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Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 7:21pm On Jan 21, 2017
This is all about my female friend. She has a problem but she doesn't know it. She is beautiful, caring and an independent lady. My closeness with her has cemented her tryst in me up to the extent that we could discuss anything.

In the course of our discussion, she told me that she has dated a total of 3 guys all her life. All this three guys, she was the one who toasted them. Don't get me wrong. This babe is 25.she isn't loose. She said she doesn't just give the green light when she sees someone she loves, she takes the bull by the horn.

When I asked what are the tactics she deployed in getting her guys, she respond "when i see a cool guy, I'm always the one to hit the ground running.
I always the one who initiate conversation. In fact, when that didn't work, I send them series of text messages and emails. I take them out most times to exotic eatery in town. After each date I always send a ross flower to them showing how much I love them. Most times, it take me 3-6months to finish each runs. All the toasting lines, relationship skills and how to woo a guy are all in my head. I don't request for money from any of these guys. In fact, I'm the one who finances them most times."


The Problem she's having is that after wooing a guy, she can't restrain herself from dominating the relationship
Help my friend
Re: Relationship Experts Only by AlexCk: 7:27pm On Jan 21, 2017
She seems to be an alpha female.

She should try to be less dominant if she wants the relationship to work, it takes 2 to make something work well, it depends on her tho, we all make sacrifices for the ones we love, just for them to be comfortable,

She could do that.

PS: im no love expert sha, just my thought tho grin

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Re: Relationship Experts Only by pennytrate: 7:31pm On Jan 21, 2017
angry
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Obiomon: 7:39pm On Jan 21, 2017
Why lies Tomorrow is Sunday, if you clap those hands you used in typing this lies, God will look for your house angry
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 7:48pm On Jan 21, 2017
Obiomon:
Why lies Tomorrow is Sunday, if you clap those hands you used in typing this lies, God will look for your house angry
And what makes you think this is a lie?
No spoil my thread jor... Strictly for love experts
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 6:56am On Jan 22, 2017
pennytrate:
angry
Your point?
Re: Relationship Experts Only by hillsworld: 11:39pm On Jan 22, 2017
That's serious.........She definitely has to stop been domineering first of all. secondly, instead of asking them out straight away why not her just been a friend for awhile, as that would make her to be sure if she's truly in love in the first place or its just an infatuation.for more advice or opinion u can email me on remmyhills@gmail.com.
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 8:17pm On Feb 12, 2017
TheSlyone2:
This is all about my female friend. She has a problem but she doesn't know it. She is beautiful, caring and an independent lady. My closeness with her has cemented her tryst in me up to the extent that we could discuss anything.

In the course of our discussion, she told me that she has dated a total of 3 guys all her life. All this three guys, she was the one who toasted them. Don't get me wrong. This babe is 25.she isn't loose. She said she doesn't just give the green light when she sees someone she loves, she takes the bull by the horn.

When I asked what are the tactics she deployed in getting her guys, she respond "when i see a cool guy, I'm always the one to hit the ground running.
I always the one who initiate conversation. In fact, when that didn't work, I send them series of text messages and emails. I take them out most times to exotic eatery in town. After each date I always send a ross flower to them showing how much I love them. Most times, it take me 3-6months to finish each runs. All the toasting lines, relationship skills and how to woo a guy are all in my head. I don't request for money from any of these guys. In fact, I'm the one who finances them most times."


The Problem she's having is that after wooing a guy, she can't restrain herself from dominating the relationship
Help my friend

I can only coach her to be faithful to one rather than jumping from one to another.
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 8:22pm On Feb 12, 2017
thornapple:


I can only coach her to be faithful to one rather than jumping from one to another.
She wasn't jumping. Her dominance overwhelms those she dates

Is she too domineering? Or are the guys too low to her standard??

Those are her worries
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 12, 2017
TheSlyone2:
She wasn't jumping. Her dominance overwhelms those she dates
Is she too domineering? Or are the guys too low to her standard??
Those are her worries
She bankrolls the dates so the guys should stop applying African mentality.
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Abaprissy: 5:01am On Feb 13, 2017
Understanding your woman part 1

Thinking about the recent celebrity couple break ups, makes me wonder what the real issue could be.

You must know that courting a woman, no matter how long before walking her down the aisle doesn't guarantee your time to relax.

