*contd......*


You know why a man gets insecure when he sees you around a guy?
It's because he feels there's something he doesn't have that the guy has, and with that you will leave him for the guy. The feeling suggests to him that he doesn't DESERVE you..

I had to take my time to explain insecurity so you understand..

Be careful of a guy who feel not worthy to date you. Honestly, he's insecure..

Be careful of men who lack confidence in who they are; no matter what have, they are insecure...

Be careful of guys who feel money makes a man. Many guys use money to cover up their messy and inadequate self. Without money, a man should not feel less of himself, if he does, he is insecure..

Be careful of guys who are possessive.
And now, there's a difference between jealousy and possessiveness. Jealousy is a normal feeling for anyone in love, but jealousy without control leads to possessiveness. A possessive man is a bomb waiting to explode, a possessive man is a future utterly physically violent man because possessiveness at some point blasts open and violence follows..

Ladies, stay away from a guy who uses your relationship with him to validate himself. Without the relationship, he claims he cannot live and his life will be meaningless. That's insecurity; low self esteem at its peak. Such guys, at the thought that you're cheating, they'd do anything to hurt you because they feel like they've been cut off from their source..

You need a real man. A man who knows the truth that without you he can still be happy, live a beautiful life and blossom. You don't need a man who lives through you. Insecure men would want the really to be their breathing room. That's obsession..
Insecure men are obsessive.
Obsession is an emotional disorder; it's addictive attachment.

Ladies, figure out when a man loves you and when he's obsessed.

Obsessed folks are those folks who'll threaten to kill themselves if you break up with them. Sometimes ladies stay back in a relationship because he threatened he'd kill himself if she leaves, so she doesn't want to be responsible for his death and she stays in. That's manipulation. Insecure men are masters at emotional manipulation.

I have a lot to say. I understand the psychological complexities of insecurity and how it expresses itself but here is too small to pen them all down.

All I'm telling ladies: Look pass what a man has, many rich dudes are insecure, no hate tho. Of course many broke dudes too. Look beyond what he has, look into how he feels about himself. How he values himself, does he think he deserves good things?

When a man thinks he doesn't deserve good things and he has you, he'd even ignorantly abuse you just to keep you because he feels he was only lucky to get you and after this opportunity, he won't get someone as you.

Do you really get my point?

An insecure man is worst that a broke man.
I'd choose a secure visioned broke dude over a multimillion dollar rich insecure dude, if I were a girl.

An insecure man controls you. He dictates where you go, who you talk to, where you work, and everything because his insecurity won't let him believe you can be faithful without his force.

Insecurity makes a man see what isn't there. He suspects even pure actions. His insecurity is always suggesting to him the things you've not done..

I'm done.
Don't date an insecure man. He man should have figured out his value and worth before talking about having a woman.

Some ladies feel a man has money means he has most things or everything. Beloved, building an ideal and healthily relationship is deeper than THINGS.




Solomon Buchi Bartholomew
Life Coach/Motivational Speaker

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