Stupedinluv:


If you are a woman and you have refused to admit that you are on the receiving side of these sh1ts, going to centuries now, then you are a fool and you deserve a bad man!

Stupedinluv:
Lalasticlala come and see better topic o.

If you are a woman and you have refused to admit that you are on the receiving side of these sh1ts, going to centuries now, then you are a fool and you deserve a bad man!

Splinz:


You think it's only women that are at the receiving end of the said shits? Have you flip the other side?

AngelsAndStars:
babe, why are you so bitter about men? what exactly do you want? cos almost all your posts you attack the male gender. tell me

AngelsAndStars:
stupid write up by the way, makes it seem as if men live like in heaven and women know only hell. Story of my life alone will paint something different.


trash

Stupedinluv:
I could have asked you this: "AngelsandStars why have you refused to address the original post. Is it because you are a man?"

But i wouldnt.

Stupedinluv:


Its no news today that more and more women are choosing "single and happy" to those chains (african degenerates called marriage) our mothers were held bound with.

We re learning to "flip" our lives the way we want.

Okay. Lets use your mom as an example here, since my own mother is not one of those 'married and unhappy' in what you called "African degenerate" (whatever that means. I'm not in the know that marriage is an African institution).

So tell me. Did mom tells you she's married, chained and unhappy? Or is it something you've witnessed yourself

Splinz:


Okay. Lets use your mom as an example here, since my own mother is not one of those 'married and unhappy' in what you called "African degenerate" (whatever that means. I'm not in the know that marriage is an African institution).

So tell me. Did mom tells you she's married, chained and unhappy? Or is it something you've witnessed yourself

Stupedinluv:
straws are not good for argumentssss

Not that i believe you but lets say you are honest.

Your mum, my mum how many do we have?

You think the op is addressing insignificant numbers?

Op's message is full of biases and utter dishonest claims. In fact, it is not worthy of a response.

I don't know what you mean by "straws". I simply picked your comment based on a genuine desire to hear your own arguments, why you think women are the sole bearers of shits. Surprisingly, you went further to rubbished the institution of marriage, claiming "our mothers" are chained in marriage and unhappy, which is what you (a supposed campaigner for "single and happy" ) are trying to shake off.

So in all honesty again, I dissociated my sweet mother ( ) from this "our mothers", since she's married and ever happy. I was thinking perhaps, your mom could be a victim of these claims of yours. Like I've already said, I'm genuinely seeking to learn what informs your rather strange claims (yes, it is strange to me).

lawlahbammy:
Got this from a male friend and decided to share it here.

I wish myself (and all anointed male youth planning on getting married soon) and all the responsible men out there, good women that would/will value us....three(3) ways to treat a woman..
1. Love
2. Care
3. Affections..

Get these 3 ingredients into a woman's life n u will av the best of them.

pocohantas:

Some women are brought up thinking all they have to do is care for the home and kids, some men are brought up thinking all they have to do to earn respect in their homes is provide.
That's why when a man is being ridiculed by his wife, people always think it's all about lack of money, whereas there are other factors that makes a man, a man.
Same way a woman would be made to feel she is below par in home duties if her husband loses interest in her.

It works both ways.
Let's raise our children to be sensible, both male and female.
No one should be overly dependent on the other, earn your money, contribute your quota,clean after yourself...if the home fails, you both fail.

Richy4:
A man cannot write this....I don't know but there are certain thing I read there that screamed female writer..I kinda have an amateur knowledge on how men portrays their write ups...But this one look strange that a man wrote this ......

krauss:
@ lawlahbammy, (on assumption), this sounds like a backlash and vitriolic tantrum against men which kinda projects marriage as a murky venture. Again, it seems the inspiration for this came from a long period on misguided application of personal ratiocination of events that you have witnessed either directly or vicariously. I would really implore you not to let the isolated(relative) moments of cruelty you witnessed prod you to cast such aspersions on the opposite gender. God be with you in your odyssey to find the so much vaunted 'man of your dreams' and provide you the happiness and marital bliss that forthwith follows it.

pocohantas:
It's our African upbringing.
There are some elements of truth in the write up, though somehow exaggerated. You see a haphazard grown man and people say he needs a wife. A wife to tidy his haphazard nature...
A grown struggling woman would also be told to marry.

Men were also brought up thinking they have to keep on 'slaving' to provide, they dare not get tired or request for help.

Some women are brought up thinking all they have to do is care for the home and kids, some men are brought up thinking all they have to do to earn respect in their homes is provide.
That's why when a man is being ridiculed by his wife, people always think it's all about lack of money, whereas there are other factors that makes a man, a man.
Same way a woman would be made to feel she is below par in home duties if her husband loses interest in her.

It works both ways.
Let's raise our children to be sensible, both male and female.
No one should be overly dependent on the other, earn your money, contribute your quota,clean after yourself...if the home fails, you both fail.

kaboninc:


Thank you for this quote...

However, just asking, what are the three ways to treat a man?

bukatyne:
Interesting comments @myking95

The OP is quite insightful and paints the true picture in an average Nigerian home.

The wife is expected to put up with so much bullshit that you are amazed why a typical Nigerian woman still wants to get married.

However, the issue is not so simple. When these wives were girls, they chopped their youth (not necessarily indiscriminate sex) and friend zoned a lot of 'nice' guys. Infact, the average Nigerian guy is very eager to please and love his 'first love' and will do a lot of things for her. (Yes, they might be interested in s.ex as part of the package). I hear stories of guys cooking food for their gals (who interestingly don't appreciate) in their hostels etc.

After these girls show them pepper, the guys 'harden' and metamorphosis changes him from a sweet guy to a typical 'Nigerian' husband.

Unfortunately, these girls grow into Nigerian wives looking for the type of men they discarded in their youth.

Add the fact that she has seen her father treat her mother so and they are well celebrated in their church/mosque for reaching 40th anniversary in marriage (nevermind the mother spent 30yrs chasing side & front chics, chopping beatings and fasting & praying), she has prepared her mind to chop bullshit (like a medal) and any providing man would do.

Have you seen where they discuss their husbands' nonsense and they smile that they have finally reached the sainthood in marriage?

I very much concor with the OP. Let the 'Nigerian' couple marry themselves.