Thank you all for your advice...God help me...thank you and God bless you...

Maaamaaa:


I sent a mail but it bounced back..

aiit check your mail I pmd you.

Ehen I remembered many mamas warned her not to marry him @onegai too! But she no listen. She knew he had someone b4 she met him still yet she chook head. It's sad! @ 25years she could have gotten someone who will adore her. Marriage no bi rush rush something.

ladecrown:

I have to login to comment on your issue. Let us call a spade a spade, you need to grow up. I see no reason why you post here when you won't listen to reasonable advice. You were warned before entering it. I remember commenting on your post then but you never listened.
I know some people will say I sound HARSH but if you followed this her posts you will know she really need someone to talk sense to her.

AlphaHandMaiden:


I started from 3 months, although it was because i just felt a bit overwhelmed with being a new mom, and i had like 10 packs of disposables as gifts so decided to use those first.
You can use them from birth, and there are even tiny sizes for pre-term babies or newborns with low birth weights.


There are many cloth diaper brands out there, there are popular US and UK brands which are what i have but Wamby is practically the only Naija brand that seem to know what they are talking about regarding modern cloth diapers. i.e they are not just selling for selling sake, they genuinely know their products and what works, with tips and ideas on how to use cloth diapers.


Cloth diapers all come in different styles for instance All-in-ones, All-in-twos, pocket diapers, Fitted diapers, flats, inserts, covers/ wraps... etc etc but in essence you get an absorbent part and a waterproof part.

For the one(s) you have, post a few pictures and i will know what type it is before i can tell you how it works.

Thanks a lot. I am not at home but i browsed the web and was able to come up with a picture that looks like it. Is there a website or a writeup that i can read up about the different types of cloth diapers so that i can make up my mind? I want to go cloth. And if you know good UK brands that are not too pricey, let me know as well.

Naomi14:
Ehen I remembered many mamas warned her not to marry him @onegai too! But she no listen. She knew he had someone b4 she met him still yet she chook head. It's sad! @ 25years she could have gotten someone who will adore her. Marriage no bi rush rush something.

E don do ooo, plz lets stop blaming her so shshe doesn't feel worse....

AlphaHandMaiden:


My Opinion:
dont get too many newborns because you don't know how big your baby will be and it will be out grown before you blink.

Dont waste your money buying any outing clothes that is less than 3 months. - most babies live in vests and sleepsuits and they don't go out much in the first 3 months. however you may want to get something nice for baptism or dedication if you know you will do it before 3 months.
".. but what about naming?" i hear you ask. Have you ever seen anything more than a baby's face at the naming?, at 8 days old, they are all wrapped up so no one will see the clothes underneath the blanket/ shaw. just get a nice blanket for the photos.

Consider how often you will bath the baby and how often you want to do laundry and that will guide you.

For instance- f you want to do laundry like once a week i would say about 10 vests and 10 bodysuits at any one time. however if you want to bath baby twice a day - due to nigerian heat, then you may need to double or at least add half that number to about 15 to 20

may be 3 in newborn size; and 7 in 0-3 months

then when they out grow that you can get:

3 no 3-6 months and 7 no 6-9 months
you really don't want to be buying a new set every 3 months, so you can reduce the number of 3-6 months and get more 6-9 months, as they will grow into it and you will use them for longer)

from about 6 months, note they will be wearing other clothes so you may want to reduce the Bodysuits for nighttime only, but the vests will be used day and night, and also on their own if the weather is too hot. they are also more mobile so you will want to cut down on the oversized sleepsuits so they dont trip or fall so

7 no 9-12 months - sleep suits, 10 no 12-18 months vests - the vests sleeves can be rolled up if long sleeve.

Other cloths like dresses, tops, trousers etc, you can get no more than 4 at any one time for outing, - most likely for church on sunday or the odd party. and always have atlleast 2 of them a size up. because you can wake up one fine Sunday morning and bring out your 3-6 month fancy dress, and 4-5 your months old daughter has outgrown it.

For house clothes - see how you get on, after like 3 -6 months you will have an idea of how many to buy


get plenty bibs, i ended up having at least 20! you will use like 3 a day on a good day! had only 7 initially and i ended up hand washing every second day to be able to keep up.

Don't buy too many mittens - they always seem to fall off, and get lost. getting the ones with good elastic is ridiculously hard. alternative is to use baby stocks instead - it never falls off. so you may want buy more of the socks.

