Maski87:
In hard economic times women cheat , but if you love her and your kids just hang in there she will be back to you,when the break up

morkaz:
Op, im sure u knw d ans u re seeking. But will still ans u, YES, ur wife is cheating on u. I ve same experience. I discover a certain num calld her frequently. I secretly took d num and get an unknown line to call pretending dialing a wrng num jst 2 2ruly ascertain dt its a guy. Fortunately 4 me he gave out his name. Now certain its a man i confront her biggerly nd at d same time read her body language which shows fear. With this i intensify the treat nd evn claim to ve meet the guy which she believe whn i mention his name. With this she confess nd truely desist nd i 4gve her.
In a nut shell, pls confront her.

ikechkwuegone:
Good day Nairalanders, I will like to be brief and specific.I am happily married with kids and we based in Eastern part of the country.

I and my wife work and contribute to the well being of the family.Some months ago I started noticing my wife's body language when ever she is on phone with her boss by been blushing like a single girl talking to her boyfriend.

Secondly the same Boss bought her a phone, which I did not take serious, thinking it will make the official communication between them more easier.

I also noticed that my wife always chat with this same boss and hardly leave her phone carelessly which prompt me to check her chat conversation with the same boss.She doesn't leave their chat history on the phone.

Last week I accidentally checked her chat with the man , I was very surprised when I saw Her boss referred to my Wife as "My Baaby" at d beginning of their conversation and some other words like "Dear ao re u".

I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.When confronted she gave me two answers, that Her calls every female staffs My Baaby, secondly that the message was mistake frm Her boss that it wasn't meant for Her that was why she didn't reply.I believed Her and we move on.

Two days ago I came back frm work and I met my wife lying down on the bed with phone conversation, instantly my wife change what they were discussing.I asked my wife what they were discussing but she stammering.
The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child for him.

With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

ojietu:
You don't need a prophet to tell you that your wife is cheating on you.
If you love your home then she must stop that job immediately or she continues and see your home break up.
You must man up and confront her as one

ikechkwuegone:
Good day Nairalanders, I will like to be brief and specific.I am happily married with kids and we based in Eastern part of the country.

I and my wife work and contribute to the well being of the family.Some months ago I started noticing my wife's body language when ever she is on phone with her boss by been blushing like a single girl talking to her boyfriend.

Secondly the same Boss bought her a phone, which I did not take serious, thinking it will make the official communication between them more easier.

I also noticed that my wife always chat with this same boss and hardly leave her phone carelessly which prompt me to check her chat conversation with the same boss.She doesn't leave their chat history on the phone.

Last week I accidentally checked her chat with the man , I was very surprised when I saw Her boss referred to my Wife as "My Baaby" at d beginning of their conversation and some other words like "Dear ao re u".

I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.When confronted she gave me two answers, that Her calls every female staffs My Baaby, secondly that the message was mistake frm Her boss that it wasn't meant for Her that was why she didn't reply.I believed Her and we move on.

Two days ago I came back frm work and I met my wife lying down on the bed with phone conversation, instantly my wife change what they were discussing.I asked my wife what they were discussing but she stammering.
The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child for him.

With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

ifex370:
Make your wife feel more loved.. There's sth she's missing

curiositymaster:



I like your first solution, but strongly disagree with the 'solution two', being bossy will give her an excuse to leave her marriage ; do not forget the OP said the boss always tells his (OP's) wife of his(boss' ) wife inability to give him a child, so the boss might have been brainwashing the woman to leave her husband's house.

Joy1706:

Toad brain! Did I make reference to him buying her a phone. I was referring to attention, care, respect etc

ikechkwuegone:
Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

ikechkwuegone:
I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

ikechkwuegone:
I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.

ikechkwuegone:
With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

comshots:
I thought a legally married woman in the east hardly cheat due to nemesis that can befall her children.

