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Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 9:20pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
I pulled same d.umb stunt on a ''marine'' lady & guess what?.... My being alive today is by the special grace of d almighty! 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nwaoma198(f): 9:25pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by vicben27(m): 9:28pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
women are emotional beings no matter how much u tell dem d relationship! wont lead to marriage dy tend to stay hopeful i've bein in dis situation many times i knw hw it feels bro if u aint gona wife her jst free her! 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by sekem: 9:28pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
Harbosede02: Ha ha ha You are a female na, so I don't even expect you to understand. But if you are dating that guy right now with the hope that it must end in marriage, please just go and ask him now to be very sure so as to avoid stories that touch. You think it is that easy to decide whom to marry abi? Well, like I said, you are a female so I don't even expect you to understand. |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 9:33pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
2dugged: So true sis who wants to be doing Lord of the Rings in this economy lol |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 9:37pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:I tire for the op o 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by LordAdam16: 9:41pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
Charlentine: I think I have a valid point to make on this topic because I'm a moderate alexes. I'm not a complete alexes like this guy, but I'm a guy who reads and watch movies about love, but never gets it. Marriage sounds like a sh*tty arrangement (no offense to married folks), and I scoff when I see pre-wedding photos. I'm like this man laughing with glee with his wife-to-be could be her killer tomorrow. The majority of females in the US who die are killed by guys they're in a relationship with (as a gf or as a wife). Alexithymia does have it's good sides, I'm a pragmatic humanist and a brutal realist. But it can be an awful curse in a sea of emotional no-holds-barred homo sapiens. And that brings me to my main point. No matter how many times you tell a lady you don't want to marry her, it wouldn't stop her from falling in love and getting hostile when you remind her of your existing agreement. It doesn't matter if she's intelligent or dumb, a NASA scientist or a marketwoman, a 70 yr old or a 15 yr old, an introvert or an extrovert, a mel or a san. Your ex was an exception not the rule. And I'll know because I've NEVER being in a romantic relationship with anyone. I haven't dated anyone, and right now, wouldn't even if I had a gun to my head. Ladies, regardless of age, intelligence, or personality, are as fickle as the wind. They are only as reliable as a speck of dust in a hurricane. Which is evident by the fact that more than 80% of the ladies who read your account (most of them def educated), didn't even care to understand your position. F*ck a lady more than once, and if you are cool, with good looks, and a bit of cash, she'll already be imagining her wedding night with you. You don't even have to date her. I know because it has happened to me severally. Before I said, you know what, f*ck this, I don't have the time, energy or will to pander to people whose self-confidence and decision-making ability are about the size of a pea. Maybe it's the Nigerian factor, maybe it is a female thing. But I don't have reason to believe that it's either of those things. Marriage doesn't need to be a ceremony for the whites, so yeah the girl could ask you to just wife her on the road with an eligible clergyman, court person or JP on a lunch break. And clearly, the majority of males on this thread too have shown to not have simple comprehension abilities too. Being honest and straightforward in all ramifications is worthless. That's why the Yoruba demons don't care. Convince her she's the only one and break her heart when you're done with her. Because whether you are honest with her from the start, she'll still see an expected end as a messy breakup. So, why bother yourself? For me tho', I can't go through that hoop. Sounds like taking a flight from Lagos to London, then from London to Abuja, when I could just take a direct ticket from Lagos to Abuja. And I like to respect ladies even tho' they evidently don't respect themselves enough. So, I'm not going to tell you what to do. You're an adult. But I'm going to tell you this for a fact. Even if you gist a girl. Tell her there's no chance in hell that the relationship will end in marriage. And she agrees. Weeks or months down the line, she'll still fall in love (I don't know how to explain this, the closest I can get is that humans like to have what they can't get) and hope she can change your mind to marry her. And every time you tell her no (basically reiterating what you've told her since day 1), you'll just make her more desperate and hostile. And God help you the day she snaps. She could destroy your house or worse maim/kill you (whether it's an acid or a knife to the chest). I'm incapable of loving a lady, so I don't NEED to maintain relationships whether platonic or romantic. It's physiologic, so I have it easy. For you and several other guys, all I can say is, be careful. This is one instance where HONESTY IS A BAD POLICY THAT CAN POTENTIALLY RUIN YOUR LIFE. Unless you find an exceptionally lady, which as you've probably figured out is rare and there's no way of knowing if she'll be an exception before you go all in. Obiwannn: There is a huge difference between what people read and what they understand. It is actually a phenomenon. Read this BBC future article on the spread of ignorance. That article is just a foundation. The majority of humans are zombies. I don't mean post-apocalyptic zombies in the movies. I mean healthy, educated zombies with jobs and families. And politicians, social