For the cot, a bassinet is your best bet - they last till about 6 months, they can be dismantled when done, some even have castors so you can easily move them from one room to the other. some also double as a rocker so you can rock the bassinet ...... very useful feature.

if you want something longer lasting and more versatilte, and if you have space in your house, i would say get a travel cot, most can be used for a long time about 9 or 12 months i think and some can be transformed into a play pen when baby is too big to sleep in them. you also get the benefit of them being collapsible and you can easily carry it with you if you are travelling e.g - a weekend at grandma's. you can also get a mosquito net and lay over the top.

hope this helps.

sorry i sabi write plenty.

Thanks a lot for the detailed reply. I think I've bought enough for now then. I think I can afford to go back to the market when she's like 2 months old, atleast then I'd know her size and growth capacity I bought a dozen bibs and some preggy women at the store were exclaiming like I've bought too much, then God my friend insisted it wasn't too much.

mofy1:
Good morning mama's is there any pregnant mama here that took lipton tea while/when pregnant. Becos that's the only tea that can pass through my throat 4 now. Though I do add a lot of milk to it with little sugar. Pls I need advice from mama's who has taken it b4. Edd june.

i took lipton tea wen i had my first pregnancy.d effect was it made my baby small nd underweight. i am eating balance diet nd fruita nd taking beverage in moderation.i.e not all the time

Flowerlady01:
Hmmm.


U are not the first woman to enter her husband's house through pregnancy. You won't be the last. Some were able to make it work later on. If you want to leave, fine. But me thinks with wisdom and calmness, you can make it work since you are already in. And I repeat, dont harm urself or ur child. Its not worth it.

You said it all o. She is not the 1st to enter marriage tru pregnancy. She is even 25years sef, me I never even reach that age ko o yet no matter the circumstances, I cannever lock my husband outside (for marriage wey I still they push to work out to avoid mockery the more). The battles I have fought for my marriage at my age, ex issues, ladies, finance, violence to mention but a few but prayers kept me and to the glory of God, I have overcomed close to all of those my initial problems. I no believe say I go survive my 1st year of marriage. Now I can proudly say I know the right button to press for my dh. I believe some of the maamas here have seen my husband, very young man wey babes still dey chyke but all my fears are all in the past cuz with Jesus I hv learnt his button and everyday grows better.
Now would I have seen this happiness if I quit earlier cuz of the numerous issues I once had? hell No.
Maamaa, I walked in your shoes if not worst today am a testimony and you too can! sit up for that marriage cuz this man you married na ur clear eye u use go say I do even though belle 1st enter.
You said u aint a virtous woman, nobody is good either. Me I had a son outside wedlock before I even got pregnant for my dh that ended in marriage, so who con bad pass!
Kill yourself, kill your child will not stop my clock from ticking neither will it make your man change nor miss you when you are no more. Sit up on your marriage biko, you are old enough for it.

Maaamaaa:
My parents believe in endurance...

Im supposed to reason this out but i actually dont know what to do...i'm really confused...

Please, if youve experienced this or you know someone, please i want to talk with you

You can reach me alegubenny@gmail.com will drop my number via pm.

blank:


Thanks a lot. I am not at home but i browsed the web and was able to come up with a picture that looks like it. Is there a website or a writeup that i can read up about the different types of cloth diapers so that i can make up my mind? I want to go cloth. And if you know good UK brands that are not too pricey, let me know as well.

You can read the following write-ups, it covers all the basics and quite informative

http://mameandboo..co.uk/2016/12/cloth-diapering-101.html


http://mameandboo..co.uk/2016/12/cloth-diapering-101-part-2-inserts.html


http://mameandboo..co.uk/2017/01/diaper-102-pockets-prefolds-and-inserts.html



the UK brands i have range from little lambs, grovia, tot bots and bambino mio.

"Not too pricey" is quite a relative term, as at when i bought mine two years ago, there were no good naija alternatives with a decent range of products and sound knowledge on how to cloth diaper, the average price was like £12 -£17 for each, and i have over 30 diapers the prices haven't gone up much however the exchange rate was not this crazy. i do not regret buying them for one second but fastforward to now with a year off work, a much leaner bank account , and the knowledge i have gained in the process of using cloth nappies ....... lets just say my choices - will be quite different

Maaamaaa:
My parents believe in endurance...

Im supposed to reason this out but i actually dont know what to do...i'm really confused...

