Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

unless you have a penis, then zip it. If you didn't grow with brothers or keep platonic male friends that shoulda taught u that men are different in reasoning to the largely myopic way ur likes reason. You woulda understood the difficulty to forgive part in men. Or the reason on "ego", go and get urself a man first, keep him long enough to husband you. Then come back here and advise the poor lady as an experience woman and not a little girl. If by error you are married, divorce that puccy of a man u married and get yasef a real man

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

Selfish set of humans you say!
I'm shock at this your comment. The selfish one here is the op and not the husband. The guy opened up every and she kept the most important secret.....till he got to know himself!

I'm not suggesting she quits her job, but pleading alone won't bring back the trust. She needs to be very remorseful and put in a lot of work(actions) to win that trust.

Eddygourdo:
unless you have a penis, then zip it. If you didn't grow with brothers or keep platonic male friends that shoulda taught u that men are different in reasoning to the largely myopic way ur likes reason. You woulda understood the difficulty to forgive part in men. Or the reason on "ego", go and get urself a man first, keep him long enough to husband you. Then come back here and advise the poor lady as an experience woman and not a little girl. If by error you are married, divorce that puccy of a man u married and get yasef a real man

Why you mad young man?

I don't even remember giving an advice
You read men don't forgive and your tiny manhood developed fault

Kilode
Kilagbe

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

It's the lying by omission , that's a big bomb shell if your husband slept with his female boss and you got to find out on your own you'd be hurt too. It's not the sleeping around but the lying part.

austinosita:


Selfish set of humans you say!
I'm shock at this your comment

Why the heck is all of you quoting me?


Selfish men
And y'all loosing balls

pcguru1:


It's the lying by omission , that's a big bomb shell if your husband slept with his female boss and you got to find out on your own you'd be hurt too. It's not the sleeping around but the lying part.

We all make mistakes
But we should learn to forgive and let it go

Dunno where and how they have been
I just said a general thing

Usually the men folks are very selfish

Dyt:


Why you mad young man?

I don't even remember giving an advice
You read men don't forgive and your tiny manhood developed fault

Kilode
Kilagbe

you are dull, won't bring myself to ur level to exchange words, go and do as I advised and meanwwhile keep ur foolish opinions to urself, stop polluting the enviornment with ur idiocy. People read these threads and shouldn't have to read most of the rubbish you dole out often in the name of posts. Get off my mentions and go get a man. If ur Hot (especilly with the manhood mention) get a cucumber since u can't get a man. A very large one to satisfy the industrial borehole between ur legs. Now Bleep off my mentions. Continue with ur foolery elsewhere

Dyt:


We all make mistakes
But we should learn to forgive and let it go

Dunno where and how they have been
I just said a general thing

Usually the men folks are very selfish

Yep everyone make mistakes it's human but you can't force forgiveness this is beyond about "men and forgiveness" issue no woman would take it lightly if she got to find out like this. First the trust is gone second they will believe if you could still not come out about it it must mean the relationship is still going on. Sometimes we make mistakes regardless we must face the consequences no matter how silly it is.

Dyt:



Why the heck is all of you quoting me?


Selfish men
And y'all loosing balls

austinosita:

You are angry too?

Sorry

LOL.. Funny responses.

To be honest, I didn't know there were still men who believe their wife/partner has told them EVERYTHING there is to know about her past...

Dyt:


You are angry too?

Sorry

I'm not. I'm just dissapointed in you.......seeing that someone like you, could actually post such!

If ur husband does such and begs you......i'm sure you'll let it go just like that, be very happy with him and trust him again easily, abi?

The OP is a liar, she is still in love with her boss! If you had sex with your boss and you kept it away from your hubby, that is because you want to go on having sex with him!

The best thing the husband has to do is to divorce this evil woman that lies to herself and everybody.

Because if she is really remorseful and feels guilty about the affair with her boss, she would on her own have resigned.

Oga husband if you are reading this quickly divorce that woman, she is still sleeping with her boss. Forget her story, many women love to live in denial.

It happened just twice...Could it have been more?

That doesn't show she's remorseful about it.

Divorce isn't the best option but hell forbid, if i was the man, i'd leave the house for her sorry ass.

I think karma is currently in Nigeria.

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

Lol.


You judge foolishly sometimes.

She said that her boss is threatening her marriage, that line alone should tell you a lot about the woman.

She's honestly not sorry.

She's not remorseful.

She's not ready to take the responsibility for her actions.

She shifts blame like a kid.

And finally, she's still seeing him that's why she said threatening.

No boss will Bleep you just twice and stop when you're still working for him.

It doesn't happen that way.

