Cheating in relationships starts when you're hiding something from your spouse. It may not necessarily involves the opposite sex. It may be finances, relationships, information, etc.

You're also cheating when you have loyalty to any other person or any other cause other than your spouse.

In line with the above, you can answer the question of your wife cheating or not.

Which way forward?
My Opinion
You don't need to trail or investigate her. If you do, the worst case is for you to catch them in the act, if that happens what will you do: it will just hurt you more.

Remain the faithful spouse you are. Yes remain faithful, cheating in return to revenge will create a generation of cheaters. Show her more love.

Seeking the kingdom of God should be everyone's goal now and not indulging in activities that will be drawing you closer to hell.

Oyind18:
Let her resign

Insecurity is killing u

what do u mean by insecurity....see emmmhhh if I land u e-slap....

MrEgghead:
I'm beginning to fear women with the unceasing stories I see on social platforms everyday.I pray God gives me an archetype of my mum as a wife .

pray hard. good wives scarce these days.

Greenerpasture:
Cheating in relationships starts when you're hiding something from your spouse. It may not necessarily involves the opposite sex. It may be finances, relationships, information, etc.

You're also cheating when you have loyalty to any other person or any other cause other than your spouse.

In line with the above, you can answer the question of your wife cheating or not.

Which way forward?
My Opinion
You don't need to trail or investigate her. If you do, the worst case is for you to catch them in the act, if that happens what will you do: it will just hurt you more.

Remain the faithful spouse you are. Yes remain faithful, cheating in return to revenge will create a generation of cheaters. Show her more love.

Seeking the kingdom of God should be everyone's goal now and not indulging in activities that will be drawing you closer to hell.

some of ur sentences here are nonsense

kimbra:
Lmao, people tend to take others for a ride mostly when you act cool. That's when I unleash the other side of me.

dat why shd beat her

ikechkwuegone:
Good day Nairalanders, I will like to be brief and specific.I am happily married with kids and we based in Eastern part of the country.

I and my wife work and contribute to the well being of the family.Some months ago I started noticing my wife's body language when ever she is on phone with her boss by been blushing like a single girl talking to her boyfriend.

Secondly the same Boss bought her a phone, which I did not take serious, thinking it will make the official communication between them more easier.

I also noticed that my wife always chat with this same boss and hardly leave her phone carelessly which prompt me to check her chat conversation with the same boss.She doesn't leave their chat history on the phone.

Last week I accidentally checked her chat with the man , I was very surprised when I saw Her boss referred to my Wife as "My Baaby" at d beginning of their conversation and some other words like "Dear ao re u".

I confronted my wife, it was very difficult for me to confront her because I don't want the trust between us spoil.When confronted she gave me two answers, that Her calls every female staffs My Baaby, secondly that the message was mistake frm Her boss that it wasn't meant for Her that was why she didn't reply.I believed Her and we move on.

Two days ago I came back frm work and I met my wife lying down on the bed with phone conversation, instantly my wife change what they were discussing.I asked my wife what they were discussing but she stammering.
The same man do tell my wife about his wife inability to conceive the second child for him.

With all these instances I am totally confused and devastated. I love my wife so much , I can't wait for d worst to happen between her and d man, she is making keep suspecting her.

I am a very loyal to her, I bnever cheat on her, she is everything to me, I don't see her wife but a friend and confidential.

Married nairalanders I really need your advice on how to handle this before my happy home will be ruin, Almighty Lord will bless your home as u give me ur candid advice

I don't think u need to wait to get enough proofs, their relationship is obviously making u uncomfortable, tell ur wife u r not okay wt their friendship. Marriage and love is about sacrifice, if she really loves and values you, she should be able to cut off all ties with her boss, keep their relationship strictly professional.

Your wife's boss called her my baby while having a chat with her and she told you that's what he calls his female staff and you believed. My friend you need deliverance cos the Efo riro is operating at maximum efficiency.

mrsfavour:
pray hard. good wives scarce these days.

Hmm...No doubt.

Maychang:



SHUT THE Bleep UP!!! I wonder why data is cheap....

Nothing is goin on ryt? yet she deletes messages, hides conversations.

I dont usually do this...but you are very stupid for this statement.

Dis woman u dey vex o. Didn't understand ur name before until I read ur comment. Na kungfu u give nma o, I hope she's still standing!

kimbra:
No problem. Happy Sunday!.

happy Sunday dear... How are u feeling the new week?

SorftWerk:
happy Sunday dear... How are u feeling the new week?

Nothing much.

Maychang:



Im sure u can see clearly the 'f' beside my moniker.

You dint hav to giv me advice as to whether my post was harsh or not.

Something is clear, yet we try to cover up. Little wonder guys say we've got fish brains- cos many of us dont think at all thats why we easily deceived.

Im not taking back my words...I reacted based on my emotion. pls stay off...

Hmmm! my sister calm down no one is fighting with you. Talking about "fish brain", your response here goes a long way to justify if u also have the fish brain.
Btw: you really don't need to insult anyone to pass a message, learn to pass ur msg in a more mature way. Quote me again and I won't respond because I have better things to do. Happy Sunday

kimbra:
Nothing much.

ok dear... Do enjoy the rest of the week dear, be safe.

pressplay411:


Don't be some thing rash just yet. You should let her know you're uncomfortable with the situation with her boss. Threaten to confront the boss if need be.

and she will call d boss to deny any relationship....infact u have indirectly prepare d boss for confrontation

Lexusgs430:


If they chat using whatsapp, simply download an app called Whatscan pro. Use QR code to pair both phones, and when her phone is within close proximity of the paired device, all chats would be replicated.. .....
Just wait and watch........... .. ..... ... .

pls what is QR code

TheLordIsGr8:


Excuse from the pit of hell.

