ifex370:



And at the end what happens... The results won't give you long lasting peace more it won't even solve d ish

The earlier a person learns to find fulfilment by himself, the less the chances of such a person feeling the pangs of betrayal

I hope you get to read my comment.

First of all, i want to categorically state that your wife is cheating on you. It might no have reached the sexual level and if i has not, it will eventually.

Make a choice among the 3 options if you are willing to live with a cheating wife, divorce your cheating wife or reconcile with your cheatimg wife.

You are already a sucker to your wife thats why she has the effrontery to do all that. I a sucker is always a sucker, i dont expect you to change who you are. I see it like you are not even willing to take charge of your relationship. I have read alot of useful advise which should help.

You will be surprised how the mention of divorce could scare your wife into correcting her wrong, it also could break your home if thats what she wants in the first place.

Her boss already bought her over and no matter how the guy goes about it, she cannot stop unless when her boss is done with her, he will then sack her and hire another lady.

Op's wife is a very weak woman hence the man was able to buy her over by providing her with those materials. He would wanna fvck her until he completes the cost of whatever he has given her and would throw her away.

The lady is just a wicked woman. If the guy doesn't take time, the guy could brainwash the lady by asking her to kill her husband and he would stand to take over her.

Op's life is in danger and he is handling this with kids glove.

First of all, i want to categorically state that your wife is cheating on you. It might no have reached the sexual level and if i has not, it will eventually.

Make a choice among the 3 options if you are willing to live with a cheating wife, divorce your cheating wife or reconcile with your cheating wife.

You are already a sucker to your wife thats why she has the effrontery to do all that. I a sucker is always a sucker, i dont expect you to change who you are. I see it like you are not even willing to take charge of your relationship. I have read alot of useful advise which should help.

You will be surprised how the mention of divorce could scare your wife into correcting her wrong, it also could break your home if thats what she wants in the first place.

My brother, I had a similar experience. What I did was to wake her up around midnight, put her sins before her, and told her that I have resolved long ago that I must be faithful to my marriage, as a result I can't start cheating on her for any reason, and give her an option to choose whether to continue with our marriage or go after those she is chatting with and let me continue with my life. She didn't delete her chats anyway because I never checked her phone before that faithful day that I checked. She started crying, and immediately surrendered her phones to me telling me to either get her a new SIM or a land line. I forgive her after 2 days and returned her phones without changing the SIM, and since that day, chatting ended in my house.

AyamConfidence:
oga wife beater


No dey mention me again if not I go report you....oya park well

abeg get lost before thunda fire u

sasko:


""The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child ""


If you can not make your wife to quit her job because of financial contribution in running of your home then put it to her and make it bold that the paternity of your unborn children will be examined henceforth


If you don't do that she would conceive for her boss and deceive you into believing it's your child
.

help me tell am well abeg...all those bs about calling ur wife sit her down blablabla...those 1 no dey work...u are d man..tell her to quit d job n return d damn chinko fone back to her boss...

Etizz:


I would have helped you HACK your woman whatsapp so u can access her chat from your phone if she's online, but, I need to get hold of the phone for like 3mins then all your doubt will be over,....

I wil be glad if u could render me that kind of help

jakandeola:
dont curse me pls I like u a lot. I neva like a woman to get beat by her man bit sometimes ur hands are tied. wat d woman is doing is bad giving him pains u all are cursing me but none of u condem d lady for wat she did lovelygurl dangotesmummy

yes why are you calling me?

Kilarigbo

ikechkwuegone:
Good day Nairalanders, I will like to be brief and specific.I am happily married with kids and we based in Eastern part of the country.

I and my wife work and contribute to the well being of the family.Some months ago I started noticing my wife's body language when ever she is on phone with her boss by been blushing like a single girl talking to her boyfriend.

Secondly the same Boss bought her a phone, which I did not take serious, thinking it will make the official communication between them more easier.

I also noticed that my wife always chat with this same boss and hardly leave her phone carelessly which prompt me to check her chat conversation with the same boss.She doesn't leave their chat history on the phone.

