Berbierklaus:

I don't know about marriage but I know you setting a very bad example for your daughter as a mother..

Children learn more by seeing and hearing not what they are told to do

henryhemon:
Hi

chy4luv:
Why should I be the one to always keep quiet why can't he do the same especially knowing my time. This is what annoys me. He is 11yrs older than me but shows no atom of maturity.

Berbierklaus:

Hello

henryhemon:


Don't know if it's the picture colour or are you dark in complexion? But I must say how beautiful you are n can we be friends? Real friends not virtual friends.

Berbierklaus:

I am chocolate in complexion,this is a black and white picture. Thanks for your compliments
How is the friendship thing supposed to work though?

henryhemon:


Could start with if you agree to share PM with me then I could get your contact Which mustn't be your phone number but any chat app.

Berbierklaus:

Okay,I await your PM

Berbierklaus:

Okay,I await your PM

henryhemon:

Haven't got a response as yet.

chy4luv:
These arguments are usually around my period. I suffer from pre menstrual syndrome. He knows that. I really dont wanna be on medication for that. don't look for my trouble two to one week before my period, I feel very irritable. My period came this morning. I came back to work this afternoon and told him. He said waoo and no arguments well done. That i don't take nonsense when I am on my period . Little did I know we will be quarrelling in less than 2 hrs.

juman:
Madam you are the one destroying your home.
Your husband is a lion, you should be a goat not a trouble maker.

Presently you are the trouble maker heating up the relationship.

austin2all:
Madam i'm 99% sure that you are a troublesome woman. And you know its true.

baby124:
Lol, OP has a good husband and she is a nag. OP your husband runs away from you when you start your fight. That should tell you your approach and way of fighting does not work for him. Study him and find a new way.

Study him?...Ten years should have given her 2 PhDs of any course about her man ...She needs an anger management therapist...

UIA04:



But a goat iss Stubborn na

Berbierklaus:

I replied since,check again

kweenkong:
Madam all marriages go through this at some point especially in the early years so it isn't strange. Now to this yours is strange because 1) you have married for 10yrs and you still argue this much. Infact mine stopped at relationship level.
2) you are both temperamental
3) your period that will stay around for a long time controls ur marriage. You know it is a problem yet he should be the one to understand not you working on ur pms.
4) you really need to deal with ur issues first before you try to deal with his.


Kindly learn to keep quiet when he gets all arguing and upset.

Learn to pass ur point across without throwing shades at him.

When he does something irrational like leaving you in the car when he is upset. Discuss it when he is calmer probably days after and no need to insult him. You can say '' Babe I know you love me and the kids but imagine if something happened that day you left us in the car just because you were angry for a while. " make him promise to always take deep breaths before taking an action and you need to learn that also.

And don't ever mention the word separation unless you are really ready to follow through

chy4luv:
These arguments are usually around my period. I suffer from pre menstrual syndrome. He knows that. I really dont wanna be on medication for that. don't look for my trouble two to one week before my period, I feel very irritable. My period came this morning. I came back to work this afternoon and told him. He said waoo and no arguments well done. That i don't take nonsense when I am on my period . Little did I know we will be quarrelling in less than 2 hrs.

chy4luv:
Why should I be the one to always keep quiet why can't he do the same especially knowing my time. This is what annoys me. He is 11yrs older than me but shows no atom of maturity.

ipobbigot7:
Madam i will start by correcting the idea of you threaten your maraiage with seperation unless you really wish for it.

The two of you should accept responsibility for the roles you play in the quarrels and start making deliberate efforts in first correcting your attitude, manner of response and approach, perspective of each other, disposition and level of tolerance.

It's not just you alone your hubby as well, before either of you could correct the other you have to first correct yourself because what either of you bring in to the relationship is what you get from the other. You want respect start giving respect, you wants to be understood try understanding him or her, you want to be tolerated start tolerating, you want to be addressed with soft tone start using soft tone.

You two should resolve that no issue will rise without talking it out. Above all give priority to God in the marriage, let His love and his fear rule.

chy4luv:


Thanks for this. Everyone here thinks am a troublesome woman. Both of us are culprits here. When I said I also give him my own share of trouble, I meant I can't keep quiet because I feel irritated and my tolerance level tends to be low at that time of the month. Why won't my husband pass his message across without shouting? And this is when I also flare up. Why don't he talk calmly to me at least in those periods or try not to raise his voice knowing fully well that i will flare up at that period. This is a medical practitioner and therefore he should know better. I have tried to describe everything so that I can get a good advice which is what I seek. In life is good to be fair. There is no point coming here painting my husband bad when I know two saints cannot make a wrong(both of us are responsible). That I suffer from PMS doesn't mean I go about looking for trouble. I don't look for anyone's trouble but I find it hard taking s.h.it I would have normally overlooked.