engineers, advertisers, and marketers know this is the world's best kept secret. The person you quoted def read the OP, but s/he comprehended something different. What s/he read was interpreted differently in her brain. And even if it was interpreted correctly, it doesn't stop s/he from still having a distorted view point. It could very well be that s/he doesn't care if the OP said it pointedly clear that he wasn't interested in marriage from the get-go. S/he is probably disillusioned that it is not possible for anyone to say that or for anyone to really mean that, and that maybe it was a ploy by the OP to eat his cake and have it. And that the lady in the OP was manipulated, basically a victim of circumstance (despite her being a full healthy and educated adult capable of even co-managing a business with the OP). The human brain is a marvel really, a bloody sick twisted marvel. To your other post about ladies virtually painting something bad despite several good references simply because they did not have her way, that is another FACT. Have you looked at the divorce stats in the Western world? Or the near divorces that people call "happy marriages" in Nigeria with regular third-party mediation. Most ladies want to have their way or raise hell. They'd change the narrative, do anything humanly possible to make sure they f*ck you over if you don't let them have their way. And if that includes tagging a beautiful relationship with terrific history as a mistake on a whim, then so be it. There are exceptions, but everyone has a limit. A girl who you think is understanding you may just be piling it all up, waiting for that perfect moment to pounce on you with the favorite--I've been managing... (don't need to finish it, you get the point). Seriously, you look at the female gender and if you're a creationist, you ask the question, why did God even bother? Like did Adam complain that he was lonely? There are animals that can reproduce without mating. So the reproduction reason does not fly. God created women to f*ck men up, and they've done a pretty good job, starting from the Apple. -Lord 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Obiwannn: 9:43pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
Charlentine: Emotions! Exactly. The ladies who have control of their emotions are indeed very few. |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nofuckgiven: 9:47pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
This is why I love guys like Flavor and Davido who would let you know from the onset that marriage is not in the picture for them! Wetin concern us if she deal with you OP? Abi you tell us when you dey enjoy her puna?? |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by LordAdam16: 10:01pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
2dugged: So a guy walks up to you. Tells you he isn't ready for marriage but wants to date you (note he didn't say, let's date and see where this goes, he was straightforward from the start). You had the option to say no (if you felt like finishing 12 rounds from an M-16 on him) or yes (if you agreed). Then you said YES. Then some weeks or months later, you start pestering him to marrying you. Then he reminds you of what you agreed to, and tells you you're free to go if the relationship no longer works for you. And then you threaten to raise hell. What the f*ck are you, if not a complete unstable lunatic? Let me tell you what it sounds like. It sounds like you and one of your numerous platonic male friends agreeing from the get-go that a romantic relationship wasn't on the cards. Then over time, this guy gets so mesmerized by you that he starts disturbing you to date him. But you'd made it and keep making it clear that you aren't willing to go down that route. Then instead of the guy putting a kibosh on his interest and deciding if he still wants to maintain the platonic relationship or give you the cold shoulder, he resorts to HOSTILITY. What would you call the guy? I know. A stalker, a weirdo, a psycho, an unstable sh*thead or some other creative term you ladies are great at conjuring up. If you guys want to be treated as adults or to be respected for who you are (and not to be seen as a weaker sex/gender), then you guys have to start acting like it. If you can't imagine dating a guy who isn't ready for marriage. Don't date him. If he says he isn't ready for marriage and wouldn't be in the foreseeable future, don't tell him yes when you have a sinister plan of trying to rein on him later. That is EVIL. Tell him NO. How hard is that to do? You guys do it every day to countless guys. There is no excuse for leading a guy on, on a false premise, basically lying from the get go, then turn around and play the victim card. That just plays into the "treat ladies as dirt" narrative, because clearly you guys don't even know or value respect and straightforwardness even if it's stapled on your foreheads. You are more intelligent than this. From some other skirt, I'll not mind. But you? I wouldn't say it's unexpected, I'd just say it's a shame. -Lord 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Lankyscot(m): 10:33pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
Charlentine: Na Only You Come Here Begin Ask For Our Opinion,Person Dey Give You Her Opinion,You Dey Form Voltron Defender Of The Universe....Na Wa! |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by TheGreatIYANU: 10:44pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
I closed your thread after reading not wanting to reply, but for posterity sake and other guys out there who date girls 'for fun', you are a FOOL if you engage another human being emotionally only to dump her along the way. My friend if it was your plan from the start to dump her as soon as you get what you wanted (whatever it is) YOU ARE A BIG FOOL! Seun can ban me now. Relationships are meant to be HONOURED! Every type of relationship is meant to be honoured and if you cannot honour a relationship that is supposed to lead to a final destination, again, YOU ARE A FOOL! You are the type of guys who make ladies unecessarily insecure and leave wounds in their hearts, the brunts of which their husbands and children will deal with in the future. My guy, once again, with the Spirit of God upon me, I tell you this, YOU ARE A FOOL! It is not an insult, it is a FACT. REPENT! |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Angel1696: 10:55pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
