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Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Nobody: 9:49pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
I really don't think it make sense for you to marry someone you are not compatible with,but my spirit tells me you have a roving eyes obviously you are moved by the beauty of the second lady.Anyway you know what you want,it is your life not that of your church or any one here.But my advice is for you to pray about it,when it comes to marriage let God lead the way but shine your eyes don't be cajoled by emotions or pretense and look beyond the make up o,no go dey decieve yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by ofemigeorge(m): 9:51pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
goingape1:;Dyou dey vexing oooo |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Jakasibo(m): 9:56pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
How can your church be deciding for you at your age man? 3 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Nobody: 9:56pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Ok I would advice you to marry both of them if possible....if not marry your first girlfriend and have an extra marital affair with your second girlfriend. Problem solved! |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by STENON(f): 9:56pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
You are as confused as Mama John who's telling John that na his papa gt St. John Cathedral. lool 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
tee59: pray tell.. how many has it helped. if a man's heart is set to do wrong, a guilty conscience and a prayerful wife will not stop him or change his mind.. ask David, ask Solomon |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by paroh137(m): 9:58pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Marriage committee? What exactly doesn't have a committee in Nigeria? 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by seedord247(m): 9:58pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Reading this makes me feel like you are not a man and you shouldn't even think of having sex with a woman much more getting married... what kind of men are they breeding in Nigeria these days self? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by COvo(m): 10:03pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
You are 36 and you are letting a committee of old men and women and they call themselves "marriage committee". Bros get sense and choose a lady you have feelings for and a lady that meets your specs. It's not the marriage committee that'll live in thesame house with her. Wait o,why will you propose to someone you haven't met or even dated,and you even waited for the marriage committee to give you permission to start dating. This is so hilarious. Which church be that abeg? Bros choose your wife and don't give a Bleep about church marriage committee. 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by lereinter(m): 10:12pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
which church u dey refer to 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by pressplay411(m): 10:13pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
I was going to say something but you're a church boy so go with your pastor. You're only here cos what you want is at loggerheads with what the church wants for you. 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:14pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
OP I believe you are a Deeper Lifer, I guess I'm not wrong. My opinion on this is that you think deep and consider what you want. I believe that you saw something in your current fiancee before proposing to her, whether from afar or closely. Sometimes we are to look beyond physical appearance, as long as she meets minimum requirement, but take cognisance of other things. If your Fiancée love you, PLEASE stick to her, love her and arrange her appearance to fit your specs. My 1 kobo |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Missonas(f): 10:15pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
My church this marriage commitee that. You are looking to become a married man and letting people take the steps for you how then will you build your home. You dont feel anything for her please leave her be. You want to get it right then do it right. Theres no hurry in life. Seek God and things will fall in beautiful places 2 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
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Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by yanabasee(m): 10:22pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
tobaseye: Dude....if you dnt love her den went ahead to meet her parent...am sure you had seen somfin dat pushed yu to do it.... Also, a good wife-to-be's quality goes far beyond d physical looks... If she qualifies in many other areas to meet the wifey demands.... then you could take her a beautician to mek her up for you n prolly teach her hw to mek up herself... |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Belexy(m): 10:36pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
tobaseye: You are about to make one of the biggest mistakes of your life if you go ahead with that marriage. From your write-up, you obviously dont love the lady but you are forcing yourself to be with her because of your church, her family and your age. Marrying someone you are not attracted to will just make you miserable and your wife will also be miserable because its a marriage based on tolerance and not love. By the way your pastor and her family will not live with you. It will be just you and your wife. It could also be you are just scared of being tied down with marriage. Think well before you jump into it. If you know you have no feelings for the lady, please let her go so that she wont have a miserable marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by McLucas(m): 10:36pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
not all that glitters is gold they say. bros beauty without blemish is good, be but may soon fade away, a woman with good character already has inner beauty. I am not of the.opinion that you should go after what.is not attracted to you. beauty lyes in the eye of the beholder. pray for God's dirwctiom. it's never too late. |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by chairmanchairmam: 10:36pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