Maychang:


SHUT THE Bleep UP!!! I wonder why data is cheap....
Nothing is goin on ryt? yet she deletes messages, hides conversations.
I dont usually do this...but you are very stupid for this statement.

tonio2wo:


Fish brain! her husband is already doing all that! All d boss is did is buy her a phone and start calling her baaby!
Abi are u d lady in question? This one whey u dey defend her and her boss.

hopeforcharles:
Get enough proofs, confront her and give her an option to resign from that work or better follow the man,
And make sure u collect that phone and if possible change that Sim.

Muafrika2:
Go scare the boss. I know someone who did that

alignacademy:


Frankly, if you call your home in its current state “happy”, then you really need more help than you think.



“She is everything to you”? If you are in a relationship where you set yourself up to desperately “need” the other, you are in a position of weakness. Marriage should be a union of 2 mature individuals. You need to get out of this weak mindset ASAP.



Brother, please!

The trust has already been breached (else you won’t be typing this post). Please treat this matter with the seriousness it deserves. This is not an issue of “trust” or even “love”.



I hate to break it to you like this but all the great advice already shared with you here won’t do you much if you persist with this misguided “Hollywood” concept of love.

STOP this sickening needy attitude. If you don’t know, you’re probably a laughing stock already, among your wife’s colleagues and even your neighbours. (Yes, word does go around.)

As a matter of urgency, sit her down and tell her how her behaviour is ruining the family. Please in that conversation do NOT mention anything about how much you love her bla bla bla… because the issue isn’t about love. It’s really about your peace of mind.

One more thing: don’t issue any empty threats, like “I will send you back to your father’s house”. Your ACTIONS should speak for you.

Call up an elder in her family and tell them that their daughter is misbehaving, that they should talk to her. Do NOT go into specifics about what you observed; just tell them their daughter is misbehaving.

Then follow up with being nice AND firm. Once in a while, do not eat her food (yes, your case needs some fasting!) When she asks if anything is wrong, be very nice and tell her you are fine.

Like I said before, a lot of great advice has already been shared here. But remember none of it will work if you keep up your pussy-cat act

Let us know how it goes

JustinSlayer69:
The firmer you are now...the better your marriage would be in the long run.
( see dairy dairykidd's excellent comment )

Sit your wife down and tell her the dangers of cheating e.g. STDs, divorce and very very dangerous cheated spouses.

Watch her very carefully and be ready to walk away from the marriage. I personally can't tolerate a cheat.

jakandeola:
innocent woman dat cheat

ifex370:


Bros eh.. No vex oo

betterbest:


Who be this one?

tuscani:
Bro, no mind me, please we can't quarrel over this woman, I am sorry, I just they vex for the woman, any how if you are married I believe you will never in anyway condole another man calling your wife baby.

ifex370:



I won't naa..fo sure

soniaogbu:
Perfect and responsible advice.

Calm down my brother, I'm sure you are overreacting.

Take your wife out tomorrow, maybe to a fine restaurant, and talk to her..She's your wife, so I believe you can talk to her.

Ask her if the tables were turned and you are the one always calling another woman, chatting with another woman and all whatnot, ask her how she would feel?

Her response would tell you the next line of action to take...

SorftWerk:
i always appreciate a kind and good woman... I even tend to love them hopelessly, I get lost in such ladies... I like you for ur comment

mrsfavour:
my type of mum can't even use her ear to hear that am even smiling to another man in my office, na that day she go ask my husband to get me back my laugages to my father's house. yes ur right,it depends on her mum type. but what the lady is doing ,personally I don't like it.

Cutehector:
Your wife doesn't have regard for you..

First she is cheating on u which is obvious and second , she lied to your face... How can a boss call all the female staff my baby . what sort of childish lie is that.. Pls you have to take this matter up seriously cuz d way u acting soft is dangerous..

Pls show some attitude..

ifex370:
Make your wife feel more loved.. There's sth she's missing

DLondonboiy:
Calm down my brother, I'm sure you are overreacting.

Take your wife out tomorrow, maybe to a fine restaurant, and talk to her..She's your wife, so I believe you can talk to her.

Ask her if the tables were turned and you are the one always calling another woman, chatting with another woman and all whatnot, ask her how she would feel?

Her response would tell you the next line of action to take...