pocohantas:
Serious competition from MISTRESS?
Okay...they'll read and learn.
It's okay to do these things for ones husband, but the least of reasons should be for fear of a MISTRESS.

When a man cheats
NL comments:
Poster 1: Do you dress sexy? Are you overweight, lose weight. Wear red pant and bra. Have sex with him.
Poster 2: Pray for him.
Poster 3: Madam it seems you nag a lot, men hate nags.
Poster 4: A man that will cheat would cheat.
Poster 5 quotes poster 4: Feminist!!!

Woman cheats:
Poster1: You can never satisfy women!
Poster 2: Wives of these days are oloshos, except our mothers.
Poster 3: Just send her back to her father's house, are you sure the kids are yours?
Poster 4: Talk to your wife, maybe there was a void.
Poster 5 quotes poster 4: only a woman will type this. Olosho!

Una wehdone o!

cococandy:
Ediot.

The first few lines did it. No need to read further

BoboYekini:

@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.

BoboYekini:

@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.

UIA04:
Lollll Very sarcastic

BoboYekini:

@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.

Acidosis:
When they should have opened a new thread to explain how they (wives) want to be treated, they go about condemning the OP on simple issues some women effortlessly do in their homes.

What's ediotic about this post for crying out loud?

Some women ehn! even those that cook 5 times a day for their hubby join in the condemnation.


Only God knows the number of homes that will crumble this year due to idio.tic comments on Nairaland. Some girls will read this now and assume it is wrong to treat their man in the right manner. Some girls will see these ediotic comments and assume it is wrong to seduce one's husband, unknowingly to them that some are currently seducing their colleagues and crush at work.

omoharry:
what about thread on how man can be good husbands to their wives. what about thread about how men can faithful to their wives amid various challenges....what about thread for men to be considerate and be supportive to their wives when she over burdened with so many issues in her life..what about thread on how men can be the best husbands as they can be..what about that? the only thing i see in African marriages is selfishness...while you treat this woman like trash you still want them to become angels over night because she is a robot who is devoid of feelings..this the reason most Nigerian marriages are experiencing disharmony because the women are frustrated and sad.The op is bias and closed minded.this is a stupid thread just to massage the egos of the unfaithful husbands in this forum.stupid thread.

Acidosis:


You will only see what you want to see. A lot of thread addressed the issues you raised.

You've already concluded that we have a lot of unfaithful husbands on this forum.. Who made you the judge?

How did you even arrive at that conclusion? Are there no faithful husbands on Nairaland? Why don't we leave this thread for such men? Why conclude that the thread is stup!d?

You lots are the selfish folks if you ask me... You will hardly see men complain about any thread that promotes an ideal way to treat the women. It is always issue when such threads focus on men. Why?

99.9% of men on Nairaland do not have issues with taking care of their wives. However, the reverse is always the case when women like you read the word "cook", or "clean". Why is this always happening?

I have been on Nairaland since 2010 and I have never seen any man post such senseless complaints.

This thread is simply harmless. I have never seen any man brag or hype himself for his inability to take care of his wife. Such men mostly feel so ashamed to even speak about it. But for you women, it seems as though the best way to attract likes is to discourage cooking, discourage washing; use the word 'slave' or 'low self-esteem' on any woman that does any of the above. Issues that shouldn't even be heard, you folks come online to brag about it.


This trend is shameful, and it can only get worse. A lot of men are already opting out of this institution called marriage. At the end of the day, it is you women who eventually 'manage' whatever life throws at you.

BoboYekini:

@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.

omoharry:
Most Nigerian women do not shy away from their basic responsibilities( these is what we were brought up to know) which is to keep the home front running..our problems start when the man feels he has be sidelined because the woman is too busy working, looking after the home;children and him inclusive..without even lifting a finger to assist her to reduce the burden on her..which he will eventually use as an excuse the start cheating on her with a younger girl whose body is still firm and unblemished from child birth and making his wife miserable, and sad..then these men will still come and preach on how woman should do a vigil for him to remain faithful to her...who does that? and you guys expect this women to still take it hook line and sinker and pretend nothing has happened.there is nothing as bad her unfaithfulness..

Acidosis:


I still don't understand the uproar from the women folk.

The attack on the OP is unjustifiable.

A lot of men are alive to their responsibilities when it comes to taking care of their wives. Child birth isn't even enough reasons for these complaints. No sane man in this current dispensation will purposely demand dozens of kids. A lot men, including me, are OK with 2.. That's a significant shift from what obtained 20-30 years ago.

I don't think that's too much to attract the complaints. Many men only get tired when women fail to keep up with the fake live they lived while dating. If makeup is what got your husband's attention, better be ready to continue. One or two children shouldn't stop you from making up.

Most of the time, it is not always about LOOKS. Petty things like adoration, respect, attention can CHARM a man forever. That's the point OP tried to make. It's an all encompassing strategy to make your husband love you forever.

I'm not unaware of the fact that men must respect their bodies and stay true to their wives. But this thread isn't about men. I'm also not unaware that after all these, some men will go all the way to commit adultery. That's the sad reality that confronts us today, but then again, cheating cuts across both gender.

1bkaye:

Acidosis:


I still don't understand the uproar from the women folk.

The attack on the OP is unjustifiable.

A lot of men are alive to their responsibilities when it comes to taking care of their wives. Child birth isn't even enough reasons for these complaints. No sane man in this current dispensation will purposely demand dozens of kids. A lot men, including me, are OK with 2.. That's a significant shift from what obtained 20-30 years ago.

I don't think that's too much to attract the complaints. Many men only get tired when women fail to keep up with the fake live they lived while dating. If makeup is what got your husband's attention, better be ready to continue. One or two children shouldn't stop you from making up.

Most of the time, it is not always about LOOKS. Petty things like adoration, respect, attention can CHARM a man forever. That's the point OP tried to make. It's an all encompassing strategy to make your husband love you forever.

I'm not unaware of the fact that men must respect their bodies and stay true to their wives. But this thread isn't about men. I'm also not unaware that after all these, some men will go all the way to commit adultery. That's the sad reality that confronts us today, but then again, cheating cuts across both gender.