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My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:36am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Hello family,i'm creating this post because I want help and good advice on what to do. We just found out that,my 17year Old Sister was 7months pregnant last month. She didn't even know she was pregnant cuz,her tummy is still very flat even though doctors have given next month as her due date. According to her,she was raped by a guy she met some months back and she didn't open up to anyone until now. We have been looking for solutions as to how the baby can be taken care of. I'm married and pregnant at the moment so I'm not even in a position to help her take care of the baby and our mom isn't fit to take care of the baby also. So we're considering different options like giving the baby up for adoption when he/she is born next month to a good family or taking the baby to an orphanage where we'll be going to drop stuffs from time to time. Please people,this is real and serious so i'll really really want matured advice only please. My sister is in Delta state while i'm in Ph. Looking forward to reading your advice. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by doughziay: 8:37am On Mar 03, 2017 |
I think ur sis hasn't said the truth about how she gor pregnant. I was raped doesn't sound true to me. Any ways, she is immature to care for a child without assistance. My Suggestion: Get someone mature to assist her with caring for the child when born, maybe a paid nanny. my reason: if the child is given up for adoption, there is every tendency ur Lil sister wouldn't brace up to the fact that she has a responsibility hence, making her get into the hands of other guys since there isn't an evidence she is a mother. She might get pregnant a second time if care isn't taken. God help u both to deliver safely. 11 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by delishpot: 8:40am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Have you asked her what she wants? Cos she is not mentally sick is she? If she can care for the baby and want to keep it, why not allow her? If she wants the baby but wants to continue her education, then keep baby somewhere safe ie orphanage. If she doesn't want baby now or in future due to how she was conceived, then adoption is best. She can opt for an open or closed addoption . |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by koolet: 8:41am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Your sister is yet to tell the truth ![]() 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:43am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yes. She said she can't take care of a baby. So she said she is open to any solution or suggestions. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Clemsworld(m): 8:44am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Booked |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:46am On Mar 03, 2017 |
delishpot: She said she would want to continue schooling and that she can't take care of the baby right now. That's why we suggested an orphanage and she's okay with it. But she hasn't said anything about wanting to take the baby later on. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Cutehector(m): 8:47am On Mar 03, 2017 |
I don't think she was raped. The thing with families is that they try to hide a lot of details when posting stuff like this on social media.. But am not here to judge anybody. Op u can take care of both babies. God won't be happy with you sending dat child to an opharnage 5 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:48am On Mar 03, 2017 |
koolet: Let me know your thoughts please. What do you think she might be hiding? |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Slimzjoe(m): 8:48am On Mar 03, 2017 |
And why exactly can't you raise her child alongside yours? 2 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beycity(m): 8:48am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Ask your sister to tell you the full story. Where is the guy now? Where did he rape her? Giving up a child for abduction ain't as easy as it sounds. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by onyichick(f): 8:52am On Mar 03, 2017 |
I think giving the baby up for adoption is the best, there r many people looking for children. on the other hand u can raise the child along side yours. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Heromaniaa: 8:53am On Mar 03, 2017 |
I will be willing to adopt the baby if necessary. I wish your sister safe delivery. 2 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Nne5: 8:53am On Mar 03, 2017 |
She said she was raped and you believe her? Your sis is a not so smart liar. She been shagging. She said she didn't know she was Preggy. How dumb. Smally told y'all lies and you believed her? Mehn first of all,for lying to me I'd beat craze comot from her head. Then put her baby up for adoption. All these small girls fvcking like anything. 6 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:55am On Mar 03, 2017 |
doughziay: Thanks dear. I think you have a point about her getting pregnant again cuz she won't feel responsible. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Kondomatic(m): 8:56am On Mar 03, 2017 |
She raped the boy |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:57am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Heromaniaa: Thanks. U can contact me via my email. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 8:59am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Slimzjoe: I already have a 3year old daughter and I am pregnant. I can't handle 3kids all at once. 7 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by delishpot: 9:02am On Mar 03, 2017 |
