CeeJay9ja:


Her eyes don clear abi?

FortuneTeller:


She's been married to the man for 3 months without sex. She cries to me. I don't know what to do. Only a few of us in the family know. These pastors just make up things and we bear the consequences.

CeeJay9ja:


More people especially the ladies will keep falling for it. Women are easily decieved.

Only a woman a pastor will ask to sleep with him just to get a child from God. When did God started using adultery to bless someone?

These women just become zombie unexpectedly

FortuneTeller:


YESSS!!! I have warned her not to take the issue back to the pastor, lest he say he can help her with a child and impregnate my sis.

olaszydaruma:
This is my first post on Nairaland, so please don't mind my grammar, in case I made some mistakes as I was in a hurry typing these.

There was a girl I have being dating since August 2015. I met her at a computer IT place, she was learning as an apprentice. I spoke to her and I asked for her number but she was reluctant to give me. Few days later, I went to the place to do some computer graphics work and she was the one attending to me. When she was about finishing the work, I stylishly asked for her number, she didn't give me but collected mine; her excused was that she has lost her phone and planning to get a new one. To cut the long story short, she called me and I make my intentions clear. I was put on trial for three weeks before she could finally said yes.
Midway to the relationship, she decided to take me to her place for the first time. On getting to her place, I saw her sisters and brother and one young child probably between the ages of 1 to 2. She introduces me to them and I was very happy to meet them.
Since then, she has been disturbing me that she has something to tell me but when I asked her what it is, she will only reply later. I'm the kind of person that always anticipate whenever someone has something to tell me. I called her and told her that I hate her attitude of delaying whenever she has something to tell me (its not the first time she will do that), she apologise and promise to tell me at the weekend.
Few days after, she was at my place and after we enjoyed watching a movie together, she looked straight at my face and told me if I could remember the day I followed her to place and I replied yes. She said that young child I saw is her baby, I was really shocked and I thought she was joking because she doesn't look like someone that could have gotten pregnant not to even talk about having a baby. She said she was not joking and I asked her how did it happen. She narrated to me that a guardian who her mother trust her with got her pregnant. The man was to help her study but was adding the other room stuff with it. She said she could not tell her mum because of fear and she did not know she's pregnant until the third month. I asked her if she didn't notice her period will have stop coming during those time, she said she notice but thought it was just a mere period disorder. I was just in awe of everything and could not believe a girl I had wish to be serious with has already given birth before. I asked her how did her parent took the issues, she said they were all mad at her and had the man(married with two kids) that got her pregnant locked up. The man was later freed. She said the issues affected her relationship with her dad and they seldom see face to face. She was in tears narrating all these, all I could do was just to calm her down. I told her nobody in this world that is above mistake and she should try and learn from it.
Since then, I have always acts like a normal boyfriend. I didn't allow what she told me affect our relationship, in order words, I was glad she told me early and I made her know everything is alright between me and her. I was in school then and sometimes she do help me with money when I'm broke.
I decided to seek spiritual guidance about her from my pastor but I was told we can't marry(my pastor have not seen her before). The reason my pastor gave was that the beginning may be rosy but there would be lot of hardship for me in the future. I have grown to love this girl but I don't know how to leave her. I have already been warn not to tell her with words but something will happen that will cause breakup between me and her. Nothing that could cause breakup up is yet to happen and we are still doing great together.


So nairalanders, should I leave this girl or continue dating her and risked what I've being warn, she has really help me during my school days and I believe it will be very harsh on her to leave her after everything we have both pass through. Advice your brother, no insult please.

tosyne2much:
Such prophesy does not amaze me when keep seeking pastor's validation on whom to marry.. Though, I'm a very good Christian but not a fan of "my pastor said this.. my pastor said that l"

I don't seem to understand all these spiritual incompatibility people normally use to discredit a parner gan sef.. Haven't you seen marry unbelievers who got married yet they enjoyed and reaped the fruits of marriage ni? The solution to some cases is not to do it

So the pastor never proferred solution to the perceived danger rather than advise dissociate yourself from the lady right?