ToriBlue:. I don't know why ladies keep lavishing a guys hard earn money and at the end jilt the guy when he is broke. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Obiwannn: 11:39pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
TheGreatIYANU: Go sidon one corner jarre. Ladies bring it upon themselves when they turn a good guy bad. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by luminouz(m): 11:55pm On Feb 23, 2017 |
horciglowri:Like u can do shiiit! |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Giel: 12:17am On Feb 24, 2017 |
LordAdam16:its really sad and shocking to me to see some of the responses on this thread. I mean for God's sake the guy told u, am not going to marry u, and u agreed to date him, now all of a sudden, he is a fool, he is evil, he deserves to be beaten, I mean what didn't I read? for being honest?? while u the bloody liar, who agreed to date him is now a '''victim''. at least he told u d truth. he gave u a choice. tomorrow we ladies say we want a guy who is honest, who is good, kind, thoughtful. but when we see them. smh.. am going to have to read up on what u mentioned about the spread of ignorance, cause I can see it happens a lot. u made some good points up there however ur last part made me sad, is that how u see all women. u don't see any good in them that u wonder why we were created?? if I'm misunderstanding ur words please let me know. I've seen some of ur posts and I like the way u reason so I would like to know. 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 2:19am On Feb 24, 2017 |
Whenever I meet an ex, we finish our last unfinished business and start a new one 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by ojlifa: 2:23am On Feb 24, 2017 |
I wish i could help you but till date no man can claim to have perfect understanding of those creatures Charlentine: 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by horciglowri(f): 3:30am On Feb 24, 2017 |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Berbierklaus(f): 3:58am On Feb 24, 2017 |
TheGreatIYANU:May your days be long. @ the paranoid logical people up there,y'all fools. Keep reiterating he told her jack up and down the thread like the hediots that you are. I wish the lady is diabolical,so by the time she makes you as useless as a used tissue, you will think twice before walking up to a woman. FOOLS 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by vicardino(m): 4:49am On Feb 24, 2017 |
Mehnnn, these two units badt gann o,,,,marine and airforce unit. If na airforce unit, e still better small, u fit use fire o, thunder o, use every every but if na marine, chaiii. U go spend months for prayer city o, lolz. Seriously, guys should just watch it these days, 99.9% of these girls are marine officials o. soberdrunk: |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by vicardino(m): 4:59am On Feb 24, 2017 |
The Spirit of God in u allows u to call someone a fool? What kinda spirit is that? Being objective is what most of us finds it difficult to do especially when dealing with issues threatening our gender. In as much as the guy did something wrong, did u read the part where he said he kinda explained d kinda relationship he wanted and the girl agreed to it?. The feeling of insecurity is what makes most of u girls very desperate and the moment you get dropped or things ain't going ur way, u activate the other side of u trying to deal with d guy anyhow u can think of. TheGreatIYANU: |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by vicardino(m): 5:02am On Feb 24, 2017 |
I can relate to this Seenyo: |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by vicardino(m): 5:13am On Feb 24, 2017 |
Guy, if I were u, I would take her "HOSTILITY" as a sign for u to go spiritual o. U may not understand but don't ever think she won't treat ur f up if she belongs. Didn't know I had been hit cos she was never hostile, took it in good faith I thought until few years later, then I realized she's still dealing with me. Some of them can be very merciless ehnnnn. I pray u take this advice. Charlentine: |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by taurusmena1(m): 5:42am On Feb 24, 2017 |
It's obvious you don't take advice or seriously consider ones opinion. I have read through your response to comments made and believe you see things one way and that's your way. #NotGood |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 6:36am On Feb 24, 2017 |
LordAdam16:I know you like writing long epistles, but did you bother to read and digest the first part of my comment?, if yes then all this long epistle is unnecessary, and if no,then I suggest you do that |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by emperormossad(m): 7:23am On Feb 24, 2017 |
ToriBlue:Must you marry anyone you date? |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by Nobody: 7:23am On Feb 24, 2017 |
.....It's better imagined than experienced! |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by emperormossad(m): 7:24am On Feb 24, 2017 |
elyna:Elyna do people 'use' others? For real? |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by emperormossad(m): 7:26am On Feb 24, 2017 |
luscioustrish:Short and simple! |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by emperormossad(m): 7:27am On Feb 24, 2017 |
rosalieene:But he made it clear to her where he stands from the outset. |
Re: My Girlfriend Keeps Proposing To Me But.... by emperormossad(m): 7:32am On Feb 24, 2017 |
prittygift114:Please before you insult t life out of him read his post again. He told her from the onset and she agreed. Nobody sees anything wrong with her making a U-turn in the middle of the relationship, all you see is him refusing. Is it by force to marry her? Do women date only one guy in their lives? Why don't they marry all of them to prove their love? |
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