you are looking at the wrong thing or you are not yet matured, neither mentally nor emotionally for marriage, it is not about how many years you are, you are not yet ready, there is no law that says you must Mary this year. Do yourself and any woman a favour, go and grow up first 3 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by dickson2000(m): 11:00pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Marriage is not meant to be managed or endured rather enjoyed . " It's an institution in one's life without graduation." U have to be careful while choosing whom u want to settle with to avert weird marriage huddles. Mutual attraction is one of the keys to a successful marital life. To thrive in life, u must learn not to please people displeasing yourself. As a matter of fact, u're even finding it difficult calling her while courting which should have been the time to love-up and build a spectacular foundation to trigger a comprehensible intimacy so as to have a clear picture of how your marital life would look like. It's obviously and glaringly clear u ain't into the lady and I suggest u make her understand the earlier so u won't hurt her feelings beyond. 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by limitless777(m): 11:07pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Benita27: Benita27 U are the best. May GOD ALMIGHTY never ever seize from blessing U and all that is Urs for this more than realistic and life-sustaining guide. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Lexusgs430: 11:10pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Post from a very very confused person. You need to go on a self discovery journey. Once you discover yourself, start on the relationship scene again..... 3 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Malawian(m): 11:19pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Abeg, how many more permissions are still needed by your church before you sample wetin you dey buy? 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by auhanson(m): 11:19pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Two things implies here , "beauty" and "values", which one do you prefer? Can you take beauty that may even fade later and manage values? If the beauty eventually fade , can you still love her? Or do you prefer values and manage beauty? Perhaps, the beauty may even come later as you are enjoying the values depending on how you will groom her up. Does she have the values that can skyrocket both of you to greater height? Can you co-habit for life? If you close your eyes , can you love her values, mostly love making is in the dark, so you wouldn't see the beauty, but the values will always be there in your heart of heart when maturity set in. Another way , does the beauty have values you can co-habit with? does she loves you? If you close your eyes to that beauty(as love making most times are in the dark), could you love her for who she is? This is where maturity set in for your decision taking. It's a simple thing , don't make it look hard. No one will take this decision for you but you, its a lifetime thing. Beauty should not be the determining factor, but true values and love, if beauty comes in at the onset, then it is a plus, but that do hardly happen in most cases, other stronger factors are usually sacrificed for the beauty which may eventually lead to an enduring nightmare you may have to live with for the rest of your life. Also, in most cases the beauty may be very much hidden, when all other factors are ok, you suddenly see it sprank in a matter of time and you start thanking God that you got your choices right. Even at that, not so "beauty" too may also not have the values as well. So you are to watch out for values and love, and be sure that both of you can enhance each other to achieve your dreams in life. So, pray for divine direction, Period! 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by limitless777(m): 11:22pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
400billionman: MSBC: My Second Best Comment after Benita27's. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by danielenyinka(m): 11:26pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Pls bros go after the one ur heart want, marriage is not for pity, so put ur mind together and go after the one u want. |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by chiraqDemon(m): 11:30pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Leave ur church man....enjoy ur humanity abeg 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by limitless777(m): 11:32pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Bros you really really made me sad, angry and disappointed. it's very very ungodly, unmanly, immature, insincere and a great disservice that you will start inviting not just third party but over five hundred parties into your marrital future and life even before you start it. don't attempt a miserable life, I repeat, don't gamble with a certainly sure miserable life by "marrying" the girl you know you do not love-that will be the worst uncorrectable mistake of your life-I also put it to you that you are not ripe, ready and having the right mental soundness/attitude/mind for marriage YET. No be by age o. hmmmmm. na "marriage" you dey take gamble like this. PS: Advice when mostly needed is mostly never taken. you are on your own at the end of it all. good luck 3 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Ishilove: 11:34pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
May God keep people like the OP away from me. Tweh!! 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Kentrasso(f): 11:34pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
I'm assuming this is deeper life. My brother go and pray and ask God who you should marry. In my experience, when a deeper life guy is 30 and above and still confused and undecided it means he will not be focused in the marriage. You need to understand what you want and make up your mind to do the will of God. Be very convinced before making a move. I am not happy that you kept the other girl waiting for so long, if you have issues with how she looks now what do you expect will happen after wedding? Its late now yes but she deserves a better guy who will love and cherish her. Ask God to forgive you and let her go in peace 4 Likes |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Nobody: 11:40pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Tobaseye, pls dont marry her out of pity. Trust me, the mess in the marriage will be worse than whatever you are experiencing now. Date and Marry your family friend sharp sharp. Ditch that church girl. Marry who you have chemistry with and whose upbringing you know well. Church arrangements and rules will mislead you. Just a token from my wealth of experience |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Ishilove: 11:41pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
tobaseye:This man you are not ready for marriage. My church said... My pastor said... My church gave me permission... My friends said... I know sey na either Lord's Chosen or Deeper Life be your church. Marriage never start but you are already allowing external forces control and dictate your relationships. You had a purely physical crush on your 'girlfriend', and like most crushes, it passed away but you still allowed your church people 'persuade' you to make formal arrangements towards courtship. You're immature, forget age. You better sit down and think things through before involving your church people into you personal affairs because they won't bear the consequences of your choices with you. Sha don't hurt the poor lady you have fooled into thinking you're serious. Let her go so that a more emotionally stable and mature man will locate her. Msccheeeeeeew. 1 Like |
Re: I'm 36 Not Sure If I Love My Fiancee And I Don't Want To Cheat On My Wife. by Marrtynze(m): 11:43pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
Not sure you have sense, you are the real Confucius, you are so clueless, and stop saying you have a girlfriend 2 Likes |
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