Please nairalanders, my elder brother is about to get married. The problem here is that, the wife to be is three years older than him. I have warned him not to continue but he keeps saying age is just a number that they love each other ,i don't want any member of my family to regret any union . Please what should I do.



Note:my parents also warned him of marrying someone older than him due to lack of respect and some other stuff. advice needed pls. thanks all

Abeeegi... Check this thread before u gonna tell ur brother again...

https://www.nairaland.com/3648352/see-hilarious-photo-young-bobo

Are you the one who's gonna live with the woman after marriage?

He's old enough, he has made his choice.. Let him be.

TrapQueen77:


Abeeegi... Check this thread before u gonna tell ur brother again...
https://www.nairaland.com/3648352/see-hilarious-photo-young-bobo

Naughty gal

please Go and live your life... saying you don't want your relatives to regret their union as if you are God or there is anything you can do about it. You are just a busy body with the rest of your likes poking their nose into someone else life.

GET a LIFE!

Laveda:
Are you the one who's gonna live with the woman after marriage?

He's old enough, he has made his choice.. Let him be.

Am just scared of the future of their marriage especially when the girl is igbo

You seems worried too much for your brother to ignore

gsainttrinity:
please Go and live your life... saying you don't want your relatives to regret their union as if you are God or there is anything you can do about it. You are just a busy body with the rest of your likes poking their nose into someone else life.

GET a LIFE!

Thank you sir, so care is now busy body?

Just 3yrs! Wake-up bro.Age is nothing but a number...Maturity and Understanding of each other is what is require.What if you don't knw that his wife to be is older than him?

pls pals what i need here is a simple suggestion, not abuses pls abeg

rollybest:
pls pals what i need here is a simple suggestion, not abuses pls abeg

What sorta suggestions?

The ones to help you execute your stupidity and naivety? Or the ones to help you purge yourself of stupidity and naivety?

Abeg which of them?

ikp120:


What sorta suggestions?

The ones to help you execute your stupidity and naivety? Or the ones to help you purge yourself of stupidity and naivety?

Abeg which of them?

Choi see insult. Oga just reason for once now

Leave him...let him do it and learn from the experience

rollybest:

Choi see insult. Oga just reason for once now

Which suggestions do you want? The ones to end a relationship because of a senseless sentiment of yours?

Sorry if you felt insulted. But the motion looks really senseless, stupid, sentimental and naive to me.

ikp120:


Which suggestions do you want? The ones to end a relationship because of a senseless sentiment of yours.

Sorry if you felt insulted. But the motion looks really senseless, stupid, sentimental and naive to me.

case close. don't need your suggestion anymore
your comments is void of substance, it's insaluburious to my problem

rollybest:
case close. don't need your suggestion anymore your comments is void of substance, it's insaluburious to my problem

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rollybest:

Thank you sir, so care is now busy body?

Care you say?

like is he a child that does not know what he wants?

I would give you an example what care is.... mum to my close friend once adviced him some years ago to use the little money in my position to upgrade his education and certificate... but him been very desperate for quick success decided to travel abroad with the money. He was an adult, even though with reservations the mum blessed his journey abroad. Few months abroad, my guy was deported with all his savings gone in the process.

the CARING mother was the same person to raise up cash with which he got back on his feet and went back to school as previously advised.

Now caring for people is not taking away their right to make mistakes by making their choices as adult, CARING is when you are there to support them whether they made the right or wrong choice, being there for them whether or not they took your advice. that is how you care for people.

In conclusion, what you are doing is "busy body"

gsainttrinity:


Care you say?

like is he a child that does not know what he wants?

I would give you an example what care is.... mum to my close friend once adviced him some years ago to use the little money in my position to upgrade his education and certificate... but him been very desperate for quick success decided to travel abroad with the money. He was an adult, even though with reservations the mum blessed his journey abroad. Few months abroad, my guy was deported with all his savings gone in the process.

the CARING mother was the same person to raise up cash with which he got back on his feet and went back to school as previously advised.

Now caring for people is not taking away their right to make mistakes by making their choices as adult, CARING is when you are there to support them whether they made the right or wrong choice, being there for them whether or not they took your advice. that is how you care for people.

In conclusion, what you are doing is "busy body"

Noted

let dem be abeg!... age is got nothing to do with love... even if he marries someone of his age.. it doesn't guaranty happiness or forever.

Gistedge:
let dem be abeg!

Roger, i pray for them sha

Haba! Oga, why did you bring your brother's private life to nairaland na? Will he marry her into your house?
Just imagine....

cezarman:
Haba! Oga, why did you bring your brother's private life to nairaland na? Will he marry her into your house?
Just imagine....

no name mentioned, no pictures uploaded bro, just wanted to get public opinion. Even if you see him on the way you won't identify him

rollybest:

Noted

I understand you want the best for your brother, but the best you can give him is support in his decision and try to explain in reasonable terms why he should not marry the said lady.... but please don't force your idea on people or manipulate them. Only God knows the best.

rollybest:

Am just scared of the future of their marriage especially when the girl is igbo

See talk oh! You even brought tribe into the issue sha.

gsainttrinity:


I understand you want the best for your brother, but the best you can give him is support in his decision and try to explain in reasonable terms why he should not marry the said lady.... but please don't force your idea on people or manipulate them. Only God knows the best.

Thanks bro, one the most reasonable words from a nairalander ever. God bless you

rollybest:
pls pals what i need here is a simple suggestion, not abuses pls abeg

na wa for u self...is it a crime to marry ur elder? si long she respects him

nnamdiokere45:
na wa for u self...is it a crime to marry ur elder? si long she respects him

na wetin i dey pray for