Please, if youve experienced this or you know someone, please i want to talk with you

Are you ready to listen?

hunniesuzie:
Buy Graco pack and play. I shared a picture a few pages back. When I get home I'll share a pic of how it looks packed. You can take it from room to room or even for long visits to someones house.

Clothes sha take it easy. People will still gift you stuff and you can buy as you go along. I bought very few 0-3 and focused more on 3-6. Can't remember the exact quantity

Yeah taking it from room to room is a compulsory feature for whatever I end up buying. How much did it cost, let me stalk your old pages and look for a picture.

EDIT: Ok, Ive seen it, 45k , it looks worth it sha. Do I still have to buy a mattress for it? How do you put a mosquito net over it? Is there any part of it that can be detached and placed on a bed for the baby to sleep in, is that what the napper is? Sorry for the plenty questions

AlphaHandMaiden:


You can read the following write-ups, it covers all the basics and quite informative

http://mameandboo..co.uk/2016/12/cloth-diapering-101.html


http://mameandboo..co.uk/2016/12/cloth-diapering-101-part-2-inserts.html


http://mameandboo..co.uk/2017/01/diaper-102-pockets-prefolds-and-inserts.html



the UK brands i have range from little lambs, grovia, tot bots and bambino mio.

"Not too pricey" is quite a relative term, as at when i bought mine two years ago, there were no good naija alternatives with a decent range of products and sound knowledge on how to cloth diaper, the average price was like £12 -£17 for each, and i have over 30 diapers the prices haven't gone up much however the exchange rate was not this crazy. i do not regret buying them for one second but fastforward to now with a year off work, a much leaner bank account , and the knowledge i have gained in the process of using cloth nappies ....... lets just say my choices - will be quite different

Gotcha. I hear you very loud and clear. Thanks.

Hello all pushing mama and others.

Congratulations to all the mamas that have delivered.

How the ministry dey go?

It was a bit funny last week when i was on a BRT queue in lagos and someone said "Madam, no queue na, just go and buy ticket and enter, pregnant women no dey queue".
I was a bit confused and did as if i wasnt listening until she said "Hajia na you i dey talk to now, no be belle be dis?"

I just said, thank you , the queue is already moving. but in me , i was surprised because i did not even know i was showing yet at around 13+ week.

Another one
This days i feel more headaches and even if i lie down to relax, within 30 mins , i'll be feeling body pains and so uncomfortable. I dont know the cause. This mama, anyone with similar experience?

#TeamAugust, How dey go, dey do Hope the morning sickness is reducing now as some of us have migrated to second trimester.
Wishing us all a smooth and stressfree pregnancy jorney.
Oyun anibi, Omo Abiye oooooooooo insha Allah

Lol. It's OK. I did my research wella too. Also a friend used it before me. She still uses the playpen part now sef
No mattress. I bought a cot net that should fit. No part can be placed on the bed oh, the napper must still be attached to use it. Except you buy those 5/6k covered things that people place on bed. I've attached a pic of it packed to go.

You can check on Amazon for different reviews. Also Jazzyjazz bought it and she can help us chook mouth since I'm sure she would have launched her own by now

Giddyperson:

Yeah taking it from room to room is a compulsory feature for whatever I end up buying. How much did it cost, let me stalk your old pages and look for a picture.

EDIT: Ok, Ive seen it, 45k , it looks worth it sha. Do I still have to buy a mattress for it? How do you put a mosquito net over it? Is there any part of it that can be detached and placed on a bed for the baby to sleep in, is that what the napper is? Sorry for the plenty questions

Am not blaming her. Many mamas took time to explain to her why getting married to the man will be a wrong decision. Am just saying she should have listened then. @Maaamaaa, If you want to leave the marriage then fine! but don't even think of suicide. But I think you should start praying to God to intervene and help your marriage so it can work out.

katchycouture:



E don do ooo, plz lets stop blaming her so shshe doesn't feel worse....

WambyDiapers:


Hello. If we may chip in ,

Wamby Diapers is Nigerian owned and Nigerian-made (at least 50% of our stock).

Thank you

I get it now. Was wondering why the hype. I don't like feeling like i am being shepherded into making a decision. Let me browse through your blog and try to become an expert on the topic.

My dear, I know that this is a faceless forum. Can you pls send me your number. I would like to speak with you. Suicide is not the best option my sister.thank you. Waiting for your response

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

gurlnext2u:
My dear, I know that this is a faceless forum. Can you pls send me your number. I would like to speak with you. Suicide is not the best option my sister.thank you. Waiting for your response

Did you get it?