It is the beginning of a lifetime school of woman behavioural studies, which you must diligently commit yourself if you really want to have a blissful married life, without having to worry about a rising blood pressure. (mind you, I'm talking about computer age women).

And that's why I've decided to take out time to put you through. This is going to be coming in series as the Spirit leads, so you won't have to be reading epistles.

Starting with this...

1. I want you to accept the fact that all women are different.

There are sporty women, geeky women, fun-loving
women, artistic women, ambitious women, and more.

Each woman has her own personality and goals; so, please, do not generalize,cos it could be dangerous.

Example : Don't mistake one woman's behavior as a universal
female characteristic. Just because your sister doesn't
like sports doesn't mean that your new girlfriend
doesn't.

2. I think it is important you get to learn about her past, ask her about her family, and what her childhood was like. We are influenced to
some degree by the way we were brought up.

Learning these things will teach you a great deal about any woman.

But please, don't press her about these topics, as they can be
touchy. So if she doesn't want to talk about it, just let it be.

3. Observe her. The best way to understand somebody,
male or female, is to spend time with them and observe
their patterns of behavior. Doing so will teach you things
like what upsets her, what excites her, what annoys her, and
so on.

# As a woman, I tell you, we sometimes feign being upset just to see if you will notice and at least ask what the issue could be.

But sweetie, after asking, if you get the "nothing"  response, just take it like that, as that is the truth, except you want us to lie or use the opportunity to open up to you about something you did a long time ago that really annoying.

#.  When on a Sunday morning, your woman keeps hissing and throwing all her nice clothes on the bed, not being able to decide on what to wear, or complaining she doesn't have what to wear when she has over flowing boxes.

My dear, she is only trying to tell you or give you the sign that you need to surprise her soonest with a lovely dress, not even necessarily necessarily you giving her money to do so herself.

Note: have it at the back of your mind, that you'd probably spend the rest of your life trying to understand a woman.

Hope I didn't waste your time.

Visit my blog @abaprissy..com
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 7:09am On Feb 13, 2017
thornapple:


She bankrolls the dates so the guys should stop applying African mentality.
Yes, she bankroll the dates but to a very large extent, her dominance could render her guy inferior and toothless...

In an ideal Society, men are suppose to be in charge. That's how it works around here. Men are termed all kinda names when they can't take responsibility in their marriage or relationship.

This would have made a perfect sense if this lady, though wealthy finds a way to get her guys at the realm of authority by being submissive...

African mentality like you did said is factor mitigating against the success of relationship. In the western world, anyone can fuel a relationship. Take the marriage between Maria Carey and Nick Canon as a case study...

In spite of this mitigating factor, men deserve some sense of respect. Money, wealth and financial stability shouldn't be the only factor that commands respect in relationships..

My point exactly, if a lady is the most buoyant, she shouldn't pride her self. She should give the guy some room to operate. Her dominance shouldn't radiate to the outside world.
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 5:37am On Feb 14, 2017
TheSlyone2:

Yes, she bankroll the dates but to a very large extent, her dominance could render her guy inferior and toothless...

In an ideal Society, men are suppose to be in charge. That's how it works around here. Men are termed all kinda names when they can't take responsibility in their marriage or relationship.

This would have made a perfect sense if this lady, though wealthy finds a way to get her guys at the realm of authority by being submissive...

African mentality like you did said is factor mitigating against the success of relationship. In the western world, anyone can fuel a relationship. Take the marriage between Maria Carey and Nick Canon as a case study...

In spite of this mitigating factor, men deserve some sense of respect. Money, wealth and financial stability shouldn't be the only factor that commands respect in relationships..

My point exactly, if a lady is the most buoyant, she shouldn't pride her self. She should give the guy some room to operate. Her dominance shouldn't radiate to the outside world.
I quite agree with you on so many points.
This has made me add a new topic to my list, highlighting men's superiority complex. grin
Re: Relationship Experts Only by harffie(m): 6:06am On Feb 14, 2017
The problem is her... I mean subconsciously the dominating character kicks in because of her spendings. It might uncontrollable I guess, I'd advise her to take charge less than before and let the guy be a guy.
Re: Relationship Experts Only by Nobody: 7:38am On Feb 14, 2017
thornapple:

I quite agree with you on so many points.
This has made me add a new topic to my list, highlighting men's superiority complex. grin
Good

Will check it out

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