Last week I accidentally checked her chat with the man , I was very surprised when I saw Her boss referred to my Wife as "My Baaby" at d beginning of their conversation and some other words like "Dear ao re u".

I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.When confronted she gave me two answers, that Her calls every female staffs My Baaby, secondly that the message was mistake frm Her boss that it wasn't meant for Her that was why she didn't reply.I believed Her and we move on.

Two days ago I came back frm work and I met my wife lying down on the bed with phone conversation, instantly my wife change what they were discussing.I asked my wife what they were discussing but she stammering.
The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child for him.

With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

Bro, let me shock you, there are other details you left out of your post, I already sent you an email request. I have been through this road before. Just reply my mail let's resolve this Issue.

emerged01:


I am married. Bros,marriage institution is another different world. I courted my wife for 13yrs before getting married 2012. When you want to marry just a pray for a woman that have the fear of God at heart. If a woman is God's fearing you have nothing to fear. The fear of God she has,will instill discipline in her and help her to please you in all ways.

Well, I won't argue with you on the marriage bit cos obviously you have more experience. But the God-fearing bit, nobody dey go church and pray pass that my babe wey cheat. In fact I avoid girls who over-do church things like a plague. I'll rather have a brazen non-church goer cheat than end up with a cheating church-going hypocrite.

deparagon:
Dah Ado Ata Idad

Ete nsido ye fo??
Lol

[quote author=jakandeola post=54711964]and u get mad dat I shd not dicipline my woman myfantasies
ayamconfidence joy1706 gboyegaD jman06 jenny21 diadem10 lovelygurl cococandy thesonofmark odangotesmummy drlilprinz kayceerilyn[/quoteo
See this one. Pray you get a cry baby who'll just cry and curse after the beating you give her but if you end up with a sweet lady on the surface with thick inches of bitterness, she'll just arrange guys that will beat you till your body aches without you even knowing she's the one dealing with you and still go about cheating. Wo, ma na t'ola si e lara for just a slap. If you know how to beat, them go tell you say you be learner. Ode oshi.

ifex370:
Make your wife feel more loved.. There's sth she's missing

sharrap, advice from hell

jakandeola:
I pray u dont learn d hard way

so i have to beat a woman for me not to learn the hard way? You dont stand for shit my man.

LePrezident:


Well, I won't argue with you on the marriage bit cos obviously you have more experience. But the God-fearing bit, nobody dey go church and pray pass that my babe wey cheat. In fact I avoid girls who over-do church things like a plague. I'll rather have a brazen non-church goer cheat than end up with a cheating church-going hypocrite.

it is not a matter of church,it is a matter of personality. Mind you,my wife is a Muslim, a serious one.

dairykidd:

Yeah welcome..but you are not Ike are u?

d tin dey affect am too.

oshorstan:



I read your story with awe & disgust.. Am so sorry, there is an interplay in your mind, But this is my humble Truth

1. Your wife is almost gone
2. Handle this matter with wisdom because you have no proof to nail her
3. You're jealous of her boss
4. Your wife is changing rapidly to his overtures
5. I advise you to pray for God to heal your heart n mind, and your wifes
6. Show her Love not resentment
7. Don't involve 3rd party

Badest advice
1. Your wife is almost gone
Yes she is
2. Handle this matter with wisdom because you have no proof to nail her
Yes I believe you no proof
3. You're jealous of her boss
I hate it when you say someone is jealous as a result of cheating wife
4. Your wife is changing rapidly to his overtures
Yes , she has no right to chat with her boss when at home
5. I advise you to pray for God to heal your heart n mind, and your wifes
Nice one, bro pls pray
6. Show her Love not resentment
Yes show her love and warn her very seriously but don't beat her o
7. Don't involve 3rd party
My friend you must involve a 3rd party, even 4th party, tell your pastor, report this incidences to her parent

With the way Nairalanders are quick to crucify the offending party when posts like these come up, you would almost be forgiven for thinking Nigeria is a land of saints (but reality proves otherwise). Hypocrisy par excellence. Even those who cheat on their partners are probably giving advice right now

dangotesmummy:
yes why are you calling me?