The reason she didn't tell her husband about him was because she was still seeing him and there are things she's getting from him that she's not ready sacrifice.

When I tell people that you feminists are the most hypocritical creatures since God destroyed the world with flood they won't believe me.

You dyt would have advised her to file divorce if it was her husband that was caught with his secretary or PA



Fear God.

There is always a price to pay.

Cry and beg for forgiveness. Keep begging, then buy sexy cloths and work on your weight, look cute very much cos shit is abt to enter trial mode. You need to keep your source of supply, girls out there aint smiling with you at all.

For single ladies, married men should be a taboo, untouchable, never even get close to them to avoid stories like 'it just happened'. If not for anything, avoid them for the sake of the future (the past always haunts).
Right now, the husband is in a very hard position.
Madam OP, just take some days off and plead with your hubby, show remorse this time. Do anything your husband says to make amends, stay clear of your boss. It is well.

OP, many ppl have said this but I have to repeat it, the first thing you have to do is leave that job, afterall you said your husband has a good job. Reason being that your husband has every cause to think you're still sleeping with your boss even tho you said you stopped, cos if you lied about it before, you can lie about it again, that's how he'll think. But leaving your job would proof to him that you're really ready to stop. Now that doesn't mean he'll come around automatically, he needs time to heal and get over the hurt, so you need to keep being the loving wife that you are and wait for him to come around.
And the fact you mentioned that your gm was at your wedding and gave you gifts, don't think that should earn you credit, in fact it would annoy him the more, remember the saying that ;'the best place to hide something is in the open'. It's like an open insult to him dt a man you were having an affair with came to show like a good samaritan at your wedding.

Yorubest:
Hmmm. Thanks for all the advise. I was wrong but there's nothing happening again. Although I used to talk to him fondly about my boss and things in the office which I'm sure makes him not want to trust me. My boss was also at my wedding and he gave us presents and cash which he is aware of.

What can I do now? The trust is gone.

keep pleading with him...the truth is a bad past must always hunt you one way or another. . just be firm keep pleading with him.... if you had the opportunity, start applying for other jobs...... If twas me, mehn the trust is dead ooo, i no go lie, eventually i wud divorce such person.....buh he aint me, keep pleading. daz all

Woman,u aff notin do to,otherwise,consult unclezuma

Yorubest:
Hmmm. Thanks for all the advise. I was wrong but there's nothing happening again. Although I used to talk to him fondly about my boss and things in the office which I'm sure makes him not want to trust me. My boss was also at my wedding and he gave us presents and cash which he is aware of.

What can I do now? The trust is gone.

Christ!!!
I heard ladies do this a lot, inviting their ***** to their wedding, and the man still plays big uncle, I thought it is/was a joke.
Dear, you have no idea what is playing in your husband's head daily, a clear replay of your wedding day goes on in his mind before sleep comes every night, he will definitely see himself as a *****.
If care is not taken, he will retaliate in a very bad way.

The worst part men can't forget is that, his friend knows about it, probably he was at the wedding too. Other friends may know too.
He may even be planning to confirm if he is the father of your kid

OP, you sound like you're trolling.

Your post here...

Yorubest:
Yoruba women are far more sophisticated

Why would I wanna get serious with an Igbo woman?

shows that you are a guy?
who is fooling who nau?

Cutehector:
Just twice? Woman! Just twice?



U sounded like twice was a small thing... Adultery is adultery. Don't even matter if penetrative sex was involved... As long as u find urself lusting after a man dats not ur husband, u are already guilty of adultery..


Now to d second part, ur husband doesn't trust u
anymore. Dats fatal! Believe me.. Once a man can't trust his wife again then there is absolutely nothing she will do that will make him trust her back..

I think maybe the first thing u gotta do is to quit ur job if u really mean u are sorry...

Think you are getting it wrong
If I'm not mistaken, the fling happened before she got married.
But the honest truth is that she actually saw no quames in beding another womans husband "twice"
The most powerful step you can take to save your relationship IMO is to quit that job (especially since your hubby has a great job already).
It's a powerful statement to show the relationship comes 1st

As long as you are on that Job with that same Boss, am sorry things may get worse. Start applying and looking for a new Job its the best way to save your marriage and also carry your husband along with everything, He is human, it may take time.

[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote]so if u were the husband..(just imagine that you re the husband)..if your wife keeps working there...what would be going on through your mind...i stand with the idea of quiting the job..and saving the marriage..

kiddoiLL:


Pokaaaaaa!!! Baba abeg epp me manage these Heineken...point and kill fish dey on fire fr u

Where my own Heineken and cat fish

Some women sef.