Hello teamie. Lol... At 16 weeks, I'm hardly showing o, maybe ftm things sha. Can't wait to start showing, I can't pass a mirror without checking my tommy out. At least lemme see evidence that LO is actually there and growing. Morning sickness has reduced but some days still dey get as e be for me o. I can also relate with that body pain issue o. I always return from work wasted and very tired. Infact, night sleep has also been a luxury as I can hardly find a comfortable position to relax in. Lying on my tommy or on my side with a pillow in between my legs seem to work for me a bit.

Aameen to all your prayers o. I wish you same too, bi ithnillah.

ToyosiR:
Hello all pushing mama and others.

Congratulations to all the mamas that have delivered.

How the ministry dey go?

It was a bit funny last week when i was on a BRT queue in lagos and someone said "Madam, no queue na, just go and buy ticket and enter, pregnant women no dey queue".
I was a bit confused and did as if i wasnt listening until she said "Hajia na you i dey talk to now, no be belle be dis?"

I just said, thank you , the queue is already moving. but in me , i was surprised because i did not even know i was showing yet at around 13+ week.

Another one
This days i feel more headaches and even if i lie down to relax, within 30 mins , i'll be feeling body pains and so uncomfortable. I dont know the cause. This mama, anyone with similar experience?

#TeamAugust, How dey go, dey do Hope the morning sickness is reducing now as some of us have migrated to second trimester.
Wishing us all a smooth and stressfree pregnancy jorney.
Oyun anibi, Omo Abiye oooooooooo insha Allah

Please i need to get this net....uyo and phcity mothers..please any idea...

I took lipton tea thru out my pregnancy (later switched to top tea). It helped with my nausea as I experienced it the whole 9 months. I took at most 2 cups a day. I also ate healthy! Lots of fruits! I also used lots of milk in the tea. My baby weighed 3.7kg at birth.


Just take in moderation pls. What works for A may not work for B

mofy1:
Good morning mama's is there any pregnant mama here that took lipton tea while/when pregnant. Becos that's the only tea that can pass through my throat 4 now. Though I do add a lot of milk to it with little sugar. Pls I need advice from mama's who has taken it b4. Edd june.

Errrrr
Send me a pm so I can give u my number so we can whatsapp and I can share photos. Cant do that here right now. My pikin de fight with my breast

Giddyperson:
I've finally bought my baby things, atleast most of it, now remaining all the big money ones like cots, car seat.
I want a cot that's very portable, small size, and that can be dismantled and folded up when the baby is no longer using it. Any suggestions?
I don't still think I'm done with clothes tho.
Someone should please tell me what's the realistic quantity of clothes to buy, and their sizes. For instance, how many new born, how many 3-6 and how many 6-9. I don't want to have too few that we'd be doing wash and wear , or too many that she would outgrow the clothes before she even gets to wear them.

cc Jazzyjazz, beeblossoms, Zaynie

jazzyjazz:
Errrrr
Send me a pm so I can give u my number so we can whatsapp and I can share photos. Cant do that here right now. My pikin de fight with my breast

Lool, thanks, I just went on amazon and read so much about the play pen. I think it's one of my top options now, unless I get to the market and find something cuter

Thank you Cappo. Went to my private clinic today and my BP is back to normal. The toothache is still there o. They said its pregnancy induced so my hope of eating meat and fish is till August. For now, na egg get me. How is every one here doing? Congrats @omoloulah on the birth of baby Janelle. #TeamJulyForNoLoss. #TeamJulyForNoPainDelivery

phlakkeys:


You are highly welcome to #TeamJulyforsupernaturaldelivery. Your name and EDD will be added.

You, Enkaylala2 and suremum are sharing same EDD

@ spiceeamiee hope you are good. How are you copying with no/low salt and maggi stuff? How far with your toothache and hope you are resting well?

@ nana228, Niyyah, and missmalachi, where art thou?

@ lululuv how far with the preparation? I beg no too stress yourself ooo. In everything, always put your baby first. We will not "suffer" in vain. God will continue to strengthen you and the day shall be glorious.

Teamies, please, let's remember lululuv in our prayers. Her wedding is in a month's time.

