I got chatting with this guy after he sent me a DM on IG. Voice calls, video calls, pictures exchange and things started getting emotional (or so I thought). He started inviting me over to visit (which he had done from the first day we spoke), but i was busy and couldn't find time. We continued chatting and after some time he invited me again and we finally fixed a date.

A day to the planned date i was so excited and had already packed my things. I was daydreaming about all the fun things we were going to do together but I was also worried about the fact that he hadn't mentioned anything about sending me transport fare. Now this is a journey that will take about 15+ hours so you can estimate the price. Even with the long distance i was willing to travel by road for just a 4day trip because i really liked this guy.

The night before i was supposed to travel i asked him if he was going to watch me pay the bus fare. His reply really shocked me. '' I'm surprised you're asking for transport fare. We'll chat when I get home''. He called back few hours later and we spoke like people who couldn't wait to see each other, but to my surprise he still didn't mention anything. The next day I was ready and waiting for him to call to ask for my bank details so I'll just go to the ATM before going to the bus station. He called later that afternoon (after i had gotten angry and unpacked), what he asked left me angry and confused, '' babe how far, hope you're already on your way?''. I just laughed and dropped the call. He sent me a message on whatsapp and I told him I wasn't coming because, one, as a student i can't use such amount of money to travel to see a guy. Two, I was going to travel all that distance for him and the least he could do to be nice and show we were in this together was to pay the bus fare. Three, he invited me over.

Then he started accusing me of not wanting to see him and acting Irresponsible. Out of anger i just replied yes. And that was our last conversation. What I don't understand is why he acted the way he did, because he's doing well financially to afford even flight tickets. Three weeks after and still no 'hi' from him. I hate when situations leave me confused.
Advice please.

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I am not giving any advice till guy above me does that

Maybe u shud av taken the risk first, he might be testing u maybe u be gold digger since obviously u know he is doin well and know he can afford to pay for the trip.

Take the bold step of going to see him and stylishly ask him after u guys have done d needfuls and see his reaction...buh just make sure u av money that can take to n fro from the place or else dont embark on such a journey...

On a second thought...maybe u were not welcomed and was looking for a way to discourage u from comin over, everitin fit be packagin

I actually believe OP is a fvcking liar, I actually believe she was bored and didn't know what to do and just decided to fool some fools by posting this, I got my reasons anyway

I think my phone charger is faulty

What should I do?

Dats my problem wit all dis university girls' ur parents snt u 2skul 2 learn and also make sumtin gud 4ursef' but u choose to find prick' d Guy been don sharpen him driller dt day 4 better saba' pls our ladies biko dnt finish everytin while in skul doin runs' reserve sumtin 4 future hubby

U knw aw many gehs the dude Don send tfare in times past wey no later show?

Baby, e good like that.. You don't know what God may have prevented... Meeting strangers in their own house have left people or their FAM in agony...

#yhu knw wah am saying#

So you would have travelled fifteen hours by road, Nigerian road for that matter to meet a total stranger because of what he told you online

I swear you no get sense.

How do know he can afford to pay for a flight for you?
The lies he told you abi?

Now say after me
''Lord Jesus, anywhere my sense has been buried (that is if you ever had any), I uproot it by fire''

Say it 1000 times.

Make sure you are shaking that your empty head vigorously while praying this prayer.
You deserve to be used for rituals
Ode!!!

The guy is probably a fake.

I don't blame him.He may have got disappointed before in a lady he sent tfare to pay him a visit and the lady didn't show up after receiving the money.Once bitten twice shy.

0ubenji:
U knw aw many gehs the dude Don send tfare in times past wey no later show?

Abi.This geh wan collect tfare to go and buy herself clothes in a boutique.

Don't blame the guy, many girls do collect money yet will not step an inch . Me its either u borrow come and I balance u or u forget it . If I should tell my experience with one girl from oshogbo

Not too good...

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Dojupyo:
Baby, e good like that.. You don't know what God may have prevented... Meeting strangers in their own house have left people or their FAM in agony...

#yhu knw wah am saying#

Yes you're right. Before person go shoot me or use me do ritual. Lol.

majamajic:
Don't blame the guy, many girls do collect money yet will not step an inch . Me its either u borrow come and I balance u or u forget it . If I should tell my experience with one girl from oshogbo

Hahaha i thought of that too.

Love Machine:
Abi.This geh wan collect tfare to go and buy herself clothes in a boutique.

No i really liked him

Love Machine:
I don't blame him.He may have got disappointed before in a lady he sent tfare to pay him a visit and the lady didn't show up after receiving the money.Once bitten twice shy.

Hmm. Maybe. But he could have at least asked me to borrow.

DozieInc:
The guy is probably a fake.

I don't really know..i should have noticed that from the videos.

Ranchhoddas:
So you would have travelled fifteen hours by road, Nigerian road for that matter to meet a total stranger because of what he told you online

I swear you no get sense.

How do know he can afford to pay for a flight for you?
The lies he told you abi?

Now say after me
''Lord Jesus, anywhere my sense has been buried (that is if you ever had any), I uproot it by fire''

Say it 1000 times.

Make sure you are shaking that your empty head vigorously while praying this prayer.
You deserve to be used for rituals
Ode!!!

As annoying as that sounded, you're not wrong. Excluding the ritual part though.

0ubenji:
U knw aw many gehs the dude Don send tfare in times past wey no later show?

Yea that's true. Too bad i had to suffer for their sins.

Tajbol4splend:
I actually believe OP is a fvcking liar, I actually believe she was bored and didn't know what to do and just decided to fool some fools by posting this, I got my reasons anyway

Why would you think that? Tell me your reasons.

longjohnsilver:
Maybe u shud av taken the risk first, he might be testing u maybe u be gold digger since obviously u know he is doin well and know he can afford to pay for the trip.

Taken the bold step of going to see him and stylishly ask him after u guys have done d needfuls and see his reaction...buh just make sure u av money that can take to n fro from the place or else dont embark on such a journey...

On a second thought...maybe u were not welcomed and was looking for a way to discourage u from comin over, everitin fit be packagin

Jeez. What if you're right about him trying to test me. Or right about him not wanting me. But he was the one that kept asking me to come.

Ranchhoddas:
So you would have travelled fifteen hours by road, Nigerian road for that matter to meet a total stranger because of what he told you online

I swear you no get sense.

How do know he can afford to pay for a flight for you?
The lies he told you abi?

Now say after me
''Lord Jesus, anywhere my sense has been buried (that is if you ever had any), I uproot it by fire''

Say it 1000 times.

Make sure you are shaking that your empty head vigorously while praying this prayer.
You deserve to be used for rituals
Ode!!!

you could have adviced her without having to throw insults... learn to be human

Girl seriously... Get serious... Even uve decided togo see a guy.... Weda 15hrs journey or 30mins, its ur decision and be responsible for it... That includes financial cost. Show some decency and upbringing that ur parents had trained you to be independent from The scratch.

Well what im sayin is, guys hv sent money before even me thou... Some came, some didnt, some didnt meet expectations, in all dere was some level of loss.... Just always learn not to act on assumption, if u aint getting money cos he already told u...since u like him, then prove hes a risk ure willing to take

She i guys wey de come see u de pay their own tp abi u de pay gih dem?
Pay ur own way and see d bros
When u started talking to him u nor tell us
Now wey u don confuse u don remeber to come ask us for
direction

After all the above advice, what next??

Do you intend to say hi to him??

After all the above advice, what next??

Do you intend to say hi to him?? But you should have discussed this with Nairalanders before now...