Even if your girlfriend is an atheist, there are ways

FortuneTeller:


She's been married to the man for 3 months without sex. She cries to me. I don't know what to do. Only a few of us in the family know. These pastors just make up things and we bear the consequences.

tosyne2much:
You quoted me without saying anything

babyfaceafrica:
what I wanted to say is that..some pastors are equally right,why do we say its all fake...if the guy get problem for future now..na only him go suffer am..let's advise him to be careful and seek the the fave of God

tosyne2much:
The problem we have in this part of the world is that we are too spiritual.. I believe so many things are taken into considerations before choosing a woman as your life partner such as culture, tradition, race, age, physical appearance, behavioural pattern and characters

Why should much emphasis be only be placed on the spiritual aspect and therefore becomes a ground to discredit someone despite meeting all other criteria?

babyfaceafrica:
my brother,the spiritual controls the physical, if someone fails spiritually,it will affect him.there is more to marriage than love..but my advise is that everyone should do what he or she feels like,so that only them will feel the repercussion

tosyne2much:
I beg to disagree with you brother because being a Christian does not guarantee a successful marriage... Are you trying to tell me that Buddhists, Atheists and other non Christian religion also don't enjoy their marriages?

The truth of the matter is that you will start inviting peoplems into your life the moment you keep seeking spiritualists for them to foretell your future for you, or how the journey of your life will go. I have a friend who does that so much and today, he remains in a spot

So my brother, there's no woman destined for anybody in heimaWhen you get your priorities right, little prayer and the face of God is all you need to build your family

We are trying to be logical here.. Not too spiritual

tosyne2much:
The bolded got me laughing

VolTOxic:
Hmm. I don't care if you leave her or you stay.

I just hate the fact you're a coward. You want to leave her but you don't have the balls so you literally created this thread to get the endorsement you need to make you leave but guess what, you'll never get it from me.

All that nonsense about your pastor is a farce.

olaszydaruma:

I don't have any intentions of leaving her. I'm only trying to seek people's opinion base on what my pastor told me in case they have come across such issues. I love her but I'm wary of the spiritual warning.

lefulefu:
Is ur pastor God? abeg if u love the girl and she loves u ...marry her.

tosyne2much:
I beg to disagree with you brother because being a Christian does not guarantee a successful marriage... Are you trying to tell me that Buddhists, Atheists and other non Christian religion also don't enjoy their marriages?

The truth of the matter is that you will start inviting peoplems into your life the moment you keep seeking spiritualists for them to foretell your future for you, or how the journey of your life will go. I have a friend who does that so much and today, he remains in a spot

So my brother, there's no woman destined for anybody in heaven.. When you get your priorities right, little prayer and the face of God is all you need to build your family

We are trying to be logical here.. Not too spiritual

alexialin:




Abi oo


Lefulefu hottest bachelor in town..

Right answer!

lefulefu:

haha i am cold oo not hot oooooo .some of these pastors sef i dont trust them .its even possible he might be eyeing the babe in secret .hmm any pastor wey tell me say i cant marry the girl i want to marry cos she be mammy water or bla bla just dey look for my trouble .

alexialin:





Hahahahahahah

Abi ooo.
Some pastors are like that.. I even told. One in my former church that it seems he does not want me to Marry. Cause any guy I introduce to him as the one I wish to marry? Back then? He will just confuse me the next day.. Not to go ahead with the guy.. One day when he hugged me longer than necessary.. I pulled back and I said I hope you are not blocking me from getting married. Cause the way u held me now is uncalled for? He smiled and said haba! Why should he? He just saying what the spirit led him to say. Since that day.. God forgive me, I stopped confiding in any pastor for go ahead. Never again >

Any guy that drops his fiance because someone said she's mammy water is really not ready for marriage. Even marrying mammy water sef na plus..

I like your stance.. Good one!

babyfaceafrica:
your last sentence summarizes it,you are trying to use logic,and life doesn't always work like that!!!!...there are things the spirit sees but defies logic

tosyne2much:
Brother, in this life, logic plays its own role while spirituality also has its own role.. In marriage, we are told to open our eyes

Baba Adeboye once said "don't let any pastor recommend a wife for you"... He said the highest your pastor can do is to pray along with you and give you marriage counsel

tosyne2much:
Such prophesy does not amaze me when men keep seeking pastor's validation on whom to marry.. Though, I'm a very good Christian but not a fan of "my pastor said this.. my pastor said that.. My pastor is the one to direct my life"

I don't seem to understand all these spiritual incompatibility people normally use to discredit a parner gan sef.. Haven't you seen unbelievers who got married yet they enjoyed and reaped the fruits of marriage ni, while their pastor's will be wallowing in chaotic marriage?

So the pastor never proferred solution to the perceived future danger rather than advise you to dissociate yourself from the lady right?