Doesn't the woman have mouth to tell her husband that something is missing

Maybe she's tryn but hubby can't read btwn d lines

Fourwinds:
pls what is QR code

That square black & white design with 4 pairing dots

Eaugusta:

That was too harsh, she is entitled to her opinion bro even if she doesn't make sense, it's not enough to insult her

no she is not entitle to it....kids don't give advice here

Lexusgs430:

That square black & white design with 4 pairing dots

ok...thanks

Franzinni:
in my life I give people the benefit of doubt but I draw the line at some point.... The advice was so he knows deep inside that he tried all else but it fail before the DUMP happens.... The worst thing that can happen to a man is to know someone is sleeping with the woman you married and the mother of your kids and there is nothing you can do about it.... It is worst than death.... The male ego is the greatest possession he has....

My brother, I am telling you. The male ego is everything. No woman can take that from me

rilla64:


Cold

as cold as death. What ! This dude gat no chills

Fourwinds:
some of ur sentences here are nonsense

almost all the sentences, it is obvious the dude is not married.

Greenerpasture:
Cheating in relationships starts when you're hiding something from your spouse. It may not necessarily involves the opposite sex. It may be finances, relationships, information, etc.

You're also cheating when you have loyalty to any other person or any other cause other than your spouse.

In line with the above, you can answer the question of your wife cheating or not.

Which way forward?
My Opinion
You don't need to trail or investigate her. If you do, the worst case is for you to catch them in the act, if that happens what will you do: it will just hurt you more.

Remain the faithful spouse you are. Yes remain faithful, cheating in return to revenge will create a generation of cheaters. Show her more love.

Seeking the kingdom of God should be everyone's goal now and not indulging in activities that will be drawing you closer to hell.

Dude what do you think you are saying, this is serious business. You mean if you have a flat tyre on the road Instead of fixing the tyre, you start praying to God to come change the tyre for you.

ifex370:



Maybe she's tryn but hubby can't read btwn d lines

Now everyone is asking the man to sit her down and talk to her. Why can't she do the same for him?

All this making of excuses for the wrong doer has gotten out of hand. If he can't read body language, then write him a letter. Write him on whatsapp....u don't need to do it face to face these days. Tell him somehow...be explicit. Nobody likes Buhari when he's using body language, but somehow its all she could probably do.

A man has a million things on his mind to have time to be reading body language. Then what are his ears for?

alignacademy:


Frankly, if you call your home in its current state “happy”, then you really need more help than you think.



“She is everything to you”? If you are in a relationship where you set yourself up to desperately “need” the other, you are in a position of weakness. Marriage should be a union of 2 mature individuals. You need to get out of this weak mindset ASAP.



Brother, please!

The trust has already been breached (else you won’t be typing this post). Please treat this matter with the seriousness it deserves. This is not an issue of “trust” or even “love”.



I hate to break it to you like this but all the great advice already shared with you here won’t do you much if you persist with this misguided “Hollywood” concept of love.

STOP this sickening needy attitude. If you don’t know, you’re probably a laughing stock already, among your wife’s colleagues and even your neighbours. (Yes, word does go around.)

As a matter of urgency, sit her down and tell her how her behaviour is ruining the family. Please in that conversation do NOT mention anything about how much you love her bla bla bla… because the issue isn’t about love. It’s really about your peace of mind.

One more thing: don’t issue any empty threats, like “I will send you back to your father’s house”. Your ACTIONS should speak for you.

Call up an elder in her family and tell them that their daughter is misbehaving, that they should talk to her. Do NOT go into specifics about what you observed; just tell them their daughter is misbehaving.

Then follow up with being nice AND firm. Once in a while, do not eat her food (yes, your case needs some fasting!) When she asks if anything is wrong, be very nice and tell her you are fine.

Like I said before, a lot of great advice has already been shared here. But remember none of it will work if you keep up your pussy-cat act

Let us know how it goes

My guy, chop knuckle!
Your head is screwed on straight.
In fact, I am following you.
Meanwhile, collect one carton of viju milk.

Ask her!!!

kimbra:
I dey vex joor!.

no vex again abeg. sometimes wen I read post like this I ask myself a question like WHAT IS THE ESSENCE OF SETTLING DOWN

It is A CAPITAL YES she is CHEATING on YOU

GAZZUZZ:


if she has the fish brain to want to leave, by all means let her go. No point keeping such a woman.

Couldn't agree less

When a married woman start hidding few things to her husband, things are not well and you need nobody to tell she is cheating on you.
From the whole thing, you wife is having affairs with the Boss.
Bro, confrontation will not solve this problem. Either you choose your wife and she resigns from that work. Or you leave her to go on with the work while the Boss ends up impregnanting her for you without your knowledge.
The solution is in your hands. Failure to act fast is at your detriment.

I really hate when someone cheats! My ex was cheating on me too, and only installing such a spy software like that one from https://www.refog.com helped me discover the truth. I am afraid of relationships now...

deparagon:
Hmmm Ayen-eka mmi, Eyen awan ado ake tang Ndisime o

Mbok ku boro nye