PRAYER POINTS FOR PREGNANCY AND SAFE DELIVERY

1. We thank You Heavenly Father for conception and for the pregnancy so far, so glorious. (Psalm 128:3)

2. We thank God because God is able to keep whatever is committed into His hands, even all of us in this family, including our expected baby in Jesus Christ Name. (2 Timothy 1:12)

3. O God whose work is beyond human calculations and comprehension, take control of this pregnancy in all ramification in Jesus Christ Name. (Ecclesiastes 11:5)

4. O God, perfect every formation (bones, joints and all parts) of this foetus in Jesus Christ Name, Amen! (Ecclesiastes 11:5)


5. Father, we have confidence in You and we declare thou God of all powers will perfect all that concerns

our expected baby(ies) in the powerful Name of Jesus Christ! (Phil. 1:6)

6. The day of delivery of our baby(ies) shall come to pass perfectly, bringing forth joy and celebration in Jesus Christ Name. (Isaiah 66:5)

7. On the day of delivery, my birth canal (cervix and vaginaa) shall open easily in Jesus Christ Name. (Isaiah 66:7)

8. I am not an Egyptian woman, the lot of Egyptian women shall not be my lot in Jesus Christ Name. (Exodus 1:19)

9. I am a bonafide child of God, the blood of Jesus runs in my veins, I am living and lively, therefore, I shall deliver safely in Jesus Christ Name. (Exodus 1:19)

10. I overcome every evil associated with delivery by the blood of Jesus Christ. (Revelation 12:11)

11. I shall put to bed like the Hebrew women, to God’s glory in Christ Jesus, Amen!

12. The doctors, nurses and other health workers that shall attend to me shall be filled with the Spirit of God and shall be helpful, not antagonistic towards me, in Jesus Christ Name, I pray. (Exodus 1:21)

13. I pray that the blood of Jesus will purify the delivery room and every instrument that will be used for my delivery in Jesus Christ Name, I pray. (1 John 1:7)

14. Father Lord, I thank You for the assurance of answered prayers in Jesus Christ Name, Psalm 95:2

15. Father Lord, we desire that in this pregnancy, delivery and every other aspect of my family life, You will take control and take all the glory in Jesus Christ Name (Philippians 4:20)

AMEN!!!

All I want right now is to carry my daughter... getting tired already. But baby don't come now till u are fully baked.

Okay.

Giddyperson:

Lool, thanks, I just went on amazon and read so much about the play pen. I think it's one of my top options now, unless I get to the market and find something cuter

spiceeamiee:
Thank you Cappo. Went to my private clinic today and my BP is back to normal. The toothache is still there o. They said its pregnancy induced so my hope of eating meat and fish is till August. For now, na egg get me. How is every one here doing? Congrats @omoloulah on the birth of baby Janelle. #TeamJulyForNoLoss. #TeamJulyForNoPainDelivery

Am happy to read that your bp is ok now. God will perfect the toothache. It's well with us #TeamJuly.

Wow! Wow! Wow! I am late to this post and I wanted to waka pass on this comment and all others that you have made but nahh. Aunty Judy Judgina that knows how to keep a home, care to teach us?? This lady has only talked about one thing but for her to be frustrated and angry to the point of locking out her husband, did you consider that this is not the only thing he may have done to anger her and she is just at the end of her endurance rope? You have not even asked her any questions, you have quickly jumped on the bandwagon to criticize her. People like you are the ones who ask women suffering from domestic violence "what did you do that made him beat you". So much for being your sister's keeper.

Flowerlady01:

Clap for yourself.
If I were your husband, I will send you back to your parents house immediately to learn how to keep a home. And you will only return on your knees. That is if I ever change my mind and take you back.
Women breaking their homes with their hands since Bible days.

Hey hun. Squishy e-hugs to you. I will not pretend to understand what you are going through but if you have someone trustworthy around you that you and your husband can talk to and that will offer sensible advice, then I think you guys should do that. On the other hand, you may take a little time out, go stay somewhere for a few days to clear you head and mind but please know that in all of this, your health and the health of your baby is of utmost importance. Stay strong love. This too shall pass.

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

spiceeamiee:
Wow! Wow! Wow! I am late to this post and I wanted to waka pass on this comment and all other is not the only thing he may have done to anger her and she is just at the end of her endurance...

Yimu.
See your mouth
Go and lock your husband outside next time you are at the end of your endurance rope.
Then come back and tell us how he and his family members thanked you. Nonsense.
Is that how to handle a man that you are trying to live with peacefully? You don't know men like peace and respect? You too clap for urself o. Better adviser.