe he truly loves you and you've found real love

cayesworld:

I'm sure at some point in your life some guy "chased" you and you said NO. Or do you say YES to every guy that comes after you?

Why cant you say no to him? You're in love right?

I've got news for you. . . .if you do love him, then you've fallen for a lying, cheating, inconsiderate and selfish guy.

I hope for your sake you can let him go. . . .but if you cant, I can play the devil's advocate also. Maybe he truly loves you and you've found real love

Truthfully? He's the first guy I've fallen in love with. Which is why I'm stuck because it feels harder to walk away. I've never gotten so attached to someone before.

If someone loves you they aren't meant to lie this much

Szerelem2290:


I keep asking people to read the previous post I made about this and it does explain a lot there!
As much as it hurts I have told him these things and walked away but he follows this is why I was resorting to going to his family and the thought of me being the wife in this situation... I would want to know

Ok..typing a reply.

Szerelem2290:


Truthfully? He's the first guy I've fallen in love with. Which is why I'm stuck because it feels harder to walk away. I've never gotten so attached to someone before.

If someone loves you they aren't meant to lie this much

Questiion: Do you still want to be with him?


First loves are overrated. . . . you'd get over him

Szerelem2290:



No kids involved

She lives in Nigeria and he lives in England. They've seen each other for like 5-6 weeks in total and they've been married for two years?

He's been seeing me for a total of 11 months now,,the first 9 months I was told he was leaving his wife and all that jazz.

She had suspicions he was seeing someone and spoke to his auntie because she said he was better in bed!

He's told them all four times now it's over between me and him (the first three times he told them it was over he didn't tell me that!) I stopped speaking to him for a month and he got back in contact with me.

I think that you don't want to leave him but some hard truths still need to be told.
you started a wrong relationship but you have the choice of a better life if you let him go, by the way there is 90% chance he's gonna cheat on you.
I am a guy, and telling you this from experience and acquired knowledge.

You have no future with him....
You are just hanging on to him for a reason you haven't shared .

Send me a private mail.

Szerelem2290:



No kids involved

She lives in Nigeria and he lives in England. They've seen each other for like 5-6 weeks in total and they've been married for two years?

He's been seeing me for a total of 11 months now,,the first 9 months I was told he was leaving his wife and all that jazz.

She had suspicions he was seeing someone and spoke to his auntie because she said he was better in bed!

He's told them all four times now it's over between me and him (the first three times he told them it was over he didn't tell me that!) I stopped speaking to him for a month and he got back in contact with me.

I think that you don't want to leave him but some hard truths still need to be told.
you started a wrong relationship but you have the choice of a better life if you let him go, by the way there is 90% chance he's gonna cheat on you.
I am a guy, and telling you this from experience and acquired knowledge.

You have no future with him....
You are just hanging on to him for a reason you haven't shared .

Send me a private mail.

Szerelem2290:



No kids involved

She lives in Nigeria and he lives in England. They've seen each other for like 5-6 weeks in total and they've been married for two years?

He's been seeing me for a total of 11 months now,,the first 9 months I was told he was leaving his wife and all that jazz.

She had suspicions he was seeing someone and spoke to his auntie because she said he was better in bed!

He's told them all four times now it's over between me and him (the first three times he told them it was over he didn't tell me that!) I stopped speaking to him for a month and he got back in contact with me.

I think that you don't want to leave him but some hard truths still need to be told.
you started a wrong relationship but you have the choice of a better life if you let him go, by the way there is 90% chance he's gonna cheat on you.
I am a guy, and telling you this from experience and acquired knowledge.

You have no future with him....
You are just hanging on to him for a reason you haven't shared .

Send me a private mail.

Szerelem2290:


Truthfully? He's the first guy I've fallen in love with. Which is why I'm stuck because it feels harder to walk away. I've never gotten so attached to someone before.

If someone loves you they aren't meant to lie this much

This is not love, and you are not really in love yet, the concept of love you are in here is not real.

cayesworld:

Questiion: Do you still want to be with him?


First loves are overrated. . . . you'd get over him

When I'm with him and he sweet talks me I fall for it and want to be with hI'm

When I'm away fron him I realise what a fool I am

Szerelem2290:


When I'm with him and he sweet talks me I fall for it and want to be with hI'm

When I'm away fron him I realise what a fool I am

this is the reason I said that you are not in love with him, you emotions has created an in love feeling which is not real, you need to awaken yourself
from that.


Someone who talks you into doing things you later regret has no hood intention for, that moment of realising your wrongs, that's your intuitive conscience at work

Mykbillz:


this is the reason I said that you are not in love with him, you emotions has created an in love feeling which is not real, you need to awaken yourself
from that.


Someone who talks you into doing things you later regret has no hood intention for, that moment of realising your wrongs, that's your intuitive conscience at work

Emailed you MykBillz

So I just read your 1st post. . . the fine thingy is almost certainly a lie. . . You DO NOT need him in your life. You need to be strong about this.

cayesworld:
So I just read your 1st post. . . the fine thingy is almost certainly a lie. . . You DO NOT need him in your life. You need to be strong about this.

Thank you for reading my first post. You've been really helpful and made me think about things. Going to have this week to myself and tell him to hit the road.

Szerelem2290:


Thank you for reading my first post. You've been really helpful and made me think about things. Going to have this week to myself and tell him to hit the road.

Great idea and
You're welcome. . . .anytime.
Lemme know how it goes. . . . if you don't mind