Kilarigbo

u curse me in dat blog now how wil u handle dis kind of wife if u are a man

gsainttrinity:


I would like to add one or two to this matter at hand.

firstly I think your wife is cheating on you. it may not be physically or sexually as the case may be, but emotional she is not faithful and her boss is heavily flirting with her if something is not done rightly may end up having bad consequences.

somebody advised you seek for more evidence and confront her with it, even though that may seem a good idea but I disagree.

why wait for evidence before you do something.

what I am saying is you should be proactive.

Your wife is lacking romantic gestures and there is a lull in your affection for her that's why she has time for the opportunist boss.

secondly you are weak when it comes to controlling her.

solutions: endeavor to overwhelm her with your attention. call her every hour and any time at whim.... infact try to set a daily call target of 20 calls per day... you don't have to say much 30 secs is enough for each call. and whenever you call flirt with her. seduce her and general switch your romantic temperature to the limits.

one thing I observed with most women is that they are hardly ever going to be two most important people in her heart which she thinks about. and you been her husband you are naturally going to be who she will choose. just buzz her phone tease her.... bring back your play boy attitude.


solution Two: Be bossy about her choices. when you come and see her make those illicit calls, tell her to switch her phone off an take the phone off her till she goes to work next day.

extend you bossy attitude to every little things but don't be a bully or threaten her.

Make choices for her, make decisions for her. the idea here is that you must be the man she respects.

apply this two methods and other methods of talking with her concerning her ways....... and see how you will win her with ease.

wish you all the best.

you hv said it all

N

Tenkobos:
She doesn't keep chat history?




You mustn't have sex to cheat, once you see yourself deleting texts, you're there already

You are very correct. It's called emotional infidelity which will end up becoming physical infidelity.

emerged01:
it is not a matter of church,it is a matter of personality. Mind you,I'm wife is a Muslim, a serious one.

Ohk, I agree with you with the personality bit. Someone with innate good character will be good religion or not, in fact religion will just be an added bonus.

GAZZUZZ:


you are a weak man. Never be afraid of confrontation. If you want your marriage to succeed, the job, the phone and the man have to go.

u have said it. those 3 things must go

[quote author=Samadict post=54721173][/quote] I dont want a ban but if I tell u bad word u will cry to sleep

LePrezident:


Ohk, I agree with you with the personality bit. Someone with innate good character will be good religion or not, in fact religion will just be an added bonus.

That's it!

teshyberry:



Ete nsido ye fo?? Lol

Hmmm Ayen-eka mmi, Eyen awan ado ake tang Ndisime o

MrEgghead:
So you think her mum has any question to answer?definitely No:Nobody even knows how faithful is the mother.The husband has a lot of works to do:He needs to romantic,proactive and circumspect in dealing with this issue.

my type of mum can't even use her ear to hear that am even smiling to another man in my office, na that day she go ask my husband to get me back my laugages to my father's house. yes ur right,it depends on her mum type. but what the lady is doing ,personally I don't like it.

jakandeola:
and u get mad dat I shd not dicipline my woman myfantasies
ayamconfidence joy1706 gboyegaD jman06 jenny21 diadem10 lovelygurl cococandy thesonofmark dangotesmummy drlilprinz kayceerilyn

Coward woman-beater, why don't you sign up for a wrestling tournament and fight
your fellow man instead instead of flexing muscle on an innocent woman ?

Maychang:



SHUT THE Bleep UP!!! I wonder why data is cheap....

Nothing is goin on ryt? yet she deletes messages, hides conversations.

I dont usually do this...but you are very stupid for this statement.

walahi you said my mind!

Exactly what I tot when i read that bullcrap she wrote there

I was just angry
But thank God you quickly burst her bubbles for all of us


Mind you..
I'm a woman

Joy1706:

Its like you're mad. Why won't she cheat when she meets a man who shows her love. How will the beating stop the cheating? And even if she cheats, so what? Men cheat on a daily basis without being beaten for it? Why shouldn't a woman do same? Pray you dont meet a woman like me ooooo. My brother, pray hard.

"she meets a man that shows her love"......the op is not showing her love ba?