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Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Firstcitizen: 12:37pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
Richy4: during the first six months of separation, women are more prone to symptoms of depression, poor health, loneliness, work inefficiency, insomnia, memory difficulties, and increased substance abuse. There is no one immune to that. Even as a man, the end of any relationship is followed by a period of trying to avoid the opposite sex to appraise what went wrong and how to get things back together if possible. I would only move when all hope is lost. That takes time. This reminds me a a thread about 7 years ago by a woman who lost her husband and was pregnant within 4 months and having the temerity to ask Nairalanders for advice. Jeez what is the world turning into especially Africa. Even liberal westerners are not that insensitive. This is marriage and no ball game. Marriage! not a mere dating relationship. Marriage consummated under law and sadly enough custom. Stop justifying infidelity. Anyway like my elders used to say, a woman that will cheat will cheat no matter what you do or have much love you show her.No matter how much you even watch if you become suspicious, she will find a way. Such people just do what they want to do and latter look for the other partners mistakes to justify it. Stop justifying infidelity. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Richy4(m): 1:43pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
Firstcitizen: No offense bro but you sound to me like one of the self righteous African male that have all figured it out in life...People are prone to make mistakes in life at least that's why we are all human....But I am glad you said no one was immune to being vulnerable while going through separation...Though in your earlier post you implied that women got strong will power to resist sexual advances when separated.... and the ones that doesn't have it at that stage is immoral.... I for one will never justify infidelity... but the fact that the woman in question decides to date other men when separated does not make her a promiscuous woman...U and I with the little information we got cannot tell the nature of the separation.....Some separation last for 6 years some more or less...The couple cannot put their life on hold because they were separated... The man in question, did you check if he was faithful all this while that they were separated....We are not here to accuse anyone but to look for a way forward for the OP 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Firstcitizen: 2:08pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
Richy4: No offence too but you seem like someone that will jump into bed with another as soon as you hear the word separation and even before. Let's not bring the question of whether the man was faithful or not. This thread is about the woman. If the thread of the man's faithfulness comes we will tackle it and it will be same way. If you are separated and need to start a new relationship urgently, there are ways to get a quasi divorce before the court process is through in order not to commit adultery which you seem to glorify with flimsy excuses. Check how the marriage was consummated and you will understand what I mean. Except he 'stole' his wife. Check my emphasis on that word. Extramarital sex in a marriage is bad and should be condemned not encouraged as you are doing. No matter the excuse or whom is involved whether man or woman. Stop the nonsense of separation. They were still married. Again stop encouraging infidelity. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Richy4(m): 2:36pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
Firstcitizen: Oh!!! Okay so the thread is about the woman correct?.....I am done here ......have a good day 1 Like |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Firstcitizen: 2:50pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
Richy4: Yes it is except the man asked you for advice based on his behaiviour which he clearly did not or that the wife's action was in response to his which he never told you. It is better you go off this thread with your poison before it starts rubbing off on other couples here. One problem with you Nigerians is you believe liberalism which has failed as the world turns towards more traditional values set your thinking above yourselves. I have told you it does not matter who is involved in the infidelity in marriage...it is bad and I know you ran away based on that. Desist from infidelity mr man or woman and stop looking for excuses. Have a good day |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Nobody: 4:03pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
This marriage is fuccked up! You can't be happy together with all this nonsense your head is making up. |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Nobody: 4:36pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
You said NL is the wrong place for him to bring issues like this, criticized the advice others have given and that he should be asking "elders not faceless strangers", then proceeded to "adding your own". Did you exempt yourself from being a faceless stranger or why did you add your own if this isn't the right place for him to seek advice? I doubt the elders around him would encourage him to get a DNA test done; some might not even know about it let alone suggest it to him. OP himself was only thinking about questioning his wife, as if that's the best way to get the truth. Don't discourage people from seeking advice on NL. No one here knows the OP personally, so what he'll gain here are unbiased opinions, which most people have given and it's up to him to choose the ones he'll attend to. Besides, some people don't have anyone to talk to irl, that's why they bring their issues here and there's nothing wrong with that. Firstcitizen: 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Richy4(m): 4:56pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
NotOfThis: I'm gonna email you a bottle of Coke... 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by Firstcitizen: 7:37pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
NotOfThis: I gave a candid advice not to bring such issues to faceless strangers which a wise person will take as a caveat before giving him advice which means he should take mine at his own risk. He was the one who requested. Which part do you not understand or should I say it in one of the local Nigerian languages? There are well researched reasons by experts on why people should not ask for relationship advice on the internet. I do not have the time or willing to write them here so as not to derail the thread. I will open a thread for that when I find time. Challenge your intellect at least and research it on Google. Peace. |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by hamzeiy: 10:43pm On Feb 04, 2017 |
NaWetinDey:i wonder oh..the guy is pathetic abeg... |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by TheSonOfMark(m): 11:15am On Feb 05, 2017 |
Firstcitizen:Perfect! Most cheating wives were cheating girlfriends whose men ignored the obvious signs. Never forgive a cheating partner. Nothing justifies cheating. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by SalomonKane: 11:17am On Feb 05, 2017 |
TheSonOfMark:And the remedy for a cheating partner is? |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by TheSonOfMark(m): 11:30am On Feb 05, 2017 |
SalomonKane:Break-up and move on. If I cheat my lady shouldn't forgive me and vice versa. When there's a mutual agreement to date exclusively - mostly initiated by the woman- both parties should stick to the terms. It's an 'emotional contract'. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Ask My Wife More Questions On The Paternity Of Our Kid?.please Advise. by SalomonKane: 11:54am On Feb 05, 2017 |
TheSonOfMark:Hmmm. I see... |
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