beqs101: Okay, ask her. If she doesn't want the baby later on, or no member of your family wants to take the baby in future, then it's best to give the baby a chance at happy life by giving her up for adoption. Orphanages could be terrible places. No need to keep the child there and never return to pick her soon that could damage a child's self esteem. A whole lot. So, your family need to decide what you would do. If my daughter has a baby I will not addopt it out if I can help it, and I know my sibblibgs would never let it happen too. But situations and economy influences a lot of things so I understand your delimma. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Tapout(m): 9:03am On Mar 03, 2017 |
beqs101: seriously ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 9:04am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Cutehector: You don't know me or my family dear so no point hiding behind rape. I just created this thread based on the information i have. And I really can't raise the baby alongside mine cuz,i have a 3year old daughter and pregnant now. I can't handle 3kids all at once,plus my husband might not be ready for this. 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Nobody: 9:05am On Mar 03, 2017 |
"I was raped" is just a convenient way of her avoiding to tell you that she's been having sex from an age you'd be shocked to hear. Let her see a counsellor and let her be the one to decide what to do with the baby after talking to the counsellor. Any decision you make for her now could be used against you in the future. 2 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 9:06am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Tapout: Well I don't have twins and not praying to. I have a 3year old daughter and i can't handle 3kids all at once. plus my husband won't be down with it. 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by delishpot: 9:06am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Cutehector: Do you know OP s financial setting? Do you know her life at home? Do you know if she has help and support? She clearly stated her mom is not in position to help, so she cant count on any one. If you have had a child you will know how important it is to have someone help at the home frobt be it a family member or paid help. She can not get any of those, she is prolly managing her own corner. Have you raised a child before? Its not as easy as you put it. Okay for a start, even you can volunteer to care for the baby. Since it is easy and God would also not want you to turn your back on this child and let it be taken to and orphanage. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 9:07am On Mar 03, 2017 |
kennygee: Feels pretty convenient but what can we do now other than look for a solution? |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Nobody: 9:09am On Mar 03, 2017 |
beqs101: Let her talk to a counsellor, she needs professional advice, after she has been given the pros and cons of her available options, she will be able to decide on her own. |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by delishpot: 9:10am On Mar 03, 2017 |
kennygee: Why insist she wasn't rapped? Were you there to know her story? I hate when women are first to throw stones at fellow women. Her story is not your business. OP asked for solution for the interest of the child. 8 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Eddygourdo(m): 9:11am On Mar 03, 2017 |
That dam been fecking for a long time. She should tell the truth to her family. Neverthless the entire decision should be hers to make. If she is mature enough to get pregnant and then lie about it, she should be able to care for the infant. People should learn to face the consequences of their actions. Period 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Nobody: 9:11am On Mar 03, 2017 |
delishpot: Did you read the post? Didn't the girl say she was raped? Is the rape or paternity of the unborn child the subject of dispute here? Abeg carry ur wahala dey go 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by beqs101(f): 9:14am On Mar 03, 2017 |
kennygee: My dear Kenny,please understand that I am not the one making the decision. We've had a discussion and she said she can't take care of the baby. Rather than abandon the innocent baby, me and my other sisters older than her are trying to help out by proffering a solution. 1 Like |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by delishpot: 9:16am On Mar 03, 2017 |
kennygee: Yeye Dey smell. Girl said she was rapped aunty knower says No she wasn't. Abeg aunty NOAH is it you that consentually slept with her? If not then shit up and do not argue over her story. Do you know how many girls in Nigeria are rapped daily? By boys they befriended, uncles, family friends, dads, step dads and neighbours that NEVER mentioned it? And no one knew because pregnancy did not occure? Some even get pregnant and abort it. Even family members hide it. So why insist she wasn't raped. Madam executor. People like you make rape victims never report the crime you will say they are lying and they prolly asked for it. Shior to think you are a woman sef. 10 Likes |
Re: My 17year Old Sister Is Pregnant by Nobody: 9:17am On Mar 03, 2017 |
beqs101: I understand, I'm just suggesting that she sees a counsellor ni. You people are her family, tho your suggestions might be for her own good, don't you think an unbiased professional opinion could help too? Your suggestions might be based on the fact that no one can help her raise a baby and she is too young to raise one now since she's planning to go back to school. You'll be surprised what a professional might have to say sha. Its worth giving a try. |
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